Teacher Appreciation Week should be moved to February!

I have a yearly rant that I cannot believe in nine years I have not published here: Teacher Appreciation Week needs to be moved to February!

National Teacher Appreciation Day is May 6 this year and the celebration week is May 5 to the 9. Teacher Appreciation Day always hits in early Mary.

There is simply too much stuff going on in May as school is letting out (end-of-year parties, concerts, promotion ceremonies, awards nights) to properly — and without ripping you hair out — honor teachers the way they should be honored.

In Georgia I would stand up every year at the first PTA meeting and ask can we please move Teacher Appreciation Week to February when there is nothing going on! Other than Valentine’s Day there is nothing big going on. It’s bleak outside, and that would be a lovely time of year to bring in cheerful daily treats for a teacher.  They would always vote me down and tell me that the national one is in May and that’s why we do it in May.

I suspect that the National one is in May because schools across the country used to let in June so it wasn’t back-to-back with school getting out! They need to adjust the celebration week to when schools let out now. (I know up North they still let out in mid-June but that’s really the only place that still does that.)

Also to be perfectly frank as a room mom, you could collect money for an end-of-the-year present much more easily if Teacher Appreciation Day was further away from it. As it is this year, I am embarrassed to ask the parents to give for a present the first week or May and the third week of May so our class has no formal plans for an end-of-year present.

I know I am not the only one who feels this way. I hear from so many room moms who are responsible for these activities and little presents, and they all feel overwhelmed. One sweet mother who acts as room mom for multiple classes in Gwinnett posted the saddest, most stressed out note the other day. She had so much on her plate and she felt like a failure because she hadn’t gotten her Teacher Appreciation plan notes out to the parents multiple weeks ahead of time. God bless her she felt so bad. And it’s just crazy for her to feel that stressed out.

Here is the history of Teacher Appreciation Week from the Huffington Post if you’re wondering:

“The National Education Association describes the festivities as “honoring teachers and recognizing the lasting contributions they make to our lives.”

The history of National Appreciation Week, and National Appreciation Day, is not certain. The movement for such an observance is commonly thought to have begun around the time of World War II and Eleanor Roosevelt made a major push for the day in 1953.

Congress declared a National Teacher Day in 1980 and in 1985 the Parent Teacher Association (PTA) established National Teacher Week as the first week of May. It has been celebrated annually since.”

So what do you think: Should Teacher Appreciation Week be moved to February nationally? Would that be a less stressful, less eventful time to honor our teachers? Are the room moms stressed pulling events together at the end of the year? What’s an argument to keep it in May? Is there one?

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April 28th, 2014
5:31 am

If you think YOU are stressed, Theresa, think of teachers who are ALSO moms!

As some of you know, I am retiring this year. As I take this “victory lap,” one of the best things is that former students come up to me and say, “I remember when…”

For the end of the year gift, don’t think of stuff. Think of personal letters and notes and pictures of things that have happened during the year to make it memorable.

I work in a place that is pretty poor (78% free lunch). OUr Appreciation Week consists of a few moms fixing us a meal and occasionally little goody bags. At the end of the year (as well as at Christmas) few teachers get more than a couple of trinkets. So your teachers seem to get over the top kinds of gifts, to me.

I meet with a lot of my children’s parents the last few weeks of school, most especially Latino ones. THEY give me a wonderful gift; they express appreciation that seems heart-felt. Invariably, one or more will tell me they wish they had a bouquet of flowers to give me. They do, all year, by supporting my efforts with their children.

Perhaps it is those personal touches that are more important than gift cards?


April 28th, 2014
6:42 am

I’m with catlady. By the end of the year I have already received a gift from many parents. Their children have come to school prepared to learn for the entire year. Additionally their children are good citizens and are kind and respectful to everyone. That’s all I want. @catlady: I agree that the personal notes or verbal comments are also appreciated and cherished.


April 28th, 2014
6:48 am

I’m not sure I understand the need for a teacher appreciation week, day, or whatever. Why go to all the effort and attention to single out one occupation over another? While very much appreciated, teachers chose their profession much the same as anyone else. Yes, I realize that teachers have guardianship, to some extent, over our children and I assume this is the basis for such recognition.
But, while I appreciate the dedication and hours devoted, I just feel differently than most of you.


