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Jerry Seinfeld’s ‘Marriage Ref’ Sunday features Gainesville couple’s rift over a stripper pole (poll added)

jerry-seinfeld-the-marriage-ref-nbcNBC is hoping it has struck gold with Jerry Seinfeld a second time. He is the executive producer and occasional guest judge on a new show called “The Marriage Ref.”

The simple set up: celebrities mull over specific married couple’s dilemmas and debate who is right. Comic Tom Papa makes the final “judgment.”  The disputes are mostly lighthearted, not marriage breakers. There may be some prizes related to the dilemma itself.

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NBC did not give us advance copies of episodes but gave us some arguments. For instance, one  involves a husband who wants to park his motorcycle in the living room. Another spouse wants a dead family dog stuffed.

Greg and Dianah Hunter of Gainesville, GA will appear this Sunday in the debut episode airing after the Winter Olympic closing ceremonies in Vancouver, scheduled to start at 10:30 p.m. Sunday. (The show will then air regularly at 10 p.m. Thursdays.)


The problem: Greg wants to get a stripper pole installed in their bedroom to spice up their love life. Dianah’s take? No way!

The pair have been married for 10 years and have four boys, ages 17, 13, 11 and six. (Obviously, they knew each other long before they were betrothed.)

“We’ve been discussing this for several years,” Greg said. “I go out with the guys. When some friends get married, we go to the entertainment clubs in Atlanta. I could envision my wife on a pole. It’s a compliment! It’s exciting. It’s something a lot of men would love to see their wife do. I see nothing wrong with it. It’s positive for relationships!”

I could practically feel Dianah rolling her eyes although I was talking to them by phone. “Well, once I play in the bedroom, I want to be done with it.” She said she doesn’t need a constant reminder a stripper pole would bring.

Greg’s argument? He could take it down and put it up at will. “I’ve’ done research,” he said. They cost $150 and up.

“That doesn’t include medical bills,” Dianah cracked.

She said friends and family who know them won’t be surprised by the argument. “He even tells my 72-year-old mother,” Dianah said. “He has no shame.”

Won’t the kids be infinitely embarrassed that this is being aired before millions of people on primetime TV? “The two youngest don’t care. The oldest two? Different story,” Dianah admitted.

“They’re neutral,” Greg argued. He said he will explain to the younger kids that it’s an “exercise pole” for mommy. (Dianah scoffed. She isn’t much into exercise, she said.)

Dianah has no real desire to even try out a stripper pole. “I can visualize you on one,” Greg said.

“I know you can!” she responded.

Dianah and Greg won’t say what Papa decided but Dianah said they did get some good insight.

Sadly, Greg added, “it’s still unresolved.”


“The Marriage Ref,” NBC, debuting Sunday at 10:30 p.m. Regular time slot: 10 p.m. Thursdays

We had to shut commenting down. Things got a wee bit ugly.

72 comments Add your comment


February 26th, 2010
8:29 am

Somtimes two people are better off together so they only mess up each other’s lives. They’ve been together this long, they gotta live it. Don’t break up and spread your crap on other unknowing singles.


February 26th, 2010
8:55 am

This will be a great lesson for the older boys huh?


February 26th, 2010
9:02 am

Why is it that men can express what they want from us sexually no one says a word but the minute a woman says what she wants out a man financially she is considered a golddigger. What does she gets for getting on a pole. If I got to climb a pole and almost break my neck and get all dizzy just so a man can get a 2 second orgasm he can leave.

Still Defiant

February 26th, 2010
9:16 am

@ hotlanta – Your comparison isn’t equal. It seems you’re saying sex = money. She should be able to express what she wants from her husband sexually since he is doing the same thing regarding the stripper pole in the bedroom. Saying she wants more money (which she never said) has nothing to do with expressing how her husband could better satisfy her sexually.


February 26th, 2010
9:31 am

are you kidding me? this show preys on the uneducated masses like these rednecks in gainesville. how embarrassing.


February 26th, 2010
9:38 am

Wow. We used to have to go to the circus to see this crap. Where’s the guy who swallows live mice? I love that guy.

Stinger’s right. Sort of. Even educated people have these disagreements. But they settle them discreetly or at least kept them politely bottled up for years. I think the wrong Jerry is producing this show. It was better when it was Springer, not Seinfield.


