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‘Real Housewives of Atlanta’ recap: season 4, episode 9: talking at each other

Will Peter and Cynthia last?

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Screen shot from a previous episode of "Real Housewives of Atlanta" of Peter and Cynthia.

Screen shot from a previous episode of "Real Housewives of Atlanta" of Peter and Cynthia.

Generally, this show is most entertaining when the cast members get catty with each other.

This was not one of those episodes. In fact, there was no tension at all among any of the housewives or even a wannabe housewife like Marlo Hampton.

If you want over-the-top drama, you needed to go over to VH1 and watch “Mob Wives” an hour earlier. There’s blood and cursing and hair pulling and punches that would scare the wig off Kim Zolciak!

Instead, the focal point this week was problems between Cynthia Bailey and her new husband Peter Thomas.

Peter in the eighth episode had left Cynthia’s model agency party early and didn’t tell her. When she announced his name, he was long gone. In this new episode, Peter had scheduled a  “date night” salsa class but she was still peeved.

She told him she was upset he just got up and left. He said he hates to say goodbye but didn’t apologize. She said they have a major communications problem. And they do.

At a counseling session at Enon Chruch and Ministries with Pastor Gregory Pollard, Cynthia tried to get Peter to open up. “We don’t talk to each other,” she said. “We talk at each other.”

“She don’t think I listen,” Peter acknowledged. “But I listen extremely well. Sometimes, I just react to something that was said. My reaction may not be the best.”

“We effectively communicate or detrimentally disintegrate,” Pollard said.

“You can’t say you’re a dinosaur and that’s just the way it is,” Cynthia said, very reasonably. (Peter didn’t take that line well.)

“I would like to come up with some sort of plan,” she said.

Pollard suggests they each say why they love each other. “You have this strength,” Cynthia said. “You’re smarter in so many ways. You’re older. You’ve done things I’ve never done.”

“It’s not the stuff I love you is why we’re here,” Peter said, resisting the exercise. “We’re here is about what we don’t like about each other.”

He eventually said he loved how she treats people. “The moment I look at her, the day is better,” she said. “She probably doesn’t know it because I don’t say it to her.” He appreciated that she wants it to work.

Peter received the third-party advice surprisingly well. Maybe this will work after all.

After the meeting, Cynthia told Peter she sometimes doesn’t like him – or even love him. But she said there’s hope: “We both need a lot of work.” They hug, with sappy music.

In other housewives news:

- Phaedra Parks convinced her husband Apollo (reluctantly) to help her in pursuing a funeral home business, in a joint venture with Willie Watkins funeral home. He was squeamish about it, even after Watkins gave him a tour of the home, showing him the embalming equipment and caskets.

- Kandi Burruss traveled to Nashville to meet up with country recording artist Jo Dee Messina and do some recording. There was a bit of awkward give and take between the two. Kandi was nervous singing a new song with her. Jo Dee taught her some rules about country music. Whether this ultimately led to any usable songs was hard to tell but what Jo Dee sang didn’t sound too bad. I’m sure Kandi was happy to be working with an actual singer as opposed to Miss Tardy for the Party.

- Sheree Whitfield visited Kim Zolciak and tried to get her to work out. You can guess how that worked out. Sheree also had her try some ginger juice. “She likes the fast fixes,” Sheree noted correctly. Exercise is not a fast fix.

- Kim, by the way, struggled to reign in Brielle, her spoiled 14-year-old daughter who refused to do any work, including organizing their Versace place settings (a mere $500 per setting.)

- NeNe Leakes hung out with Marlo Hampton, the woman who tried her darndest to become a housewife but didn’t make the grade this season. At Goldfish at Perimeter Mall, they quickly smoothed over any issues concerning NeNe dating Marlo’s boyfriend Charles Grant. NeNe repeated that she dated him once long before she knew of Marlo and that was that. In other words, the producers tried desperately to pump up a non-story and it deflated fast. More interestingly, Marlo told NeNe that she was arrested seven times over a fight in a club and parole violations in her younger years. NeNe was amused.

