News organizations in search of team policies regarding social media actually found that UGA basketball has team policies regarding sex and dating. Sports Illustrated reported it first but Deadspin put up a copy of the document.
Among the highlights for “Treat women with respect”:
- You don’t own your girlfriend.
- Birth control is your responsibility too.
- Never assault or intimidate a woman.
- Don’t spend all of your energy in the bed all night
- Hicky’s/passion marks should not be ever noticed by coaches
- One. Not two or three girlfriends.
Not widely publicized but you can view in the document is an item that says: No means no, date rape is a serious issue. Also mentioned is to avoid gray areas like orgies.
So I have a couple of viewpoints on this: one as a mother and then also one a college professor who has taught at a large university for the last three years.
On the one hand, you would hope this stuff doesn’t need to be said. Do we need to tell adults not to date rape or have orgies? Do we need to tell young men they don’t own their girlfriends? Should they have to be told that birth control is their responsibility too?
You would hope they would know this. You would hope they know how to behave responsibly and treat women respectfully but the truth of the matter is many of them don’t — and I think that’s true for other college students, not just players. I am glad that someone is giving them this guidance – a constant drumbeat of how to behave.
As a professor, I would find myself saying motherly things to my students. I worry about them just like I do my own kids. I want them to be healthy and happy and to succeed. I want them not to do dumb things academically or socially. Before Christmas breaks and spring breaks I would say to my girls stay in groups, don’t go off alone with boys they have just met, don’t take drinks from people they don’t know. It’s hard not to mother them.
So it’s sad that there has to be a written policy about how to treat others respectfully, but I guess I’m glad that they are on it. I’m glad someone is teaching these young men those lessons.
What do you think: Is it appropriate for a college to have those types of rules? Should the players already know this? Is if for the good of the program or for the development of young men? What role should college educators play in the emotional/social development of the students?