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‘Nightline’ town hall in Decatur about successful black women having a hard time finding black men set to air Wednesday, April 21

(ABC/Guy D'Alema)

(ABC/Guy D'Alema)

Unless a big breaking story happens, “Nightline” is set to air a truncated version of its 2.5 hour town hall meeting in Decatur earlier this month on Wednesday, April 21 at 11:35 p.m.

More than 600 people crowded the Porter Sanford Performing Arts Center in Decatur on Friday, April 9. Several hundred more were forced into satellite rooms or simply got there too late to get in. Clearly, moderator Steve Harvey’s promotional pull showed. He talked about it on his radio show heard locally on Majic 107.5/97.5 that week.

And “The View’s” Sherri Shepherd flew from New York City to take part as well. Vicki Mabrey, the “Nightline” correspondent moderated with Harvey, along with participants Jacque Reid (”Let’s Talk About Pep”), actor Hill Harper (”CSI: NY”) and author Jimi Israel (”The Denzel Principle”).

The show revealed the misconceptions each gender has about the other. And the numbers are stacked against college-educated black women. The pool of comparable men is about half. Plus, many black women are unwilling to lower their standards while black men plead for more understanding.

I spoke last week with Shepherd about her experience. She originally didn’t want to do the panel because it was a topic that didn’t have any easy solutions. But she knew Harvey, Reid and Hill so she went along with it. She did have her nails out for Israel, who wrote a book she said bashes black women.

“I felt he kind of backed off once he was in a room full of black women and was held accountable for what he wrote,” said Shepherd, who clutched his book for much of the talk and picked at points he made in it. Indeed, Israel appeared to pull his punches.

The panel confirmed to her that the onus is on women more than men, that females have to “validate” guys a lot. “They say it’s not in their DNA” to be loyal or emotional, she said. “But what about our DNA?”

She did appreciate when Harvey said men are often shamed when they aren’t quite where they want to be, that they aren’t necessarily lazy miscreants. “We are ashamed to the fact that we have not gotten to where we thought we’d be by this age in life.  Have you ever considered that for a moment?” Harvey said. “But when you attach the term intimidation to it, you take on a superior role.”

Still, Shepherd said, there’s a point where she feels shame becomes an excuse.

On an unrelated note, I asked her about her Lifetime sitcom “Sherri.” She said she has not heard if it’s been renewed yet.

And I also wondered why “The View” did not invite Kitty Kelley to talk about her new “Oprah” book. Shepherd’s response: “I know so much about Oprah, I don’t really need to read Kitty Kelley’s book. She has talked about her struggles and heartaches and victories. Princess Di was one thing. I didn’t know her. I didn’t know Frank Sinatra. I know Oprah.”

On TV
“Nightline,” 11:35 p.m. tonight on ABC

You can watch more about this online at ABC News’s “Face Off” page.

And our Wise Diva over on the “Misadventures in Atlanta” blog offers her own thoughts here.

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106 comments Add your comment

prfrdr

April 21st, 2010
10:11 am

Good God, Rodney, your writing is terrible. Please proofread your articles once in a while (or give them to someone else who can) before you post.

White Trash poster

April 21st, 2010
10:37 am

successful black women? is that an oxymoron ?

Get Real

April 21st, 2010
11:30 am

Steve Harvey is a joke. What qualifies him to be an expert? He is a comedian and a tax cheat . The IRS has a 2 million dollar tax lien against him and he’s been married several times and paid his ex-wife chump change after acquiring millions. Now he’s some hero to women? Get real.

MikeJ

April 21st, 2010
11:45 am

Many successful black women who claim that they find it difficult to find a black man need to look at themselves. i think its just a lame excuse that so many use. Many need to find a treadmill and then a man will find them.

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TW

April 21st, 2010
11:58 am

It is unfortunate that black men have been unable to keep up with the growing number of successful black women (largely due to lack of opportunity and social structures but that’s another convo for another day). Women have the right to be picky and say they need this, this, this, and this, but if the candidate pool is too small, you can either hold out for the unlikely or be more open-minded.

I am a white man and am with a beautiful black woman, and we’ve been happily together for quite some time. If I had decided to only be with white women, I never would have found the girl of my dreams. Perhaps individuals should not limit their selections to just one race. It’s surprising what you can find when you’re open to every possibility.