Later in the episode, Marlo invited NeNe to a Captain Planet foundation fundraiser at a private home of a jeweler Elizabeth Dupree Lynch. Marlo is friends with Laura Turner Seydel, Ted Turner’s daughter who runs the foundation. Ted’s girlfriend Elizabeth Dewberry was there, too. This is proof that Marlo is more of a socialite than any of the existing housewives. Downside: no drama. Best moment: Lynch explained a piece inspired by the Dalai Lama and it was obvious NeNe had no clue who she was talking about.


“I want to do fabulous funerals, funerals worth dying for. Real events! Not just throw them in the ground. Let’s throw them in the ground with a bam!”Phaedra, on her newest business.

“I’m not feeling this whole activity we’re doing.” - Brielle to Kroy and Kim about place settings.

It’s work.”Kroy responds dryly, adding “You wouldn’t survive two days in the real world.”

“I don’t want any drama. I don’t feel like arguing,” NeNe, the usual queen of drama.

Are you trying to f—-g kill me, Sheree?” - Kim to Sheree as they “plank.”

“I don’t know about going green – unless it’s green going to the bank.” NeNe, after going to a Captain Planet fundraiser.

“I’m not touching no dead bodies.” - Apollo, drawing a line about the funeral biz.


Kandi is a guest on the first “Watch What Happens” live of 2012. The show is going five days a week this year, too. Kandi said she hopes at least one song she and Messina worked on would be released. “We did a couple of songs that were really really great,” she said.

Host Andy Cohen asked Kandi if she thought Kim had quit smoking (a reference Sheree made in passing during the episode). The silence said everything.

For Kandi, the fact Marlo had been arrested seven times was old news on the blogs. (Yes, I even reported it last summer because I have no shame when it comes to this stuff.)

Questlove, the musician and other guest, didn’t believe Peter and Cynthia would last. “It made me sad,” Kandi said, while watching them try to communicate.

Kandi said a reunion with Xscape is unlikely. Except for Tiny, “I haven’t spoken to them in years.”

And of course, Kim never paid Kandi all the monies due for “Tardy for the Party.” “I don’t want to talk about it anymore,” she said, understandably.


Kim learns how to shoot a gun. Phaedra tries to have a reconciliation with Cynthia and brings Peter and Apollo along. Kandi and Phaedra take a dance class. Kandi’s mom Joyce  invites Kim and NeNe together at a dinner table for the first time in ages. It’s awkward.


The numbers for episode 8 were the best of the season, at 3.4 million viewers. We’ll have the episode 9 numbers later Monday.

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By Rodney Ho, Radio & TV Talk

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Spilling the beans

January 9th, 2012
1:52 am

If Cynthia knew what was good for her she will leave him. He’s still screwing 1/2 of the women here in Atlanta. And Phaedra needs to quit trying to get Apollo into her Funeral Business, he prefers to make easy money by doing Credit Card Fraud…. oops did I say that?


January 9th, 2012
7:08 am

I’m still amazed this show is the number one HW show. There’s just no there “there.” While a couple of years ago, I became a faithful watcher (embarrassed to admit, lol), now I only catch it in passing…and I don’t even bother if I miss an episode. That said, from what I have seen re your question, Peter and Cynthia’s marriage is curious to me. She’s dated NBA stars, music execs, etc., and she settles for a broke, older, mean man. What gives? It would be one thing if he was sweet and treated her well and whatnot, then you could maybe understand the draw. But as it stands, he doesn’t even do that. There doesn’t seem to be much love there. So what in the world is up? hmmm


January 9th, 2012
7:38 am

Phaedra: We’re gonna put the BOOM in the TOMB!….LMAO!


January 9th, 2012
8:12 am

After the meeting, Cynthia told Peter she sometimes doesn’t like him – or even love him. But she said there’s hope: “We both need a lot of work.” They huge, with sappy music.

