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‘Real Housewives of Atlanta’ recap, season four, episode 4: ridiculous?

Kandi Burruss held a 35th birthday party that didn't involve NeNe fighting with anybody. CREDIT: AP

Kandi Burruss held a 35th birthday party that didn't involve NeNe fighting with anybody. CREDIT: AP

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Good ol’ Phaedra Parks helped instigate the Peter/Apollo fight last week.

Tonight, she again initiated another verbal altercation, this one between Kandi Burruss and Kandi’s opinionated mom Joyce.

Why? As Phaedra noted last season, she loves the strippers. As an attorney, she even represents one (named Ridickulous) who is so big, well, he has talents that most men are incapable of. And he demonstrated this said talent at Kandi’s 35th birthday party on the rooftop of the Renaissance Hotel in Midtown.

Kandi was cool with it. And Phaedra was in heaven.

“You won’t be able to find that in your local retailer,” Phaedra drawled.

Noting that Phaedra is his attorney, Kandi cracked, “Given how big that is, he probably gets sued for damages.” (Rimshot alert!)

Kandi’s mom Joyce walked away disgusted. “I don’t like no damn strippers!” she yelped.

NeNe, despite her own stripper past, acted all grossed out. by Ridickulous.  “It’s disgusting,” she said, especially since people were wearing Gucci and Versace. (huh?)

“Me and Phaedra and Sheree were laughing,” Kandi explained later. “I wasn’t thinking about everybody else.” Especially her mom, who left early, cursing up a  storm.

“It’s my 35th birthday,” said Kandi, chagrined, “And I feel like five.”

By the way, Kandi invited everyone to this party – except Kim, who is eight months pregnant. So the separation between Kim and NeNe continues. Sheree and Phaedra keep their distance from NeNe. Kandi said she hates being in the middle – but she invited them all there. (It’s a TV show. Everyone goes with it.)

“It’s like the Crips and the Bloods,” Phaedra notes. But no bloodshed happens. Just a big chill.

[During "Watch What Happens Live," Andy Cohen showed video evidence that Joyce has certainly seen strippers before but it's clear she was upset by the venue and setting as well as this particular stripper's behavior.]

What happened to the other housewives?

- Cynthia Bailey brought her sister Malorie to see her husband Peter at his new bar Bar One, which was about to open. Since Malorie and Cynthia’s mom were so worried about Cynthia’s mental state last season before her wedding, they pondered hiding the marriage certificate. Peter found out later, probably when the episode aired. He was peeved. He thought he was cool with Malorie until then and was hurt. Malorie tried to explain to him that she protecting her sister. He didn’t really buy it. “It wasn’t your day!” he said. In frustration, he got up and left, saying it was okay, even though it wasn’t. Malorie started crying.

Later, Malorie and Cynthia got into an argument because Malorie disapproved of Cynthia even pondering helping Peter out financially with his bar. (His last one belly flopped.) Cynthia got defensive and called out Malorie on her marriage issues. They then tried  to cool down but it’s obvious the issue will rear its ugly head again in the future.

- Kim Zolciak got very little airtime this week. She opened the episode meeting with Phaedra, who carried a peace offering gift basket for what happened at the baby shower with her husband and Peter. Kim appreciated it, noting that Cynthia didn’t call her to apologize. She also met with a baby consultant (despite the fact she’s had two kids already) since her third will be a boy. They queasily talked circumcision.

- Sheree Whitfield saw no progress on her new home and brought Phaedra to be her lawyer. They verbally roughed up the contractor in hopes that they don’t have to go to court down the road.

- NeNe revealed to Cynthia that she had sex with Gregg after she got back from Miami though they are still technically separated. “Greg likes it down,” NeNe said. “He can be a tiger!”

NOTABLE QUOTES (there were plenty this week!)

“Note to self: keep the ex cons and ***holes off the guest list next time.” - Kim Zolciak, about any future parties, after the Peter/Apollo dust up last week.

