Mean or OK fun? Dad tapes kids falling on ice at school pickup

This video is making the rounds on Facebook. It’s from a dad who is waiting for his daughter at school pick up. He starts video taping on his phone kids slipping and falling on an ice patch near his car. He chuckles through the whole five minutes and likes to try to predict who is going to bite it. About 3.5 minutes in the daughter joins him in the car and also finds it very amusing. The daughter says at the end “We’re kind of bad people.”

I wonder if a mom were sitting there would she would tape it or get out and warn the kids “Hey this is really slippery here. Be careful!” I have no doubt that if i was sitting there I would feel obligated to warn the kids so no one gets hurt.

So what do you think: Bad dad or just clean winter fun? Would a mom have handled it differently? Would all dads tape it or would some dads warn the kids?

49 comments Add your comment

DB

February 20th, 2014
11:55 pm

The dad is a jerk. If it had been his daughter who fell and broke a collarbone or an arm, I wonder if he would think it was that funny? He’d probably sue the school for not clearing the ice . . .

Atlanta Mom

February 21st, 2014
12:01 am

Two minutes was enough for me. I agree with DB. Not so funny if his kid broke something. Bad Dad

Scotty

February 21st, 2014
1:32 am

I only watched about a minute, but that was enough to determine that it was not funny. Kids (or anyone, for that matter) slipping and falling, potentially injuring themselves is not a source of humor.

catlady

February 21st, 2014
6:42 am

This seems pretty mean-spirited. Does he “tickle” his kids,too?

@@

February 21st, 2014
7:34 am

Better question.

Why didn’t the kids standing by the “slip and slide” not warn their fellow students? Why didn’t the school administrator have cones placed around the “slip and slide”?

Kat

February 21st, 2014
7:52 am

I don’t think it’s funny or mean. I think this guy has no life so he’s out filming stuff. Wouldn’t this be grounds for presuming pedophile behavior?

Anton Chigurh

February 21st, 2014
8:10 am

He’s mean. I can call on him, if you like.

Sid

February 21st, 2014
8:14 am

“Wouldn’t this be grounds for presuming pedophile behavior?”

congrats, Theresa! Howard Wolowitz’s mom posted on your blog!

J.

February 21st, 2014
8:15 am

Not funny at all. I have never been a fan of mean-spirited humor that is at unwitting victims’ expense. Why has it become necessary for people to film others being embarrassed or getting hurt and then posting it for the world to see? Are the number of “likes” or followers they have so important?

WitchyWoman

February 21st, 2014
8:25 am

@ J. You hit the nail on the head. That is exactly why they do it. There was just an article on CNN I think about how people are more interested in their followers and likes on their social media than in real life. They think it makes them famous or popular. I think all it makes them is sad because they think those people are their real friends and sometimes even refer to them as their family.

xxx

February 21st, 2014
9:34 am

Dad is the typcial self absorbed jackhole that has become increasingly more populous in this country. Getting hits on YouTube or likes or other phony badges on socail media has started to be percieved as actual accomplishments. Some of today’s kids are going to be shocked when they realize social media garbage doesn’t correlate into any desrieable job skills. Idiots like this Dad are responsible for that perception. Now, had the kid been hurt and someone tapped the Dad being told at the emergency room that he had no health insurenace and had to pay out of pocket beore services were rendered- THAT would be funny!

A

February 21st, 2014
9:41 am

The dad is an AH of the worst sort. He was probably a bully when he was younger..still is in my opinion.

thekimmer

February 21st, 2014
9:56 am

just me

February 21st, 2014
10:01 am

I think it was funny. I would have sat back and laughed too.

Everyone who’s saying ‘would he laugh if a kid got hurt?’, well let’s not pretend that you guys would have gotten out of your car and desalted the walk. You would’ve just said “aww, poor things. They should be careful” and then drove off towards home.

w

February 21st, 2014
10:08 am

Funny.
The kids in the video are even laughing at it. (and by “it” I mean themselves and their friends).
There are some uptight people posting in this thread.

jarvis

February 21st, 2014
10:20 am

Mean and funny. The two aren’t mutually exclusive.
Sure the guy is kind of an a-hole, but a-holes are funny.

