Is saying ‘hurry’ to a child actually bad?

The Huffington Post ran a column from a mother who felt like she was being a bully telling her free-spirited, smell-the-flower child to hurry up.

From The Huffinton Post:

“When I needed to be out the door, she was taking her sweet time picking out a purse and a glittery crown…”

“Whenever my child caused me to deviate from my master schedule, I thought to myself, “We don’t have time for this.” Consequently, the two words I most commonly spoke to my little lover of life were: “Hurry up.”…

“Then one fateful day, things changed. We’d just picked my older daughter up from kindergarten and were getting out of the car. Not going fast enough for her liking, my older daughter said to her little sister, “You are so slow.” And when she crossed her arms and let out an exasperated sigh, I saw myself — and it was a gut-wrenching sight….”

“It was pretty easy to banish “hurry up” from my vocabulary. What was not so easy was acquiring the patience to wait on my leisurely child. To help us both, I began giving her a little more time to prepare if we had to go somewhere. And sometimes, even then, we were still late. Those were the times I assured myself that I will be late only for a few years, if that, while she is young.”

I will admit that I am a mother who says hurry up. For example, Lilina was home sick on Monday and we needed to go pick up Walsh from school. She was playing upstairs, and I gave her 10-minute warning, 5-minute warning and then told her it was time to go. She never came downstairs. So I went upstairs to get her and she hid. By that point I was mad and late. There were threats of no TV and a lot of saying hurry up.

Kids notoriously don’t have a concept of time. They don’t wear watches. I give my kids countdowns but sometimes they need to be rushed.

Is it really bad to tell them to hurry? When is it OK? Can it be bullying? Can it be reasonable?

55 comments Add your comment

FCM

August 13th, 2013
4:59 am

Teaching your child to get places on time, honor commitments to others (like being on time ti get Rose), to come down when you call her/not hide, to respect you, to understand it cannot always revolve around her is not bullying. It is parenting. Geez we have to stop treating children like glass and teach them. That may mean saying hurry up.

Fact is at some point or other we all have to hurry up. Example: You miss the alarm and wake up ,15-20 min late. You speed up.your routine to get to work right?

If youbfind you constantly have to hurry the kid, then look at your approach. I found your warnings a good thing. Did she acknowledge the reminder of we leave in x minutes? My guess is she hid b/c u weee mad. Did you just yell up? I find going to the child, interupting the play, helps.

Audio cues on my phone help. The church one is set 15 min before the time we have to leave. They hear it and know that means we need to head out…yes it stil.takes 10 min to get out, as does the bus bell or school, but I find it better than me reminding. The bell sort if says, shoes, bag, etc…now out. It also helps the child “cobtrol” next steps not me. At first it was bel.is off we need…these days one child says bell.is off ehy are u brushing your teeth mom time to go!

Good luck,!

FCM

August 13th, 2013
5:01 am

Above typed on cell phone, apologies for typos

Real Life

August 13th, 2013
5:06 am

Bullying is one of the most overused terms out there now. Telling your child to hurry up is not bullying. We all know bullying when we see it and this is not it unless carried to extremes. Children should be learning to be on time when they start getting the concept of time. That comes in stages and at different time for each child.
And a child that consistently ignores your request to get ready to go has already learned that you do not mean what you say. No TV threatened? In our house threats were not used. In the case of ignoring what one was told to do, a privilege was immediately withdrawn–no threat, simply action. Learning there was a consequence for poor behavior, ignoring parents, etc. was one of the first lessons learned in our home. It was a good foundation for learning appropriate behavior in school and public.

catlady

August 13th, 2013
5:42 am

If you find yourself constantly saying ” hurry up”. See if,you are,over scheduled.

If not,,take a,look at,your,child. Dawdling,can,be,a passive-aggressive way for a child to assert,control. Or, the child may have Oppositional Defiant Disorder.

The mom needs to take an honest look at the behavior (when does it happen/where), take an honest look at herself and their schedule, and consider,if the child shows any other oppositional behaviors.if it is a power struggle, put an end to ot. And I don’t mean give in to the child!

