Comments on: Oprah dishes to Monica about Stedman

By: Flywithoutwings

Flywithoutwings — Wed, 01 Sep 2010 02:41:48 +0000

To Umoja….I too love to blog, to witness the many different opinions, some pro, some con. Every now and then I will run across someone who is very intelligent such as yourself. I agree 100% with your full statement, blunt and to the point. Your “feelings” may not agree with everyone else’s, but that’s okay because they are “your feelings.” I liked how you spoke of your own beliefs and gave reasons as to why, you came to that conclusion. You gave me for one, many things to absorb and think about. For a brief minute you made blogging seem like fun again. It is great to have different
opinions and share and exchange ideas, It seems to me though, that most blogging sites have become almost vicious, all the mean, vile and racial comments have almost taken control of conversations. We now have people attacking one another and moving completely away from the issue being discussed. I thank you for presenting your opinion in a reasonable fashion and showing what “blogging” is really about.

By: Opinions are like - - - holes... EVERY body has got one!!!

Opinions are like - - - holes... EVERY body has got one!!! — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 15:36:05 +0000

Mine is. . . All I can say is funny!!!

By: Recap

Recap — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 19:42:45 +0000

To Umoja,

I just wanted to comment on some of your statments. You wrote…

“If sin had not entered the earth, then perhaps the vow and committment of marriage would be possible(until death do we part).”

The committment of marriage is still possible; with God ALL things are possible. Jesus said he’d overcome the world and we too are able to overcome. In fact, we are more than conquerors!

You wrote…

“As have been said before, people can choose to live as they please
( and it is no body’s business). No one hold heaven or hell for no one. It is ultimately decided by Our Creator. No one is equpped enough(even the best christian) to judge a person’s life.”

Not necessarily so! Our [body of Christ] mission is to seek and save the lost. So it is very much our business what people do. However, it is not ours to FORCE salvation upon anyone. We personally have no heaven in which to place people. But we certainly have the commission of pointing them in the right direction!

By: Umoja Vaughn

Umoja Vaughn — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 05:08:58 +0000

I think blogging is soooo entertaining. What a great way to get a sampling of just how so many different type of people think.I have laughed, sighed, shook my head, and read such ignorance. Opinions are so varied. I don’t take any to heart- it’s just another point of view. And is based on the amount of knowledge, wisdom, exposure and life experience one brings to the table.What it does for me is to remind me that my perspective on things is based on the gifts, and blessings that I have been afforded in this life. I do believe that the Bible is based on God-inspired information and guidance. It is my reference to believing in God and Jesus the Christ. I do believe that there is a reason that marriage was instituted by God. A man and woman should come together as one and to multiply (populate the earth). If sin had not entered the earth, then perhaps the vow and committment of marriage would be possible(until death do we part). Sin has corrupted not only the people of the earth, but earth too has become contaminated. All of what should be under the righteouness of God –is not. As have been said before, people can choose to live as they please
( and it is no body’s business). No one hold heaven or hell for no one. It is ultimately decided by Our Creator. No one is equpped enough(even the best christian) to judge a person’s life. Only God knows all of the nuiances that one experiences, only God knows our hearts, and only God can determine our true intentions. So when I call myself looking at another’s life choices, I know that I’m only projecting my own sense of self into something that I have no privvy to.Things are never what they appear to be and if they are, I know that I have not the slightest clue as to why “it is what it is”. All I know is that I sure don’t want to be left behind when Jesus returns. I pray that that God knows my heart and continue to order my steps. I fear the Lord. I fear living a life without Him on my side. And I hope for our sake, we finally come to a time in our lives that we realize what the most important relationship is. If we Love God first and more than anyone else, we will get everything else specifically designed just for us. Think about it, God is the source for all things including the right mate. That’s what I believe. Just another point of view.

By: Roner

Roner — Mon, 25 Jan 2010 16:29:17 +0000

For goodness sakes – who cares what any of you think – each to their own!! Narrow Minded fools some of you.

