Does dad mocking tantrum help or lengthen it? (video)

A dad mocking his daughter’s temper tantrum has become a viral video on  YouTube, with more than 826,000 views at the time of publication.

News 96.5 – Orlando

“The video was posted to YouTube by Kathy Sterner, who writes:

“My 6 year old daughter had been in her room wigging out for about an hour, and there was no talking her down. I was getting fed up, so my husband decided to lighten the mood.

“For the record, she’s not typically a beast child – she’s actually a pretty awesome little kid who was having a rough day.”

The article suggests that the dad was just trying to lighten the mood but you can hear the little girl yelling from the bedroom stop laughing. So my question is does the dad mocking the tantrum help the situation or just lengthen the tantrum? Does it degrade the child (you can’t see her) or is it just a way for parents to release on a frustrating situation without yelling at a kid? Is it all in good fun or mean spirited?

22 comments Add your comment

Randy Rockmart

October 21st, 2013
11:35 am

Wow 2 dad shaming articles in one day! Productive Monday…

catlady

October 21st, 2013
11:39 am

The best way to handle a tantrum is to remove the audience. Remove any weapon that the child might injure itself with, and leave.

I had a kid, years ago, who threw himself on the ground outside at recess because I told him “no!” He was screaming and wailing. As I walked away, another boy, who had tried the same tactics in my room the year before, walked up to him and said, ” You might as well quit. That doesn’t work on her.”

Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

October 21st, 2013
11:58 am

funny catlady

Randy — not shaming dads — I’m asking questions — not giving answers

jarvis

October 21st, 2013
12:10 pm

Mocking, if not always helpful, is always entertaining.
Little turd certainly learned his tantrum was not going to get the disired result.

catlady

October 21st, 2013
12:12 pm

Theresa, I almost LOL with tantrum-throwers who threaten to hold their breath. They, and sometimes their parents, don’t realize that when they faint, their autonomic nervous systems start them breathing again!

catlady

October 21st, 2013
12:14 pm

The older boy, now 35, works in the ministry, and the younger one has his own business as an electrician, so there is hope for everyone.

iRun

October 21st, 2013
12:28 pm

I don’t think it’s a problem. It’s not like she saw him do it. And she’s old enough to understand her behavior is out of control.

My son is 12 but when he acts like a sullen teenager we will mock him and overexaggerate his behavior and it usually makes so he starts fighting giggles so he can stay sullen, but it doesn’t work.

BTW – Dad’s a cutie in that vid.

Rosemond Cult

October 21st, 2013
12:34 pm

I think adults need to act like adults. Can you picture your grandfather mocking your father or mother? Remove everything from their room and have them stay there all day with nothing to do but scream. Eat dinner and go to bed at 630 PM.

jarvis

October 21st, 2013
12:40 pm

@Rosemond Cult, I absolutely could see my grandfather mocking my dad.

lkd

October 21st, 2013
12:46 pm

As a child who was mocked, I say – it is a very bad thing to do. It results in an adult who has no idea when and when not to trust people. Are they telling the truth or mocking me again? I feel it is a form of verbal abuse and should never been done, esp. by an adult! Shame on him.

Real Life

October 21st, 2013
12:57 pm

Two things concerned me: 1) that the parent was copying the tantrum and more importantly 2) that the tantrum was allowed at all. Dad mocking the kid indicated this is not the first time this has occurred. One and done should be the parental motto. One tantrum is enough to last a lifetime—enough tantrums that you feel the need to mock a child having the tantrum tells me that the parents are failing at their job.

K's Mom

October 21st, 2013
1:17 pm

My kids become invisible when they throw tantrums. They can stay in the room with me, but I ignore them 100%. It is amazing how the lack of attention takes the wind out of their sail.

The dad mocking was funny, but it gave the child an audience which was the last thing she needed.

Patrick

October 21st, 2013
1:20 pm

I agree with Real Life. Apparently the little princess in the video has thrown more than one tantrum. I don’t recall ever having a tantrum. My mom told me that when I was 2 or 3, I did throw a tantrum in a grocery store. All she had to do was lean over and say, “If you want to cry, I’ll give you something to cry about.” Tantrum was immediately halted. Tantrum.exe was immediately uninstalled, and the registry was cleared.

xxx

October 21st, 2013
1:40 pm

Percieved mocking doesn’t help or hurt, allowing this to be an acceptable behavior in the house is the problem. Seems like a shortage of adults in the home is the main issue. Grabbing the camera instead of handling the problem is clue#1.

Double Standard

October 21st, 2013
3:08 pm

They seem to be some weak parents. If they had swung that leather belt the first time little princess displayed this unacceptable behavior they would not have to play let’s make a deal with a 6 year old . .

ByteMe

October 21st, 2013
3:17 pm

catlady is right: remove the audience and the tantrum eventually ends, no matter how over-the-top the kid acts while the kid is sitting alone in their room.

Mocking the kid loudly enough that the kid hears isn’t useful. It just extends the tantrum, because the kid knows that people are listening. If you’re going to mock to lighten the mood amongst the adults, do it quietly out of ear-shot of the kids.

Who let the dogs in

October 21st, 2013
6:25 pm

I had to stop watching because that guy kept grabbing his junk. Really sick for him to be tugging on his giggle stick in front of his kids.

Gwinnett Mom

October 21st, 2013
8:37 pm

WHat that girl need is a good whuppin. It how i was raised

@@

October 22nd, 2013
6:05 am

The siblings (male) were enjoying the entertainment brought on by their sister’s tantrum. That’s probably what had her screeching. Chances are when she has her next one, it’ll be the brother(s) that mock her and the parents won’t have to.

My approach is to ignore. I can’t recall my daughter ever throwing a tantrum. I have, however, told my niece(s) to ENJOY their tantrum in a separate room or outside and to rejoin the rest of us when it’s over.

TallMom

October 22nd, 2013
6:28 am

I’m baffled a SIX YEAR OLD was having an hour + long tantrum. I thought tantrums were very young children…children who don’t yet have the vocabulary/language skills to convey their frustrations.

I don’t necessarily agree with mocking her. Especially not when she obviously knows her dad is doing it. Her parents should probably be spending that time figuring out why in the heck a six year old is still having tantrums at her age….infrequent or not, it’s not normal.

J

October 22nd, 2013
8:01 am

The inappropriateness of a 6-year-old child throwing a tantrum aside, when did it become okay for parents (or anyone) to post private family “business” on youtube for the whole world to see? What kind of message are we sending to our kids when we do something like this instead of handling it within our families? I don’t even watch things like this because it feels like I am privy to things I should not be.

commoncents

October 22nd, 2013
9:34 am

the girl was probably upset the pictures on the wall are crooked