“I don’t know how old Peter is. 65? 75? He’s entirely too old to be yelling at a ***king baby shower.” - Kim, in classy verbal mode again.

I was on morphine. I was on epidural. I was crazy as a vampire in sunlight!” - Phaedra, on having her baby.

“I’m turning 35 this year. I’m feeling like I’m not married. I want to have another child. It’s kind of depressing. But it is like a milestone so it’s time to party.” - Kandi, rationalizing a party when it was probably the producers’ idea.

I think Kandi wanted a friendship and Kim wanted a hit song.” - NeNe, pondering why Kandi and Kim have grown apart since “Tardy for a Party” became a huge hit.

“When you are as low down as Sheree, hitting below the belt, trying to dig up your past, you don’t deserve the friendship of NeNe Leakes.”NeNe Leakes, placing herself in third person like Prince or Shaq.

“I don’t want him growing up with his peepee wearing a turtleneck.” - Kim, on getting her baby circumcised.

“Cynthia needs to set boundaries” between her husband and her family.” - NeNe.

“For a black man, it’s better to see you going than coming. Having a nice donkey booty is like having a carrot and dangling it in front of a horse.” - Phaedra, who teased and threatened a contractor, often at the same time.

“I never leave home without a taser. They’d be glad I left the .357 in the car!” - Phaedra, on her self-defense methods. Watch out Mr. Contractor!

Lawrence looks like Mr. T dipped in Wonder Woman. Super hero of the South!” - Phaedra, after seeing Lawrence at the 35th birthday party.

“I just enter and my presence takes over the room.” NeNe, modest as always.


Peter loses $40,000 from an investor for his new bar. Cynthia is thinking about chipping in herself but is not happy about it. We see ex-hubby Bob Whitfield for the first time as Sheree tries to wrangle child support from him. And “Housewives” wannabe  Marlo Hampton makes her debut. The rumore: she was dating an NFL player Charles Grant that NeNe also had dated.


Last week, ratings were up to 3.2 million from 3 million the week before. The first three episodes were up 700,000 viewers over a year ago, averaging 3 million. UPDATE: The fourth episode cited here drew 3.03 million compared to 2.49 million for the fourth episode season three.

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155 comments Add your comment


November 27th, 2011
11:05 pm

Miss Lawrence looking great!! Nene got some NERVE acting all prim and proper in front of the stripper!!
Loved Phaedra’s b-day gift!!

Enjoy a good stripper but...

November 27th, 2011
11:20 pm

The birthday gift was tacky. That particular party was not the place for it. That gift should have been given at a more personal and one gender setting. Then it could have been on with the ridickulous.


November 27th, 2011
11:23 pm

I love the idea Phareda, but not for the show. A more private setting wouldve been much better. NeNe stop acting fake! You was once a stripper. Peter plz stop taking your wife money! Am all for husband and wife being their for each other, but you still owe her money from the last investment. Am a caribbean woman, ur using her!

Straight from the Q

November 27th, 2011
11:36 pm

@Genesis: Agree. Peter just needs to get a job period. point blank. get a job, save some money, then open the clubs. these ventures tend to be money pitt anyways. especially now that the economy is down. Get in the storage biz Uncle Pete. Lots of foreclosed homes, ppl need a place to put the unnecessary stuff they accumulated.


November 28th, 2011
1:04 am

Kandi mom was a trip and had me laughing all night. She was pissed and highly upset! Can’t blame her. And Phaedra looking all scared and like oops! Who is this wanna be MH. What is the scoop on her Rodney or him?


November 28th, 2011
2:14 am

First, Miss Phaedra knows good and doggone well that she wouldn’t want to be surprised with a stripper if her sanctifed mother was in attendence. Second, erotic dance is one thing that if done tasteful few people would oppose. An raunchy act featuring auto-oral -stimulation is quite another. That’s just tacky.


November 28th, 2011
5:17 am

Please Please Please…. Take this garbage off the air. I don’t know which is more stupid…. The people on this show or the the people that watch the show.