Mayhem

August 13th, 2013
7:01 am

I agree 100% with Real Life!!!!

We have to teach our kids there are certain time lines. Getting some where on time is SO important. I have friends who constantly run late. It’s incredibly selfish. When others are waiting on you, and you just lollygag along.

I have one friend who is late so much, that we actually tell her to be somewhere an hour before the actual time. That way, we are pretty much guaranteed she may be on time.

I won’t make people wait on me, it’s embarrassing. If you say 5:00, I’m there at 4:55. There is the occasion that I may be running late, and if so, I will call and let you know. But to blantently be late constantly, is very annoying. I don’t like waiting on others when I’ve made plans…..

catlady

August 13th, 2013
7:13 am

Because the doctor says that,will help you do better about getting ready on time. If she ups the ante, make it an hour earlier.

Atlanta Mom

August 13th, 2013
7:14 am

Once again, we are the parents. You have an obligation to get places on time. When the school bus stop was a block away, and I had two little ones walking to the bus stop with me, I scheduled 10 minutes to make the walk–because I had no idea what fascinating objects we might find on our way.
And, if you don’t make the 4 year old meet the schedule–at what age do you?

catlady

August 13th, 2013
7:15 am

My preface should have said, use the John Roseman method. Explain that if she has,trouble, she will be going to bed earlier each night.

catlady

August 13th, 2013
7:19 am

If your daughter was too sick for school, WHY was she “upstairs playing!”

Janice

August 13th, 2013
7:20 am

you’re kidding right?!!!

being late is commonly accepted now. drives me NUTS!!! people make fun of me cause i’m early. i find it disrespectful to be late. yes sometimes it can’t be help, so call and let the people know.

telling a child to hurry up is just teaching them that the world doesn’t revolve around them and that being on time is important in life.

being late in unacceptable.

i LOVE...

August 13th, 2013
7:23 am

There is a difference between a kid who is just naturally “smell the roses” slow and bratty “i’m going to hide from momma because she won’t do what she threatens” slow. We have to identify the difference…

AT

August 13th, 2013
7:31 am

I agree that parents need to teach their kids responsibility, etc. However, I have previously seen this article and what really resonated with me is that I am guilty of saying hurry up when it isn’t warranted. Yes, when we have somewhere to be and my daughter is dawdling, saying hurry up is fine. But when we’re on a walk through the park and I just don’t like that she is walking much slower than me, hurry up isn’t warranted. The takeaway I got from the article is not to rush my kids when they don’t need to be rushed. Take the time to sit, relax, and enjoy each other or whatever activity or place we are in. The end of the article when they were enjoying ice cream and the daughter asked if she had to hurry just broke my heart.

Mayhem

August 13th, 2013
7:35 am

When my kids were home sick, there was no playing. IF I had to take a day off to stay home with them, trust me, there was no playing, and they were in the bed. If you are too sick to go to school, you are too sick to play.

But my kids never had Nintendo’s, video games, or tvs etc in their rooms.

motherjanegoose

August 13th, 2013
7:56 am

Several good points above! Children look to adults for cues and when time is of the essence we need to say HURRY! What if you saw a snake in the yard and wanted your child to move NOW?

I am in the midst of discussing a similar idea with some professional friends who advise that we should let children just be… in the moment. Ease the structure on their learning. Yes there are things to be learned in a natural fashion BUT so many things are learned because an adult said so. I gave the illustration of laundry before college. Most HS kids are not excited to learn how to do their own laundry but this is a very helpful skill. BEFORE COLLEGE.

I love it when children are spontaneous about learning but when you have 25 or so, in your classroom, that puts some limits on it: bathroom breaks, snacks, projects, coming and going. Whether you are in school or on the job, there is typically a set schedule for what needs to get done and when.

