Are you faking the big O to make yourself feel hotter?

According to 2010 report nearly 80 percent of women admitted to having faked an orgasm but a new study published in the Journal of Sexual Archives looks more closely at their reasons why.  This study found that sometimes women faked it to feel more sexually excited and not just to get their husbands off of them.

From USA Today:

“The U.S. study looked at 481 sexually active, straight women with an average age of 20 who weren’t in a committed relationship, and asked why they faked it. Their top four answers:

• Altruistic deceit (making the guy feel better)

• Fear and insecurity (avoiding bad feelings about the experience)

• Elevated arousal (turning herself on)

• Sexual adjournment (getting sex over with)

The first two answers fit traditional thinking about a faked orgasm — that it’s for the man, or a woman’s emotional well-being — but the third shows a new self-determination by women in bed, says study co-author Erin Cooper.”

From The Huffington Post:

“While the two most cited reasons for faking an orgasm seem adhere to expectations, the scope of the study suggests that women fake it as a means to a more pleasurable end, rather than just an end. “What is unique about the Faking Orgasm Scale for Women is that, for the first time, we have quantitative evidence suggesting women may also fake orgasm for far more ’selfish’ reasons, like increasing their own arousal,” wrote Erin Cooper, who co-authored the study, in an email to HuffPost Women. “Deciding to fake orgasm for this motive may have little to nothing to do with a woman’s partner and his sexual experience. I view this strategy as one of the many ‘tools in the toolbox’ women may use to enhance their own sexual experience,” Cooper told us.”

Have you faked the Big O? What were your reasons? Does it help get your more excited, help your man feel more confident or just to help you move on with your day?

18 comments Add your comment


April 1st, 2014
12:33 am

Have I faked it? Yes, but only with someone I don’t care about. Bad decision – he then thought he was the king of the world. With my husband, heck no. He’s very attentive.

Interesting topic…


April 1st, 2014
7:24 am

Yes, I have faked it – and I’m in my 40’s and still fake it every now and then just so it will end. Let’s see what Mother Jane Goose says…


April 1st, 2014
7:46 am

I suspect there are two types of women…those who admit they have faked it, and those who are lying….:)

Too Good

April 1st, 2014
8:44 am

No woman I’ve slept with has ever faked it. And they all have orgasms. Always. I’m that good!

Pizza Guy

April 1st, 2014
8:49 am

I fake it every so often.

Some nights, I am exhausted after work and just want to go home and get some sleep after my current lady companion gets her delight.


April 1st, 2014
8:49 am

I think we all know the truth from “When Harry Met Sally.” Or from when @too good was delusional that time?

elbert chambers

April 1st, 2014
8:49 am

I have faked it too! and I am a man!


April 1st, 2014
8:58 am

I can’t speak for all dudes but I DON’T CARE IF SHE FAKES IT OR NOT. I “do it” only for MY gratification. If she “gets hers” when I “get mine” then that’s ok. If not, that’s ok too.

Cheez Whiz is cheese peeing?

April 1st, 2014
12:53 pm

People fake the big O……Obamacare? Weird

Mr Fuggles

April 1st, 2014
1:06 pm

Rather have her fake the orgasms than faking the cooking and cleaning.


April 1st, 2014
1:25 pm

Women with an average age of 20 have a lot to learn about sex.


April 1st, 2014
2:14 pm

Hi Theresa. Hope you don’t mind, but one of your blogging colleagues isn’t entertaining differing opinions today, so ….

Her topic is Bullying, and after writing a column skeptical of overly-sensitive mommies a few months back—she’s obviously decided to do some penance in today’s edition. (The ultra liberal AJC’s no place to get on the wrong side of THAT crowd, I’m guessing.)

My main point was that decades of palaver on the subject only confirm there is no solution.

Now, about orgasms …


April 1st, 2014
2:25 pm

This is an April Fool’s Day blog, right?

Hawaiian Fantasy

April 1st, 2014
3:22 pm

The big O faked his own birth certificate. Does that count?

Jack ®

April 1st, 2014
6:51 pm

There are no frigid women, only clumsy men.


April 1st, 2014
7:02 pm

I will write this with a “G” rating. My husband and I enjoy every now and then “back door” sessions. Some women like this, some do not. We like it. I will fake The Big O during these sessions because my husband has pretty good staying power and although I enjoy what we are doing and he really loves it, after 20 minutes I cannot go any further so I will encourage him with a Fake O – usually it works and he finishes rather soon. Plus we use toys for the front of me during this time and my natural success rate at achievement is probably around 50%. My husband does not know I am faking it because I can achieve the Big O during these encounters often. Its just after 20 minutes, I can’t take it anymore.


April 2nd, 2014
12:10 am

I have faked excitement/enjoyment to encourage more…um…enthusiastic play. I don’t remember ever faking the O, though. I just tell that I can enjoy without it, which is true. Of course it is much better WITH but that is not easy even with enthusiastic play. *shrug* It is what it is.


April 4th, 2014
7:31 am

I’m faking one right now!