Are you scared of your wife? Does it help you kick bad habits?

President Barack Obama says he is scared of his wife and that fear helped him kick a very bad habit. Here’s the story from AP.

From AP:

“NEW YORK — President Barack Obama says he hasn’t had a smoke in years – thanks in no small part to first lady Michelle Obama.

“Obama was chatting privately with a U.N. official Monday and said he hoped the official had quit smoking. The exchange was caught on camera and aired on CNN.

“After the official appeared to ask Obama about his own cigarette use, Obama said he hadn’t had a cigarette in probably six years.

“He added, with a broad grin, “That’s because I’m scared of my wife.”

“Obama has acknowledged over the years struggling with tobacco use. Mrs. Obama said in 2011 that her husband had finally kicked the habit.

“Monday’s exchange came on the sidelines of the U.N. General Assembly in New York.”

One of our friends who is a newlywed posted this story on Facebook with the comment “Fear is effective #lessonlearned.” But what do you guys think? Is that a good lesson? Does it work?

So my question is: Do you fear your husband or wife and is it a good thing or bad? Are you afraid of disappointing them or being yelled at by them? Has fear of a spouse ever helped you kick a bad habit like smoking, drinking or overeating?

Do you think the President was exaggerating or do you really think he is really afraid of his wife?

50 comments Add your comment

El Kabong

September 25th, 2013
2:12 am

First off, good for the President for not smoking. Whatever his motivation its astounding to me that someone could quit that vile habit while being the POTUS. And I say that as a longtime smoker who has now been quit this time for 8 months.

And I am not so much afraid of my wife as I am not wanting to hear her complaining and b__tching about me smoking. I wouldn’t have married her if I was afraid of her but I sure don’t like to listen to griping. And she knows it is her most effective technique for attempting to alter my behavior.

A

September 25th, 2013
5:43 am

I’m sure the President was joking, but whatever it takes to quit smoking I’m all for. Having lost a family member (a very heavy smoker for years) to lung cancer, I’ve seen the effects first hand. So good on Mr. Obama for quitting no matter the reasons.

Seventh Scent of a Wayward Tire.

September 25th, 2013
6:14 am

I’m scared of Weebels

Show me a man...

September 25th, 2013
6:33 am

…who is NOT scared of his wife, and I will be looking at a man who is NOT married…

Truthpaste

September 25th, 2013
6:38 am

“Obama said he hadn’t had a cigarette in probably six years … “That’s because I’m scared of my wife.” … Mrs. Obama said in 2011 that her husband had finally kicked the habit.”
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POTUS and FLOTUS need to get their stories straight. Either this Is the New Math, or is someone not telling the truth!

Even IF he has stopped smoking, then he has most likely picked up another addictive habit to replace it.

On a final note, I would never even joke about being scared of my spouse. Seem to me there is a whole bunch of truth in his statement, and it is just not targeted to his smoking addiction. You treat yourself right first, then other people will naturally be treated accordingly – not becasue you are “scared”. Self respect.

motherjanegoose

September 25th, 2013
6:50 am

@ show…what? I know plenty of them. I may need Michelle to show me a few techniques around my house. I can get hundreds of children and teachers to follow my lead but someone I am related to cannot seem to replace the toilet paper or paper towel roll.

Me

September 25th, 2013
7:01 am

Scared of my wife? Not at all and I certainly hope she isn’t scared of me. I feel we each have the utmost respect for, and value the opinions of, each other. But, yes, I know men who, for whatever reason, feel somewhat “scared” of their wives. The cynical side of me tends to think they’ve performed some “wrong-doing” and, instead of fearing their wife, actually fear being caught!
As for not smoking, I have now been smoke free for 2 years but it wasn’t the fear of my wife – or even her “concern” (aka nagging) – that led to being smoke free. She was extremely supportive and even tolerated the mood swings that occurred. As for POTUS, I frankly don’t give a damn.

Let's get this straight...

September 25th, 2013
7:13 am

…a wife/husband is NOT “related” to his/her spouse – married to them, yes, but related, NO (unless you live in AL or LA, and maybe even GA, and then you MIGHT be). Your children are “related”, but a spouse is not…

FCM

September 25th, 2013
7:37 am

@Truthpaste….Thank you. I read this yesterday in the paper and thought 2011 – 2013 does not equal 6 years. WAKE UP PEOPLE!

yuki

September 25th, 2013
7:40 am

I saw a clip from 2009 or so where he said, yes I’ve quit but I’ve fallen off the wagon….which leads me to believe he HAS had a cig in the last 6 years. HHMMMM

I was a “social smoker” and quit for good 6 years ago, but I didn’t do it because I was “scared” of my husband.I did it for my kids. I didn’t want them growing up around smoke like I did for the first 10 years or so until my mom quit.

