Do you drive long distances alone with your kids?

Michael had business in New York, but I still wanted to meet my parents in Santa Fe, N.M. for fall break. We also wanted to hit the Albuquerque Balloon Fiesta along the way, but that meant I had to drive alone with three kids about 420 miles (plus 63 miles later than night  to Santa Fe.)

According to Google maps Albuquerque is about 6.5 hours away if you go through the steep mountains of the Tonto National Forest, which I wasn’t going to do. I added about  30 minutes to the trip heading straight up 17 to Flagstaff and then taking 40 east (through Winslow, Arizona, for the Eagles fans out there) to Albuquerque.

My plan was to leave by 7 a.m. get to Albuquerque for the night session of the balloon fiesta and then continue our drive after 9 p.m. to Santa Fe. (I lost an hour crossing the state line because Arizona doesn’t observe daylights savings time.)

It took us 8.5 hours instead of 7 but that’s reasonable with stops to pee, eat and get gas.

Coming back was the problem. We did both parts of the trip in one shot and then with stops we ended up being the car for 11 hours!

I had never driven the kids by myself anywhere of any great distance. I am usually the relief driver for Michael only stepping in when he is just exhausted or wants a break before a second shift of driving.

The longest trip I had taken to date was with the kids to Las Vegas to meet Michael at the Mandalay Bay, where he was staying on business. But that is much shorter trip – only 4.5 hours.

It’s hard for people on the East Coast who are used to driving up I-95 to imagine the desolation out West even on major highways.  It’s often desert, no towns and often no cell towers. That is a little scary being a woman alone with three kids.

Even though there are major highways between Phoenix and Albuquerque, there are still some very lonely gas stations and rest stops. In two instances on the trip I rushed the kids out of gas station or gas station parking lot because I didn’t like the vibe.

The first situation was a kind of crazy-acting, ill-kept man probably in his 40s who looked he was in his 60s driving a van with no windows. Call it my Scooby-Doo training, but I’m steering clear of men with vans. I hurried the kids out of the empty gas station past the van into the car.

The second incident was a rough-looking lady carrying multiple purses. (Is she robbing people? Why did she have multiple purses? And she kept circling around us while I was getting gas. It was odd and I got out of there.) My kids were just completely unaware of their environment and didn’t understand why I was shooing them into the car quickly.

I made them stay together in public restrooms in truck stops and rest stops. Sorry Walsh, it’s the ladies room for you when Dad’s not with us.

Have you driven your kids alone on long trips? Do you feel more vulnerable as a woman doing this than when you are with your husband? Would being out West make a difference versus heading up I-95, which is through fairly dense populations? Do you watch out for off people in truck stops and rest stops? What is a reasonable distance for you to drive alone with your kids?

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Long time listener, first time poster

October 14th, 2013
10:40 pm

I don’t think women should be driving at all, let alone with kids in the car.

A reader

October 14th, 2013
11:43 pm

Wow. Get over yourself. My X abandoned us so a solo trip with my daughter is the only way we get anywhere. I only stop at gas stations to get gas — I stop at fast food to pee. A reasonable distance for me to drive alone with my daughter is HOWEVER LONG IT TAKES! That is life.

I can’t wait for you to post a blog about having to talk to the plumber or car mechanic without your husband by your side. However will you survive?? (rolling eyes))

FCM

October 15th, 2013
3:41 am

Walsh is too old for the Ladies room. Have him look in the mens, if it is clear go in. You stand outside it if you feel you must.

Your kids may not be aware of their surroundings. You need to teach them to be, it is a life skill. Did you explain in the car why you rushed them?

malleesmom

October 15th, 2013
5:03 am

I agree with FCM.

Who let the dogs in

October 15th, 2013
5:15 am

Wow……Way to emasculate your son. Does your husband know you are raising your son as a daughter? Does your son know he is being raised as a daughter?

You describe these people and assume they have criminal or unsavory intents. Do you really know this, or is this part of your suburban white house wife paranoia?