By: Angel

Angel — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 16:10:18 +0000

I just had a similar conversation with friends. Marriage is a tough subject and I honestly have nothing against marriage but it is not for everyone and it should not define us so. much. I hear so many people who’ve gotten married thinking it will change their husband or wife into the person they want them to be and they end up miserable. I hear of people who only really get married because they’re pregnant or they’ve gotten someone pregnant or even because this is as good as it’s going to get. I’ve actually heard more people say that then you would think. Marriage shouldn’t be a way to get your man to stop cheating on you or your girl to stop going out and partying all night or about settling. Marriage should not be a way to prove to other people in this nation that your relationship is better or more important than those who are not married. Both non religious and religious people seem to think that marriage is the end all be all, the only way to prove to God that you’re a good couple or the only way to prove to our nation that your relationship is real.
People do change but rarely does it have anything to do with a ring being put on your finger, vows that you say, or the marriage license that you sign. People simply change in their on time and not always in ways that your significant other will like. I may be a romantic but marriage shouldn’t be about changing people or proving to God and state that your relationship is legit, or about the legal perks of being married but that seems to be why the majority of people get married these days and perhaps it’s why so many get divorced. Now there are those who have married because of the love they have for the other person just as they are and come whatever changes may occur. That’s called unconditional love and unfortunately not many of the couples I’ve interviewed have fallen into that category. Not many of us are capable of that despite what we tell ourselves. There’s nothing wrong with that, it’s just the human condition. I personally don’t know if I could get married. I’m a very independent person and need a lot of space and time to myself and I’m not willing to give that up for a legal document that says my relationship has meaning . Nor do I believe god will look down his nose on my relationship as sinful because I didn’t get married. By the way all you religious people, I do believe in God but the Bible was written by man not God or Jesus. Maybe you should read it again and you might realize those are mans decrees not Gods. We have no way of really knowing what God wants from us until death. The only thing we can do is live our lives in the best way we know how. Marry or don’t marry it is not the end of the world. As for Oprah, not being a traditional wife has nothing to do with marrying someone but I don’t knock her for choosing not to. By the way I’m a female and I’m not settling for a mans BS. I simply don’t know if marriage is right for everyone but that doesn’t mean I have to be alone because I don’t marry. You just can’t win in this world.

By: Misty

Misty — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 16:29:36 +0000

I think that people need to lighten up on O! Come on…. You all have to much time on your hands. She has done alot of wonderful things for alot of people. She may not be the Picture of Mortality but last I checked that was Jesus’s job. Her sins are hers. Why dont U spend your time repenting for your own.

By: John Garner

John Garner — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 22:13:51 +0000

We are in serious danger when everyone does what is right in his/her own eyes. When it comes to morality, opinions and views are as diverse and numerous as the sands of the sea. But think for a moment, when you know the posted speed limit, violate it and get apprehended by the authorities what do you say then? Whatever faith we profess, we must be true to that faith, not the other way around — we can live how we wish but we can’t use religion or morality to justify our way of life. We are justified by a faith if we hold true to all of its principles and not the ones that suit our manner of thinking or life style — 99.5% will not do — hopefully we all will be honest with ourselves and each other as we live our lives, there in we will find the truth. Let us live and not judge one another, be who you are, live how you wish, and let us not be decieved by our own preferences.

I have my own beliefes — Jesus Christ, the one who was, is, and is to come. The IS aspect of him is what I am focused on, he said he will lead and guide people into all truth — but we must chose to listen to him. People (in any profession, including the religious) will mislead us, but the Spirit of Christ will teach us all things, because he is truth, the norm, the light of the world.

But life how you wish and be true to yourself. Be honest enought to say to yourself, I am living this way because I chose to and have no need to explain myself to human being.

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By: lovelyliz

lovelyliz — Thu, 17 Sep 2009 16:12:21 +0000

Thanks MsLady. Another one of those amusing, but unfortunatly true, stories.