I was talking to my 40-something friend who is getting divorced about starting to date again. She has been told by other friends that she needs to get the “full Brazilian” when she does start to date because that’s what all the 20-somethings do and that’s what the men expect.
(”The Mindy Project” talked about this very thing last night at the end of the show. I tried to pull the clip but it wasn’t posted yet. I will add if they post the scene.)
My friend thought hard about this. Besides being painful and awfully intrusive, she is worried about what type of message this would send her daughters. She thinks they would notice the change and thinks it would send them a weird message.
The other item is sexual expectations. From what I understand from some men friends who are dating younger women apparently nothing is off the table sexually for many 20-somethings. So are 40-something divorced women who were raised in an entirely different generation supposed to go along with that? Are they allowed to have different dating standards, and if not, can they compete with the 20-somethings?
So what have you experienced: Do 40-something divorcees have to emulate their 20-something competition to find a relationship? Are men willing to accept different standards from older women?
How does this shake out on the other side? What do divorced 40-something men have to do to date 20-something women?