April 28th, 2014
6:53 am

First world problems. I can’t believe people are stressed over something like this. We should be showing our teachers our undying appreciation every single day, and the very best teachers don’t expect anything except your gratitude and that your child has benefited from being in their class. Why is everyone so stresse? Don’t volunteer to be room mom if you can’t handle it. I’ve never been a room mom, partly because I work but mostly because I’m just not cut out for that kind of job. I know where my strengths are, but obviously a lot of moms who volunteer too much and get stressed have no idea. Stop stepping up and send in your own gift/thanks to your teachers without so much drama on FB or blogs like this.


April 28th, 2014
7:12 am

How about its called their job, to teach. Too many bad teachers are kept on the payroll every year and it pulls the good ones down, or they leave. Michael might be pulling in $200k a year but for most in the private sector we haven’t seen a raise in years or have been blown out from previous positions yet the teacher remains far removed from the realities of the economy. Teacher appreciation day…. please. Do your job, teacher…..


April 28th, 2014
7:14 am

My elementary school does it in Feb. The middle school, does it in March.


April 28th, 2014
7:17 am

Several schools I visited had their Teacher Appreciation Day last week. I am talking metro Atlanta.

@ Me…I saw that there was a special day last week that was not about teachers:

Administrative Professionals Day® highlights the important role of administrative professionals in all sectors of the modern economy worldwide. It is on the Wednesday of Administrative Professionals Week®, which is on the last full week of April.

@catlady…want to plan a trip to the UP this fall…it is amazing!

I always appreciate volunteers BUT if your position is wearing you out or if you feel frazzled, let it go. Personally, I will not succumb to what I call CHA CHA in a volunteer role. I am happy to help but I do not want drama.

I have enough drama in my paid life:
“Oh you wanted to start your show at 10:00 ( as the paperwork I sent said)? We are still busy and now need to start at 10:30.” It is 9:45 and I have another appointment at 11:15 in another school. Once, I was going to a sister school and I said, : Ok, that is fine…will you call them right now to let them know their show will be 30 minutes later and lunch with have to be pushed back.” NO they did not want to do this and neither did I…haha!

TWG…I could be wrong but if you are not the room mom, and decide to show your appreciation to the teachers during another month, I do not think they will mind. It may be nice to cheer them up a bit earlier.


April 28th, 2014
7:30 am

Waste of time, money, and stress. Get a life…


April 28th, 2014
7:44 am

Here is the deal, Theresa: You have too many things going on, all by choice. You’re a “Blogger” but don’t really do it well (cut-paste, don’t monitor the blog and put little effort into it)…. You’re a volunteer at your kids school and are stressed out about Teacher Appreciation Day…. Your husband earns a very good living which gives you opportunities yet you stress over having to sell the house, clean the house, etc….. All of this is by your own choice.

Its very simple: change some of your choices and you’ll be happier.


April 28th, 2014
7:48 am

February makes sense but honestly now that my girls are older this is a non-issue. I make a point of thanking teachers whenever I send an email.


April 28th, 2014
8:07 am

I also wonder if your life is in balance in that perhaps you place too much emphasis on your children. This happens quite often, a mother devotes just about all of her energy into her children and then when they move out to become adults there is nothing left with the marriage – you will look over at Michael and have nothing in common other than UGA footbal.

Case in point: When is the last time you and Michael went out to eat with a couple and had an adult conversation which did not revolve around children (never)? Do you have any friends that do not have children (probably not)? Are all of your friends mothers and have children similar in age to yours (probably so)? Do you have any hobbies that do not involve children (doubt it)? Are your children first in your life or is your husband (the spouse should always be first- doubt it)?

If I have hit the nail on the head when your children move out you and Michael are going to have a hard time with nothing in common other than your children. If I have hit the nail on the head, your children will probably never move far away as dominating mothers with nothing else in their life will seek to control their adult children forever and ever, amen. If your life is not in balance and “its all about my children” when you are Mid 50’s and your last one moves out, Michael might just say, “Nuts to this – we have nothing in common, I don’t have to pay child support, I’m pulling in some bucks – Good bye!”

Sk8ing Momma

April 28th, 2014
8:21 am

Should Teacher Appreciation Week be moved to February nationally?

IMO, it doesn’t matter. As a room mom, I would have it when it best made sense given my class/school schedule. For the reasons you’ve given, February is the best time, IMO; hence, I’d have mine in February. I’m generally a rule follower, with one caveat. If the rule doesn’t make sense or there’s a better way to do something, I unapologetically beat to the beat of my own drum. :)

Would that be a less stressful, less eventful time to honor our teachers?

