‘50 Shades’ gives Sugar Daddy websites, bondage a boost

After reading the Wikipedia entry, I assume this knot can be used for more than a dapper suit.

After reading the Wikipedia entry, I assume this knot can be used for more than a dapper suit.

Literature has often changed society.

Tracts by Thomas Paine helped rile up pre-Americans seeking government independence while Karl Marx riled up those seeking government dependence.

“50 Shades of Grey” by British author E. L. James is nothing like those books, but the erotic tome has boosted traffic at “Sugar Daddy” dating sites, reports Business Insider.

I’ve never read “50 Shades of Grey,” but trust a co-worker, who says she wanted to “stab her eyes out” while reading it with her book club.

A reader of this blog has a higher opinion of the book, saying “The 3-book series begins with Anastasia Steele, a young woman, meeting and falling for millionaire Christian Grey, a gorgeous man with a dark past who draws her into his world of BDSM.”

Whatever you think of the novel, it’s certainly getting people’s attention. “50 Shades” has sold 20 million copies and surpassed “Harry Potter & The Chamber Pot of Smelly Secrets” as the fastest-selling paperback of all time.

According to Brandon Wade, the millionaire founder of SeekingArrangement.com, a dating site for wealthy men that “want to date the best” and women that want help “mentally, emotionally and financially,” the novel has boosted business and sparked an apparent interest in bondage.

Wade says 186,000 female members of the site are actively seeking a “Christian Grey” type arrangement.

The businessman, an alleged virgin himself when he attended MIT, spills some dirt on his customers:

  • 79 percent of female members found the idea of succumbing to a ‘dominant’ male like Grey a turnon
  • 90 percent of male members said they found the idea of woman being a ’submissive’ like Steele exciting
  • 43 percent said they were more likely to use handcuffs in sexual role play
  • 47 percent wanted to experiment with blindfolds and other bondage gear

Hmmmm … “Of Human Bondage” says nothing like that.

31 comments Add your comment

Fulton

July 5th, 2012
12:31 pm

Obviously women don’t know what the hell they want. First it’s independence & equality…now it’s handcuffed, blindfolded & dominated…smh!

Seriously shaking my head

July 5th, 2012
12:37 pm

The description of the book given above is nothing as described. Please do not give reviews if you have no concept of the subject and the sociology/psychology surrounding them. Education on social norms and deviant behaviors benefits everyone.

Judging a book without reading it...

July 5th, 2012
12:47 pm

Absolutely agree with Seriously. The description is not even close to the story line in the book. I guess sensationalism wins out again with Mr. Mathis’ blog…

I’ve become more and more disappointed with the quality and delivery of information coming from all of the AJC blog writers… It seems as though it’s more important to make people get up in arms with an opinion (which obviously it worked because I am feeling opinionated enough to add a comment) than thoroughly research something they are writing about. This can’t be called journalism…

George Mathis

July 5th, 2012
12:54 pm

Write a better one-sentence description and I will use it. How’s that for service?

John

July 5th, 2012
1:08 pm

Hey George, notice how they’re silent after that challenge. “Seriously” and “Judging”, why don’t you let the journalists do their job.

Trizzle

July 5th, 2012
1:09 pm

George, don’t let these people get to you. Its hard to describe this book period where it keeps it clean enough for an all age print. I have been reading the books and they are pretty good and steamy. I can see how women are trying to find those sugar daddy’s now.

Loved the book

July 5th, 2012
1:12 pm

Why Mr. Mathis you sound irritated?

I do have to agree the book was more about his intrigue with Ms. Steele and her unwillingness to be submissive to him. His showering her of gifts was more about his control and not knowing another way to show affection. For each expensive gift, it was usually a long discussion or fight as to why she did not want those things. Even to the end…

I personally enjoyed the books more so to see how the love story unfolds. I personally could have done without the bondage and sub/dom descriptions. Those are the parts I “fast-forwarded” through.

Avid Reader

July 5th, 2012
1:15 pm

Did Mr. Mathis even read the book?

George Mathis

July 5th, 2012
1:15 pm

I am not irritated. I am busy. There is a difference.

KS

July 5th, 2012
1:15 pm

I have read the book and it was not about an innocent woman exchanging her body and soul for a hefty allowance. Did you read the book Mr. Mathis?

Reading for pleasure

July 5th, 2012
1:17 pm

How about: “The 3-book series begins with Anastasia Steele, a young woman, meeting and falling for millionaire Christian Grey, a gorgeous man with a dark past who draws her into his world of BDSM.”

It never involves whips and chains, and there is never an “exchange” as put in this blog. This made it sound as though some young innocent sold herself as a sex slave, when that is not the case. Either way, it is a book. If you like it, read it. If not, don’t.

George Mathis

July 5th, 2012
1:24 pm

Reading, I will use that. Thanks.

midtownATL

July 5th, 2012
2:03 pm

Wow… some of you people are idiots (Avid Reader and KS… among others). You ask if he’s read the book, when he’s clearly stated he hasn’t. Did you read his article????? His article is not a review of the book (Seriously Shaking Head)… it is an article on it’s effect on a popular website and BDSM. I’m shaking my head at Shaking Head for not understanding something so simple. Wow.. I bet some of you people kick your dog in the head first thing in the morning… then you go online to see who else you can beat up for no reason.

Seriously shaking my head

July 5th, 2012
2:14 pm

Your head line is perfect up until bondage. That has such a miniscule role in the trilogy compared to the sociology/psychology and little to do with the actual story line. Mr. Mathis I was married to a journalist for a decade. I have a great respect for them and you. However, J school teaches you give credit to both sides of an opinion. Pro or con and represent them fairly when you write about it regardless if its for a blog or an investigative piece. Obviously you were a bit one sided and didn’t present a fair representation of both sides. The opinions you presented from the third parties could have been better balanced. I respect their ability to have an opinion, however MY opinion is what I stated earlier.