Stone

April 21st, 2010
12:06 pm

Who made Steve Harvey the expert with relationships? Amazing females read his book and live their lives by it. Very Sad… Look at the title, I don’t want my women thinking like a man (ha, ha). Word to the women. Learn your man and invest time and effort in him and you will be rewarded. keep the women that are tired of thier situation away from you becuse women are easily influenced (Ask Eve)…remember Steve Harvey is a comedian don’t make him your overnight “Relationship Solver”. Relax and let God lead that man to you…he always do.

I Was In The Audience

April 21st, 2010
12:18 pm

Correction Stone. Steve Harvey indicated he is not a relationship expert, but that he has daughters who are of age and he wants to set the record straight about his point of view in regards to his daughters. He was apart of the show only for comic relief and not as an expert. There were relationship experts in the audience who did shed light about this topic.This disussion was data driven and collected based on marriage stats in the black culture. As a result, the black family is declining in the extended family such as less relatives, uncles, cousins, aunts etc. This dialogue was good conversation and the reality of what out culture is faced with. I too am happily married and wish the best for my 2 daughters when they become of age and ready to date. Hopefully, this trend will have dispersed and the family and dating value system will soon appear in a more positive manner in regards to the black woman and black man.

Dee

April 21st, 2010
12:30 pm

Steve Harvey really needs to sit down somewhere. Everywhere I turn black women are reading his book for what. When did he became the know it all on black relationships? Sometimes black women will listen to and read anything. I did not buy the book. I borrowed it from a friend and could not even finish it. Why? Because it is things I already know. He is turning black women against black men with his stupid strawberry letter, and annoying voice. Sorry, just because he is black does not mean we have to support him. Been married for 24 years to the same man and would not talk his advice if he showed up at my front door. My husband feels the same way.

okra

April 21st, 2010
12:44 pm

The whole kelly thing is curious. sherri says she knows Opra. Well, good, but it’s not about who Sherri knows. The View is for the audience, not Sherri. I think it does a disservice to the public to exclude Kelly. I don’t follow Oprah.I don’t read the tabloids. I don’t believe every thing I read, but I’m curious about Oprah’s rise and would like to read a concise bio that does put and pull it all together. What is wrong with that? Oprah did not write it. Someone had to write it. Even if some of it is scandalous, it is an interesting and informative and instructive story. Oprah is a public figure. Kelly is a writer. I say they should have her on and let’s all talk!!

Build a bridge and get over it

April 21st, 2010
12:49 pm

Turn the channel, change the radio station, don’t read the book..whatever!!! It’s ok to agree or disagree, but I will say he NEVER gave himself that title…the media outlets did!! He is no Marriage Role model, by no means, but telling the truth about his mistakes was more theraputic for him than anyone. I read AND enjoyed the book…mstly for entertainment purposes. I’ve learned a few things reading the book, but I don’t live my life by it.I KNOW I will NEVER be able to THINK like a Man…hell, I could barely think like a WOMAN every single day, but the thing is take what you want from it and leave the rest. You don’t have to love him or like him, but there’s something to be said for a #1 Best seller on MANY book lists. If there is some misinformation or just plain wrong info, YOU write the book and let US be the judge!!

Engaged Observer

April 21st, 2010
12:50 pm

I wasn’t in the audience and probably won’t watch tonight, but this is dinnertime conversation all over Atlanta and the black community. And as a black man who considers himself “successful” by the commonly used measures, the problem isn’t women meeting us. We’re everywhere they are. The problems follow behind overcoming the stigmas and stereotypes that both black men and black women carry. For as much as I have observed others, we are the only culture that seemingly dates and mates the entire race when we come together. What I mean simply is when we disagree, it’s “black men this…” or “black women that…” Furthermore, we involve our friends and families in our relationships far more than I’ve seen/noticed my friends of other races. That burden is heavy and bears down on individual relationships between us more than any other demographic. If we can relate with the individual and leave overall perceptions, aka baggage, outside, we might move the needles measuring marriage/divorce rates, births outside of wedlock, and other statistics in a positive direction.

MS

April 21st, 2010
12:50 pm

@TW I totally agree. My folks looked outside their race for love and found success. I personally found who/what I was looking for in a man who happens to be black, however, race was never a determining factor for dating. I agree that if more black women stopped limiting themselves to ‘their own’ race they would be happily surprised to find EXACTLY what they needed. Their are more than enough MEN out here for everyone.

MYTOOCENTS

April 21st, 2010
12:52 pm

Why do black women always get there relationship advice from comedians? LOL! Anyway, while sistas are “Acting Like A Woman And Thinking Like A Man”……brothas are “Acting Like Men And Thinking Like A Woman”…………THAT’S we don’t fall for all your manipulative BS. Successful black women are some of the most arrogant women in America…….they can barely look past themselves to respect or accept anyone else (especially black men)…..hence all the excuses of not being able to find a black man on “their level”…..LMAO!

