‘Housewives’ Kandi Burruss posts blog about A.J.
In an exclusive blog posted at Hellobeautiful.com, “Real Housewives of Atlanta” cast member Kandi Burruss is sharing her feelings about the sudden death over the weekend of former fiance A.J. Jewell.
Shares the singer: “When you lose someone unexpectedly & sudden like we lost A.J there are all these unanswered questions. We didn’t get a chance to spend a little more TIME & make amends. Some of us didn’t get to say or just didn’t say “I love you”. I know I’m sitting here thinking about things I wish I would’ve done differently or things I wish I would’ve said that I’ll never get to do now. When you’re young you automatically assume that you got all the TIME in the world but then something like this happens and you realize that you’re not guaranteed TIME. It brings to life so many sayings that people say like, “Tell them that you love them everyday cuz you may never get to say it again” or “Don’t go to bed mad cuz they may not be here tomorrow”. A lot of young people don’t think about life insurance policies or wills because we think we have so much TIME.”
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Shaquita
October 5th, 2009
12:05 pm
Kandi I am so sorry about your lost. You and the family are in my prayers. As I was reading the blog that you wrote it is so true that we do not think that something can happen to us and never think that this day can be are last time. I just will like to say stay strong and know that God is always there to comfort us in are time of need. In his word He says to Trust in Him at all times so we have to trust God in the good and the bad times that comes are way.
Shaquita
Indiana
Helena Heard
October 5th, 2009
12:21 pm
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Kandi my heart goes out to you and your family in a time of need.I will keep ur family in my prayers. I to have lost live ones from these street violence and enough is enough. I can’t imagine what you are experincing. Keep your head up stay strong and God will guide you though.
SOPHIA
October 5th, 2009
12:26 pm
KANDI I AM SO SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT YOUR SUDDEN LOST IT’S NEVER GOOD TO HEAR ABOUT SOMEONE DYING BUT WE ALL KNOW THAT GOD KNOWS BEST. I JUST WANT TO SAY KEEP YOUR HEAD UP AND TRY TO BE STRONG THROUGH THIS HARD TIME AND MY PRAYERS GO OUT TO YOU AND YOUR FAMILY.
leshawn
October 5th, 2009
12:39 pm
MS.KANDI I AM SO SORRI ABOUT YOUR LOST. I KNOW HOW IT FEELS TO LOSE SOME ONE AND NOT GET TO SAY WHAT YOU FEEL TO THAT PERSON. TIME IS GETING SHORT OUT HERE… I WILL KEEP YOU AND HIS FAMILY IN MY PRAYERS I AM SO SORRI
Kelly
October 5th, 2009
12:44 pm
Enter your comments here I am so sorry for your loss. I myself have lost my husband and the pain never goes away but you are a strong woman and will land on your feet. My prayers are with you and your family.
Ms. Authentic
October 5th, 2009
1:03 pm
Kandi Iam so sorry to hear about your loss. I know right now you need STRENGTH, HEALING, and PEACE. I pray that the Lord supplies ALL YOUR NEEDS. I don’t know you personally but I have experienced your pain and the only thing that got me through is GOD…Looking at you on television and viewing how your personality shows I SEE A BEAUTIFUL BLACK STRONG WOMAN. You can do ALL THINGS THROUGH CHRIST THAT STRENGTHENS YOU..Uplifting you and family in my prayers..Much Love
Nyasha
October 5th, 2009
1:20 pm
Kandi
SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS. YOU SEEM LIKE SUCH A GOOD PERSON AND I WILL SAY A SPECIAL PRAYER FOR YOU.
Nicole
October 5th, 2009
1:20 pm
Kandi,
I feel like we are family. I have been following you since the Xscape days. When I heard you were going to be on Real Housewives, that was the defining moment for me to watch it. I felt A.J. was a nice respectful young man and I was distraught to hear what happened to him. My entire family sympathy is with you and the family (especially his kids and parents0.
Jose
October 5th, 2009
1:29 pm
Why is “TIME” capitalized? I smell a new single with that title…
I do feel sorry for her though.
Edith Burns-Bayliss
October 5th, 2009
1:45 pm
Kandi,
You’re in my Daily prayers,
SPIRITAUL JOURNALING WILL HELP YOU THROUGH.
Michelle Branch
October 5th, 2009
1:52 pm
Kandi I am so sorry for what you are going through. I can’t begin to imagine the pain of this kind of loss to your family. I am a Christian and I can say that my faith in God has gotten me through some pretty ugly times. In Matthew 11:28 Jesus said come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. When the nights get long and the days get rough I pray that you will take Jesus up on his offer. Once again my prayers are deeply with you.
pheodosia
October 5th, 2009
1:54 pm
Enter your comments here kandi sorry for your loss.blessed be the god and father of our lord jesus christ, who according to his abundant mercy has begotten us again to a living hope through the resurrection of jesus christ from the dead to an inheritance incorruptible and undefiled and thst does not fade away, reserved in heavn for you.