I feel bad for your son. Somethings you can undo. This is one of them.

shaggy

October 15th, 2013
5:54 am

LOL, LOL about the purse lady.
You have been out west, in the desert, all of this time and are just now noticing desert rats? I love talking to the desert rats. You learn so much about the area. Hell, they are part of the scenery to me when I travel out there…adds character. That guy in the van was probably the mayor, chief of police, and local UFO expert of that little piece of dried up heaven.
You should go to Clayton, NM and stop in at the Rabbit Ear Cafe. You would likely see purse lady, or many of her kindred brothers and sisters, come in for some hearty grub and some of the best coffee (not that latte crap either) ever.

About Walsh, just how long are you going to take him in the ladies room. That is just creepy at his age.

Tee Miller

October 15th, 2013
6:31 am

This really hits home. My daughter has three kids. I fly out to Texas and drive with her back to Georgia when she comes to visit. Even here in the East, there are stretches in Alabama and Mississippi of pretty deserted roads. Did you ever think about a car breakdown in such areas? Cell phones don’t always work.

My husband just completed a 4,000 mile drive from Georgia to the Grand Canyon and back the southern route through Texas from El Paso to San Antonio and so forth. I refused to let HIM drive that by himself. Hundreds of miles of almost nothing. My brother went with him. (They needed to deliver a car to family members — not a pleasure trip per se.)

Naive people can minimize the dangers, but when you encounter them, what will you do? Protect children AND adults!

Sk8ing Momma

October 15th, 2013
6:49 am

**Have you driven your kids alone on long trips?**
Yes, I’ve driven solo from Atlanta to Washington, DC with 4 kids; however, we stopped in Charlotte for a night. We wanted to tour the science museum there. I’ve also driven R/T between Atlanta and Raleigh, NC; one-way is only a 6 hour drive.

**Do you feel more vulnerable as a woman doing this than when you are with your husband?**
Yes, I take precautionary measures, ex. no driving at night.

**Would being out West make a difference versus heading up I-95, which is through fairly dense populations?**
Not really. I’m from Los Angeles, and I’m familiar with the Interstates out west. I’ve driven from Los Angeles to New Orleans many times. I find the scenery much better out west than on the east coast.

**Do you watch out for off people in truck stops and rest stops?**
Absolutely, just as I do anywhere.

**What is a reasonable distance for you to drive alone with your kids?**
Six hours is my limit…I get too sleepy/tired after 6 hours. If I didn’t get tired, I’d happily drive fo longer.

motherjanegoose

October 15th, 2013
7:03 am

I travel all the time by myself. In the city and in the country…with no cell or GPS service.

Did not travel often with the kids alone. Usually 7-8 hours was the limit as they would get on each other’s nerves and then I could not concentrate. I remember once, my sister went with us and she asked if the kids were good travelers. I said, ” for about 4 hours and then it goes downhill.” She was amazed that I nailed it and we had to stop for a break. Back then we actually played car games and read books…no technology to entertain anyone.

My son had a rotation in New Mexico, just about a year ago. THAT is a long way from GA. My husband drove out there with him and flew back. He was there for 6 weeks. I drove over from ABQ to see in him, after I spoke at a state conference. It was a pretty drive but remote at times. I wanted him to have some company in the car so I told him to ask a friend and we would fly them back but no one was interested. Thus, Dad went along. He had not driven that part of the country, so it was new to him.

I also use the RR at fast food places ( I always buy something too as they cannot survive with everyone using their free RR…some places do not allow this and have it locked). I rarely use rest areas when I am alone.

Walsh needs to go to the men’s room. I was at the mall with our neighbor’s son who was 10 and he had to use the restroom. I waited in the hall and said, ” SCREAM your head off if something happens!” NOTHING did. Teaching awareness is good for kids. Knowing they need to read people is an important life skill. LOL sometimes I do not do a good job of reading people. Sometimes others here do a terrible job of reading me too!

Mayhem

October 15th, 2013
7:16 am

Oh Theresa, what a life of paranoia you live. You are teaching your kids to be totally afraid of EVERYTHING. you are also pre-judging a book by its cover. You have no idea about that man in the van, or his situation. There are so many vans without windows out there. Do you avoid all of them??