Are the room moms stressed pulling events together at the end of the year? What’s an argument to keep it in May? Is there one?

My kids don’t attend traditional school, so I wouldn’t know. Although we homeschool, I do outsource my children’s science classes. The center where they attend their classes does do something to honor the teachers. It was moved from November to February for the very reasons you are advocating a change from May to February — too much going on! Have the recognition in February has been much easier for parents and much enjoyed by the teachers. It’s a win-win in my book.


April 28th, 2014
8:35 am

Didn’t kids just finish a bunch of testing and now teachers have all the end of year stuff coming up to deal with? Seems like an ideal time to show appreciation. Seriously, it’s supposed to be about the teachers, not the parents, so get over yourself. It shouldn’t be that hard to plan a nice week if you don’t go over the top.


April 28th, 2014
8:43 am

I don’t get why anything has to be planned and why it has to be a particular week. If February is slow, by all means buy your teacher lunch one day that week or have parents chip in for needed supplies. By the 2nd half of the year, I’m sure they are running out of things and would appreciate any item that will help them get through the rest of the year. Why does it have to be a whole week and why so structured? Again, First World problems. When you read about the problems in Ukraine, North Korea, Syria or anywhere else, it puts these trivial things into perspective in a big way.


April 28th, 2014
8:44 am

@MJG – I stand corrected and guess that your example is the new and politically correct version of what was once Secretary’s Day.
I also don’t understand someone, usually a mom, making the statement that her kids are her whole life. While our kids are and always will be a large part of my life they certainly are not my WHOLE life and never will be. I love our kids dearly but never more than my wife. We have always had nights out, and even some entire weeks, that did not include our kids. All three are grown now and seem to have suffered not at all.

February is not so good, either....

April 28th, 2014
9:06 am

…what with Washington’s birthday, Lincoln’s birthday, Black History month, and for many schools, winter break week, just to name some other deals for that month…


April 28th, 2014
10:05 am

Theresa, I think it’s great that you want to show teachers you appreciate them. I happen to work in an inner-city school and students don’t give us anything. As a non-core teacher, I’m rarely even though of as a “teacher”. I have no problem with it. I guess it would be nice to receive a small token of appreciation, however I love getting the handwritten notes and cards. I don’t need much else. Christmas is pretty much the same. We don’t have room moms, so there’s not anyone to plan anyway. At my kid’s school, it’s much different. We honor teachers with a gift card and breakfast given by the PTA. If you choose to do it or not, it’s really not that big of a deal to most teachers.


April 28th, 2014
10:15 am

I am with @Me on this one. Everyone knows what a teaching career entails: low pay, little support, high stress, so I would assume people continue to join this profession knowing all of this. The conditions are nothing new, and will likely not change. They willingly choose this career; there are plenty of other options. Why do we separate teachers as needing a special day or week, when we don’t do the same for other professions? There is administrative professionals day as well, which also does not make sense to me. Is it possible that these two careers have been singled out as they are often “mom” jobs, or at least most likely to be women-held jobs?

The upside is that you get a few more days (weeks in some cases) off then in other careers. But why is there an expectation for additional gifts? What about the bus drivers, lunch attendants, and crossing guards? T’s friend seems a bit over the edge no? It is really THAT dramatic to get notes out on time?

a teacher

April 28th, 2014
10:27 am

oh. we have teacher appreciation day…that stretches into a WEEK long celebration? that’s news to me in my little north georgia school system…


April 28th, 2014
10:54 am

We have bus driver’s appreciation week…they get starbucks coffee on a cold morning, cards from the kids and some luncheon from the PTA.

Teachers get one too.

Now if you want to see how to do it all RIGHT go look at the mid 2000s at Creekview Elementary School. School principal had the male teachers serve the female teachers breakfast (from iHOP) on Valentine’s Day…..the school PTA had a teacher appreciation week. The female teachers served lunch to the male teachers in Male…..Once a month each grade did a teacher appreciation luncheon…for the WHOLE school…so Oct was Kindergarten, etc…..

The kids had school appreciation nights (not these stupid ones they do in Cobb)…by GRADE so the place was not totally over run…and the place was grade appropriate (McDonald’s for Kindergarten, Waffle House for 3rd grade, Pizza for 5th)…..and the BEST part was the TEACHERS of that grade got dressed in the appropriate uniform for the place and served the kids their food…..LOTS of respect watching your teachers run a grill and handle drink orders! The kids and teachers were better for it. Ronald Trussell’s idea and it should be expanded.