November 28th, 2011
5:31 am

I feel like an idiot for reading this blog…


November 28th, 2011
5:43 am

Phaedra’s b-day gift was inappropriate for that particular setting. If
if was more intimate and certainly without her mom there, then to each
it’s own. Phaedra’s delivery and timing of her gift really sucked and she needs to apologize to Kandi’s mother, even though her mom admitted
to being in the company of strippers before, I don’t think it was on the level of this one. On another note, why is everything Kandi wears
so tight and the 6 inch heels only pushes her butt out farther. Lawrence was a hot mess as usual. This whole ATL franchise of HH is very embarrassing and particularly to black women. Where is the message role model and message that people should be taking from this show. Is it to act like a fool, brag about designer this or that, grown folk bullying, rude & obnoxious behavior, I mean where and when does this foolishness end. These women have soul their integrity for a few nickels. Folk have died to be where they are now and this is what they bring to the table, their forefathers would turn over in their grave. Is this the” keeping it real” message that we want to send the younger generation? That it’s ok to go on national TV and be puppets for the Bravo execs ratings and paychecks. There is no serious market out there for the NeNe’s, Sheree’s, and Kim’s of the world. There 15 minutes of fame are nearly up and when the laughter has since stopped. It’s all trash TV at this point and shame on them because they all have young kids and should send a positive message and set a better example.


November 28th, 2011
6:06 am

Usingthe show to promote her client…..she then gets a bigger piece of the commission


November 28th, 2011
6:09 am

@John I would say the people who take the time to read article about a show and then opine about it being on the air are at the pinnacle of ignorance

I'm officially DONE!

November 28th, 2011
6:11 am

This show is trash! I will NEVER watch this crap again.

Tom Tobin

November 28th, 2011
6:26 am

“I don’t want him growing up with his peepee wearing a turtleneck.”
Uh, how do you think you got here? Circumcision is maybe 5,000 years old.
Humans are maybe 4.7 million years old.

sweetie pie

November 28th, 2011
6:28 am

This show has become nothing but filth. It’s astounding that Kandi has a minor under her care considering the trash-and-nothing-but-trash content she puts out on this show. Same with Phaedra. It’s astounding this is held up as a representation of Atlanta. Why don’t they get their own porn show somewhere else in the bowels of cable. Or, wait…is this the bowels of cable?


November 28th, 2011
6:31 am

Dump Nene, Cynthia, Sheree…

Melissa's mom

November 28th, 2011
6:37 am

Totally classless! I used to be a fan of Kandi. I appreciate her musical expertise and admire her for being able to make that twit, Kim, famous with her absurd “song”. However, after revealing her sex talk show, sex toys, and now this stripper (with her own mother in attendance, no less!) she has shown what a classless fool she is. Some things don’t need to be made public.


November 28th, 2011
7:09 am

last night show was a disaster,pheadra should have known better.
Peter even had a word to say when he seen how big
Of a penis the stripper had,peter said Damn!!!! And any way
What kind of man s___ks his own stuff.That is crazy…..


November 28th, 2011
7:09 am

You have to be just as bad or worse than these ghetto dwellers to waste time watching this garbage. NOT the REAL housewives of Atlanta, that’s for sure.


November 28th, 2011
7:25 am

Real men don’t go around sucking on pe—, let alone their own. What kind of crap was that? What kind of REAL WOMAN enjoys seeing a man pleasure himself in that manner. As a African-American male, I have to agree with some of the other posters whether it be that they are racist or not; this show is really about foolishness.


November 28th, 2011
7:29 am

I’ve never watched this show. What an embarrassment to Atlanta.


November 28th, 2011
7:29 am

Hey…it’s REALITY show…but last night was over the top with the stripper…just wasn’t the right setting..should have been just the ‘gurls’….NeNe — nuthing wrong with her being offended…she was a stripper but was out there…

I do agree — this show doesn’t make us look any worst than the brothers hooking up with the trash they can’t stay away from….