Shananeeeee Fananeeeeeeee
October 5th, 2009
1:57 pm
That sucks, but people need to realize that violence is not the answer. You get into an argument with somebody, just walk away. Be the bigger man. If you are angry, count to 10 or 100. Going out to the parking lot for a fight is never going to solve anything, it is just bad news. Suppose you beat the guy up, maybe he leaves and comes back with a gun or a baseball bat. Especially when you become a parent it is not all about you anymore, you have to always think about your actions and the kids you have brought into the world. The best thing to do is walk away, they might say you are scared or weak but in reality the bigger man does not fight.
Sebrena
October 5th, 2009
2:20 pm
I’m soooo sorry Kandi, but you know you are strong and that prayer has power to do all things. I will continue to keep you and your family as well as his in my prayers(espacially his kids. Take care and god bless, Sebrena
jennie
October 5th, 2009
2:38 pm
Kandi, I’ve gone through what you are going through and my prayers are with you. I missed out on alot of things I wanted to say and do, too. But, with time and God’s mercy you survive it all. My family and I will be praying you and your family, AJ family, also.
FETEAMA WOODS
October 5th, 2009
2:43 pm
Enter your comments here IM VERY SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS I WILL KEEP YOU AND YOUR FAMILY IN MY PRAYER
Ashley
October 5th, 2009
2:45 pm
Im very sorry about your lost…I understand how u are feeling I lost 2 people that were very important to me and my family its very very hard at the beginning but you just have to pray and think about the good time you all had its goning to get better im not say it will tommorow or the day after that but its gonna get better….I will pray 4 u and your child and all of A.J’s children…..R.I.P A.J
mrs m
October 5th, 2009
2:55 pm
Enter your comments herehey kandi man you a real woman i’m so sorry for what u going through keep god first you will make it through him
patsysiso
October 5th, 2009
2:57 pm
Kandi,
Words can’t express what you might feel right now. I only got to see you through television and your music, but your spirit is inviting, and kind, even through a lens. I pray that the Holy Spirit comfort you and your family. I pray God wrap his arms around you, and secure your emotions, and your mental being. Know that it’s OK to scream, cry, be messy, silent, not be nice, not smile, not entertain folks who want to check on you. You might hear “thank God you didn’t marry him”, ignore this stupid comment. Your love for AJ isn’t weaken because you was his finance’,not his wife, or not together at the time. Just know it’s OK to give yourself time to heal. You will know when your season of moaning is over, and no one can tell you it’s time to get over it. I will continue to pray for you, and your family, along with the children that lost their father, and mother and father who lost their son. I love ya Sista, and I know God love you MORE!
Your Sista in Cali,
Patsy
Jackie
October 5th, 2009
3:06 pm
I do apologize for your loss. Its true, when you are young and happy and free you forget to secure your childrens future. But what I want to tell you is that you have to be strong. The children are the future, and the legacy for AJ and be strong for them. God only gives yousoo much you can bear, and just when you think you are at the breaking point, He reveals is purpose. This is your breaking point darling, and let the brightness of the sunshine in.
Jackie
October 5th, 2009
3:07 pm
I do apologize for your loss. Its true, when you are young and happy and free you forget to secure your childrens future. But what I want to tell you is that you have to be strong. The children are the future, and the legacy for AJ; be strong for them. God only gives you soo much you can bear, and just when you think you are at the breaking point, He reveals is purpose. This is your breaking point darling, and let the brightness of the sunshine in.
Moneque
October 5th, 2009
3:29 pm
Kandi,
I am sorry to hear of the sudden passing of your fiance Ashley “AJ” Jewell. Both your families will be in my prayers. I am especially saying a prayer for you that God will give you the strength to raise not only your daughter but AJ’s twin girls as well. You are a strong individual and I admire your drive and perserverance. Allow God to comfort and heal during your time of bereavement.
RENAY ALLEN
October 5th, 2009
3:43 pm
Kandi I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I know right now you need STRENGTH, HEALING, and PEACE. I pray that the Lord supplies ALL YOUR NEEDS.
Brandy
October 5th, 2009
3:45 pm
Death is a very hard thing to deal with, but death is a part of life. We all have a date of birht and we all have a death date. Wjhenever God calls us home, it is our time. It may come when we least expectit, but remember he is an on time God. He does everything for a reason. It may hurt and we may cry, but remember that God makes no mistakes. Keep praying and believing. Trust in the Lord with all thine heart….