Mr. Ho do you mean they “hug” with sappy music? Just wondering….

Good Day Fan

January 9th, 2012
8:39 am

Last nights episode was kind of a snooze fest. However, I could appreciate NeNe’s realness when she passed on the $25,000 earrings. Alot of people would have bought them to save face and neglected their mortgages,carnotes,grocery money,and bills. I love Phaedra’s zingers when she said “I want to do fabulous funerals, funerals worth dying for.” I was done. Nothing interesting going on with Sheree & Kim. Kandi strikes me as the type who likes to take over and dominate a project. For the life of me I can’t understand why Cynthia married Peter. He’s a real @#$#. He’s not supportive, financially secure, or charming.

MeNo Understand

January 9th, 2012
8:53 am


I just can’t figure out how you need that much work when you’ve only been married about a year???!!!


January 9th, 2012
8:53 am

That show is so boring without Dwight.


January 9th, 2012
8:55 am

Stupid is as stupid does, ur IQ just dropped.


January 9th, 2012
8:58 am

@Good Day Fan… Peter must have a big member…. She can do a LOT better than Father time… Just saying…

MeNo Understand

January 9th, 2012
9:15 am

Peter basically says, if you can’t deal with it/me/issues then hop off the train at the next stop. That doesn’t sound like the kind of attitude that a married person should have. As far as this show as a whole, I think they’re pretty much reaching to come up with something to put on tv for an hour each week. Each following episode seems as lack luster than the one that preceeded it.


January 9th, 2012
9:31 am

Peter is a disgruntled, mean old man who is not supportive of his wife – at all! I hope Cynthia opens her eyes and realizes she would have been better off marrying Leon than staying with this old timer! They don’t seem to have anything in common and he treats her like crap – the my way or the highway mentality is not conducive to making a marriage work!!


January 9th, 2012
9:33 am

Okay, I’ma fan so I watch the show faithfully every week then I investigate each lady a little further. Sheree puzzled me with this court stuff, when Phadra said lets put his but in jail she declined? Why cause Sheree owes Bob money, She swindled him out of 400,000. All the documents are on She sold her electronics to pay Phaedra but realized if she does go through with it she may end up paying Bob. Phadra knew more and decided give her the money back. Okay she owes Dwight 30,000 for “She ” by Sheree. Mad cause NENE can do a better at booking( really the agent does that but Sheree doesnt have one). Why is she mad it is hot at the Bailey Agency opening? She had on a hot as polyester dress with a drape/shaw. She only hanging out with Kim to meet a new Football friend of Kory. She’s a player! Cynthia only married peter cause she thought she was getting too old. Okay thats enough cause i could write two pages


January 9th, 2012
9:35 am

Was glad NENE did not spend 25,000 on earrings and yes she had no clue who the lady was talking about.


January 9th, 2012
9:41 am

@GrammerPOPO: Here’s another one…“The moment I look at her, the day is better,” she said.

Or maybe she actually IS talking about herself?


January 9th, 2012
9:45 am

What a piece of trash show…I had rather drive pins under my fingernails than to watch this no brain junk


January 9th, 2012
9:46 am


Mandi Martini

January 9th, 2012
10:03 am

@GrammerPOPO: Do you mean GrammarPOPO?

Ga dawg

January 9th, 2012
10:03 am

My favorite was Willie Watkins’ shiny suit!


January 9th, 2012
10:04 am

Cynthia darling your marriage convenant with Peter is broken; he told you to hop off the train at the next stop. Peter may be older but not wiser. He does not r e s p e c t you, you are his support, he’s not yours. You don’t need this kind of a man to validate you. I think you better let it go, looks like another love tko. Best wishes in your endeavors.


January 9th, 2012
10:23 am

@Mandi No, I did that on purpose to be funny and see if anyone would catch it. Good job you get a gold star! :)


January 9th, 2012
10:31 am

“She don’t think I listen”.