Don’t get me wrong, I hope something terrible happens to him.

LizBeth

February 21st, 2014
10:29 am

Well, I don’t believe falling is ever funny. It’s good to have a sense of humor if you weren’t hurt. But it shouldn’t be exploited by others to make fun of you.

yuki

February 21st, 2014
10:29 am

I thought it was funny

LizBeth

February 21st, 2014
10:34 am

Secretly filming. And laughing at others. Yeah, there’s a word for that.

jarvis

February 21st, 2014
10:36 am

“Well, I don’t believe falling is ever funny.”

I would be on the far opposite of this belief.

Scooby

February 21st, 2014
10:51 am

It was funny. @LizBeth how was he “exploiting” anyone? The kids in the video were not even that recognizable. There were no names attached. The group of kids that were standing by the patch of ice for most of the video didn’t warn anyone about it. If I were the one in the car I’m sure I would have been highly entertained, I may not have thought to film it but most definitely would have been laughing.

LizBeth

February 21st, 2014
10:54 am

So, Theresa’s question is, Jarvis and Scooby, “Are you a father or a mother?”

Casey

February 21st, 2014
11:29 am

you’re all a bunch of pyscos if you think this guy is a pedophile or is being a creep, he was picking his kids of from school and took his phone out PROBABLY so share a laugh with his daughter, who thought it was funny enough to share online. i feel bad for all of your children if you’re one of the parents on here saying this is “mean” and “creepy” and “not funny”, i know my dad would be exactly the type to video tape ME falling down and put it on the internet. you should all just pull your kids out of school now before anyone ever gets a clip of them falling, it could REALLY have some long term effects ;)

Casey

February 21st, 2014
11:45 am

@LizBeth clearly has some daddy isssues of her own. no one is making fun of any of these kids, each of them laughed when they got up and im pretty sure no one was seriously injured. and no one is named by name? it doesnt matter is anyone here is a father or a mother, everyone here was once a high schooler and was embarrassed and it probably made them a better person. i dont think anyone would agree that this took a psychological tole on any of these kids and clearly none of them were physically injured. they were gonna slip and fall on ice whether or not he had his camera out, so just because he turned it into something funny (because clearly everyone was laughing, including the kids) hes a bad guy? i feel bad for your children. just because YOU would feel embarrassed if someone did this to you, doesn’t mean the rest of the world doesn’t have a sense of humor either. Youre crazy for taking a joke and making it into being someone creepy. you’re the type of person that makes this world less enjoyable.

Maude

February 21st, 2014
12:02 pm

This man is either very stupid or very inmature. How any adult can sit and watch kids fall and not do anything to warn them is sick. Filming other peoples children is wrong and the fact that he also their pictures out there for all to see. I hope the parents of the children can sue him.

LizBeth

February 21st, 2014
12:09 pm

Actually, bullying issues. So, yes, I take it seriously. We, as a society, can do better by our kids. Making fun of kids, even without names, is still making fun, and it perpetuates cycles of emotional abuse in our culture. If you want a better society, learn how to support “even the least of these.”

just me

February 21st, 2014
12:23 pm

LizBeth, because of your bullying scars, you might be hyper aware/sensitive to a topics such as this. IE, things that are pretty lame and tame to one person, you may find hurtful because of your past experiences. I’m so sorry you were bullied, but consider that your pain might be causing YOU to point fingers at people and make accusations. We all have different standards of what is bullying, however, what rings true of every bully is their motivation. Their intent to hurt. I don’t think that this was this father’s intention. He was simply having a good chuckle.

jarvis

February 21st, 2014
12:48 pm

@Maude, so them for what? What exactly are the damages here?

LizBeth

February 21st, 2014
12:50 pm

@ just me. A “good chuckle” is it happening once, and then him getting out to help, to make sure no one else got hurt. Ms. Giarrusso posted this because it made her uncomfortable, just as it does others on this site, not just me. I’m just more adamant about it because I’ve seen emotional abuse happen to many children and what comes from it. It can take subtle forms, and this is one.