Maybe the lady with multiple purses was holding someone else’s purse while they went to the bathroom. Again, you don’t know her situation, but you instantly got scared, and frightened your kids. Because of a woman with extra purses. Geez…….

Truck stops are probably the safest places to be when on the road. Truckers are your friends,and will help out in an emergency. I know this as it happened to me.

And let Walsh grow up and to go the men’s room alone. You can stand outside.

You are an extremely paranoid woman. You are passing those paranoias down to your kids. You are doing them a huge disservice. No one wants YOUR kids. You are not being targeted.

Instead, start enjoying life and all it has to offer.

Me

October 15th, 2013
7:16 am

The answer to your question is “yes”. Geez. We’ve both driven long distances with with kids when the spouse, for whatever reason, was unable to make the trip. Wifey has driven from ATL to Detroit (original down-river home for her); she has driven to FL to visit her parents and to Virginia to visit a neice – all without me being along. In addition to cell phones, all of our vehicles have satellite communication, i.e. BMW Assist so “Big Brother” in this case isn’t a bad thing. Wifey is, however, street wise, a red head, Irish, and she is armed. Should someone choose to commit “sucicide by Wifey” then they had it coming.
I do think the whole bathroom portion could have been retracted but, since you chose to add it, then stop at a restroom in which you find some level of “comfort” so the poor kid can use the restroom of his gender.

Resistance

October 15th, 2013
7:21 am

If the alternative is subjecting you and your children to gate rape courtesy of the pedophiles at the TSA, then yes, by all means, drive.

Being safe is about being aware. If the law allows, carry a weapon with you. Carry a cell phone with you. Behave when you travel as if you “own” the road and your surroundings. Attitude goes farther than just being a man – plenty of men who carry themselves like victims become them too.

motherjanegoose

October 15th, 2013
7:30 am

@ Resistance…really? I fly all the time and have not seen much of that at the airports.

I will agree that many people here in ATL feel they own the road and can do whatever they wish.
Including the red Corolla who came right over into my lane on the downtown connector. I swerved into the HOV lane and am lucky no one was there. REALLY rattled me.

LizBeth

October 15th, 2013
7:57 am

As per Walsh—A restroom’s a restroom. It’s only scary because it says “women” on it and the meaning people put on that. I’d tell other people who worry about his masculinity to buzz off (so to speak). Safety before cultural traditions. Demanding others adhere to their idea of gender roles is what is unhealthy. If Walsh wants to use the men’s, stand outside until he’s done and require him to stand just inside or outside the door at the women’s. That’s how we handled it as our kids got older.

Annie

October 15th, 2013
7:57 am

Wow, just wow! You have taken your paranoia to new heights that I never considered possible.

You are ruining your children, slowly but surely! Walsh needs to use the men’s room – making him use the women’s room is just creepy. Your kids need to be open to accept all people and not judge them based on appearance alone, as you do. You don’t know the background of anyone, where they’ve been, where they’re going. A quick look up & down and, bam, you’ve got them all figured out. Not the most Christian attitude to have towards your fellow man.

I do have to laugh at the thought of anyone who spotted you on your trip and later getting to tell their loved ones about the crazy woman who dragged her almost teenage son into the ladies room with her!

wAAAAHHHH!

October 15th, 2013
8:00 am

Do you whine so incessantly about everything in your life? Good God, I would have abandoned you long ago for an adult. I bet you can be talked into anything.

justmy2cents

October 15th, 2013
8:03 am

Sure have- it is no big deal. 13 hours is usually my limit before I decide it is time to stop for the night/day. No, I do not feel vulnerable. I have common sense, awareness of my surroundings, and a concealed carry weapon. By your logic, a single mother should never travel with her kids because she doesn’t have a man with her.

