Would your husband be hot and bothered if you walked around naked?

Dear Prudence on Slate.com received an interesting question from a husband who is begging his wife to put on some clothes in the morning because he just can’t control himself and there is no time for sex. The man writes that his wife exercises in the morning and then comes back and showers and has to blow dry her hair. She is apparently very hot (temperature-wise) when she does this so often she just stays in her bra and panties or sometimes just her panties. He says it drives him crazy but there’s not time for sex and then he’s just frustrated all day.

Read Prudence’s reply here.

So I am wondering would your husband be all hot and bothered if you paraded around in your bra and panties in the morning? Would he even notice?

In a funny corollary note: A woman wrote in that her 60-something husband who is not great at sex but was put on testosterone and now he won’t leave her alone!

13 comments Add your comment


May 1st, 2014
6:48 am

Ummmmm YEA! After 25 years of marriage…….he still does!


May 1st, 2014
7:22 am

If he doesn’t then wonder where he’s getting it?


May 1st, 2014
8:36 am

From the male perspective, I certainly love for my wife to walk around naked and, yes, it has the proper effect. As for not having “time for sex” then get up earlier (pun intended)… I’m also thinking what a great “problem” to have!
BUT, bra and panties do not define naked in my dictionary.

Atlanta Mom

May 1st, 2014
8:50 am

I’m amazed my husband still looks after 32 years of marriage, but he does :)


May 1st, 2014
9:33 am

Glass door on the shower is greatest invention ever. Brush my teeth every morning with a view in the mirror.


May 1st, 2014
10:30 am

Well, yeah. Not always but often enough for me to be pleased about it.

I don’t stand around in my underwear or walk around naked much, though. It’s not something I ever really did and now with a 13-year-old I really don’t do it much.

But it’s usually him walking in the room when I’m changing. If he’s annoyed with our son (almost constant right now with the crazy teen hormones) or stressed about something at work he might not even notice I’m in the room, much less unclothed. But if he’s in a neutral mood then it’s a different story. Fun times.

It’s funny because I keep myself in pretty good condition but pregnancy did a number on my skin, stretchmark-wise. And even though I’m in good shape I feel like I could lose 10lbs. And those two things make me feel a little insecure being unclothed. But he still likes what he sees, so it’s good.

Oh, I should say it’s the same the other way around. I definitely look at HIM.


May 1st, 2014
12:50 pm

My parents will have been married 48 years this June….and they still very much appreciate each other in those ways. We learned this because my oldest said she thinks it is “cool” that grandma and grandpa would still want to be that way after all this time. My youngest and I agreed we didn’t want to know about it. So we told my mom we didn’t want a reply, but thought she might get a kick out of the oldest’s attitude. My mother replied “She is right, it is cool that 48 years later we still get hot for each other. Y’all don’t like it? So what!” My youngest and I proceed to look out the window and discuss traffic.


May 1st, 2014
1:30 pm

Clothing optional is pretty much std fare in our house in the mornings. We are usually up and our or so before the kids. Been married 20 years and we shower together every morning. Sorry jarvis, the 2 person shower trumps the glass door in my book.

Brown Eyed Girl!

May 1st, 2014
1:54 pm

Whenever there is movement of my clothes from my body, my husband stops and stares! I’m not the most in love with my body, but its so good to know its still attractive to him!


May 1st, 2014
5:25 pm

Dear Prudence (on Slate) is one of the best advice columns ever. If you think you have a problem, read it. You’ll learn either what real problems are like or meet some of the dumbest people imaginable.

Not much nudity going on around our house, but people tend to leave the bathroom door open many times. Gross.


May 1st, 2014
11:38 pm

@FCM: I had to chuckle at your remark about staring out the window and discussing traffic. My daughter rolls her eyes when she happens into the kitchen and my husband and I are in the middle of a clinch that is definitely heating up :-) “Get a ROOM, already!” To which my husband replies, “This IS my room, kiddo!” She may profess to be embarrassed, but to my way of thinking, she’d rather have this than parents whose only way of communication was fighting. She mentioned one morning that she had heard “some noise” from our bedroom the evening before. I just looked at her and said, “And your point is? Close your door at night if it bothers you, sweetie!” Why did kids think that they were either a) immaculate conceptions or b) if we only have two kids, we must have only had sex twice in our entire married life?!

Now that the kids are moving on and the nest is becoming somewhat empty, my husband LOVES having the house to ourselves for whatever “noise” we choose to make. ;-D It’s very . . . relaxing.


May 2nd, 2014
9:25 am

My grandparents had sex until my grandmother died at 79. I’m sure it was not acrobatic seeing as she had a heart condition and they were both old and rickety but hey! They loved each other still. My grandmother made jokes about my papa making booty calls to her room. (They slept in different rooms because when she got really sick she could barely sleep and he snored loud enough to wake the dead….but obviously that stopped NO “funny business” as we joked about it.) We would pretend to be grossed out about it but we’d give her high fives and embarrass him. My brother and I would bemoan the fact that our old people were getting some and we weren’t (we were adults).

Dang, I miss them. I keep a picture of them on my desk at work.

GA Girl

May 2nd, 2014
9:06 pm

Yes! We’ve been married for almost 4 years (in June) and he’ll join me in the shower. I’m kinda young but I can relate to the original poster to Dear Prudie- I have hot flashes all the time and my husband will jokingly reply ‘well, take it off.” LOL!