@ TW…..listen dude, you admitted that there are a lack of opportunities for black men, wrong…..the opportunities are there…..it’s just that your guys keep them “all in the family”……you see where I’m getting at? But you destroyed your credibility when you said that women a RIGHT to PICKY? Where do you draw the line? How much of this attitude contributes to their inability to find and respect a man? Is your “black women” successful? Black women dating outside their race has more to do with them looking for a man who’s financially stable (entitlements for you), than with true love. Why do you think most of the complaints are from financially independent black women? Because a man with MONEY is their goal! It’s amazing how much these women are willing to tolerate when they find one!

MYTOOCENTS

April 21st, 2010
12:56 pm

Correction:

But you destroyed your credibility when you said that women have a RIGHT to be PICKY? Where do you draw the line? How much of this attitude contributes to their inability to find and respect a man? Is your “black woman” successful?

rwh

April 21st, 2010
1:10 pm

Everyone at the sound of my voice listen. Just because the entire United States of America has successful women, (and it should), it is not that they can’t find (black men). The whole problem is, many of the successful women have said they don’t need a man! Secondly, it is always, what is the black man bring to the table in the relationshp. Then, you have some women don’t want to be bother with the black man because it is usely all they want is (…..). Afte that, the successful women are back to square one and then they have a whole new perspective of the black man in general thinking that we all are alike. Anybody can tell you that no matter how succesful women or men are; they are merely looking over their race toward the other race and you can tell how they look at you and don’t give a chance to say hi, or just be open they hurry up and move out the way, give you a nasty look and honesty, their nose are always in the air over their on kind. We Men notice this and so often, we look for women who are down to earth and accept us as we are. Success do not mean happiness, and we all are looking for that….its worth finding but not in the way we think it will come. We will only find it with trail and errors. That is how the successful black women will find a black man if they are willing.

Captain Midnight

April 21st, 2010
1:16 pm

Mike J, hiarious! And Sherri? She’s not gonna allow ANYONE a stage to knock down her Queen.

from a black woman

April 21st, 2010
1:17 pm

AM I THE ONLY ONE WHO SEE THE STUPIDITY IN THIS??? SCHOOLS ARE CLOSING, PEOPLE ARE OUT OF WORK, MARTA WILL BE CUTTING SERVICES, THUS LEAVING COUNTLESS RIDERS STRANDED AND ALL THESE IDIOTS CAN THINK OF IS A DAMN DATING SHOW?? THERE IS NO MAGIC SOLUTION THAT ANYONE, LEAST OF ALL SILLY ASS STEVE HARVEY, CAN PULL PULL FROM A HAT TO MAKE RELATIONSHIPS HAPPEN AND LAST. A SEVERE DOSE OF REALITY IS NEEDED HERE PEOPLE! STOP WAITING FOR MR./MS. RIGHT AND TRY GETTING INVOLVED WITH ISSUES THAT REALLY MATTER!

antoinette

April 21st, 2010
1:17 pm

Steve Harvey wrote a book, not as a relationship expert…but as a man trying to help women understand how men think. Only a man CAN do that and too often women are getting relationship advice from other women who don’t have a clue as to what makes a man tick. I attended the forum and yes there were laughs but it was also informative. The panel did a great job representing their gender…the men really held it down and made excellent points, especially Hill Harper who said this conversation should continue as it is ultimately about saving black families. Tape the special and hold a viewing party inviting both men and women with a discussion afterwards. Let’s begin to communicate with one another with love and respect so we can be an example to the girls and boys coming behind us!

Just me

April 21st, 2010
1:17 pm

Mike J, that was really harsh. Sometimes food is all that a woman has, even if there’s a “man” around. We are emotional creatures. You would be surprised how true love and adoration can effect the waist line. When you desire to look good for your man, excessive emotional eating becomes an after thought. I’ve been happily married for 20 years to a brother and I’ve struggled with weight. Never quite going overboard, but not where I should’ve been. I’m winning the battle, but its not easy. Also take a look at men above 35 or so, most of them look like they need a gym membership. Walk in the shoes before making such judgements. The weight could be masking abuse, health issues or self-hate. Being thin has nothing to do with getting a good man. Look around you, evidence is very where. Cheating is about character or a lack thereof.