I have been at the airport many times when people walk up to the gate and they have just closed the airplane door. They are MAD and saying they will never fly Delta again. Yes things happen and I have missed a flight but schedules are in place for a reason. Other times, we have landed and cannot get into a gate. A nearby passenger lamented: “I see lots of open gates c’mon just take one!” REALLY?

I agree that making everyone wait for you is selfish. Perhaps you should illustrate how it would be to have a birthday party planned and be waiting for everyone with no one showing up. Or you could have something planned, that she likes to do, and then everyone else in the family just dallies ( sp?) around and “hides”. I often see children with poor skills in areas that teachers do not have time to teach, as they have so many more children to deal with at school.

motherjanegoose

August 13th, 2013
7:58 am

AT…yes, this is something we all need to remember as our children grow up quickly: The takeaway I got from the article is not to rush my kids when they don’t need to be rushed. Take the time to sit, relax, and enjoy each other or whatever activity or place we are in.

catmom

August 13th, 2013
8:20 am

Give me a break. What delicate little flowers kids are today.

That being said, it’s rude to show up late. If you’ve got a kid who meanders, then start getting ready to leave earlier so you won’t have to rush out the door.

Spacey

August 13th, 2013
8:26 am

@MotherJaneGoose: I learned how to do my laundry and iron with a perfect pant crease when I was in the 6th grade. When I got to college, I was almost the only girl in the sorority that knew how to do it! Funny thing is that I almost never iron now. Really, I hate it and buy mostly wrinkle-free style clothing. LOL.
Is Ironing a lost art?
I will admit that when I see someone in a freshly ironed dress or slacks, I think they look great!

Abby

August 13th, 2013
8:33 am

So many valuable points in the comments today! :)

It is completely rude to be late; there are occasions when it’s unavoidable, but as a general rule there really isn’t an excuse for bad manners. Teaching your children that it’s ok to be late, to dawdle along at their own pace because you’re afraid you might bully them is the most asinine thing I’ve heard in a long time. You are the parent, you lay down the rules, you enforce “parent law” and you stick to it. Hiding from a parent because you’ve said it’s time to go should result in loss of privilege not an empty threat you have no intention of following through with.

Also, I have to agree with catlady and mayhem, if your child is home sick why are they allowed to play? Now you’re also teaching them that they can say they’re sick and get to play at home all day. I’m starting to think that TWG doesn’t call the shots in her house, she’s ruled by her little ones.

Me

August 13th, 2013
8:39 am

Where in the world do questions such as this originate? And, regardless of that, I cannot believe you are asking if it’s acceptable. Of course it is. Good lord, I’m constantly wanting to tell my wife to “hurry up” — I’m not quite stupid enough to actually TELL her that, but I want to. She thinks “being on time” is somewhere between “on time” or actually a few minutes late. Drives me nuts! Being “on time” to me is being 10-15 early. But, if she were my child, she would receive the “hurry up” comment without fail.

non committal mind reader

August 13th, 2013
8:41 am

Children dawdle. Period. They have no concept of time, of the importance of being on time, or of the importance of concentrating on what they are doing in order to get it done. Saying “hurry” is not bad… at all.

There are many potentially dangerous situations that require hurrying in order to minimize.

The only time saying “hurry” is bad is when you are saying it unnecessarily. Hurrying for everything is not required. Hurrying for important reasons IS. Just be sure you know what is important and what isn’t.

motherjanegoose

August 13th, 2013
8:52 am

@Spacey…they took the iron off of the Monopoly board…go figure! I still iron but not many folks do.

My two knew how to do their laundry. Other kids had a big mess on their hands or took it home for Mama to do. I guess that I felt I was working myself out of a job when mine went to college and that they were old enough to know how to do their own laundry. They were welcome to use my w/d when they got home and detergent too!

My daughter was home some this summer and she did our laundry and I did hers. She is 21 and much more proficient at domestic things than her peers. A better cook than me too. She can put on a spread that looks and tastes delicious. She cooked a lot this summer and I will miss it! She also mowed the lawn and my husband will miss that!

