What’s a mom to do about son’s girlfriend visiting college for weekend?

One of our regulars mentioned that her 18-year-old college freshman son was expecting a weekend visit from his high school girlfriend and the mom is not happy about it.

Here’s what Techmom told us yesterday:

“Speaking of dumb decisions when you’re young: I’m currently cringing inside right now at my 18-year old freshman-in-college son… He’s had a girlfriend for almost 2 years who is a senior in HS this year. They are far too serious for my liking of course. I just found out that she’s going to visit him at college this weekend. Ugh. I told him I wanted to talk to him today on the phone. I don’t know if her parents know and I will ask but unfortunately I think they do and are ok with it (I don’t know if they’re just naive or if they’re looking for someone to take care of her… I honestly think it’s the latter and they would be perfectly ok if my son wanted to marry her the day after she graduates from HS). Anyway, I know they just as easily could have …

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UGA advises players how to treat women: Should college students need that?

News organizations in search of team policies regarding social media actually found that UGA basketball has team policies regarding sex and dating.  Sports Illustrated reported it first but Deadspin put up a copy of the document.

Here is some of the advice given to the players from an AJC synopsis:

Among the highlights for “Treat women with respect”:

  • You don’t own your girlfriend.
  • Birth control is your responsibility too.
  • Never assault or intimidate a woman.
  • Don’t spend all of your energy in the bed all night
  • Hicky’s/passion marks should not be ever noticed by coaches
  • One. Not two or three girlfriends.

Not widely publicized but you can view in the document is an item that says: No means no, date rape is a serious issue. Also mentioned is to avoid gray areas like orgies.

So I have a couple of viewpoints on this: one as a mother and then also one a college professor who has taught at a large university for the last three years.

On the one …

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Are you a dad wearing a Rainbow Loom rubber band bracelet?

Are you a dad wearing bracelets made of tiny rubber bands created by your kids? Then you, sir, are on trend!

The Wall Street Journal is reporting that high-powered Dads wearing Brooks Brothers suits accessorizing with rubber band bracelets made by their kids are all the rage across the United States.

From The Wall Street Journal:

“The bracelets are “the hottest trend out there right now,” said Andrej Suskavcevic, president and chief executive of the Craft & Hobby Association, a trade group in Elmwood Park, N.J. “It is the Beanie Baby of today.” Arts-and-crafts retailer Michaels Stores Inc., which is the exclusive big-box retailer for the Original Rainbow Loom Kit, said in late 2013 that the kit was largely responsible for its biggest quarterly same-store sales increase in eight years….”

“Rainbow Loom was itself invented by a dad. Cheong Choon Ng, a father of two, came up with the product after struggling to keep up with his daughters in crafting projects. The loom allowed …

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Do divorced couples sit together at kids’ games and other game questions?

My soon-to-be divorced friend is aggravated by her ex sitting next to her at the children’s spring ball games. She can’t stand him at this point. They are in the middle of a very contentious divorce, and he just blabs at her the whole game. She just wants to watch her children play in peace.

She noticed all the other divorced couples seemed to be sitting together too. She’s trying to figure out how to break that pattern.  Can you break that pattern? How can she get away from him without her kids really noticing? Should she tell him she doesn’t want to sit with him or at the very least that he needs to shut up during the game? Or is this an opportunity for them to improve their relationship for the sake of the kids?

In other ball games questions:

1. Are games running too late? Our friend’s game lasted until 10 p.m. last week and he’s in elementary school. What’ up with that? I think that is way too late for games.

2. Do you find the elementary-age baseball games …

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‘Muppets Most Wanted’: Are you still Waka, Waka, Waka for the Muppets?

We are so excited about new Muppets movie opening today, and we are definitely going to see it this weekend. We are having an open house so the kids and I are escaping to the movies!

Every time the kids see a preview for it, they are cracking up. I am glad my kids love the Muppets like I did when I was little.

I love Tina Fey’s Russian accent in the movie and love Ty Burrell’s mustache. They are two of my favorite actors. I also love all the physical comedy they show in the preview. I am a sucker for anyone falling down.

The USA Today review said they have brought the wacky back to the film. I liked the 2011 reintroduction of “The Muppets” but I think I am going to like this one better. USA Today gave it 3 out of 4 stars and Entertainment Weekly gave it a B, which surprises me. EW said the 2011 one was better.