I also agree with Get Real. I read his book. Marjorie I believe is #4 and there are about 5 or 6 kids in the mix. Past decisions, indiscretions and behaviors say a lot. He even admitted to cheating on the love of his life before they were married The book makes basic sense, what our mother’s have preached forever. I think that if black men were more honest with themselves and treated us with more respect we’d be better off. The videos speak for themselves. We are just b*****s and h**s. With that being preached to a young girl all day long, without strong parental support I guess the brainwashing works. We are just not valued or appreciated, we’re just a means to an end, a booty call to take care of an itch. Look at what successful black men choose.

I’m raising girls and I’ll be damned if I allow them to limit themselves to a non-happening fool just because he’s black. I preach education, independence, giving and receiving respect, self control, being feminine, consider your outer beauty as well as inner beauty and men of ALL types will be attracted to that.

I’m married to an extra-ordinary black man and I did not offer up my goodies before I knew what he was and what he was about. I was young and inexperienced, but trust and keeping your word goes a lot farther than money and a good pickup line. As for my daughters, they will not be limited in who they choose, especially since many brothers have chosen otherwise.

Bob

April 21st, 2010
1:18 pm

Sounds like some black people here are giving other black people a little constructive criticism…finally! I keep my white a** out of this one!

Head Shaker

April 21st, 2010
1:18 pm

As a college educated and fairly successful(depends on how you define it) black male all I can do is shake my head at this. I’m only speaking from what I’ve personally seen and heard… but the problem is black women shun the ‘acting white’ guys in grade school and college in favor of the ‘black’-gangsta-always-in-trouble type and then suddenly they wake up in their mid 30s and complain about not having enough quality men to choose from.

I think once we all (black, white, whatever) change our attitudes about relationships and expectations about our partners… we’ll be better off. You shouldn’t turn your nose up at a potential mate based on education level, race, class, etc. Judge people for who they are, not what you THINK they are based on some arbitrary scale. :-)

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The Black Falcon

April 21st, 2010
1:28 pm

To me this whole notion of “successful” Black women not being able to find a man is sensationalism at its finest. First, define successful. Second, and more importantly, there is a 500-pound gorilla in the room that the experts appear to be glossing over. There are numericlly more Black women than Black men.

Let me make it plain so that even a small child would find it difficult to err on the facts. Suppose a group of people were playing a game of musical chairs. If there were 12 people and only 8 chairs, 4 people will be left standing. The same thing applies to the black woman/man situation. Because there are more women than men, some women (if they choose to stay within their race)will be left standing. I’m sorry, the math is just not in thier favor. Granted, this logic won’t sell very many books, or get ratings on talk shows or what have you but oh well.

The Conqueror

April 21st, 2010
1:36 pm

Why is the media focusing on black relations? I understand that black women outnumber black men when it comes to having advanced degrees. However the problem is that we as black people need to start focusing on a growing number of successful black men there are out here. Too much emphasis is being put on the lack(s) of black men, and that really offends me!!! It’s time to start praising our boys and men and stop telling them what they aren’t!

STH

April 21st, 2010
1:38 pm

Right on, TW. Too many people are pigeonholing themselves into only looking for one race, and not expanding their options. I’m a black woman, and I’m not lamenting the lack of “successful black men” — I’m married to a wonderful white man, but I was open to my partner being Asian, Hispanic, or multiracial. People should open their minds a little more.

EvanC

April 21st, 2010
1:40 pm

YOU’RE DEAD ON MIKE J. SO GLAD YOU PUT THAT OUT THERE.

Dadgumdumb/GA

April 21st, 2010
1:40 pm

There are plenty of white men that would love to get with some of dem black ladies. They gots some junk in the trunk and some nice things below the neck. I do loves me some curves.

war eagle

April 21st, 2010
1:46 pm

well, we all know what Oprah is now! Left Steadman for Gayle! I guess some black women want someone with qualities that are outside their race. nothing wrong with that, unless their families are not “down with it.” in the end we just don’t wnat an “OJ” situatioin. just to be happy.

TIME 4 A CHANGE

April 21st, 2010
1:52 pm

Hello everyone. In reading everyone’s response o this subject, it really saddens me to hear all of the negative remarks we make about one-another. I don’t think God had that in mind when He created us. We should build one-another up and not tear each other down. As far as Steve and the advice he gives to women. I don’t think there is a person living on this earth who knows everything about everything. So for you to say it would be a waste of time for some else to want to hear what he has to say about men, that would be very selfish and inconsiderate of you to make such a statement. I don’t think anyone came out of their mother’s womb knowing everything there is to know about men and women. Everything is a learning process and if you don’t feel you can help someone with that process then maybe you should step back be considerate of those who are willing to help. All I’m saying is let’s remember, we are human beings all going through the struggles of life and having to choose who will be the right one for who? If we spent a little more time listening instead of talking and voicing our opinions then maybe we would all learn a thing or two about one another.