February 26th, 2010
10:11 am

@Stinger, first off, they are not uneducated rednecks. Greg owns not 1 but 2 very successful bbq restaurants in Suwannee and Buford GA and Dianah owns her own hair salon!! They’ve been doing very well for themselves for YEARS!! And both of them have college degrees!! Also, they are AFRICAN AMERICANS!! Don’t judge their light hearted comedy due to your lack of knowledge of this couple. It is great that a couple can have fun and speak what most men think. (MEN DON’T ACT LIKE YOU WOULDN’T LIKE A POLE IN THE ROOM!!) and let me say this also, my Uncle (he’s my Mother’s baby brother) and Auntie Dianah have been together for years and there is not one place that he goes that she can’t go!! They have family gatherings all the time at their home and do family vacations that extend to everyone. If you don’t know them, don’t judge, just sit back and get a laugh!! Their ability to not view the glass as half empty, but on the contrary-HALF FULL is the reason for their longevity and will continue to provide them with comic relief in life. Love you Auntie and Unc!!


February 26th, 2010
10:16 am

This show takes real issues that we as married couples go through in everyday life and give their input in a joking matter. If your issue is one that you yourself cant laugh at, than this show is not for you!. My husband and I are the couple from Gainesville and doing this show was funny and I wouldnt change a thing.At the end of the day its all about being able to laugh at each other Most of all its all about love. Watch the show sunday night at 10:30 and every will see that we are a Black couple from Gainesville, and we are not REDNECKS.


February 26th, 2010
10:25 am

Yet another thing thst reminds me to stay away from Gainesville.
And how grown up, when Greg goes out, you know, to batchelor parties, to, you know, the adult entertainment clubs in Atlanta.
Nothing like perpetuating the stereotype.
And you know which one I mean.


February 26th, 2010
10:27 am

Yeah Kacey,

We have eyes.

Exactly what country in Africa are they from?


February 26th, 2010
10:32 am

Boywonder, I don’t get on these sites to lash out at others so I will keep it nice and cordial. It is a pity in this day and age you would have to try and say something offensive about other races.It doesn’t offend me at all and I will pray for you because it is obvious there is something eating at you. :-/ Thank you for commenting, that shows you read this. Also everyone, please tune in for some NON RACIAL LIGHT HEARTED COMEDY ON SUNDAY!! thanks and have a great Friday everyone!!


February 26th, 2010
10:53 am

I don’t think Jerry Seinfeld should do this show – after all, he broke up his now-wife’s marriage when she was practically on her honeymoon with her first husband. Foul on Jerry!


February 26th, 2010
10:56 am

If this couple has been together that long, then they should be able to work out their problems without the help of an entertainment show. It’s insane, especially if they are smart enough to have degrees and own their own businesses, etc. They are only seeking their 15 minutes. Why else go on national TV instead of working problems out within the marriage? From what I’ve read in the post, the guy has no shame and no consideration for his wife if he’s talking to everyone about his problem. Loser!


February 26th, 2010
11:00 am

So if a black man exhibits behavior we would consider Redneck he isnt a redneck? Is Redneck a one-color only term? Really? What do you can anyone of color who acts like a Redneck?


February 26th, 2010
11:02 am

I used to have a high regard for Jerry Seinfeld, but after reading about this train wreck? Nope. Gone. This is just another show designed to make low class, attention seeking morons people we can laugh at (and not in the good way). And when there are kids involved? That’s just criminal. Those poor kids will be the butt of jokes in their schools for a long time thanks to their selfish parents. Shame on Jerry Seinfeld. He’s better than this.


February 26th, 2010
11:07 am

hotlanta. obviously a stupid black female.


February 26th, 2010
11:28 am

News flash… this show is not meant to be a marriage-counseling talk show, but rather a lighthearted look at funny situations going on in people’s lives. Stop trying to read too much into it and just enjoy seeing some great entertainers for who they are – great entertainers who have the ability to turn an awkward situation into a funny, laughable one. If you’ve paid attention to the commercials, the married couples are laughing too. It’s just for entertainment! Lighten up!


February 26th, 2010
11:41 am

@Kristina, Thanks! Finally someone has actually been paying attention to it, it’s just light hearted comedy!! GEESH!! :-)


February 26th, 2010
11:42 am

The little known secret is that Jerry Seinfeld was the prop.