@ Me… when I was a girl, my Dad used to sit in the car and beep the horn at my mother. She was wrapping things up in the house and he was ready to go. I advised my husband never to do this and he has not.

I try to be on time but with the Atlanta traffic, sometimes there is not a thing you can do! I had a school in Roswell that took me 70 minutes to get to. It should take 30 and I allowed 60. I drove two different routes. Both times I was late. The Director told me, ” This is not working as you have been late both times!” I replied, ” Yes, I am not planning on coming again either as commute is longer than my visit…glad we agree!” Love Atlanta but HATE the traffic!

Erin

August 13th, 2013
8:57 am

First, threats of taking away the TV should not be made unless you actually FOLLOW THROUGH by doing whatever you’re threatening to take away.

Second, why is a sick child playing? If the kid is sick, she should be in bed or laying down on the couch. Either way, *resting* because that’s what she needs.

Third, as for “hurry up,” I read the article in question and agree it’s a matter of NOT making a big deal of hurrying along if there’s no need. Children definitely DO need to learn they have to be places on time and to honor their commitments and everything … I’m infamous for being early to appointments and things (usually because if I’m actually running exactly on time, I’ll get caught in a massive traffic jam and end up being late) and children do have a tendency to dawdle, but I think there are MANY cases where the kids and/or the parents are so used to being overscheduled, they tend to rush when they don’t have to. If that’s the case, then a few extra minutes admiring the pretty flowers or the butterfly flitting around isn’t going to ruin the rest of the day. If, however, a trip to the park must be timed to the minute to get somewhere else on time, maybe a trip to the park isn’t necessarily a MUST-do for that particular day.

jmb

August 13th, 2013
8:57 am

As with any word things can get overused with the little one. I read an article recently that stressed using the word “NO” all the time can make the child disregard the true meaning so I am stressing that with my daughter and her 11 month old now. Sure it’s ok to say no but say when it really matters. Saying “NO” to child when they are goofing off or acting up vs saying “NO” when they are stepping into dangerous territory was the overall theory.

Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

August 13th, 2013
9:03 am

I don’t think there is anything wrong with a sick child sitting a floor playing with dolls. She wasn’t running around. I would much rather her be playing with dolls than watching TV or doing computer.

I can’t believe that is the take away for many of you.

motherjanegoose

August 13th, 2013
9:13 am

TWG…some kids say they are sick in hopes of avoiding something they do not like. Not saying this is your daughter. When sick kids stay home and have NOTHING fun to do, they are less likely to be sick just to stay home. Due to the fact that it is NOT fun to have to stay in bed or be on the couch all day not doing a thing. Even reading a book could be more fun for some kids ( like me…haha).

jmb

August 13th, 2013
9:42 am

Theresa, you and only you know when your child is too sick to go to school so don’t think twice about all the naysayers. Example: Your child is running a fever but is still able to get around and even play some. Nothing wrong with that. I would much rather you keep her home than to risk getting another child sick. Common sense people. I’ve read by some of the same posters how terrible parents are to send their kids to school sick but then b$^&* TWG out for keeping her child home. You have no idea how sick or not sick her child is.

Spacey

August 13th, 2013
10:04 am

Perhaps the point of this article is that sometimes we need to be a little more creative.
I’m constantly telling my oldest to “sit up”. He wants to lean over at the table, in the car, at school, ANYWHERE he can put his feet up.
Of course, he probably doesn’t hear me as my asking sounds more like nagging now.
Instead of “Hurry Up”, she should try something else. What?
How about, “You are making your sister tardy today”.
Is it too harsh to say, “Please come back to your flowers later as you are currently being inconsiderate”???
Or am I being a bully?

Sk8ing Momma

August 13th, 2013
10:05 am

Is it really bad to tell them to hurry?
Of course, not! Telling a child to hurry is appropriate at times, when time is in fact of the essence. There are many times throughout one’s day when time and punctuality matter. Kids are not too young to learn this.