From USA Today:

“The Muppets’ winning style of self-referential, pun-filled, fast-paced comedy ventures further afield as the duplicitous Dominic (Gervais) …

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AJC wants you to share video of your teen’s college acceptance moment!

Click the photo to see the video of the Target ad where kids find out they are accepted to college.

Have you seen this Target ad where kids find out on camera that they were accepted to college? It totally makes me cry every time I see it. (Click the screenshot or this link to watch the ad. I wasn’t able to embed the video with the new iframe embed code.) Well the AJC wants you to share your special college acceptance moments as they happen this spring. See how to share your videos of your teen’s joy (and your joy) below:

Want to share that special moment when your child learns that he or she has gotten into the college of their choice? The AJC would love hear from you if you’ve captured the moment when your son or daughter receives a letter of acceptance. Please send a video to media@ajc.com with the subject line “I GOT IN!”  We’ll post the videos on ajc.com.

As a side note, apparently I am not the only one crying when they see this Target ad. A marketing website explains emotional branding:

From Contently.com:

Of course I’m not crying at the Target …

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What are your best tips for showing a house with kids in it?

Clutter-free and ready to show -- the family room.

Clutter-free and ready to show — the family room.

The house is FINALLY ready to put on the market but now I have to keep it this neat and orderly with three kids living in it.

We’ve never had to show a house before while we were still living there. We had already moved into our second house when we put our first house on the market, and we had already moved out of our second house to come here while it was on the market (for a whole year)!

This time we want it sold before we leave town so we can buy in June in New Jersey without worry.

My girlfriend who sold her house last year here with three kids in it has had some good advice:

  1. Grill out for as many dinners as you can. It will keep kitchen odors out of your house and also keep your kitchen tidy.
  2. Buyers are always going to want to come late afternoon/early evening when you’re trying to do homework and make dinner so I need to plan accordingly.  The kids need to knock out their homework when they first walk in so at 5 …

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Is work-life balance an issue for government?

A recent Washington Post story examined how working 13-hour days at high-levels in the Obama administration affect parents with young kids at home.

The story was full of examples of parents such as White House budget chief Sylvia Mathews Burwell, who had to leave her 4-year-old’s birthday party for a budget impasse.

Former deputy chief of staff Nancy-Ann DeParle’s 12-year-old son asked her to quit after two years of overseeing the healthcare policy. President Obama invited her child in to discuss why he still needed his mom.

It’s a hard article to summarize but it looks at how the White House is trying to make work-life more manageable for its own employees and what the government could possibly do for the rest of the nation.

From the Washington Post:

“Even as Democrats tout family-friendly policies as a top priority, those within 1600 Pennsylvania Ave. continue to wrestle with the fact that their own workplace often falls short of those ideals. Obama announced last week …

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New York City: Fantastic for kids, but just not cheap

My 10 and 12-year-olds loved the boat ride to the Statue of Liberty and Ellis Island. Some of the exhibits on Eliis Island were still damaged from Hurricane Sandy.

My 10 and 12-year-olds loved the boat ride to the Statue of Liberty and Ellis Island. Some of the exhibits on Eliis Island were closed due to damage from Hurricane Sandy.

The kids with the father looking at the 9/11 Memorial. The 6-year-old understood this wasn't a time to play or be loud. The 10-year-old and 12-year-old appreciated the importance of the memorial but I don't think it was too sad for them.

The kids with their father looking at the 9/11 Memorial. The 6-year-old understood this wasn't a time to play or be loud. The 10-year-old and 12-year-old appreciated the importance of the memorial but I don't think it was too sad for them.

By Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

New York City is a fabulous playground for families with endless opportunities to expose kids to music, art, drama, culture and food. However, those experiences don’t come cheaply.

I would love to tell you that New York City can be done on any budget, but it’s simply not true. There are ways to cut corners and to get more bang for your buck but you need to prepared that you’re going to feel like you are bleeding money during your trip.

The kids and I flew to New York City during Christmas break to look for a new house for our impending move …

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I’m working on travel stories this week

I may post this week if something really controversial or exciting pops up but I think I am going to take Spring Break to work on travel stories. I have a bunch of travel stories to share with you guys but I never get them finished. I want to share about San Diego and Southern California. I have a whole camping for dummies/Yellowstone/Grand Tetons story that stands half finished. I also have a story about taking a family to New York that is also half finished. Message me on Facebook if you see something we really need to hit, but otherwise I am going to try to work on these stories to help you plan your summer trips.

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