Tone blak

April 21st, 2010
1:56 pm

I find it funny that black women claim that they are not getting married because black men are not doing good. But how can all these white women find good black men? maybe because they don’t like thugs and go for men that have something going on. It kills me that black women think they can date thugs while they are in high school& college and then when they want to get married they look for the same man that was to boring or not black enough. Like thse dudes don’t remaber that. And please stop with black women not wanting to date white men bs. I never met a black woman that would not date a white man if he asked her out. The thing is most white dudes don’t ask black women out. And if they did you would see less single black women.

RMJ

April 21st, 2010
1:58 pm

@Bob. To funny!!! That’s wise. I’m sure you are learning a lot….

mo

April 21st, 2010
2:00 pm

Some black women need to get off their high-horse about their relationship “preferences.” Too many of them want either thugs or players or a man with money…and when chasing that kind of man doesnt work out, they blame ALL black men. Dont lie, you see the warning signs and CHOSE to keep it going for whatever reason…..i have yet to hear a black woman say that they knew a man was bad for them but chose to pursue him anyways as the reason a relationship didnt work out. Its called personal responsibility!!!!!!!!!!!!! Own your choices, and youll choose better in the future.

LADY LUCK

April 21st, 2010
2:03 pm

I really do understand the problem SOME black women are having. Make sure that you are truly the right kind of woman that will attract, and be able to keep a good man.I held out for the right man. I did not have a certain income in mind, or job preferance. I just did not accept foolishness, inmaturity, or games. I kissed a lot of frogs, but one day my prince appeared out of no where. Funny thing is….he was looking for a quality relationship just as much as I was. He is tall, dark and handsome, mature, and honest. He is a professional making very good money, but I’d take him in a minute if he was driving a bus. If you are a good woman, a good man will realize your worth and never want to loose you. Men are not fools. We will be married in August.

Dadgumdumb/GA

April 21st, 2010
2:03 pm

I would get with Oppra or Sharry in a heartbeat and Im a white guy.

Get Real

April 21st, 2010
2:03 pm

There are plenty of black women who do find love…they stay the hell off of tv. LisaRaye, Chilli, Tiny and Toya, the (Un)Real Housewives of Atlanta, and Monica should be examples of black women who are from Atlanta looking for, and ending up with nurturing relationships.

Instead they all reinforce this mentality of women with money(who think they are attractive and have going on) should have their pick of the best-dressed, best-looking, most well-endowed, powerful, successful black men on earth, instead of picking a man who would love them despite his occupation, level of education or level of income.

Women without a man are without one for a reason. Some are truly unable to find a match…. Some are just stuck on themselves, their wealth and foolishness, and have a good job, but are plumb crazy as hell.

Get Real.

A WHITE CONSERVATIVE

April 21st, 2010
2:05 pm

DO SUCCESSFUL BLACK MEN WHO MAKE BIG $$ selling drugs -or act as PIMPs—count-or??? ……………How do they classify success-??–

Crop Circles On My Dome

April 21st, 2010
2:09 pm

A blacks only dating forum???………..Wouldn’t that be racist??? I love dating black women and I’m white. I feel excluded here……I’m gonna go cry a river.

A WHITE CONSERVATIVE

April 21st, 2010
2:09 pm

DO BELIEVE YOU CAN THANK THE DEMOCRATIC PARTY…..The Party scared the blackman away…..If THE MAN hung around…..the black family would lose the big gov’t check $$$$

Clevon Little

April 21st, 2010
2:13 pm

HEY! WHERE DA WHITE WIMMIN AT !?!

JW

April 21st, 2010
2:24 pm

Women seek qualities in a man that they themselves do not possess. Claim to be a Christian woman but legs are open more than a 7/11. Look in the mirror ladies.

EvanC

April 21st, 2010
2:32 pm

You hit the nail on the head JW.

Grazer

April 21st, 2010
2:47 pm

American women (of all skin colors) tend to view dating like shopping. Since it is men that they are shopping for, they look at the man soley as a list of attributes and how he makes them look in their social circles.

I think this princess/diva/whatever mentality is great for tv shows, an ego boost, or female solidarity but good men want an equal, not a woman-child looking for a replacement to daddy .