Brandy
honeydew19
October 5th, 2009
3:53 pm
my prayers go out to u and the family. We may never understand the why’s or what for’s but trust me GOD feels ur pains and he is there for u. JUST TRUST HIM AND BELIEVE.
Trivia
October 5th, 2009
4:27 pm
I am so sorry kandi you r n my prayers. i no how much riley loved aj and how much he loved her. i no that you are a strong black woman, just keep his fam in your prayers.its just soooooooooo sad that it had to happen, God bless you Kandi, Riley and Ajs family
kaylah
October 5th, 2009
4:34 pm
Kandi let me say first that you and your family and AJ’s family will forever be in my thoughts and prayers…..i know your heart must feel heavey but please remember to pray to god and he will lift that weight off your heart….keep your faith in god and he will get you through this please believe i have shed tears for you and your family this was a great lose….god bless
Laure
October 5th, 2009
4:37 pm
Kandi, I am sooo, sorry for your loss. Any time that I see black love, I celebrate in my own heart. The love you shared is forever, and will never die. So, I am praying for you and AJ’s entire family to have God’s grace and peace through this difficult time.
Shamyka
October 5th, 2009
4:42 pm
U will always be in my prayers and u gonna have to take it oneday at a time no matter what noone says grieve as long as u need 2 in your own way!!! Love Always shamyka
thawanna
October 5th, 2009
4:56 pm
I am sorry to here about your lost I no what you are going throw I lost someone very close to me just stay strong and no god is looking over you.
gloria
October 5th, 2009
5:07 pm
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you have my sympathy i lost my daughter she was 19 yrs. old last year i cry i talk to my heavenly Father and ask him for guideness because i don’t have any understanding and you mean to tell me know body knows nothing about my baby ,so i know what you going through so i pray for you for peace happiness and love and contiune to stay in his kids life because i know he would want that . you just can’t go to different places like that anymore GOD BLESS you and riley.
Mary Ann
October 5th, 2009
5:17 pm
PLEASE ACCEPT MY CONDOLENCES. LIKE OTHERS, WHEN I READ THE TRAGIC NEWS I INCLUDED A PRAYER FOR HIS SOUL IN MY PRAYERS. I ADMIRE YOUR STRENGTH, COURAGE AND KINDNESS. YOU ARE A WONDERFUL WOMAN AND A FINE EXAMPLE TO ALL. GOD BLESS YOU AND ALL OF HIS LOVED ONES.
nadia mitchell
October 5th, 2009
5:47 pm
Enter your comments here hey kandi I’m so sorry for your 2 lost it must be hard. But remember God makes no mistakes and as long as you keep him first and lean on him you will get through this. Also just for the record you’re my fav on the show. I think you are the definition of a real superwoman keep your head up! You are going to be just fine.
Sandee
October 5th, 2009
5:54 pm
KANDI, I AM SO VERY SORRY FOR THE LOSS OF A.J. AND YOUR UNCLE. I HOPE YOU CAN CHANNEL THESE HORRIBLE FEELINGS INTO SOMETHING POSITIVE AND GOOD AS YOU KNOW YOU CAN DO. YOU AND YOUR FAMILIES AND CHILDREN ARE IN MY THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS. STAY STRONG FOR THE YOUNG ONES!
Denise & Thomas
October 5th, 2009
6:56 pm
Enter your comments here We are so saddin about your lost kandi, I can really say and understand how you feeling right now. No we don’t think that saying i love you may be the last time, you would say i love you. I lost both of my parents four years a part from each other and i didn’t get the chance to tell them what they mean to me and now my world seems incomplete without them. keep your head up caues there will be better days, you are in ours prayers. love Denise & Thomas
vivian
October 5th, 2009
7:24 pm
God will see you through and remember this to shall pass
tinishia
October 5th, 2009
7:25 pm
kandi im so sorry to hear about your lost of and unlce as well of a.j yes he was taking from us so soon I wish you the best you and the family as well as a.j family as his children stay stronge kandi I will keep you in my prayer everyday good luck with everything else stay up love you…
Sherika
October 5th, 2009
7:34 pm
KANDI,IM SORRY FOR YOUR LOST,KEEP GOD FIRST AND HE WILL GET YOU THROUGH THESE TOUGH TIMES,YOU ARE A STRONG PERSON AND YOUR FANS LOVE YOU.