I am a grown woman, I am not scared of my husband. I respect him, but that is not fear. Anyone who is scared of their spouse may have bigger problems. I think Obama was being funny when he said that.

homeschooler

September 25th, 2013
8:21 am

I’m sure he was just being funny. He’s probably scared of her like a lot of men are “scared” of their wives just because he doesn’t want to hear her nagging.
I’m with MJG. My husband is not one bit scared of me. Not in a literal way or a funny way. Very little bothers me so I nag about very little. Low maintenance women don’t have husbands who are “scared” of them.
A little bit of fear might be nice sometimes (like when he takes my good silverware to work and doesn’t bring it back!) but that also comes with sneaking around and/or resentment and I can honestly say I’m certain my husband has never resented me or hidden from me anything from me, such as smoking, spending money etc.. Nor have I ever felt that way about him.

ATL Born and Raised

September 25th, 2013
8:37 am

I don’t think he’s actually frightened of her. I believe he meant that his wife’s opinion of him is more important than smoking a cigarette. And good for him.

DB

September 25th, 2013
8:44 am

Scared? Oh, hell, no. But I’m sure there is a degree of not wishing to disappoint your spouse, especially over something that you KNOW you are in the wrong about.

My husband frightened of me? Hahahahahah . . . .! Me frightened of my husband? Hahahahah . . . . ! the day I am frightened of my husband is the day I file for divorce.

WitchyWoman

September 25th, 2013
9:21 am

Really!? Do you people get nose bleeds up there on those high horses. The man was joking. JOKING. Goodness some of you are waaay too uptight. Yeah, he probably did fall off the wagon, but I also think that he was just exaggerating to make it funny. My god people will turn anything to a rant against the man. Do I like all of his policies..heck no, but that doesn’t mean that I turn everything into a reason to attack him. It makes you look petty and a bit unstable. Do I think he is afraid of his wife..no. Most people in healthy relationships are not afraid of their spouse. Does he respect her and wants to not disappoint her…more than likely yes. I sure most of you feel the same way about your spouses.

MACMAN

September 25th, 2013
9:40 am

@WitchyWoman…talk about uptight! I didn’t see one rant on this topic until I scrolled down to yours lol. Go take a nap, maybe you will wake up on the right side of the bed :)

joe

September 25th, 2013
10:19 am

Take my wife…please! RD

hockey goalie

September 25th, 2013
11:08 am

I’m not “scared” of my wife, but I do start feeling sick as a condition of her being seriously mad at me. It’s kind of like the results Alex experiences from the Ludovico technique:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ludovico_technique

Truthpaste

September 25th, 2013
11:28 am

WitchyWoman … “My god people will turn anything to a rant against the man.”
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How is questioning POTUS and his wife’s sketchy math a rant against “the man”? The obvious correlation between “the man’s” healthcare trainwreck and whether or not he still chooses to put cancer sticks in his mouth is reason for alarm. Are you scared to question why he demands average Americans pay a huge price for his healthcare, while he obviously is still wreckless with his own heath that he does NOT have to pay for?

WitchyWoman, sounds like you are scared of the truth. With an accurate self identifier calling herself WitchyWoman, your spouse IS scared of you.

dee

September 25th, 2013
11:33 am

this is a stupid article, and yes the writer was trying to make something out of it. Oh Michelle, the big black woman !!! Stupid article, the president was JOKING!!!

C from Marietta

September 25th, 2013
11:41 am

If a man is smart he should be scared of his wife.

Scooby

September 25th, 2013
11:47 am

Michelle scares me too!

dee is scared

September 25th, 2013
12:05 pm

Why do you think this is a stupid article? Because one lone writer dared to print facts and not distort the President’s or First Lady’s own words.

So according to dee, this article is stupid because it does not linger from the spoken truth.

xxx

September 25th, 2013
12:37 pm

Spousal abuse is not funny. Let’s ask a differnt question- Thersea, are you scared of your husband? Would it help you lose weight? – Doesn’t sound very good does it?

FCM

September 25th, 2013
12:50 pm

@ WitchyWoman, I do not see one person who did not think he was exaggerating or joking by saying he “Tat’s because I’m scared of my wife.” It is one of the rare times that most of the blog has been of one accord.