November 28th, 2011
7:35 am

WOW, I CANT STAND NeNe, she has lost her mind, with her stripping self…PLEEEEASE!


November 28th, 2011
7:40 am

Rodney….It’s Charles Grant ..not Chris Grant.
Go Dawgs!!

what did u expect?

November 28th, 2011
7:41 am

With the make up of characters on that show? Thats what you get when you get a bunch of………………………..morons.


November 28th, 2011
7:43 am



November 28th, 2011
7:47 am

Please Remove all of them and start over there are some educated, professional, beautiful, clean, respectable women in Atlanta. (How about a new show Pastor’s Wives or ex-Wives tell all)….;.

Mrster Majic

November 28th, 2011
7:55 am

@Genesis. I agree wholeheartedly that Peter is using her. Unfortunately, it won’t last because he is a failure. Cynthia could do much better. I think in the end, she will choose her family over Peter. What a arrogant ***hole.


November 28th, 2011
8:00 am

I love the show because it is entertainment. Do I like how it depict women? No. I am loving Ne Ne and because she use to be a stripper does not mean she likes male strippers. I love to dance like a stripper myself ,but I think male strippers are disgusting. This is entertainment folks. The only way this show make you look bad if you carry youselve like this in REAL LIFE…. I can not wait to call my sister and laugh about these crazy women….


November 28th, 2011
8:04 am

@Rodney How could you forget this zinger:”…they’ll blow smoke up butt with a bubble blower…” LOL….that Phaedra cracks me up!

If you remember and/or watched What what happens live…you would know that Kandi and her mom always had strippers at gatherings, birthdays, baby showers, etc….im not saying that this one was appropraite, but….


November 28th, 2011
8:08 am

This is why America needs Sharia Law.

Yeah Right

November 28th, 2011
8:12 am

Anyone saying they won’t watch this show will be the first ones tuning in next week. If you took the time to read the article, that means you care about the show, weather you hate it or like it. You’re not fooling anyone.


November 28th, 2011
8:19 am

@Lucky…um HELL TO THE NO….


November 28th, 2011
8:19 am

darb, good points. Where will these people be when our government goes bankrupt and the free ride is over. How will they fend for themselves? It’s gonna be terrible.

Yeah Right

November 28th, 2011
8:20 am

Hey darb, you must be a honkie, oops I’m sorry, I meant white trailer park trash. I see your intelligence is the same as a rock with your “tar babies” and “black crime” phrases. Troll.

Train Wreck

November 28th, 2011
8:26 am

If this show was replaced these women with a more true “representation” of Atlanta’s beautiful, educated, and real housewives no one would watch it. Is the DC Housewives still on? no, was not enough drama. This is TV. The show is created to draw viewers and not to be a docudrama of Atlanta housewives. So, don’t hold your breath for a better cast or story lines.


November 28th, 2011
8:34 am

The stripper is one of the kids. I notice Phaedra seem to take a special interest in the gays. Kudos to her. Nene was this too real to you? This was your last line of work before marrying Greg.


November 28th, 2011
8:36 am

Ridickulous did a little more than strip. I don’t blame mom for being grossed out. It wasn’t just stripping dude demonstrated.


November 28th, 2011
8:37 am

@Lucky, what free ride are you referring too? How about the free ride your ancestors got off the back of slaves and betrayal of Indians? I’m sure ALL the women on this show are grossing more income than you. Jealous much?


November 28th, 2011
8:38 am

@Idiot, now worries, even if your IQ was 50 and you had special education classes as a child, you could watch this show and come away feeling like a pure genius and be thankful that you don’t know any of the people on the show. Of course, your opinion of Atlanta would certainly suffer with every episode . . .


November 28th, 2011
8:40 am

@Truth….my ancestors are not European. They got here in the mid-1970’s.