Jaynie

October 15th, 2013
8:10 am

I take all four of my grandchildren on trips by myself all the time. I am careful and know the routes I am going to take before I ever leave. I do not make my grandsons (10 & 13) go into the women’s restroom. I do make them open the door and check to make sure if it is reasonably clean and that no one is just hanging around in the restroom. I usually stop about every two hours for a five minute break, just to get everyone out of the car and stretching their legs. I think truck stops can be a good place to stop, however, while most long haul drivers are great people, not all of them are. You should be aware of the people around you and your surroundings at all times. If an individual makes you uncomfortable, you are right to avoid that individual. Common sense is all you need. I don’t think having a man with you makes you necessarily safer. Also, you need to learn to change a tire on any vehicle you drive.

I do not use rest stops along the interstate much and I never use them after dark.

Atlanta Mom

October 15th, 2013
8:33 am

Once again, you can go through life scared of everything, or you can go through life and enjoy it.
I traveled from ATL to Chicago with my three children on a regular basis. I was glad that I had a cell phone, but never used it.
You should know that even when you don’t have “towers” on your phone, often you can send a text . So, if you’re out there in the middle of nowhere and need help, text a friend to make the call for you.

Blue Fish in a Red Lake

October 15th, 2013
8:33 am

If your instincts tell you that you should be moving along, then you should be moving along. Blunted as they are by modern life, they are still there for a reason. There’s nothing to be gained by sticking around in a situation that makes you uncomfortable.

The restroom – yeah, probably would have let him use the mens room and just waited outside, and had him wait right outside the ladies room for the rest of the family.

I don’t do distance driving that well, the longest I’ve driven with just me and the kids is about 4 hours. Longer driving trips have been with the whole family so there were other drivers.

beth

October 15th, 2013
9:00 am

Yes, I’ve driven from Georgia to Ohio and from Georgia to Maryland with just me and the kids (and 2 dogs). Both were 12-13 hour trips and both went well. I have driven similar distances by myself many times, but only twice with my kids. I feel as though I am capable of figuring out any problems that may arise and do not feel any more vulnerable because my husband couldn’t be there. Although I will admitt, it is nice to have another adult to talk too on long trips.

Sk8ing Momma

October 15th, 2013
9:21 am

With regard to Walsh having to go to the ladies’ restroom, I *understand* her POV. My husband has run into many unsavory characters and has been propositioned (Grr!!) by men several times in public restrooms — on road trips, at the airport, in public buildings. Creepy things do happen!

Nevertheless, as the mom of an 11.5yo son, I do not take my son in the ladies’ room. (I think I stopped taking him with me a few years ago.) Depending on the location, I just stand at the entrance of the men’s room and make my presence known. :) Btw, I’d feel comfortable walking in in a heartbeat should I feel the need.

FCM

October 15th, 2013
9:21 am

I don’t think we should be doubting TWG’s instincts. If someone creeps you out they creep you out. I have no issue with hustling the kids out if she felt it necessary. We weren’t there.

I did an unscientific poll here at the office. Consensus is that Walsh should be in the Men’s room. Reverse it, if Michael were travelling with the kids would you want him to make Rose use the Men’s room because he felt “uncomfortable” not being able to track her in the Ladies room?

My kids’ father has had to let them go to the ladies. They said he stands out front and told them to scream real loud if they need him. He has said that if they take too long he asks some nice lady (I imagine it would someone like MJG) to just let him know if they need him. Some stranger telling them Dad is asking usually gets them moving.

I do travel alone with my kids. It just means I stay aware of things (like the gas guage or what time I want to be in hotel/my final stop) vs driving. Being male does not mean he can stop all the “bad” stuff from happening better than I. It means we approach it differently….although since he left the military we both travel “loaded and ready” if you know what I am saying.

K's Mom

October 15th, 2013
9:30 am

I used to drive from Auburn, AL to Memphis once every couple of months to visit my parents when I was in college. I was by myself and it was before cell phones. Hwy 78 through Mississippi was not terribly inhabited, but I always made it safe even through the really shady area in Memphis you had to drive through. I also traveled for work for years all sorts of places and it was before GPS. So traveling alone does not scare me.