@dee apparently you read way deep into the article; to the point of trying to make an issue where there was none. Nobody thinks that this is out to make Mrs Obama into a “big bad black woman.” Take breath, and switch to decaf.

For the sake of his wife and children, I do hope that he kicked his smoking habit. They love him and want to keep him healthy. They also don’t want to breath second hand smoke. For the sake of his promotion of the Affordable Healthcare Act I think it is a good move to not smoke.

For the sake of the American people I hope that one day people will realize we can critize Obama without it being a “race” thing (as dee is stating) and actually be about the President. I heard pleanty of folks critize Clinton but never thought it was because he was white…nor heard it said that was why.

dc

September 25th, 2013
1:46 pm

no, but I’m sure scared as heck about ever getting another wife!!

FCM

September 25th, 2013
2:06 pm

TWG I tried to message you on facebook…but it wouldn’t work. I will try to send from my gmail account to you later.

non committal mind reader

September 25th, 2013
2:09 pm

No, I am not scared of my wife.

When my wife nags me about anything, it makes me want to divorce her. We went to some marriage therapy a few years back. This subject came up. My wife admitted that she nags me about all sorts of things… all the time. The therapist said, “don’t do that unless you no longer want to be married”. It scared the hell out of her. She still nags, but not as much as she used to.

WitchyWoman

September 25th, 2013
2:53 pm

@ Truthpaste…The fact that you took something that was clearly a joke and ran with the whole their math is sketchy thing says a lot.

@FCM I agree that everything about him should not boil down to race, but lets face it a good portion of the people who post on this board and the one on education I have seen you post on have issues with not just him but all people of other races.

@ MACMAN did I point any poster out personally…no. Thanks for suggesting the nap though.

BADA BING

September 25th, 2013
3:04 pm

Michelle wears the pants. Barry wears the ‘Mom Jeans’ in his house.

Truthpaste

September 25th, 2013
3:48 pm

@ Truthpaste…The fact that you took something that was clearly a joke and ran with the whole their math is sketchy thing says a lot.
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WitchyWoman, Thank You for the recognition! My post really does say a lot! It says that I read the article thoroughly and caught errors as to the seriousness of this entire “joke”. While everyone clearly realizes the comment that he is “scared of his wife” was a JOKE, the fact that he and his wife’s timeline of “no smoking” clearly do not match up:

“Obama said he hadn’t had a cigarette in probably six years.”
VS.
“Mrs. Obama said in 2011 that her husband had finally kicked the habit.”
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The FACT that one of them doesn’t have their story straight is NOT a matter to JOKE about!

WitchyWoman, I obviously got your panties in a wad with the TRUTH. You might want to hop of your broomstick and come down to earth with the rest of us! :)

Denise

September 25th, 2013
10:50 pm

@FCM – Way off topic, but back to our conversation about White members of Delta Sigma Theta. I found out a bit of history today. We initiated our first White member 50 years ago this year, Joan Mulholland. She is still alive and kicking.

DB

September 25th, 2013
11:38 pm

@WitchyWoman: You need to make a distinction between the “people who post here”, i.e., the somewhat regulars and semi-regulars, and the hit-and-runs who just pop on when the topic is somewhat controversial to spew their own kind of venom. The regulars — including me — get somewhat offended being lumped together with those reactive, hateful bigots. Most posters have thoughtful or humorous responses that have nothing to do with the color of people’s skin.

I don’t like President Obama’s approach to government, I think Obamacare is going to be a trainwreck of mythic proportions, and I wouldn’t like his approach to politics if he was yellow, pink, white, orange or green with with purple polka dots, and frankly, I am offended when my well-considered and informed disagreement are shunted aside with snide accusations of racism, bigotry and whatever else can be used to marginalize. The art of debate has almost been lost, and has denigrated to name-calling. Why not just accept that there are respectful differences of opinion? How can I, as a woman who is well-educated, has successfully raised a family within a long-term, successful marriage, run my own business and volunteer in my community, be considered an “ignorant” racist simply because I happen to disagree with a political policy?

motherjanegoose

September 26th, 2013
6:11 am

You go DB! See you soon!

