I was just going to ignore the whole Miley Cyrus foam hand, gross dancing VMA debacle, but two days into the spin cycle moms have gone crazy about the performance debating it on blogs and Facebook.
I’m not sure how any mom could weigh in that it was good or appropriate. I guess the best a mom could say is that the performance provoked discussion and showed a daughter what NOT to do.
The outfit and stuffed toys are weird but the tongue and the bending over to Robin Thicke were just gross. (Even Robin Thicke’s mom thought it was nasty.) My 12-year-old was watching before the act but was out of the room when it was on. She has never been a fan of Miley Cyrus, and I think this would make her like her les. She likes when musicians write their own songs, play instruments and have some self-respect.
This mom wrote a letter to her daughter on her blog. From the Roadkill Golfish:
“…Miley Cyrus is not edgy or cool or sexy. She’s a desperate girl screaming for attention: Notice me. Tell me I’m pretty. See how hot I am. I know all the guys want me. All the girls want to be me.”
“You probably know girls who will emulate this behavior at the next school dance. Don’t do it with them. You are far too valuable to sell yourself so cheaply. Walk away. Let the boys gawk and know in your heart that they see only a body that can be used for their pleasure and then forgotten….”
“Dear daughter, I am going to fight or die trying to keep you from becoming like the Miley Cyruses of the world.”
This mom wrote a special blog for HLN. She says Miley is just playing the fame game.
“It’s The MTV Video Music Awards.
If you snuggled up with your young’uns on Sunday night to watch the VMAs thinking you were about to enjoy a wholesome music awards show together, you probably haven’t watched MTV since the days when they actually aired music videos and had VJs. You want the old MTV? You’ll need a DeLorean. The VMAs are a place where artists come to push buttons, break rules and be remembered. Madonna impregnated the stage in 1984, naked-ish Britney canoodled with snakes in 2001, and Madge and Brit “made-out” in 2003. You want shock and awe? I got three letters for ya: V. M. A. Got little kids? Pick another show.
“It’s a fame game.
Some are saying Cyrus was trying desperately to show us she’s all grown up; others think she’s gotten disastrous advice from her people. I think she’s playing the game. Fame and notoriety are the most worshipped and coveted commodities of our time. Sad but true. Maintaining one’s fame often requires making jaws drop in order to stay relevant in a sea of stars. The Kardashians have taught us this for years. So even while grimacing through some of her fan-gear-as-sex-toys choreography, I found myself nodding in recognition of a simple case of 15 more minutes for Miley. She’s 20 years old — she knows better. She’s not interested in being your kids’ role model anymore. She wants to stay famous.”
So what do you think: Perfectly OK performance par for the course on MTV? A discussion-worthy dance routine that can help you delineate for a daughter what is not OK? Or not worth our time at all? Has your FB feed been inundated with comments and links to mom bloggers discussing it?