I do not have to drive too far with my kids very often, but we met my parents at the beach last fall and my husband joined us a few days later.

I guess because I was single for so long, driving alone, even with my little guys, does not scare me.

A

October 15th, 2013
9:59 am

Most of us who are parents now remember not so long ago when we didn’t have cell phones or GPS, so I would think we are a bit less fearful. Back in the day I used to make a 5-hour drive every month or two and didn’t think anything of it. Of course that was before kids, but with all of our lifelines and gadgets we have today, I would think I’d be OK making a solo trek or one with kids. It’s about being smart…only stopping at rest areas with a lot of cars and people, fueling up at larger gas stations with a store/restaurant and just being careful like you would be anywhere in the world.

DB

October 15th, 2013
10:07 am

I’ve spent 25 years driving from Atlanta to my parents (600+ miles away, a 9+ hour drive) with and without kids. Usually with kids, when they were smaller, because my husband often didn’t have the flexibility to leave for a long weekend, etc. It never bothered me, because, basically, I have fairly infinite trust in my ability to take care of myself and figure out how to solve mishaps (i.e., the flat tire in the middle of nowhere — I know how to change a tire, thank you very much, etc.) Also, family always knows where I am — I let my mom know when I’m leaving, and call her or my husband every couple of hours or so from the road to let them know my progress. I also planned breaks — i.e., an outlet mall on the way, a favorite restaurant for lunch, and even a really cool park/playground a few minutes off the highway to give them a chance to blow off a little steam.

At some point, Walsh is going to put his foot down and refuse to go in the ladies room. :-)

Mayhem

October 15th, 2013
10:33 am

Back in the day, my girlfriends and. I would road trip to th beach. We would leave around 10 at night, and drive through the night. Never once did we encounter any problems. This was back when we were in our early 20’s, before kids…

Sk8ing Momma

October 15th, 2013
10:33 am

At some point, Walsh is going to put his foot down and refuse to go in the ladies room. :-)

@DB – Yep!!!

WitchyWoman

October 15th, 2013
11:19 am

I agree with what some of the others said on the topic of creepy people. If someone skeeves you out then by all means avoid them and make the kids hustle to get out of their. Shoot there have been people in the grocery store parking lot that have given me the creeps so I get that.

As for Walsh in the ladies room. I TOTALLY understand, but the truth is that he has to learn to go to the men’s by himself. Eventually other women are going to start saying something when there is a teenaged boy standing in there with them. Like some people have said, have him check first. Then you stand at the door. My husband does this for our daughter. He gives her 3 minutes to use it and he asks how she is doing every 30 second or so. Most women know that he must have a kid in there and they just smile or in some cases laugh when he keeps saying “Are you OK?” or “Done yet?”

catlady

October 15th, 2013
12:08 pm

Lots of great advice here, Theresa. R u listening?

catmom

October 15th, 2013
12:08 pm

I can’t remember how old Walsh is (elementary school? middle school?), but he’s too old to be in a ladies room. It makes me uncomfortable when I visit a ladies room and see boys in there who are older than, say, toddler/pre-school age. Has he said anything about not wanting to go in there? Maybe he’s been brainwashed by your paranoia.

Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

October 15th, 2013
12:25 pm

Hey guys — Walsh is 10 — it really depends on the location on the bathroom situation — if it’s a small bathroom and I can stand outside and wait then I will and have — but usually if you’ve been driving you all have to go and I can’t be in one bathroom and him in the other alone — also don’t want him waiting in a truck stop outside of the bathroom alone — if I had two boys as described above I would be far more likely to send them in together — a man would be hard-pressed to attack two boys at once — so there is safety in numbers — Walsh hates going in the ladies room — whenever possible he goes in the man — but its just not happening in truck stops on a highway at this point.