I hated lots about Elementary School time for my kids (still do)…..but those things above I could support (and did) and my family still talks about them to do this day,. By contrast we had “Spring Fling” last week and the kids said it was “boring” with just a couple of rides and tired parents on a Friday night…..

oh yeah and as usual the teachers were busy talking to each other not interacting with the kids. Yeah, I know they get paid to interact with my kids during school hours….you would be AMAZED how seeing the teachers be silly (and human) really gets kids loyal to a teacher and ready to learn.


April 28th, 2014
10:55 am

ooops in Male should be in May–on Field Day I think


April 28th, 2014
11:17 am

Speaking of admin professionals day – all the ones I knew HATED having to go to lunch with their boss. They found it awkward and excruciating for the most part, especially if the boss was male (the admins were all female). I received a ton high fives when I convinced the big wigs to just give the admins a gift card :)


April 28th, 2014
11:32 am

@Bob, if you haven’t received a pay increase in serveral years, you’re either a poor performer or you need a new company. Pay increases were 3% on average in the U.S. last/early this year, and nearly 90% of companies gave them.

You’re also bass ackwards on the teachers being insulated from the economic downturn. Furlough days = pay decreases. So not only were they not getting increases, they were being paid for fewer days.


April 28th, 2014
11:39 am

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April 28th, 2014
11:48 am

Are you the room mom TWG? Do you have anyone who can help (surely people know you’re moving, playing the role of single parent right now)?

My son’s school did teacher appreciation in Feb or March, I can’t remember specifically but it was between mid-winter and spring break. The PTA did small things each day, mostly with funds they’d raised throughout the year or just asked for themed items. Like one day they did a teacher breakfast, one day was dessert day, one day was supply day, etc. Not everyone sent stuff for each day, they’d just ask for certain grades to bring in certain items.

The PTA also did a teacher appreciation lunch on the last day of class before Christmas break. School let out at 11:30 so the teachers were served a catered lunch but parents were asked to decorate a table (linens, china, decor, etc.) Not everyone had to participate of course since they only needed like 20 tables decorated. But I do think think it helped to spread things out.

The other advantage too is that this was a private school. Many parents were more than willing to write a check for something vs. actually having to do something. Big difference from Catlady’s school for sure.


April 28th, 2014
12:00 pm

@ missnadine…this made me laugh: “The conditions are nothing new, and will likely not change. ”

What happens in school now is VASTLY different from what happened when I started teaching in 1983.

(catlady can go back longer than that)

The biggest thing is LACK OF RESPECT for adults and lack of flexibility for teachers to portray their ideas in a fashion that makes sense and actually works.

It saddens me to see so many teachers who are really miserable, as their classroom is no longer fun to be in. OH YES there were the days from $%^& when I taught but they were not 80% of the time.

This is why I love what I do. No paperwork….parents or pitiful ideas/directions to implement. YES I am in control of whatever I do for either 30 minutes with children or up to 6 hours with adults. Going into my 17th year of doing it, so something must be going right. You have to be a take charge kind of person to be able to maneuver through that time frame with either 100 children or 1000 adults.

There are lots of things I cannot do but there are plenty of adults who think teaching is easy peasy and NO it is not. I mentioned this before, my neighbor is a brilliant person who worked for the Pentagon and Aerospace. She started teaching HS a few years ago and I love to listen to her stories. She gets it! She wanted to be on a schedule with her children and so she is teaching science.


April 28th, 2014
1:27 pm

As a teacher, please don’t stress out over teacher appreciation day. It shouldn’t be the parents’ responsibility to show teachers they are appreciated. Let your kids show their teachers that they appreciate them. Tell your kids about the day, suggest ideas and then back off. It should be up to them to do the rest. It’s much more meaningful to have a student give you something he/she made, than have a parent dig into their pocket for a token purchased by a room mom.


April 28th, 2014
1:28 pm

@misnandine, when I entered the teaching field in the 90s it was a heck of a lot different that it is today. Acutally, I don’t consider my job to be low paying, just not high paying. Nope, I never knew it would be this stressful. It’s more stressful today than it was 15 years ago. I just told my daughter I don’t advise her to even consider this career. Also, we do have Crossing Guards Week, and during teacher appreciation week lunch ladies are also given gifts because they work with the students as well. Many school systems do something for the bus drivers too. However, serving food and teaching kids is totally different, don’t you think?