Lost me right there …

carla roqs

January 9th, 2012
10:32 am

@rodney, wow, do you ever think of just shutting down comments?


January 9th, 2012
10:41 am

I laugh everytime I see the Willie Watkins subtitles.


January 9th, 2012
10:53 am

See, NeNe is just a plain ole’ chick. She ain’t rich. She ain’t the sharpest tool in the toolbox either. And like so many others…If she’d just pay attention to what really goes on in Atlanta, she would know who Dalai Lama is. He’s been in Atlanta how many times in the past 5 years? And he is world known. “The Italian”. LOL!

Please buy my book, 'Krying Myself to Sleep,' by K. Humphries-Kardashian

January 9th, 2012
11:02 am

The show was pretty boring last night. Y’all can believe Marlo schmoozes with real socialites if you want. Hell just 3 years ago wasn’t she fighting in a bar? A nice dress and sparkling glass of wine does not equate to class and etiquette. Apollo is one sexy creature. He shouldn’t talk though, just come out to be seen.

Kandi should continue as a songwriter. I was surprised to hear her say she’s basically self concious about singing (her songs in front of clients/artists). That kinda confirms my belief that she doesn’t take voice lessons at all. She’s a good songwriter, so hopefully she can get back on track with that.

Kim is the most pathetic POS walking around. She complains about most everything, but doesn’t absolutely nothing. WTF are guys thinking? Garbage mouth, garbage body, and she brings nothing to the table but two porkly kids with entitled attitudes. Why did Bravo ever remove her from that trailer park in the back woods of Sugarloaf?

Please buy my book, 'Krying Myself to Sleep,' by K. Humphries-Kardashian

January 9th, 2012
11:07 am

@speedgurl Nene’s so dumb. I’m the last one who feels a degree makes one educated, however Nene makes some high school drop outs look smart. Pay attn to whats goign on in the world, read news websites since no one gets papers delivered. cnn newsweek, hell your local news station website. She doesn’t know anything about green unless it’s money. You poor public school casualty. And always want to be the first one to talk about their “summer home…I’m rich bitch.” No sweetie, ur ignorant to even the simplest of facts and details.

She watoosied her monkey ass into that event with no intentions of spending money. You can’t spend what you aren’t even close to having.


January 9th, 2012
11:11 am

Nene, knew darn well she couldn’t afford that $22,500 ring at the charity event. Shortly after trying on the ring she said “Thank you for inviting me” and left. (LOL). She is so dang CHEAP to be so RICH! Anyway, I noticed Cynthia didn’t have on her wedding band at the salsa dancing classes. Normally, ones ring is the first thing to come off when there are martial issues. Kandi, please leave country music to other artist/singers. The song didn’t sound great when Kandi was singing it, but the moment Jo Dee Messina started singing it was a GREAT SONG. Kandi, please finish writing that song and let Jo Dee sing it. ANYWAY, she needs to sit down and focus on WRITING SONGS ONLY and NOT singing them. Maybe if Escape was back together, it would work for her.


January 9th, 2012
11:37 am

I think the couple would not last long because peter, need to get his act togather or she going to leave him, for good idk maybe not , but we will see on the show.


January 9th, 2012
12:06 pm

Marlo is doing something right to be smoozing with that crowd. Great hustle. Nene just cheap, Marlo took the high road and gave her a hug. She knew where she was going and talks a lot of talk of money this and that. Cannot depend on hood types to come through. Painfully known from the look on those white ladies faces. “Let’s go shopping”… lol.
Apollo, did he say “undecisive” instead of indecisive about his funeral home decision. Much like Peter chopped him up for his verbal flub. Anyways not a scholar, funny cause he knows.
Cynthia pretty, but weak person. Peter is no different than before marriage. Cannot marry his type if do not truly like it. Embarrasing to take him to the pastor like that…communication is weak there all around. And yeah, she was using some strong language with him. Kim just too home, too much lips, too much fake. Kroy young and dumb, will wake up one day.