The words of choice around her are, “Chop! Chop!” They’re even accompanied with a hand motion — holding my hands in a fist with my index fingers pointing each other twirling around each other in a circular motion. It’s even to the point that I can use the hand motion without speaking a word. My kids know it means: Pick it up and light a fire under your butt!

I even allow my kids to suffer the consequences of not hurrying/being on time. IMO, these are opportunities to learn life lessons when the stakes are not as high as when they become adults.

When is it OK?
When time matters. I make every effort not to rush when time *really* doesn’t matter, i.e. I try not to hurry for convenience sake.

Can it be bullying?
IMO, no.

Can it be reasonable?
Absolutely!

Sk8ing Momma

August 13th, 2013
10:09 am

@ motherjanegoose — Agreed! 100% I got the same take-away.

Dilly

August 13th, 2013
10:10 am

Apparently it is for a lot of people in the south where “hurry” is a bad word.

AT

August 13th, 2013
10:12 am

Have many of you read the full article? The point of the article isn’t that parents should allow their children to miss appointments in order not to say hurry up, as some posters are suggesting. The point is that we move too fast, we over-schedule, and we try to make our kids follow our sense of time. Our desire to work on our schedule (for everything, including how long we think it should take to pick out a pair of socks) interferes with kids’ sense of discovery, learning, and enjoyment.

Since reading this article I’ve tried to give my daughter more time with everything – getting into her car seat, picking out her plate for dinner, selecting a book to read. A few extra seconds doesn’t hurt and she’s been much happier since I’ve taken more time to focus on her, let her do more for herself, and have stopped trying to rush her all the time. I’ve also found that when we do need to rush, telling her to hurry up is far more effective and I encounter less resistance.

This is my favorite part of the article –

Whether it’s …

Sno-cone eating
Flower picking
Seatbelt buckling
Egg cracking
Seashell finding
Ladybug watching
Sidewalk strolling

I will not say, “We don’t have time for this.” Because that is basically saying, “We don’t have time to live.”

Pausing to delight in the simple joys of everyday life is the only way to truly live.

motherjanegoose

August 13th, 2013
10:39 am

AT…guilty as charged…I just read the article. Having been around a LOT of kids, I see those that are driven and those that are dreamy. We do need both types of people.

I am a driven type person but also have a creative streak. My husband is a come what may type of person. He is never as stressed as I am. He is now in a position of leadership and is frequently attending classes, at work. It is interesting to hear him come home and share what he has learned.

Not everyone needs to be president of a company but if we do not have those who are willing to develop a company, those who are creative enough to develop a product would perhaps have no one to sell it to. It is good to have different types of people, as we all bring something to the table.

Last week, I was called obnoxious on this blog and other ( unfavorable) remarks have been made about me too.

Today, a consultant I met ( last month) sent me an e-gift gift with a :
Thank you for your warm hospitality

My neighbor sent me and e-mail with a:
Thank you so much for your thoughtfulness.

This made me chuckle.

We all see things and people differently. Perhaps really seeing people, for what they can offer our society, is not as easy as we may think it is. Too, it is hard to grasp things about people on this blog when we only read what they share and do not see the person or hear the inflection in their voice. Just my opinion.

Lisa

August 13th, 2013
10:53 am

I can’t believe all the comments about a sick kid playing! At my daughter’s school, they are very clear that if your child has a fever or has vomited, they can’t return to school for 24 hours. And I agree totally with that rule because I definitely don’t want someone else’s sick kid getting mine sick. However, it is not at all unusual for a child to get sick in the middle of the night or early in the morning, be required to stay home from school, but be feeling absolutely FINE by mid-day. We’ve also had to stay home “sick” from school because of lice. So would I want her laying on the couch watching TV or entertaining herself by playing??

My kids love school, and certainly don’t scheme to stay home by claiming they are sick. But when they ARE home, I certainly don’t punish them by forcing them to stay in bed if that’s not where they need to be!