It was really the mind of Larry David at work.

But..”Pardon the interruption”

As you can plainly tell, Jerry hasn’t realy had much success since the show ended.
He’s not really that funny without Larry’s hand up his back moving his mouth.
Fact, none of them really have had any significant commercial sucess.
I realize they were slightly typecast, but I think it’s pretty clear who the so called “genius” of that show was.

And Nene or Kacey or whoever…

The fact that there was once a time when propriety was valued in our society.
And we weren’t a purient society either. It was just considered good and decent behavior to not salivate over the idea of wanting your wife to behave like a stripper. And then to make matters worse, expose this lack of control to your children.
But hey, why should men behave like men. It’s not like their kids turn into thugs or ne’er do wells.
Most decent women would show himthe business end of their shoe if their so called husband wanted them to act like a stripper.
What’s next Greg? Dress her up like a porn star?
Grow up, pretend you walk upright and have become civilized, and keep your hedonsim to yourself. We’re not interested in what you wanna do with your junk.
You have plenty of proof of your sexual prowess.


February 26th, 2010
11:48 am

First, “Real Housewives of Atlanta”, now this.

No wonder the rest of the country thinks we’re backwards hicks!

We once filed a case in small claims court that was of a somewhat unusual nature (a car wash collapsed on our car.) I was shocked to get a phone call from one of those “Judge Judy” type shows inviting us to appear on the show to “make our case”. I refused adamantly. Euwww!


February 26th, 2010
11:52 am

Hey Kacey,

You are the one who felt it neccesary to capitalize the words – AFRICAN-AMERICAN.
As if you were screaming them at us and we couldn’t see.
You played the race card. I just saw you and raised you. Then you get all indignant.

All i assked is what African country they were from.

Because, I refer to myself and my family as AMERICANS.
And yeah, I was screaming that word at you. Maybe the point will sink in.


February 26th, 2010
12:00 pm

If Greg really feels like Dianah should have a stripper pole and use it, I think this is exactly what she should do … first, at one of those entertainment clubs Greg goes to all the time, perhaps, just to see how she (and Greg) likes it!

Inquiring Viewer

February 26th, 2010
12:01 pm

Do you think the Greg Hunter, a restaurant owner, tips his dancers at the clubs?

How do you think he feels about whether his servers get tipped at his restaurants?

Why does this couple feel the need to tell us all how “successful” and how… [ahem] “educated” they each are when NO ONE cares?

Do think the parking spaces at his restaurants can only be backed into (poorly) by a particular demographic?


February 26th, 2010
12:02 pm

Can you please tel lus where BBQ restaurants they are in Suwanee and Buford so I can avoid them?

Because, I don’t know where those hands have been. And I don’t even want to think about it.

Inquiring Viewer

February 26th, 2010
12:02 pm


Do YOU think the parking spaces…. ?


February 26th, 2010
12:10 pm

Thanks Boywonder and Inquiring Viewer, I am getting such a belly laugh over here!! hahahahaha!! I tell ya, thanks, I needed this laugh. :-)


February 26th, 2010
12:12 pm

No no Inquiring Viewer..

i’m sure they’re frequented by educated and successful people like the owners.

That also have not-so-secret perverse sexual desires, fetishes, as well as narcissitic loathing and objectifying of women

But hey, not like the kids haven’t received that message already from the community’s music and pop culture, so “it’s all good” I am sure.


February 26th, 2010
12:15 pm

You know, Boywonder, you really need to get a job, life, woman, man..whatever you prefer because you started all this mess with the folks online. In this day and age, you would think one would not throw the race card, but you did first, and then when Kacey came at you in an educated manner, you get all defensive and start to explain yourself. No need to explain yourself, you showed just what kind of racial creep you really are! GEt a life and get off of AJC at this time of day and work!! Stupid ignorant person! Boywonder? Boystupid more like it!


February 26th, 2010
12:19 pm

Hey Grownfolks (knee slapper)

The beauty about the blog is any fool or dog can scroll up and see who threw out AFRICAN-AMERICAN first.

Like BHO like to repeat, you’re entitled to your own opinion, just not entitled to your own facts.

Just because you wanna stick your fingers in your ears and scream you can’t hear doesn’t mean people aren’t talking.