The book is a wonderful insight to the mindset of someone who is into deviant behavior with another consenting adult. The submissive is actually in control…as in the book. The female character takes personal responsiblity for her own decisions and isn’t trading herself for anything or doing anything she doesn’t want. Reading and comprehending the book are two different things.

George Mathis

July 5th, 2012
2:23 pm

Seriously, this is a HUMOR blog. Please forgive my attempts at humor that do not conform with your sense of journalistic fairness.

Hoopla

July 5th, 2012
2:48 pm

People!!!!! It’s a love story. Bottom line.

James

July 5th, 2012
2:55 pm

Mr. Mathis I read your article and i have read what others have been saying.

You have done nothing to warrant there misguided comments. You apparently just contacted a web sight. This is not substantial information to claim its booted bondage inquires across “Sugar Daddy” websites. A more accurate title would be something like “50 shades gives a “Sugar Daddy” website, bondage boost” or more accurately “Credit giving to ‘50 Shades of Grey’ for a boost to a ‘Sugar Daddy’ websites bondage desire”

Thou people, including myself, feel there opinions matter more then others and they should be listened to and taken heed of. Take them for what there comments are. People wanting to make statements where others can read. Not as a personal affront to yourself. Your article interested me enough to look at some of your other work, i do hope with further information you give it will be more then just a co-worker, and one genuine source of information.

I know my grammar is horrid I hope you will over look it.

Stewie

July 5th, 2012
2:56 pm

Funny stuff. I especially liked the Harry Potter and closing lines.

harry

July 5th, 2012
3:14 pm

i am on sugardaddy for the fun of seeing what is going on in that world, was surprized to find married women looking so openly, in real life i am a sugar daddy to a college student, but no sex involved, a relationship based on mutual respect. have yet to read the book.

laydeeliberty

July 5th, 2012
3:56 pm

I can summarize the books for you (since I’ve actually read them). It is a story about how a man overcomes his childhood trauma, and his propensity to define himself by it, through the love of a woman who sees more in him than he has ever been able to see in himself.

It has ZERO to do with any of the bs mentioned above.

yeah

July 5th, 2012
4:08 pm

Not really a humor blog…but ok.

Samantha

July 5th, 2012
4:11 pm

@Fulton – Are you under the delusion that all women rolled off the assembly line with identical programming?
@Mathis – Why are you even commenting on a book you haven’t even read? – The book has elements of BDSM but is hardly about BDSM and frankly I think it does the BDSM community harm by the way it paints the Dominant character as an emotionally handicapped ‘child’ and his interest in BDSM as a coping mechanism for it. – BDSM is NOT abusive and the vast majority of people that engage in these activities do so in sane loving and consensual relationships. There may be illusion of force or an illusion of degredation but it is far more about bringing pleasure to the “victim” by acting out ‘taboo fantasies’. I honestly don’t think the books are “great literature” and it is certainly not an instruction manual for a healthy BDSM relationship; Honestly I think the book is more on par with a Disney Princess fantasy than an adult romance novel. The character development was very light and the author seriously overdid the repetitive references to “rolling her eyes” and “biting her lips” to the point of annoyance. – Glad I read them but honestly I don’t understand the popularity.

Teresa

July 5th, 2012
4:18 pm

I have read all three a few times. I enjoyed the books tremendously. I think the BDSM is loosley talked about and referred to but it is not the basis of the story. It is a story of an abused child, whose mother was no mother to him at all.. He took a lot of rage with him as he grew up. he acquired an outlet for it as a teenager, thought that is what he was..until he met Ana, she showed him another way….A love story with some really juicy parts… No different than a lot of Romance novels out there without the kinky stuff…. I was not offended, was a nice change in the book department…. Great Literature, no… but a nice change of reading…

CobbGOPer

July 5th, 2012
5:13 pm

Women are always looking for sugar daddies. Most of them anyway. The sad part is they’re not even doing it consciously. But they’re always on the lookout for someone that will provide all the money so they can do nothing but procreate.

My attempt at a short description.

July 5th, 2012
5:28 pm

I’ll attempt… It’s about two people at the opposite ends of the spectrum sexually and how they make their way to the middle and live happily ever after sexually and intellectually! She is, by no means submissive, in the sense that everyone is trying to make it sound…like a mindless slave. He actually is a slave to her in his dominant way…she has all the power!

SM

July 5th, 2012
5:42 pm

For crying out loud, just go watch some skin flicks… sheesh!

KS

July 6th, 2012
10:44 am

midtownATL – No, I am not an idiot and I do not own a dog. If I did I, would not kick it in the head or anywhere else for that matter. I understood that Mr. Mathis did not read the book – that was my point. Hope you have a great a day!

favre4rockett

July 6th, 2012
3:27 pm

I agree as well with Seriously.. Do not talk about the book if you have not read it.. There is a lot more going on then just sex and “SUBS/DOMS” it is an actual love story that also teaches you to forgive and move on.. It was absorbing to read and could not put it down..

z.phgjar

July 7th, 2012
4:34 pm

Who cares! People are scared of a topic, a “taboo” that most likely they want to try. If not, who cares, just let people be who they are and enjoy a piece if writing.

gail

July 8th, 2012
5:12 am

i was wondering the same ting because i didn’t read that in the book i had….he must have a different book altogether…..

Kaili

July 8th, 2012
2:08 pm

I enjoy your blog Mr. Mathis. Fifty Shades of Grey is an addiction for me. I absolutely love the series. I’m a kinkster and would like a stable wealthy man. As for my friends, they are into a sugar daddy but after reading these books, they have drawn an interest towards BDSM.