January 9th, 2012
12:15 pm

Yes, Kim..some of us work for our bodies and everything in life. Sheree has this right, Kim has this lazy attitude that does not bode well for anyone that depends on her (kids/backup defensive end.) And yeah Kroy will be cut if he does not work for some below average to contract for a backup defensive end. Pass is all he does and get one maybe 2 sacks a year. Terrible! Third down pass rusher for a discount. No impact on game. Young and dumb. $$$ down the road in spousal/child support. More plastic surgery and whigs for Kim. Fool! LOL!


January 9th, 2012
12:19 pm

Boy was I surprised when I saw that Leon was Cynthia’s daughter’s Father. He is so sexy. As for Peter, Cynthia, it doesn’t matter if he is young or old, rich or poor, but if he doesn’t treat you right, he needs to GO. You deserve better. Life is too short to come home to a mean person. I wouldn’t have married him anyway borrowing money from me that he DIDN’T pay back & having so many kids. Not my kind of guy. Date maybe when you want some drama in your life, but marry, NO WAY!! Good luck Cynthia. A nice looking lady, seems to have a nice personality & a cute shape, do yourself a favor & find someone that will appreciate you. Your Mom & sister will be there when Peter is long gone.


January 9th, 2012
12:21 pm

I purposely did not watch this crap last night. I watched the OWN Network. I do know that Cynthia need to leave his old behind. He creeps me out!


January 9th, 2012
12:22 pm


January 9th, 2012
12:22 pm

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i love seeing folks act ignorant


January 9th, 2012
12:26 pm

Had to stop watching these types of reality show as these episodes were taped many many months ago and these folks current lives and related activites are plastered all over the social networks…becomes old hag news….


January 9th, 2012
12:26 pm

God Bless all of the RHWOA and Have a happy and prosperous New Year!

peter deter weter

January 9th, 2012
12:53 pm

So according to NeNe–the hehe the Dalai Lama is Italian. LOL…instead of buying all this junk she should buy a tutor.

Peter Cynthia was correct you are a dinosaur…LOL

Apollo is a dummy and he sounds even more uneducated when he was trying to explain his arugument on souls. If Phadera was smart she would dress him up and be a madam…yes p.i.m.p him out because he is in Piedmont park anyway….Heyyyyyy 2 snaps.

Kandi hair and makeup is getting worst…girl stop doing your own hair and makeup—>go back to Paula.

Sheree-ray is right about Kim girl workout and stop going under the knife. For the record Kim is 30+13

Kim, I like the way you buy those .99 cents beauty supply store clips to blend you hair with the wigs. Step up and buy a better clip, or let Miss Lawerence, Derek J-hey, or Dwight do your blending.

One more thing which will Kroy hate the most, the fact that he ate all of Kim’s BS, or the fact that he never ate off of those Versace plates? Those plates will never see Montana, he is used to Solo or Dixie plates…

peter deter weter

January 9th, 2012
12:58 pm

Cynthia, Peter not doing the excercise and telling you why he loves you, with that little papa smurf smirk is GROUNDS for termination. Meet Phaedra in the parking lot with 5K cash and have him served with those papers. Listen to Ur-sher it’s time to sign them papers, papers….cooing in my Ur-sha voice :grin:


January 9th, 2012
1:12 pm

Cynthia go ahead and chopped off this deadbeat of a low-life man! I normALLY would say it’s cheaper to keep him: but your mom & sister told you so!! Peter is a user, and even in regards to the cameras being on or off….he seems so cold to you!! Cynthia you are all in love by yourself!!! Any who let’s start planning for the DIVORCE PARTY; their more fun than weddings, also they don’t cost($$$) that much!!! NeNe can be our host, we can get Anthony from Project Runway to revamp the wedding dress, Derek J for hair, a great MUA, a location, and one of Phaedra’s finest wood boxes for ring burial, Kroy’s fine football friends….and I say we have a Divorce party!!! I forgot one person…Ric-DIC-lust!!! DONE!!!