April 28th, 2014
2:06 pm

Since MJG and RJ have given their perspectives my comments may only reinforce. I started teaching in 1973 in this same place. There is NOTHING the same other than the poverty, but even it is of a different nature. In fact, I am the only one here from that era, and in a month I will also be gone. I will, however, keep advocating for sanity, for responsibility, and for ending the intrusion in education by those who know so little.

You Need Real Job

April 28th, 2014
2:18 pm

Theresa – you need to find a REAL full time job. Your life will be so different.


April 28th, 2014
2:50 pm

It doesn’t bother me that it’s in May, you have to shop one way or the other if you are buying for the teachers..My two have always given to teachers, bus driver and lunch staff every year..They both usually both go with me and pick out what they would like for the them..

Theresa, try not to stress over this, since you have so much other stuff to worry about..


April 28th, 2014
3:21 pm

Just did a quick google search and found National Nurses Day and National CPA day – not only is there an Administrative Professional day, but there is also Boss’s day. I’m sure I could find more if I looked.


April 28th, 2014
3:57 pm

Yeah, I think there are lots of these days. The one for teachers is just noticed by more people — seems teachers manage to touch of lot of our lives on an ongoing basis :). If it’s left largely up to the kids to show their appreciation through notes and handmade gifts instead of being more about gift cards and parent-organized breakfasts, I think it’s great for both the teachers and the students (it’s good for them to learn to show appreciation). I’m actually surprised that public school teachers can accept gifts of greater value than $5 or so. There’s not a rule against that for state employees?


April 28th, 2014
4:24 pm

@HB…what a GRAND idea…parents asking their children to write THANK YOU NOTES to the teacher for all he or she has done. Appreciation can start when kids are quite small. It would have to be parents who actually remember to write them too…LOL :>/.

Big Taxpayer

April 28th, 2014
4:47 pm

What about Taxpayer Appreciation Day? We pay their salaries, plus! What about the Taxpayers in catlady’s heavy illegal alien community that pay her salary and for the anchor children to go to school so they can lie, cheat, steal and kiss her behind, just to give her hollow thank you notes and cheap bribes.

We have become a nation of takers and moochers that outweigh the contributors.


April 28th, 2014
4:48 pm

HB Seems like the state officials would be poorly served by cracking down on any “largess” of treating the teachers to more than $5, as they take much more money than this in the form of “dinners” and other attempts to influence legislation and business!

I might also question why state legislators per diem is $173 per day, and they have to submit no evidence? As I recall, the AJC looked at some of the claims from some of the legislators that were clearly impossible, apparently so they could collect that extra money for their part-time jobs. Don’t they also get a full year’s credit for their part time work for retirement purposes? Perhaps citizens should start demanding more! I mean, if we REALLY want smaller government?


April 28th, 2014
4:54 pm

Big Taxpayer, 95% of the children I teach are US citizens. Now their parents, I can only speculate. But if you want to go after those who don’t pay income taxes, go after the “big boys” and those who participate in that private school tax writeoff plan. As far as other taxes, those “illegals” pay sales and property taxes already. And most in my area have income taxes taken out of their pay courtesy of the local chicken plant, where the vast majority are employed. In addition, the FICA and SS taxes they pay they will never recoup!

If you want to change the laws, work to do so. If you want everyone to pay their share, start with the laws the Georgia legislature passes, that reward those seeking to get by without paying theirs, in the thousands and millions of dollars.


April 28th, 2014
5:12 pm

Good points, catlady. I’m all for better checks on legislators expenses.

I’m pretty sure federal employees have stricter limits. I know postal workers can’t accept more than small token gifts and no cash tips from people on their routes. I was a federal employee about 10 years ago and interacted with the public a lot. Our office occasionally received small thank you gifts like candy (usually destroyed by the irradiation process, but a lovely gesture), but we could not have accepted cash or gift cards as thank yous or tips.


April 28th, 2014
6:49 pm

We give our postal worker a nice Christmas present, which is more than $5. Usually a gift card too. When we lived in Texas, our postman lived right behind us. I bought him steaks, at the butcher, and delivered them each year too. I appreciate good service.