February 26th, 2010
12:22 pm


And I dId not get defensive about anything. Nor attemot to explain myself.

Just pointing out the facts ma’am, just the facts.

You guys seem to be pre-occupied with the notion of being “educated”
What level of education might that be?

Inquiring Viewer

February 26th, 2010
12:24 pm

Instead of the dancing pole, do you think they could compromise and get a nice tire swing, a Tiger Woods-endorsed “putting green” or basketball goal instead?

Maybe they could take up ice dancing together?

Isn’t marriage is too sacred to be ruined by something so trivial?

Do you think Jerry Seinfeld will try to steal Greg Hunter’s dance-worthy wife away, too?


February 26th, 2010
12:28 pm

Leave Tiger out of this.
He has a sickness, don’t you realize?
He’s even getting treatment (as I reach for the yak bucket)

And those girls of Tiger’s gave him the best yeast of their lives so show some compassion.


February 26th, 2010
12:28 pm

you’re right BOYSTUPID, she did throw out African American after Stinger mentioned redneck.Let’s not play as stupid as your thought out nonsense know what stinger meant with his comment and you came right back with the question on what country in africa they were from. Don’t play games.And so what, they are African Americans and you show you have a problem with them. Would it have been better if she had said they were “black”? No, i think it was better that she did say african american. I prefer someone call me caucasian rather than white, oh yeah, I am caucasian and think you are wrong for rubbing in racial mess, it’s really not that serious, it’s a new day and age boystupid, get with the times. :-(


February 26th, 2010
12:31 pm

Dillard’s BBQ & Biscuits
2 Highway 23
Suwanee, Georgia 30024

don’t visit the new buford location
I usually get good service and food at the Suwanee location, but today I visited the new Buford store. I ordered the “special” (fish sandwich, fries and drink for $8) to go. 20 minutes later I left with a mediocre sandwich, greasy fries and a tiny drink.

Not a good impression at all!

-prices are great $5 to $10 per person
-may be great for breakfast?-not dinner
-BBQ had mystery meat That gagged me!
-meat taste like canned or boiled
-cleanliness is average
-staff was super friendly!
-if I go there the only thing I would get would be the ribs


February 26th, 2010
12:38 pm


No need to get defensive and try to explain yourself.

All we educated people already knew you were wrong.

But nice try by attempting to draw your own inferences, connecting tangential dots, and mind reading.
Somehow I knew intuitively what Stinger meant.
Umm, ok.
Yeah, it’s some sort of wierd KKK telepathic communication at work.
Or there are secret code words written in his blog which are only recognizable by white racists.
In the paragraph I hardly noticed.
And I found the magic decoder ring in this box of Lucky Charms.

I only let the census people cal me Caucasian.
Since, technically, my ancestors were not from Caucasius.
But from the British Isles.
I prefer to be called “pasty-white”.

Just keep blathering until somehow it makes you look righter or thupider.


February 26th, 2010
12:41 pm

Maybe the mystery meat had some of Greg Hunter’s “special sauce” on it?


February 26th, 2010
12:43 pm

Maybe it took 20 minutes to make a fish sandwich and a bag of fries since they were out back trying to figure out how to mount a pole to a mattress?


February 26th, 2010
12:50 pm

You know what the scary thing about this article is?

the fact that greg “has done research on this”

since he is “educated”, does he mean during his PhD program, his thesis was on mice and stripper poles.
Or in between searching for the cure for cancer, he “stumbled upon some websites” (ahem) that advertised for these devices.

Greg, while i was researching some human anatomy sites on the web, I came across this fantastic looking hanging basket. Perfect for plants or people. Call me for details buddy!


February 26th, 2010
12:54 pm

Here’s the scenario:

Order “to-go” one fish sandwich, bag of fries, and a drink.

20 minutes pass because the boss is behind his locked office door “researching” stripper poles.

Thanks, but I don’t think I’ll be shaking hands with the proprietor of this establishment.


February 26th, 2010
1:03 pm

If you go to Dillards BBQ, don’t order the “hand pulled pork”.

Rumor has it that the owners don’t really pull their own pork.

They go to “Atlanta adult entertainment venues” for that.