Scooby

February 21st, 2014
1:04 pm

@LizBeth if you need to know, I’m a mother. As for Ms Giarrusso, she needn’t worry about her children falling if they slip on ice. They’ve been wrapped in cotton since the moment of birth. And I’m not sure how a radom guy laughing at kids slipping on the ice while sitting in his car constitutes “bullying” or “emotional abuse”.

just saying

February 21st, 2014
1:36 pm

I cannot believe some responses. Seriously? Warn the kids? If the kids were 2 or 3 yr. old I would probably warn them because they need to be taught at that age to look where they are going. But these kids? They are teens, most likely having sex, smoking, etc. You want to tell them to watch out for ice when there is snow around? You make me laugh – you are way too paranoid. Let them figure things out on their own. Put some responsibility on their shoulders.

I grew up in Europe and I look at it as a good, old fashion winter fun. We did this every winter while walking to/from school. Shocking – all by ourselves! At 7 years old I walked to/from school and took a city bus to after school activities.

Not sure about taping though.

missnadine

February 21st, 2014
2:08 pm

oh please. That’s funny as hell.

missnadine

February 21st, 2014
2:10 pm

That said, it was too much at 5+ minutes, and 1-2 minutes would have been enough. If you ever lived in a very cold place you would know that this is a kind of sport in itself.

beth

February 21st, 2014
2:31 pm

America’s Funniest Home videos has made laughing at people falling down, screwing up, and practical joking a national past time.. not to mention a ton of money doing it. No one was hurt. No one was bleeding. This was NOT bullying. If they were getting up injured and crying, I might feel differently. But they were laughing at themselves… and that’s a good thing. Sometimes, falling down ***IS*** funny!! It’s how you get up and carry on that matters most.

HB

February 21st, 2014
4:04 pm

I’ve lived in a very cold place — it’s not a sport and this guy is a jerk. Yes, it’s sometimes funny to unexpectedly see someone fall and they’re not hurt. What’s not funny is to sit and wait for people to fall in a place where you know they will without trying to prevent it. And then record it! And post it online! A good dad in a cold region would have gotten sand out of the trunk (everyone I knew had it) and spread it around. And that would not be babying the kids — a decent person sitting and waiting would do the same for adults walking by.

missnadine

February 21st, 2014
5:05 pm

HB – I thought, for a couple of minutes, and with his kid in the car, that it was funny, maybe because it reminded me of laughing (and being laughed at) when I was that age. Then again, I would have been 14, not a 30-something parent with a kid in the car. So I see both sides. I still think a lot of parents get way too excited about something like this, as that has been a funny part of living in northern areas for the longest time. Times are different and obviously the online part is something we never had to deal with. People post all kinds of stuff, and I can’t say I would have done things differently had I had those choices back in 1976, when I was 14. I think the length of the video is a bit extreme, and I can’t imagine doing what he did for 6 minutes.

Beth makes some great points in her post. She is absolutely right that events like this is what made shows like America’s Funniest Videos a “family-friendly” show for over a decade. As a parent with adult-age children (who are at this moment childless), I shudder to think of our next generation of leaders, a bunch of whiney, self-indulgent, self-important and entitled people that got a medal for just showing up and being average. I only hope my kids teach their kids that falling down, and getting up, is what makes us stronger. I think you just offended by my remarks in earlier posts, so you’ve just decided to hit back anytime I write something.

Unless you grew up in a totally insulated area, falling down, getting up, laughing about, and moving forward was a part of the landscape.

HB

February 21st, 2014
5:26 pm

Oh sweetie, I really don’t give you or your previous comments that much thought. I disagreed with what you and others said based on my experiences living in cold places. And I disagree with Beth’s comparison. Those home videos usually caught unexpected falls. People didn’t lie in wait with a camera for someone to fall in a dangerous spot and hopefully not get hurt. I think kids can learn to get up and brush themselves off AND to show empathy and concern for others’ well-being. I shudder to think that our next generation of leaders could be people who sit back and wait for something bad to happen instead of helping others or people who use others’ mishaps to gain attention instead of having their own accomplishments that are worth notice.

missnadine

February 21st, 2014
6:20 pm

Oh sweetie – Your comments: “Those home videos usually caught unexpected falls. People didn’t lie in wait with a camera for someone to fall in a dangerous spot and hopefully not get hurt.” That is pretty much exactly what they did, except hoping that someone got hurt. People usually don’t want that,and I doubt this guy wanted that either.