LaTonaya
October 5th, 2009
7:36 pm
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Ms.Kandi….My prayers and blessings go out to you and your family. I am so sorry for your loss. I will miss AJ on Thursdays on the Real Housewives of ATL.I enjoyed watching you multi task your career, family,relationship and your wedding plans. I also noticed AJ and your mom had started to begin to communicate and work on their issues. His presence will be missed and I know GOD and your family will see you through this. Love & Sympathy….LaTonaya
BRIT381 O.C.C NY
October 5th, 2009
7:44 pm
KANDI YOUR STRONG AND FROM WATCHING THE SHOW I CAN TELL YOU’VE BEEN THROUGH SUM TOUGH TIME’S..BUT I THINK YOU KNOW THAT GOD ONLY GIVES YOU WHAT YOU CAN HANDLE….AND YOUR ARE STRONG!!!!!!! I LOOK UP TO YOU……SO GOD BLESS AJ AND YOU & YOUR FAMILY WILL ALWAYS BE IN MY PRAYERS <3
Keyonna
October 5th, 2009
7:46 pm
I am so sorry for your lost….I know it is very difficult to be going through this time. I will keep you in my prayers always.
Keyonna
Ohio
LaTonya Jackson
October 5th, 2009
8:20 pm
God is still with you, all we have is prayer, and i pray for you your daughter and aj’s kid’s, and the rest of his family
Felicia
October 5th, 2009
8:23 pm
Enter your comments here Kandi you’re a sweetheart. My condolences goes out to you and your family. You’ve inspired me on the show because you were a positive role model displaying class and intelligence. I say to you in this time of bereavement that you cry, let i out. My sister passed away a year ago and I wish I could bring her back because when I had the chance to tell her I Love You I didn’t. There will be good/bad days. “God’s grace is sufficient and His strength is made perfect in weakness”2 Corinthians 12:9. His grace is sufficient to carry you through whatever you’re going through. Read it when you are feeling weak
Alice
October 5th, 2009
8:26 pm
Hey Kandi, Iv been thinking about you since I learned the bad news. I will keep you, your family, and A.J’s family in my prayers. This type of tragedy proves that life is to short, and that you need to value every moment you have with your loved ones. I know you are a strong woman and have the strength to get through this. This is the time to use your god given talent of creating music to express every emotion you are feeling right now. Who cares what the public said about him, you loved him because of who he was, and what he meant to you. Stay strong and remember your in our prayers.
Adrea Brown
October 5th, 2009
9:25 pm
I witness the murder of my mother when I was 14- years- old and the pain is still here. I can never say to you that it will all be okay because it won’t, but I can say to you that prayer is what help me through many nights. I know that if God can hear me out in the mist of my strom then I know that he will hear you also. Just remember to acknowledge God, and I promiss that he will see you through. “Call upon my name in the days of trouble and I will deliver thee and thee shall glorify my name.”
DeArdrick Perkins
October 5th, 2009
10:31 pm
I am so sorry for your loss of A.J. May God comfort you, your family and his family during this difficult time.
May God Bless
Timiko
October 5th, 2009
10:39 pm
Kandi, you and AJ made a lovely couple. You looked truly happy! Thank God for sending you a man who loved and cared for you. You were blessed to have such a supportive, family man in your life. I would give anything to see my mother again. I just say Thank you God, for giving me the best mother in the world and I wouldn’t want her to come back here to this Hell were living in on earth. I know it’s hard for you right now, because not only did I lose my mother five years ago. I lost fifteen family members within six years and one was my son’s brother at 12 year old. When you love the lord, you don’t question him, you just thank him for the years and love you shared. Not everybody gets a chance at true love!
My prayer’s are with you and the family,
Timiko
Audrey
October 5th, 2009
11:32 pm
Kandi, I just wanted to say how sorry I am for this tragic loss of yours. You are such a delight and the only woman on the RHOA that I have any respect for. You are the one woman who actually stands up for herself, her friends and tries to do the right thing. You are so talented and cute. To have this happen is almost unbelievable. But honestly, the things that hurt the worst, that shake your world and your belief systems are things that make you stronger. Sometimies life doesn’t make sence, but you are still here and your little girl still has her mom. Cherish her and keep being the wonderful person you are and good things will come your way again. Stay strong, many people out here admire you and know what inner strength you have demonstrated already in your life. Be brave, girl. We love you.
Miss V
October 6th, 2009
12:02 am
Kandi, we pray for your Family and Aj’s family in your tragic lost. I know the days may seem longer, but your heart will mend with time. Cry a little and laugh a little. Remmembering the Good and the BAd. That’s what makes you strong. Peace be with you.
blkmadonna
October 6th, 2009
1:16 am
Giving all glory to God..
I ask u Lord to watch over AJ’s soul welcoming him into ur kingdom w open arms. Have mercy on his soul Lord..I ask Lord tht u watch over all those who are mourning AJ.. comfort thm..w memories of good times..keep AJ ALIVE in thm.. I’d like to thank you Lord for another blessed day. In Jesus name I pray. AMEN.
I am truely sorry for your loss…ur in my prayers.