I did explain to them hey — that dude was weird and driving a van with no windows — we are in the middle of no where all alone with no weapon other than my purse so jump in and let’s no wait around to see if they are nuts — I explained that the lady had multiple purses was circling us and acting odd —

shaggy — I think desert rats is an apt description — they were some scroungy people — if Michael had been there I would have been fine — but being alone with three kids is different — and it is different out here — these roads — albeit highways — are in the middle of no where — I can’t even get cell or texting service in Santa Fe much less on these roads. (Apparently Spring has no tower on the tribal lands of the Hilton.)

Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

October 15th, 2013
12:27 pm

should say Sprint –

lots of typos there – sorry — I am catching up on my grading from fall break — I have 120 assignments to grade so working fast and making typos — sorry!!!

Erin

October 15th, 2013
1:19 pm

Sorry, but I think any child whose age is in the double-digits is too old to go into the restroom of the opposite sex. Why not skip the truck stops if at all possible and stop at a fast food place? Not saying there’s no chance of weirdness to be found at those, but seriously, the kid’s got to start going to the men’s room at some point.

Becky

October 15th, 2013
1:55 pm

I have driven to DC with two five year old kids and a 16 yr old..I have driven to Tampa a few times with them and we go to KY every year..It’s no big deal..I usually just make sure that my phone is charged and that I have enough gas if we are going thru long stretches of nothingness..

We always pack a cooler of drinks and snacks to take with us..Blankets and other misc. things…I do try to make my two aware of their surroundings..We only stop at rest areas during the day..I have no problems about stopping at a truck stop with them..The boy (11) has been going into the mens room alone for 3-4 years now, but like Sk8ing Momma, I will go in in a heartbeat if I think anything might be amiss..I have gone in before when he was about 8 and I felt like he had been in there to long..Walked my happy a** right on in like I owned the place..If a man has a problem with it, he can deal with it not me..

HB

October 15th, 2013
2:19 pm

Yes, Walsh is too old to have to use the ladies’ room, but this sounds like an unusual situation, and T has do what she thinks is safe. As for those suggesting fast food places, maybe I’m reading T wrong, but it doesn’t sound like that’s always an option on these long stretches of highway in the middle of nowhere. Sounds like there are far fewer facilities to choose from than even on I-16, where fast food exits are 50+ miles apart.

K's Mom

October 15th, 2013
2:20 pm

Pretty much every Target has a family bathroom. They are also generally along the interstate. When my boys get older, I will seek those out when traveling.

When I was pregnant the first time I stopped at every Chick fil A and every McDonald’s between Atlanta and where my parents live and developed a mental list of bathrooms and their cleanliness level and whether or mot they had changing tables. That may sound OCD , but it made traveling by myself with a baby and then 2 babies much easier since we made that trip about every 8 weeks before we moved.

FCM

October 15th, 2013
2:37 pm

TWG I can tell you right now if my DAUGHTERS see your 10 son in the bathroom; they are going to be creeped out and probably ask to call a cop. The minimum they would do is ask him out right why he was in there. Again would you be ok with Rose in the Men’s room if Michael were the only one there?

Kellie

October 15th, 2013
2:45 pm

If I were Teresa I would stop doing this blog. People are so mean. But if you are putting your opinions about everything on the internet for the world to see…I guess you get what you deserve.

Grumps

October 15th, 2013
4:25 pm

@Tee Miller October 15th, 2013 6:31 am

You didn’t *let* you husband make the drive by himself?????? Bad, bad choice of words.

Can you say “whipped”???

No More Tires on Earth!!

October 15th, 2013
5:31 pm

I’m an artist with a gallery and I rely on a van for my business. It happens to be a windowless van by virtue of the deal I got on it. To assume every man in a windowless van is creepy or unsavory is absurd and an insult.

As someone stated, the blog author needs to stop as her inane perspectives are an embarrassment. to all women.

Denise

October 15th, 2013
5:33 pm

@K’s mom…making mental notes about clean bathrooms is not OCD to me. In fact driving from ATL to Louisiana I had a particular store/gas station I stopped at because it was an EXXON station (I had an EXXON card) and the bathroom was always clean and stocked with toilet paper. I got into the habit even though it’s no longer EXXON. (Exit 130 on I-65 South) I used to call my father from the pay phone (pre-cell phone days) and tell him I was at the Happy Store because it was about the half-way mark so he got an idea of when to expect me home. If I got delayed too much I’d call him to let him know. Even when I got to be an adult in my 30s I still called from the Happy Store (not called the Happy Store anymore but it’s a habit) just so Daddy would know what’s what. I drove home alone 90% of the time and it was about safety.