Me

August 13th, 2013
11:21 am

Add me to the list of those that had the “take away” that kids will “act” sick in hopes of avoiding whatever issue. As with the others, not saying this applies to your’s but, yes, I’ve seen it.
And, @MJG, no way will I beep the horn at my better half without becoming a tenor! And, the ATL traffic you mention is yet another reason I attempt to impress the importance of leaving a bit earlier.

catlady

August 13th, 2013
11:54 am

On the subject of sickness, I totally agree about the school not wanting your Rick child 10 minutes after their fever goes down, or ten minutes after they stop vomiting. HOWEVER, if your child is recovering, they should be resting so they will be well enough to go to school the next day. The eleventh commandment was THOU SHALT NOT FLOUNCE AROUND! Flouncing around can cause your illness to “come back on you” and make you relapse. But you are right. Theresa decides what goes on at her house.

Patrick

August 13th, 2013
11:54 am

Telling a child to “hurry up” is not bullying, punishment, or abuse. It is being a parent. It is helping the child to learn time management skills, and how to “streamline” their tasks/duties/chores so they can get done quicker and be prompt on scheduled or promised time. They need to learn from an early age that no one is willing to wait on them.

When your child is in school, does the teacher hold the entire classroom back from going to their next class on time, in order for your child to complete their classwork assignment? No, they tell the students that whatever they don’t finish in class will have to be done for homework, or else to turn in what they have.

When your child becomes a teenager and gets a part-time job, do you think the employer is going to halt business or make the other employees wait to do their job until your kid comes in? Is the manager going to tell his customers, “Sorry, we can’t help you just yet; So-and-so’s kid hasn’t come in yet.” No, if your kid is late to work, they will either be written up, have their pay docked, or else be fired.

When your kid becomes an adult and is about to be late, do you think the spouse will be understanding? More than likely not. They will think they’re being stood up, and the wedding will be cancelled, and your kid will remain single.

Not forgetting doctor’s appointments, dentist appointments, and other promises to show up at certain times, if you allow a kid to take their sweet time getting ready for something important, even if it’s not important to them, just opens the door to a life of tardiness, and an attitude of “I’ll show up whenever I darn well please.”

If you’re having trouble with a kid being ready to go on time, try to help them in the process. Find out why they’re taking so long, and help them streamline the “getting ready” process. Do they really need to take along that many toys? Are they having trouble getting their shoes on? Can’t pick out which outfit to wear? Find ways to help streamline the steps, and maybe your kid will be on time.

motherjanegoose

August 13th, 2013
12:09 pm

@catlady…FLOUNCE…made me laugh. I love it.

Mayhem

August 13th, 2013
12:46 pm

@Patrick – very well said!!! Thank you.

Christabel

August 13th, 2013
1:23 pm

I travel to visit my parents. Every time I go, my dad greets me with, “What took you so long?”, and then criticizes how slowly I drive and where I might have stopped on the way. It would make me so happy for him to say someday, simply, “I’m so glad you’re here.”

historywriter

August 13th, 2013
1:31 pm

Passing on your anxiety doesn’t help your child learn time-management skills; it just teaches them to be anxious. If you want them to be better, sit down with them at a different time and explain why it’s important that they keep up with you and talk about how that can happen—perhaps a better “code word” that you both can agree on, can convey the urgency. Re-evaluate the need for urgency as well, and make sure it’s real. Talk about what you both can do to get your act together before heading out the door, and then make that happen. There is plenty you can do to make impatience that last resort, rather than a first one.

JF McNamara

August 13th, 2013
1:32 pm

@Patrick, spot on. My kid is like that, and I yell at him constantly to hurry up. His teachers complain that he always get his work right, but it takes him forever because he is doing other things. It’s to the point that I put him on a timer to get homework done, and I will sit there and force him to stay focused by constantly telling him to move to the next step.

It’s not bullying. It’s called parenting. Fix your kid’s problems now, so they can be functional as adults.

catlady

August 13th, 2013
2:13 pm

MJG, that wasn’t a common verb where u were raised? According to my mother, if you had been sick you should not be up flouncing around, Twelth commandment: thou shalt never ” go riding around,” especially with a person of the opposite gender. Nth at is how babies get started!