April 28th, 2014
7:03 pm

@motherjanegoose. As far back as I remember, and I am in my 50s, teachers have complained about low pay and having virtually no respect. I would say I have had about an equal amount of great teachers, as awful teacher, with the majority coming in about average (a C grade if you will). That’s probably the same as any other field in that a small group excels, another group is worthless, and then there is that group in the middle that does what they need to do (not more) in order to keep their jobs.

My point is why would anyone go into this field except for the love and passion of teaching others? I don’t know about any other group that vents more about their job conditions, and I have worked with police officers, medical personnel, and even caseworkers. I am not disputing that teachers are valuable, rather my point is to ask why does this group (and admins) merit an appreciation week over people in other fields? They do get paid, last time I checked.


April 28th, 2014
7:07 pm

@faye – I just read your comments, after I posted. I guess there is an infinite number of people who need to be recognized. I knew about Boss’ day, but not about Nurses day. Geez – meanwhile Hallmark is laughing all the way to the bank. I am holding out for: “Annual Work-at-Home- Sole Proprietor Week” – I’ll wait for the gifts!

@ Catlady

April 28th, 2014
7:24 pm

Re: Taxpayer

Catlady, the uneducated “educator”

Your argument is old and does not add up. Regardless of immigration status, they will NEVER contribute their fair share … NEVER. You can add up every little taxation they pay and it won’t begin to scratch the surface of what they have taken. Those “big boys” pay MORE than their fair share, so you have NO clue what the heck you are talking about. Your livelihood depends on those “big boys” and their on never ending contributions via taxation. Your job depends on illegals, so you are hypocrite and will believe anything!

Don’t bite the hand that feeds you.


@ Catlady

April 28th, 2014
7:28 pm

Teacher Appreciation Week is next week. Good grief, stop your whining and deal with it!

Can’t wait to see the next copy and paste soapbox


April 28th, 2014
8:15 pm

I agree with missnadine that teachers complain more than anyone else about their job conditions, but I don’t hear too many complain about their pay these days. Mostly, they complain that they are not given what they need to teach, or that to great degree even the freedom to teach well. They complain about demands for better results based on standardized tests while being given less control over how they teach. Their vocation is tossed around as a political football and when the latest greatest madated technique fails to result in more kids being able to read, who is held accountable? Teachers, of course. I’m not sure there’s another profession out there right now under attack the way teachers are, so I think it fits that they’re venting the most. Teachers may not have the hardest conditions in their work compared with some other fields, but I don’t ever recall hearing nurses blamed for the failures of our health care system.


April 28th, 2014
8:46 pm

I am somewhat shocked by the nasty comments regarding teacher appreciation week. Is it really that hard to show any appreciation for your kid’s teachers? Appreciation can be shown in many heartfelt ways, such as a kind note or a few cut flowers. Let’s show some support for our children’s teachers. They truly deserve it far and above most other professions. Next to parents, they really are the ones shaping our future!


April 29th, 2014
12:11 am

@catlady, RJ, and MJG: you’ve all explained how different it is these days compared to before. My opinion was that teaching has always been a lower-paying job (below college level of course), and often thankless. If that is a recent phenomenon then why have we been hearing about this for decades? Let me counter and say pretty much everybody’s job is harder than it used to be.

Job cuts, few promotional opportunities, no backfilling of positions (more work for those who are left), 24X7 availability (or just well beyond the typical 9 to 5) … these are just some of the things that those of us outside the teaching world also face. I opted out of the corporate world 5 years ago, but my last few years in the corporate world were much different than back in the 1980s.

stone pony

April 29th, 2014
2:13 pm

My favorite is the School Board Appreciation Week that happens before Teacher Appreciation Week or even Counselor Appreciation Week. I am appalled that a board would congratulate/appreciate themselves over people in the trenches.


April 30th, 2014
8:15 am

Teacher Appreciation Week is not a difficult thing if the school does what our does – Monday: Note for the teacher. Tuesday: Something sweet. Wednesday: A flower or drawing of one. Etc. Etc. The PTA decides what will happen each day, and then we just do that. If you are trying to get one big gift by asking for money from all the parents, that is what makes it difficult. My kid’s room mom is a martyr. Oh, I’ll handle this and that, don’t worry! Then she probably complains about it online like woe is me. Give me a break. Let the PTA decide what will happen, and let each kid’s family decide what to do. If they don’t, then you, as a martyr, decide you have to “make up” for everyone else. That’s not appreciation; that’s pity!