Why can’t some people understand that there is NO free money in our government? No matter WHAT is being offered to help one group, another group has to pay for it. The other group cannot pay for everything. It does not matter if it is a SNAP card or health insurance. Scary how so many companies are squirming, the closer we get to Obama care. Hours are being cut, to avoid paying out. So people who need insurance are getting it and the people who are trying to work for a living are getting their hours / family benefits cut.
How is this helpful? I am not an economics major. I know Kinder math.

shaggy

September 26th, 2013
6:29 am

I never was afraid of my wife until she caught me looking at Kate Upton pictures and making yummy sounds. She had an expression on her face that looked like she had swallowed vinegar and brake fluid. Then, she launched into a tirade so fierce that she ended up making up a couple of penis shivering curse words describing my male anatomy. Even then, I wasn’t afraid of her until later, when I woke from a nap and saw her beautiful self standing in the den doorway smiling, with a large pair of rusty garden shears.
Now, I am skeeeeeerd. Obama better hide all of the sharp instruments and start wearing Kevlar boxers, like I do.

Me

September 26th, 2013
6:39 am

@DB — Fully agree (except, of course, with that part about being a woman).

Me

September 26th, 2013
6:45 am

@shaggy — some of your posts are simply priceless!

yuki

September 26th, 2013
7:12 am

DB, well said.

WitchyWoman

September 26th, 2013
7:37 am

@ DB I did say a portion, not all. I also said that I don’t agree with a lot of his policies either, so that would actually be lumping myself into the group if I said all. At no point did I say that anyone that didn’t agree with his policies was a racist. That actually was another poster that turned it into a race thing. I was only responding to FCM responding to that person’s post.

FCM

September 26th, 2013
8:29 am

@ WW you are certainly entitled to you perception of who you think I am. As MJG would say, those who have met me in person would not share your opinion (although she has not met me in person either). I have been posting here for 7 years. As you pointed out “another poster that turned it into a race thing.”

@ Denise, thanks for sharing that bit of history! Hopefully the the ladies in soroity at U of A (and elsewhere) can make the changes they want to so that any qualifying candidate will not be told no b/c of narrowminded alumni.

WitchyWoman

September 26th, 2013
11:02 am

@ FCM I was not accusing you of anything. I was saying that you were responding to another poster who had made it a race thing. I was actually agreeing with you. I said I was responding to you responding to THAT post,not that you were the one that turned it into a race thing. No I don’t know you are anyone else on this board for that matter, but you have to admit that it does happen on these boards..that was all I was saying. Look at my post from 2:53. DB took that to mean I was referring to all posters and I wasn’t.

FCM

September 26th, 2013
12:13 pm

@ WW I may have misread this “a good portion of the people who post on this board and the one on education I have seen you post on have issues with not just him but all people of other races.” Re-reading with the clarity of your 11:02 post I was actually agreeing with you) I see that the wording “issues with not just him but all people of other races” relates to the noun “people” not the pronoun “you”. :)

WitchyWoman

September 26th, 2013
12:26 pm

@ FCM Yes…Unfortunately, sometimes what we type doesn’t come out they way we want it. I do apologize if you took offense…I have seen many of your posts here and on Maureen’s blog and I almost always agree with what you and MJG say.

WitchyWoman

September 26th, 2013
12:26 pm

the way..not they way

FCM

September 26th, 2013
1:13 pm

@ WW understood.

Denise

September 26th, 2013
1:13 pm

I wish my mother was afraid of her cardiologist. She has congestive heart failure and her heart rate is slowing down a lot. She is at 10% of xxx (I don’t know the scale but I know it is not 10 out of 100…so why is it percent??? good question.) But she still smokes which of course does not help. She has a defribillator (sp?) which will kickstart the heart if it stops but she needs a pacemaker to keep the rhythm. I want to put her over my knee and whip her butt for smoking but she isn’t scared of me either even though I’m bigger. I just have my prayer warriors praying for her. That’s the only thing I can do; let God do His part even though she won’t do her part.

FCM

September 26th, 2013
2:43 pm

Denise, I am going to add her to my prayer list too. :)

Denise

September 26th, 2013
2:58 pm

Thank you FCM! :-)

Will Jones - Atlanta Jeffersonian Exegesis

September 26th, 2013
5:45 pm

Any adult who fears other than our named Sovereign, the Creator of the universe, is a slave and no American.

Long time listener, first time poster

September 26th, 2013
6:09 pm

Why no new blog today? Last tome this happened, the rumor was Theresa was having an affair.

Pamela McColl

September 30th, 2013
12:41 pm

Maybe his daughters had something to do with it as well – for every ten people that smoke, 4 will get cancer, 3 heart disease, 2 respiratory… not a pretty picture and kids really wish their parents didn’t smoke.