I have been under some stress taking care of the kids alone (Michael is working from all over the globe and is in and out), trying to get the house ready to sell and trying to find right schools in New Jersey for my kids. (I need algebra in the sixth grade for Walsh and geometry in the eighth-grade for Rose.) So I’ve been working on stress-relief tools such as deep breathing, muscle relaxation and meditation.
You’re supposed to find a “happy place” to think about to help you relax. It makes me think of Peach in “Finding Nemo” when she’s yelling “find a happy place, find a happy place.” (See the clip above.) Here are the basic steps to this relaxation technique.
I’ve had a terrible time coming up with a “happy place” that I find truly relaxing.
I was trying to figure one out with a friend and she kept saying maybe the beach or a special place with one of your kids. As written about previously, the beach is just moving your work to a new location. I was saying that I do like bobbing in the waves off of Hilton Head and she said and then you come in and lie in the warm sun. And I say no because if you come to the shore then “they” (meaning the kids) will ask you for things. You have to stay out deep in the water where “they” can’t get to you. I wasn’t having any luck making that imagery work.
Finally she threw out that she went to a Costco the other night when she was mad and she just felt her anger melt away. This made me laugh because I actually find Target extremely relaxing. I like how the aisles are neat and orderly. I like looking at all the new stuff. I always go in the exact same order when I go in the store. I always look at the purses first, then the scarves, then the jewelry. The I go to the nightgowns and then the workout gear and then back through the kids stuff. Then I end up the seasonal stuff and then groceries and then housewares. I just meander. I could spend hours in the Target. (It’s like a casino. There are no clocks or windows so you don’t know how long you’ve been in there.) And I can just feel my body relaxing thinking about meandering through Target.
So apparently Target is my “happy place.” (As long as they don’t lose my personal data.)
So what is you “happy place?” Do you ever do any of these techniques to help you relax?