Miss Murphy (KACEY'S SISTER & niece of Greg & Dianah)

February 26th, 2010
1:18 pm


February 26th, 2010
1:20 pm

Everyone relax,

The world according to Kacey says “It is great that a couple can have fun and speak what most men think. (MEN DON’T ACT LIKE YOU WOULDN’T LIKE A POLE IN THE ROOM!!)”

Damn, i jsut realized instead of that 50″ LCD screen or new armoire in the bedroom, what really wanted was a POLE in my bedroom.
Yup, you read that right.
According to Kacey, most men want a pole in the bedroom.

I think she must spend too much time watching Tool Academy.
Her verson or definition of “men’ is slightly skewed.
But I’m shocked considering the fabulous male role models she has.

But I’m sure that must be how you think when you’re 17.


February 26th, 2010
1:26 pm

Wow, there are some ignorant ppl on here. I mean have you not seen the commercials?..obviously not.
Well Dillards BBQ is a great restaurant. Greg & Dianah are a beautiful couple, with a beautiful family. Seems like a few ppl are envious on here, b/c they prejudge everyone on the show before viewing it. This show really is just about the things married ppl talk about. It’s not serious like Dr. Phil. Gosh…does it take for couples to have marital issues in order for ppl to like it? I think it’s great that someone came up with a show like this. Let’s have comedy in our lives & stop enjoying seeing issues between families. But hey what can you expect?…ppl are still ignorant these days.

* on a side note…if someone gets offended by this message, then you proved my point & you know your in the wrong for being cruel to such a beautiful family, and the show. If you don’t want to watch it, then DON’T! Not stopping the shows from airing.


February 26th, 2010
1:29 pm

And Kacey is not 17, she’s a grown and sophisticated woman.
***It’s what you prefer…most men would love a stripper pole in their room. Why do you think most couples have marital affairs? The romance is gone, so they go find it elsewhere.
But then again like I said, it’s what floats your boat. What you want.

Miss Murphy (KACEY'S SISTER & niece of Greg & Dianah)

February 26th, 2010
1:32 pm

I am trying to be as calm as humanly possible, first and foremost, whomever the ILLITERATE (you clearly aren’t to skilled in grammar and spelling.. and YES, I am yelling) individual that is referring to my sister as “NeNe” and has made reference to the men who she has in her life needs to quit. Let’s be adult and at least WATCH the show before passing judgement on it! Furthermore, as HOMO SAPIENS we should realize that in American, “freedom of speech” is not always free, death could come of any “freedoms spoken” if inadvertedly projected to the wrong individual.

Miss Murphy (KACEY'S SISTER & niece of Greg & Dianah)

February 26th, 2010
1:38 pm

I refuse to even address the racial comments that are being thrown out on here because I am woman enough to hold my own in tangible conversation. Anyone can say what they’d like on the worldwide web, but I assure you, that during public conversation, none of this would be said. Lastly, I adore my Uncle Greg and Aunt Di because they have always been and always will be true to themselves, our family, and their love. Regardless of whether or not you agree with the show, the happiness in their lives is not contingent upon your approval, hence, no one gives a damn. Boywonder, may your life prosper with all of the blessings that I can pray upon life because you DON’T want to see me and discuss your view on our family ;)


February 26th, 2010
1:46 pm


Whatchya got in mind? Greesing youself up in crisco and trying to slide through the internet cable to engage in a intellectual sparring match with me?

I’m the last house on the left, after you pass the dump.

Hey, on a side note? Is Miss Murphy your stage name?
I think I have perhaps seen a Miss Murphy at some of the adut entertainment venues in the ATL.

And what’s with all that nebulous code speak about “freedom of speech” is not always free, death could come of any “freedoms spoken” if inadvertedly projected to the wrong individual.
Cmon, is that a discrete way of saying you will hurt someone if they don’t agree with your convoluted view of things? That’s not very Godly or even nice.

The Truth

February 26th, 2010
1:49 pm

It’s 2010. Time for black people to get over themselves.

The Truth

February 26th, 2010
1:49 pm

And get jobs!


February 26th, 2010
1:55 pm


You think that is why most “couples” have affairs?


Most “couples” have affairs because one of the people in them have no discipline. A severe lacking in self worth. A narccisistic behavioral disorder. Weren’t hugged by mommy or dadddy enough as a child. The lsit goes on, but strangely, it is not inherently because the romance has gone.

You know, for narcisist – see dictionary. or Greg Hunter for reference material.