There’s plenty of successful, good-looking, and independent women out there. I’ve been involved with my share and can say that the inherent materialism of American women is not found in other nationalities.

Happy

April 21st, 2010
2:53 pm

This is sensless. It shouldn’t be about Steve Harvey, Sherri Shepard, Oprah, or whomever. It should be about the individual and what they want. The truth is that there are GOOD men and GOOD women in all races, just as there are BAD ones. Success is such a subjective word. It means something different to each of us. I happen to have a MBA and a great career. My man is a truck driver. Is he successful? I would say, yes. In my world, having a man that owns his home, is debt free, and is able to take care of his own business is successful to ME. I, on the other hand, have been divorced, have two kids, 30 pounds overweight and my debt is manageable. Most people would say I’m successful too b/c I’m educated and I can take care of me and mine without a man’s financial support. I must say that what my man does do for me is helpful and very much appreciated and reciporcated. We love, respect, and accept each other, faults and all. My point is that love, respect, and appreciation don’t come in a box that you just pick what you want off the shelf. We all have baggage. We all could use a little improvement in one area or another. This isn’t a black issue this is a people issue. People need to be more accepting and tolerant. If you don’t like someone or something, realize that, exit graciously and keep it moving. It realy isn’t as hard as we make it out to be. Know yourself and what you want. Stop playing games. Life is too short to waste time on nothing. Be willing to work on your relationship. There isn’t a secret formula or magic potion and it’s different for each of us. Hope you find what you’re looking for….I wasn’t looking when I got mine. I was enjoying my life and striving to make it the best I could every day.

Thunder

April 21st, 2010
3:16 pm

Some of you have made some really dumb comments. But for you who were serious, I am a black successful woman. I don’t turn my nose up at a black man or any other man who is earning a honest living and don’t come to me with a much of games. My thing is, if you want to play go to Toy-R-US and buy a tucka truck and play with it. As long as the man loves me and treat me with respect we are good to go. As for me a good black man has been hard to find. I don’t want a ganster or drug dealer. As far as the other races, white men dod not approach black women that much. I see more black men with white women.

Thunder

April 21st, 2010
3:20 pm

Crop Circles On My Dome, Don’t feel left out you’re in there.
A WHITE CONSERVATIVE, you need to shut the HELL UP!!!

@ Get Real

April 21st, 2010
3:24 pm

Thanks for your assessment of Steve Harvey. I too think that he has NERVE to write a book about relationships when he has no credentials to be giving anyone advice. He is a big HYPOCRITE! Stick to your stand up comedy and KUNTRY radio show.

Patty Cake

April 21st, 2010
4:09 pm

Maybe it’s because many of them are feminist, emasculating women who don’t wanna follow God’s establish order for the family in that the man is suppose to lead his home and not a woman. Now DON’T GET ME WRONG, lol, I am not saying that a woman should not have an education and career because those are things that I have. But I have found that many… See More “successful” black women end up becoming feminists and when the man don’t wanna deal with that, then they tend to find themselves alone.

Just my thoughts *now I’m ducking to get out of the way from all the rocks*

desmond06

April 21st, 2010
4:32 pm

All these relationship experts are comedians and Hollywood actors.. Amazing!!!

The Black Falcon

April 21st, 2010
4:41 pm

I am a single black male, 34, no kids. I am from a small town in southwest GA (pop. about 400). Yes, I am a country boy and make no qualms about it. I drive a 2000 Toyota Carolla with 250k miles. I shop primarily at Wal-Mart for most of my clothes. I have very few designer (anything). I am 6-03, 195lbs, in good shape, no criminal background. My chances of finding a “successful” Black woman in Atlanta is slim to none. I don’t fit the profile. I see them everyday in their BMW’s Hercedes Benz’s, etc. talking on their cell phones and drinking their water or ice coffee. Being a country boy, I speak to the “successful” Black woman. If I am lucky, she might throw up a hand as a gesture to acknowledge that they saw me, but I wasn’t worth the time for her to reciprocate with a verbal greeting.

The funny thing is I am just as “successful” as she. You see despite my rather plain appearance, I am living my dream. I am a psychiatrist in private practice. I have a six-figure income and own my own home sitting on 14 acres valued at over 500K. No mortgage payments, I own it. I have a Escalade and a Mercedes SL 550 (summer car) that I choose not to drive unless I am going out of town or impressing a new client.

Continue to turn-up your nose Ms. successful “Black” woman. Just be mindful that everything is not always as it seems.

The Black Falcon is out!