Study: Husbands need to be right to be happy

This is what happens to agreeable husbands. (Image from British Medical Journal)

This is what happens to agreeable husbands. (Image from British Medical Journal)

Science has had a good year.

It is possible to make petroleum products out of algae, there’s 100 billion planets in our tiny corner of the universe and researchers can control other human’s brains via the Internet.

That all sounds important, but will those developments improve your life in 2014?

Probably not, though I am going to set my aquarium back up and hope that algae to gasoline thing is true.

Fortunately, researchers in England are working on maximizing human happiness.

A whimsical Christmas study in the British Medical Journal concludes husbands need to be right to be happy.

Researchers conducted the study on just one couple, a woman who “would rather be right” and a “passive” husband.

Unbeknownst to his wife, the husband was instructed by researchers to ” agree with his wife’s every opinion and request without complaint. Even if he believed the female participant was wrong, the male was to bow and scrape.”

The man and woman both filled out “quality of life” surveys each day. During the study, the woman’s happiness level rose from 8 to 8.5 on a 1 to 10 scale.

The man’s happiness level plummeted from about 7 to 3.

It is not known how long the study was supposed to last, but it ended abruptly on day 12 when the man snapped and told his wife he was only being so agreeable because they had become human guinea pigs.

The husband told researchers the “female participant became increasingly critical of everything he did.”

The study concluded “being right is a cause of happiness, and agreeing with what one disagrees with is a cause of unhappiness.”

Most ex-wives would agree.

From the unhappy files:


14 comments Add your comment

say what?

December 19th, 2013
11:04 am

I liked that he snapped! I would not have made it after 15 minutes.

Now good news for those of us who lost our jobs in 2012, if Congress does its job (yeah, right), we just might have a chance at getting a job. Stop the credit history sharing to deny folks a job. Those of us who don’t work or make way less than what we were earning, are not scum bags who walked out on the bills. We are still the same people who had morals and values and ethics, and a credit score could never prove otherwise. Look at Bernie Madoff, the Enron folks, Goldman Sachs directors: they all had wonderful credit histories but were morally and ethically bankrupt.

GUTRAKE

December 19th, 2013
12:01 pm

This study was amazing! BECAUSE several years ago, I was asked by my (now) ex-wife to overlook some questionable behaviors of her 19 year-old daughter. I refused to do so because I affirmed that it would not be “right to let her get away with this unacceptable attitude…” Then my wife tearfully and pleadingly asked me the question that blew my mind…”Well, would you rather be right or happy?” I wrote about it in my book “Chocolate and Biscuits for Jezebel”

Absolutes in this day and age are rare. That’s why people living in between absolutes more often seek therapy to help them gain firm footing in their “gray” world. Astounding!!

@ say what?

December 19th, 2013
1:03 pm

Your problem is you are comparing your self inflicted problems to those of others. If you would have saved money for those rainy days and stormy years like we ALL KNEW would come, then you would not be in the sour pickle that you are in. Half of society doesn’t live like you do, so those that do right should reap the rewards of a coveted job over you. The FACT that you did not save money to pay for your bills that you knew would come (job or not), shows a lack or RESPONSIBILTY and plannning. If you cannot handle your own finances, why should an employer trust you to do the same with their money and/or business. Like it or NOT, your personal life is a reflection of what kind of an employee you will be.

Truth Paste

December 19th, 2013
1:15 pm

Well there are a lot of unhappy husbands out there because men are hardly ever RIGHT about anything! They do not think logically nor will they change. If men are happy, it is because their wives are lying and telling them they are right when they are dead wrong.

Men cannot survive without women, but the just the opposite is true for the gals. Woman are more happy when they don’t have to lie and stroke those male egos. It takes too much work on the part of the woman to stay in a happy marriage. The men don’t change, they just blame it all on the wman when it fails.

Men refuse to evolve out of their cave man mentality. Woman can change, improve, and reinvent themselves but men either can’t or won’t do it. And just look at what you men are teaching your sons. If men cannot adapt, then there will be no more husbands (or ex-wives).

LydiasDad

December 19th, 2013
1:24 pm

Well then, good thing we’re always right.

Devil's Advocate

December 19th, 2013
1:48 pm

I would say I’m most unhappy when I’m right. When the family doesn’t listen to my good advice and things turn out bad as I predict it usually leads to sad times.

Devil's Advocate

December 19th, 2013
1:51 pm

Truth Paste,

I’ve known so many ladies who are miserable because they cannot find a man, keep a man, or don’t like something about the man they have…

It seems that no matter what women do they are unhappy about something which is why they set off on some endeavor which ultimately leads to more unhappiness until they find Mr. Right.

dc

December 19th, 2013
2:07 pm

If a man stood in a forest without his wife around, and said something right, would he still be wrong?

Too funny, women do absolutely think they are always right. Especially this BS “women’s intuition” crap. I learned a long time ago, if you predict before every long put in golf, that it will go in, you will eventually be right. And then you can claim you have amazing intuition.

Somehow women are amazingly good at forgetting the millions of times their intuition wasn’t accurate…… Oh well, they are still darned worth it!

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December 19th, 2013
2:21 pm

Truth Paste,

Men marry women hoping they will never change. Women marry men hoping to change them.

miffed123

December 19th, 2013
3:25 pm

It’s both the men and women who haven’t matured enough that make it devastatingly difficult for those of us that know compromise is the only way to go.

Bumper

December 19th, 2013
5:17 pm

“The study concluded “being right is a cause of happiness, and agreeing with what one disagrees with is a cause of unhappiness.”

Yet another (probably government funded) study that concluded what almost everyone already knew. One other favorite study scam is to go for an attention grabbing splash with a totally off the wall finding, like the one earlier this week that said multivitamins are useless.

Patrick

December 19th, 2013
5:48 pm

The Married Man’s 50-50-90 Rule: Anytime you have a 50-50 chance of getting something right, there’s a 90% probability you’ll get it wrong!

DebbieDoRight -- A Do Right Woman

December 19th, 2013
6:12 pm

Study: Husbands need to be right to be happy…

The study concluded “being right is a cause of happiness, and agreeing with what one disagrees with is a cause of unhappiness.”

Lydia’s DAd: Well then, good thing we’re always right.

SayWhat?: I liked that he snapped! I would not have made it after 15 minutes.

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Every wife in the Universe knows that a man is never happy unless he’s always right! That’s why they don’t stop and ask directions……

Theo Renuart

December 20th, 2013
3:27 am

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