HB

February 21st, 2014
6:36 pm

The home videos I recall appeared to be unexpected falls (e.g. performance was being taped and someone fell off the stage or bride and groom fall over while dancing), and I am certain the people in the videos consented for them to be aired. I didn’t watch regularly, though, so if you are correct that most were people lying in wait for an unknowing person to stumble upon a dangerous situation, I’d argue that wasn’t funny either.

LizBeth

February 21st, 2014
10:00 pm

Actually, this guy did want people to fall. Although he points out that it must have hurt when people did, he’s disappointed when they don’t fall. That’s why this is a problem—his only goal is to get as much footage of kids falling as possible so he can post it. This is not the same as watching someone fall on AFV and then believing they didn’t get hurt so that you won’t feel badly—that’s empathy. This guy is so narcissistic, his empathy is a pretense to hide from himself. Because he knows he’s wrong to do what he’s doing.

I dropped my fried twinkie

February 22nd, 2014
12:45 am

You think it was MEAN? Well, America’s Funniest Home Videos has been paying thousands of dollars for many years for MEAN Videos and people keep watching that show.
Most of you seem like Wussies. Life isn’t easy and sweet or fair all the time. You wonder why this country is going down the toilet? It is because of all you PC life should be fair and everybody gets a trophy crowd.

just me

February 22nd, 2014
2:05 am

In conclusion, posters please know that if I see you slip on a patch of ice, generally my first instinct is too gasp and reach out. But if I see you’re safe and just a little dazed, I’m going to laugh my tail off.

beth

February 22nd, 2014
12:05 pm

@Lizbeth: Sheesh… It’s not like the guy secretly arrived early and poured water on the sidewalk! That would be mean and intentional. He just happened to be there when this naturally occurring event (an icy sidewalk) took place. (aka… it was UNEXPECTED). This was not 3 year olds, or 90 year olds, or pregnant women. They were healthy active teens and NONE of them were injured. Of course, we all know it’s “wrong” to laugh at anyone when they fall down, that was part of the draw of AFV. Don’t we all chuckle when the oblivious texter falls into the mall water fountain? Personally, I think AFV would totally accept this man’s video for their show. And I’m sure millions would laugh at it! LOL. Just because YOU don’t think it’s funny, doesn’t mean this man is some sort of evil person. Like I said, he didn’t cause or create the situation in any way, he just happened to be there and caught what would have naturally occurred on video.

missnadine

February 22nd, 2014
1:06 pm

Nice to see that there are others who don’t find this terrible. Sheessh is right.

cgatlanta

February 22nd, 2014
2:33 pm

Liz, by over using “bulling”, you dilute its meaning. Bravo and watch your step.

April

February 22nd, 2014
3:09 pm

I have never thought the segments on America’s Funniest Videos that featured people falling or having similar accidents are funny. I do not understand why that is funny. I actually have a really good sense of humor and am a pretty laid back parent, but laughing at the misfortune of others is not funny. It is mean. I am glad the kids who fell were able to laugh it off – the ability to laugh at yourself is important. The man filming is just mean.

HB

February 22nd, 2014
3:30 pm

Beth, the first fall or two (which he likely saw before he turned on the camera) would be unexpected. In the video, he clearly knew it was a slick spot, expected (and rooted for) people to fall, and recorded them instead of trying to prevent them from possibly being hurt. That’s jerk behavior.

Wabbit

February 23rd, 2014
6:05 pm

Awesome! If the kids were bright enough to pay attention what was going on in front of them only one kid would have fallen!

Rod

February 24th, 2014
2:22 pm

Shame on you Theresa. Your comment: “Would a mom have handled it differently? Would all dads tape it or would some dads warn the kids?” tells alot about you.

You assume Moms wouldn’t do this and Dads would. That’s an extremely SEXIST point of view. Maybe your point is that your husband would do it so you think other men would as well. You need to discuss this opinion with your husband instead of insulting other men.