Sk8ing Momma

August 13th, 2013
2:16 pm

@motherjanegoose — Off topic….I iron, too!! I iron daily and wouldn’t *dream* of wearing anything with the slightest hint of a wrinkle…GASP!!! From one ironer to another…What’s the opposite of irony?

Drum roll please………………………………………………Wrinkly!! ROFLOL!

Btw, my kids (14yo and 11yo) know how to iron, too. #trainupachild

motherjanegoose

August 13th, 2013
2:45 pm

@ Sk8ing…haha…I ironed my shorts today and I am going no further than the mailbox. It is just a habit to me. Took me a 2 minutes or so.

HOWEVER my husband and I had a tif ( sp?) over his dress shirts. He wears no more than 6 per week. It is $1.75 to have them done at the cleaners. I am NOT fooling with that for $12.00 per week. That includes washing and drying. It would certainly take me more than an hour and I believe I am worth more than $12.00 per hour. He thought I should be in charge of taking them and dropping them of, since I should be in charge of the laundry…haha!

We were in AZ last week and I mentioned that I was going to do a load of laundry…did anyone have things to be washed. His comment, ” No my things can be washed at home.” BY WHOM? My daughter laughed as I asked him to just give me his things. I did not think of dividing up the laundry 30 years ago and thus I am stuck with it. I typically do my laundry, on a trip, if I can. I then come home to a full hamper here. Stupid me!

@catlady, no…I grew up in Chicago and rarely heard flounce. I love it though. I was not allowed to iron on Sunday though, as that was to be done on Saturday. REALLY?

ahh

August 13th, 2013
2:51 pm

1940s Family Story and Much Used Expression Ever Since:
My younger cousin, Susie, was always eating breakfast when her friend Maria stopped by daily for them to walk to school together. Maria was forever trying to hurry Susie. Maria arrived a little early one morning, and Susie’s mother said to her, “You have plenty of time. Don’t bother Susie. Let her finish her breakfast.” Maria pondered the situation, turned to Susie, and said, “Take your time, but HURRY.”

motherjanegoose

August 13th, 2013
3:18 pm

@ahh…love family stories! Sometimes things just pop out of my mouth from no where. I then remember an episode of my childhood.

jarvis

August 13th, 2013
3:22 pm

Being slow is selfish. It shows a total disregard for anyone else’s time or feelings.

I have a slow child, and it says to me, “I don’t care that you’re having to stand there and wait on me, nor do I care that the people expecting us to be somewhere will have to wait on me.”

As for bullying, I’m effing tired of hearing it. Getting your azz kicked into motion isn’t bullying. Bullying is taking pleasure in physically hurting or emotionally hurting someone. Motivating and bullying aren’t the same thing.

FCM

August 13th, 2013
3:46 pm

MJG you Iron on Tuesday. I thought you knew your rhymes ;) (kidding of course)

Wash on Monday
Iron on Tuesday
Mend on Wednesday
Churn on Thursday
Clean on Friday
Bake on Saturday
Rest on Sunday
Then start all over again.

motherjanegoose

August 13th, 2013
3:59 pm

Well, it is Tuesday! I write my own songs and rhymes…almost 400 now. :) My Mom must have known this as she did wash on Monday and rest on Sunday!

Mother of 2

August 13th, 2013
4:51 pm

There is nothing wrong with telling a child to hurry up. Teaching children to be mindful of time is a good thing. Expecting them to be on time is challenging, but important. The older sibling in the article seemed to be belittling her younger sibling by saying that she was so slow.

My kids have had difficulty being ready on time. I tried to put them in control by asking how long they need to get ready. One needs 30 minutes, and the other needs an hour. They now have watches, clocks, phones that remind them of important events with an alarm either 30 or 60 minutes before they need to head out the door. No more arguments and I have much ess stress.