I’m not completely sure it’s real but it’s probably still worth a discussion: A mom supposedly posted a photo of her daughter on Facebook with a sign describing how the child bullied other kids online. The idea being that the post would shame the daughter for her behavior. However, is the mom truly teaching a lesson or just cyberbullying her own daughter? Here are more details from Yahoo Shine.
“The image shows a girl, who appears to be in her early teens, holding a sign and an iPod. The sign reads: “My name is Hailey. I am a kind, caring, smart girl, but I make poor choices with social media. As a punishment, I am selling my iPod and will be donating the money to the charity Beat Bullying, in hopes of changing my behavior as well as bringing awareness to Bullying. Because bullying is wrong.”…
I like that author contacted a family therapist and here’s what she said.
“Family therapist and parenting expert Karen Ruskin praises the mother for taking action and says she sees many parents who have a “not my kid” attitude when it comes to bullying, but she feels this kind of punishment both perpetuates the problem and doesn’t teach a kid about real empathy. “Without realizing it, the mother is actually doing what her daughter did to another child,” she tells Yahoo Shine. “Cyberbullying is psychologically hurting someone using social media. Now you are putting your daughter in a position where she is being shamed.”
“Ruskin says it would be more beneficial for everyone if the daughter went to the victim’s house and apologized face-to-face: “Standing there with a note doesn’t help the other person.” While Ruskin feels that parents who use this type of punishment may mean well, they won’t get the outcome they seek since they are contradicting their own message. “And giving her iPod to charity? I’d rather see her donate her time. One day, I’m certain, the daughter is going to get another iPod.””
So what do you think? What is an apt punishment for cyberbullying? Is the mom bullying her daughter?