meyouand she

January 9th, 2012
1:13 pm

Nene showed how ignorant she was when she got ready to leave she said by B to Marlo at a charity event. You can give her all the money in the world, you can take her to Paris but Nene Leakes is still ghetto. If she was invited at a charity event, you would think she would have bought something, especially since she is RICH. She did the same thing at the event Sheree had, she snuffed when Kandi tried to get them to donate more money.
I am glad Marlo did not make the RHOA after her arrest reports were released. She need to be seeking counseling and taking her BFF Nene along with her.

Southern Girl

January 9th, 2012
1:16 pm

Peter maybe acting out of insecurity. He’s an old fart, she’s a beautiful model. He knows she can do better than his old crusty behind!!

Let's get togedda and feeeel all right...

January 9th, 2012
2:16 pm

Papa Smurf, mon, it’s time to call it a day. Go get you an old Jamaican lady who will not put put every “ting” out “deere” and call it like it truly is. I’ll get the truth started:

You need to:

1. Get a REAL job (and an attitude adjustment)
2. Either shave that “ting” off your face or dye it
3. Go be with your baby mamas and leave Cynthia alone
4. Recognize that you have too much baggage to be with a young(er) woman
5. Put Cynthia back on Amtrak to return to NYC where she is HAPPY to be
6. Return to the island of your youth… Come to Jamaica and feel alright!

Frank Ski's stunt man

January 9th, 2012
2:18 pm

NeNe looks like that guy from the eddie long’s lawsuit. The one that wanted to be a singer

peter deter weter

January 9th, 2012
2:28 pm

@Let’s get tegedda…LOL now that was the laugh I needed!

@Ski’s stunt man….they do favor each other, heck she might be one of Bishop’s boys….


January 9th, 2012
2:29 pm

I read on another site that Marlo actually slashed/disfigured a girls face in a bar fight over a guy…that’s why she was arrested one of the seven times. Can someone verify this?

I LOVED the look on NeNe’s face when Marlo told her she’d been arrested SEVEN times. I would NOT have invited her to go shopping with me… I would have got up and left. But Ms. Ghettofabulous needs someone to run amok with.


January 9th, 2012
2:55 pm

Like many others, I think the RHOA along with the others have almost run their course. However, would like to comment on the show last night.

Cynthia – Peter is jealous and hating on a big level. He’s made it obvious (at least from what we’re shown) he does not support, encourage or respect you. Drop that zero maybe try to work it out with Leon.

Nene – since you’re so rich… a clue. Clearly you are NOT smarter than a fifth grade.

Kandi – stick to writing, your old hire stylist and another wardrobe person.

Kim – Your nightmare with Brielle is just starting…she’s a wreck about to happen!

Sheree – should have listen to Phaedra…but we all know why you didn’t.

Phaedra – You look like you might have an organsim when talking about the funeral business…scary.


January 9th, 2012
2:56 pm

meant to say hair stylist. P.S. Your but is much bigger than Phaedra’s


January 9th, 2012
3:08 pm

There is something very strange about Cynthai and can’t put my finger on it right now, but think about a attractive woman, with an older man with 20 kids, just kidding why would she marry him? is Cynthia hiding behind a mask ?


January 9th, 2012
3:44 pm

Nene may not be as rich as she claims; but, she’s about to do a multi-episode run on the hit show, “Glee”. That sitcom money is gonna make “The Celebrity Apprentice” cash look like peanuts!

And enough of the Peter hate. Sure he’s a jerk; but, why feel sorry for Cynthia? The marriage serves both of their purposes: she can have some stability and exit the single life and ratrace that fourty something models face, and he can have a hot wife. Real talk!

The old island cat is aiight with me. I cannot wait to visit the ‘A’, have a couple of drinks at Bar One, and hopefully not get shot.