The reason for the story is you do what you have to do or feel you have to do to feel safe and to ensure your family that you are safe. If that means hustling the kids in the car when you see a crazy looking person, then do that. Sorry but we all have biases. We all make right or wrong judgements all the time. ASSumptions. Now, Walsh in the ladies’ room, no. It may make Theresa feel comfortable but what about the little girls that need to go in there? No woman wants a man/boy in the bathroom with their little girl. Walsh’s safety is not the only one that is to be considered (not that I think Walsh is a safety risk; but random mom doesn’t know that).

My sister-in-law-to-be won’t bring the 4 kids to see me alone. She is afraid to be in the car with just them for 7 hours for several reasons – the noise, her concern for safety (what would she do if something happened?), and not wanting to drive that long by herself period. I laugh because I drove home by myself for 22 years but I understand her concerns. I was scared too when I first started out.

K's Mom

October 15th, 2013
7:08 pm

I will also add that there is a family friendly restaurant in our town that I will no longer go to because they do not have changing tables in the men’s rooms. If you have a free kid’s menu, then there had better be a place to change a baby that dad can use.

Denise

October 15th, 2013
7:14 pm

Oh K’s Mom…how silly of you to think that dad’s change babies! They make them, not take care of them!!! /sarcasm. I bet if your hubby put that baby on their clean tables to change his stinky butt there would be an uproar…and a changing table in the men’s room within a week.

Denise

October 15th, 2013
7:15 pm

I mean “dads”. I just committed the grammar mistake that annoys me the most. Off to shoot myself in the pinky toe.

mom2alex&max

October 15th, 2013
7:56 pm

I actually started freaking out a little when my sons started to refuse to go into the ladies room with me. So my good friend gave me this piece of advice: As your son is walking in the bathroom you yell (towards the bathroom): I’ll be RIGHT OUT HERE. If you don’t come out in 5 mins I’m coming in!!! This tells the (decent) men in there that there is a chance mom will come in 5 mins if the kid’s not out and the (potentially not so decent) men in there that son is not alone and that mom is right outside and they only have 5 mins tops.
We’ve never had a problem.

BlondeHoney

October 15th, 2013
8:03 pm

When my boys were young, we often traveled by car but it was both of us together; now they are grown and it is just me and I travel by car by myself at least once a month back home to Florida to see that adorable grandbaby of mine :) 7 hour drive to central FL from Atlanta and doesn’t bother me at all, just take the normal precautions I do anywhere but I can understand why TWG would feel uncomfortable driving where she is…

irisheyes

October 15th, 2013
8:24 pm

Yep, drove 12 hours to Northern Indiana last summer with all four in the car. We didn’t stop a lot. Sure, it was long, but the kids did really well. I’m not some shrinking violet that won’t go anywhere without my man.

(Plus, my husband makes me so nervous when he drives. I’m more comfortable when I’m behind the wheel. :) )

motherjanegoose

October 15th, 2013
8:28 pm

Sort of OFF topic…

Yes, it is all about what you are used to. My neighbor does not drive on the interstate. We live less than 2 miles from it. She will go any other way or wait until her husband can go with her.

@ Denise….I was once in a restroom with a nursing area. A man walked in. We both looked at each other, surprised. He immediately said, “I think you are in the wrong restroom…this is the men’s room.” I replied, “Well I am not sure how many men would need a nursing area but you may be right!” He turned on his heels and walked out. I laughed.

motherjanegoose

October 15th, 2013
8:31 pm

@irisheyes…my husband does not like to ride in the passenger’s seat. He has to drive. It is nuts, since I have driven everywhere from Maine to Alaska and more rental cars than he ever will. Not worth arguing about, that is for sure.