November 28th, 2011
8:45 am

@ Lucky @darb…While I find the actions of last night’s episode inappropriate, that does not mean we call people tar babies. And what does the government have to do with these women? They work for a paycheck albeit by a reality show that is frowned upon, they entertain/work for the money. Leave the racism out of it. I knew it would be a matter of time before the likes of you would invade the blog like a cancer with racist rants. Now that is soooo GA!


November 28th, 2011
8:52 am

That show was so, so funny, I laughed and laughed, I laughed when it was over. I too was disgusted by the depth of lewdness by the stripper and would not ever want my eyes to see anything so nasty, committing a sex act on himself, yuck. When Nene said she was going to take out her eye balls, put them in her purse and drive home blind I was rolling on the floor with laughter. I love Nene. My mother would have been disgusted too. Yeah and whatever that stuff is Gucci and Versace, if I were wearing that I sure wouldn’t be going to see a stripper. Phaedra is over the top nassstay (spelling correct).


November 28th, 2011
8:54 am


I never called anyone that particular term. I can think of far worse to call these disgusting animals who consider themselves to be women of color.

another comment

November 28th, 2011
8:58 am

When are people going to get it this is scripted! In real life Sheree is down to earth and just another team mom of her son.

Yeah Right

November 28th, 2011
9:05 am

@ darb……No let me apologize for not using the word/phrase that I really wanted to use too. And what part of lower Alabama did you live in? What barn were you born in? And how many teeth are you missing? And how long did it take you to learn how to use a computer? Who’s spelling these words for you? How are you surviving in the city since you’re so far from the backwoods?


November 28th, 2011
9:13 am

@Lucky…you just did…. “disgusting ANIMALS”…..really? I don’t think you’re “Lucky” nor is anyone that knows you. Shut the trailer door…it’s raining boo-boo for brains.


November 28th, 2011
9:16 am

I don’t exactly think Phaedra’s birthday gift was appropriate at THIS party, since Kandi’s Mon was there. There’s having an “open mind”, and then there’s just taste. This has nothing to do with taste! Since these “housewives” are on tv, don’t they have “stylists”?!?!?!?!? Kandi’s birthday dress was laughable at best!! Her a_ _ was too big for that kind of dress!!!! Either lose the weight so you CAN wear that kind, or wear something that fits and doesn’t have you looking like a sausage!


November 28th, 2011
9:33 am

First, Phaedra did not instigate the fight between her husband and Peter. Next, I have a problem with Itunes about this show. Itunes is delaying posting Real Housewives of Atlanta and other show like Braxton Family Values because they are trying to help pump up the Kardashians. They post Kardashian episodes almost immediately the next day but not the same for African American reality tv shows. RHOA and Braxton Family Values are hit shows in their own right and Itunes is doing some shady bogus stuff to it’s customers. They are disregarding their African American customers who buy tv shows and movies fromt their store. Just wanted to put that out there. I got on Itunes at 7AM (in Chicago) and the Kardashians take New York was on Itunes but not RHOA. Itunes did this last year too…not right! Pass it on and maybe they’ll start being fair.


November 28th, 2011
9:37 am

How many of these African Americans are from Africa? Huh?


November 28th, 2011
9:49 am

Everyone making comments MUST be from the South. I’m from a large city and a stripper at a 35 year old’s birthday party is NOT inappropriate (and yes, even with the mother there). I think the mother treated Kandi like a 13 year old. Mom, sorry but your daughter is a grown ass woman and has her own ‘interests’. She didn’t bring the stripper anyway. I just don’t get why everyone is bothered by a stripper being at a grown woman’s birthday party. Really? Maybe it’s because of a Southern thing, I guess. I’m from the big city and it’s not unusual at all. It doesn’t happen very often but I’ve been to a birthday party where a stripper appeared and yes, we were shocked but no one cried over it and cursed over it either. I think everyone is being dramatic and prudish (on this site). This is a grown a$$ woman’s party. Mom should’ve just left the room but she didn’t have to swear up a storm. Maybe it’s a southern proper thing…and I don’t get it. Kandi liked it and guess what? It was HER party…she’s an adult people..not 17!!!