Archive for August, 2013

Is saying ‘hurry’ to a child actually bad?

The Huffington Post ran a column from a mother who felt like she was being a bully telling her free-spirited, smell-the-flower child to hurry up.

From The Huffinton Post:

“When I needed to be out the door, she was taking her sweet time picking out a purse and a glittery crown…”

“Whenever my child caused me to deviate from my master schedule, I thought to myself, “We don’t have time for this.” Consequently, the two words I most commonly spoke to my little lover of life were: “Hurry up.”…

“Then one fateful day, things changed. We’d just picked my older daughter up from kindergarten and were getting out of the car. Not going fast enough for her liking, my older daughter said to her little sister, “You are so slow.” And when she crossed her arms and let out an exasperated sigh, I saw myself — and it was a gut-wrenching sight….”

“It was pretty easy to banish “hurry up” from my vocabulary. What was not so easy was acquiring the patience to wait on my leisurely child. To …

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10 years later: Did opting out work for mothers?

There was a movement 10 or so years ago of educated, successful women with high-earning spouses opting out of work to stay home with their children.

From The New York Times Magazine:

“This magazine, in a cover article by Lisa Belkin, called the phenomenon of their leaving work the “Opt-Out Revolution,” and other coverage followed: a Time magazine cover story on “The Case for Staying Home” and a “60 Minutes” segment devoted to a group of former mega-achievers who were, as the anchor Lesley Stahl put it, “giving up money, success and big futures” to be home with their children.”

I remember the first article very clearly because the opening scene was set in Atlanta.

At that point, I had quit working two years before to be home with my kids. I didn’t have an Ivy League degree and didn’t make hundreds of thousands of dollars but I did feel a connection to these women choosing (and being financially able) to stay home.

But I also liked the terms they were …

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Are carpools worth the effort?

This year I have three kids in three different schools and only one has a bus option. So we’ve set up a carpool with two neighbors.

However, it took an hour-and-a-half meeting to figure out who would pick up when and where. Michael, listening from the other room, said it was the worst meeting he never attended.  (Michael said we all tip-toed around each other not trying to be one who bossed the others.)

We’re using the Sign Up Genius but we had to meet to figure out what made the most sense and not just fill in a calendar willy nilly.

Our two biggest issues are:

  1. I think we need to pick a pattern and other than the odd occurrence we need to keep that same schedule. In trying to be fair to drivers we said we could switch it out each month but I almost think we should just keep it the same as not to confuse the kids or ourselves.

2. Afternoon activities and appointments wreak havoc on the carpool. It may all fall apart in the afternoons when they choose their clubs.

I do …

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Do moms shun childfree women? Are women being judged for that choice?

The birthrate in the U.S. is at its lowest point ever in American history, and Time Magazine takes a look at the childfree lifestyle in its Aug. 12 issue. Many other publications are examining issues related to it as well: Are the childfree being selfish to society as far as not producing taxpayers for later? Do moms judge the childfree and not want to associate with them? What will happen to the childfree when they are old? Who will care for them? So here are some samplings from the different articles.

From Time.com: (You have to pay for the whole article but here it the introduction)

“One evening when she was 14 years old, Laura Scott was washing dishes in the kitchen with her mother when she decided she didn’t want to have a child. At 26, Scott got married and waited for her mind to change. “It never happened,” she says. “And I realized I was going to be fine.” Now 50, Scott is more than fine: she’s fulfilled. And she’s not alone. The birthrate in the U.S. is the lowest in …

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Should restaurants refuse crumby kids? Or scold them on social media?

A restaurant owner in Washington has stirred up a controversy about how much mess kids can leave at a table or under a table and what the best way is to deal with it is. Here’s the story.

From The Today Show:

“One of the women — Kellea Poore, who had her 1-year-old and 3-year-old children with her — said they had been inside for a short while and the kids were eating scones when the owner approached the table and pointed out crumbs on the floor.

“The woman came up and she basically told us there was going to be a worker coming over and she was going to vacuum up the mess and that they had just spent $50 cleaning the carpets and she didn’t appreciate us making such a mess, and that next time if we decided to come in, not to bring our kids,” Poore told NBC affiliate KING 5 News.

“She left quickly afterwards, but later discovered the restaurant had posted a photo of the crumbs on its Facebook page, with the comment: “Like to take a moment to thank our customers with small …

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Back to school means date mornings for mom and dad

While we have several back-to-school traditions for our kids, our favorite back-to-school ritual is a quiet morning in the house for mom and dad.

For the last three years after we’ve gotten the kids off to school, we climb back into bed and have a lovely morning in our house ALONE!

We are never alone because we have no relatives close by so it’s nice to have some peace and quiet to just be together.

I almost messed things up this year because I agreed to help Lilina’s former kindergarten teacher with the new crop of itty bitties. But it worked out because Michael was still home when I returned from unpacking snacks and helping with crafts.

For the kids, I always want to have special meals and treats for them the first week. Michael has been making them eggs and bacon each morning. (We are loving the precooked bacon from Costco because you can finish it off in seconds.) I baked cookies on the first and second days of school.

What are your family’s back-to-school traditions?

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Do elementary, middle schools need student sexual harassment policies?

I am used to seeing anti-bullying policies in school handbooks but I have never before this year seen sexual harassment policies.  I’m not sure if I have missed them in the past or they just haven’t been there.

My 10-year-old has started at a new charter school that includes a middle school and high school so I am wondering if those policies are more for the older kids but they just give them to everyone or are they really concerned about fifth or sixth graders sexually harassing a classmate?

When I was reading over it with Walsh, he was looking at me like I was crazy. He had no idea what they were talking about.

So did you get any sexual harassment statements in your elementary handbooks, middle school or high school handbooks?

Do you think they are necessary? Should teens be able to figure out these types of relationships out without fearing suspension or expulsion? Or are the kids today that out-of-control and persistent? What types of behavior have you seen that …

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Camp Gyno ad all the rage, but what about the period treat boxes? Would you buy them?

The Camp Gyno ad is an internet sensation about a little girl who got her period FIRST at camp and ruled the roost as the period expert (or camp gyno) until ….. parents starting sending their daughters Hello Flo period boxes. The boxes discreetly arrive days before your expected period with pads, tampons and of course candy! The boxes range from $14 to $18 depending on your flow. (I wonder if you get more candy with a heavier flow?)

(I can’t load the video for you to watch here. I can’t use the new embed code in this version of WordPress so you’ll have to hit the link to watch the video. (Sorry!) But then come back and read on and comment.)

I love the Camp Gyno video, but I’m not crazy about the product. I just don’t know who would buy this product. It’s not economical and the young girls, who I assume the product is aimed, notoriously don’t have regular periods.

I can totally see a mom wanting to give her daughter some TLC when she starts but it’s much less …

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Beware new teen trend: The Thigh Gap

USA Today reports that the new scary teen diet trend is for girls to try to create a gap between their thighs so their thighs do not touch at all.

Girls Tweet and post photos on social media sites of their thighs not touching. There’s even a Twitter account for one girl’s thigh gap.

The expert in the video says that some girls’ bodies are naturally structured that way but most are not. And they worry the goal of the thigh gap will lead to eating disorders.

Have you seen this trend? Have your teens mentioned girls trying to achieve this?

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