When does your transplanted state become home?

While visiting Yellowstone National Park, people would ask me “Where are you from?”

I have a pat answer: “I currently live in Arizona but I am from Georgia.” Then I add, “I don’t really claim Arizona yet.”

We’ve been here three years so I’m not sure at what point I will claim Arizona. I think the kids already do. They talk about going to Arizona State University sometimes and that nearly kills Michael. He still envisions them walking around north campus at Georgia.

I went with Michael in the spring to an awards dinner, and we were talking to some industry people. Michael was amazing talking about the politics, roads, towns and just all these small details about Arizona.

I told Michael after “You did a really good job talking about this state. It’s like you live here.” He’s like I do and so do you.

I know a lot of families in Atlanta are transplants, and I am wondering at what point did you feel like you were from Atlanta? At what point did you start claiming Georgia as home?

43 comments Add your comment

FCM

July 17th, 2013
5:32 am

TWG drop the “I don’t really claim AZ yet” part. Facts are you are originally from GA and currently in AZ. Itis not a betrayal of your home state to admit that. It isnt even a betrayal to like or enjoy AZ.

Of course the kids talk about AZ State. It is likely what their friends talk about. Then again, mine live in GA but one keeps talk aboutbeing a ‘Nole, talk about something that kills ur heart!

As to when you’re answer will change to “AZ but I grew up in GA”, that depends on when you accept rhat AZ is home…at least for now.

FCM

July 17th, 2013
5:33 am

Sorry for typo and english issues. On my cell again

malleesmom

July 17th, 2013
6:16 am

My husband and I moved to GA in 97 and that was “home” as our girls were born and raised there until 18mo ago. I adopted Atlanta as our home pretty quickly. I used to joke that when I started listening to a certain local AM-radio personality I felt like a local.

We now live in MN and despise it. This will never, never, be home! The thought of us staying through the college makes me ill. In fact we’re heading home to ATL next week. Can’t wait!!!

catlady

July 17th, 2013
6:34 am

Georgia,became home when we moved here. People at school would say, “you aren’t from,around here, are you?” And I would,say, “I am now.” Or they would ask if we were going home for Christ,as, and I would say, “this is home.” With my other moves, a place became home when I moved my stuff there.

I have a lot of fun guessing where a person grew up from their speech. Usually I can get pretty close.

BJ

July 17th, 2013
6:54 am

Bloom where you are planted.

Seriously?

July 17th, 2013
7:17 am

I’d say after 3 years in AZ, you are home, unless you have concrete plans to move elsewhere in the near future. Embrace what the West has to offer you. Does Michael really want the kids that far away for college?

motherjanegoose

July 17th, 2013
7:33 am

We have lived in Ga for 24 years this month. I have lived in 5 other states prior to moving here. I could live in another place such as Denver, Knoxville or Jacksonville FL. I am not STUCK on Ga but I do enjoy being here and have some wonderful friends. I like AZ but would not want to live there.

We visited a former neighbor, this past weekend in Oklahoma. We went 400 miles out of our way to see her and have dinner. She lived right next to us in Texas. We both talked about all the places we have lived. They were career Navy and my husband was Navy when we were first married.

I began to feel at home here ( in GA). It took about 5 years. Now I see them everywhere. I still miss the small town feel of our neighborhood in TX but really I do like living here ( except the traffic).

On our street, we have 33 “:children” ages 12-28 who have or will go to college. Seven went to UGA, including my two. Three went to Tech. Six are not yet in college. The families who have strong ties to UGA or Tech did not have children who went there. So, things change.

@malleesmom…it is funny how people ( I know) from MN love it there and poo poo the south. Most have never been here much or ever lived here. We know other people who moved to MN from GA and they did not like it either. I like MN in the summer…haha!

If you have moved around a lot, perhaps you get adjusted to your new environment easier. I stay in lot of hotels and never bring my own pillow. I see folks who do and even their blankets and sheets. Not me.

motherjanegoose

July 17th, 2013
7:36 am

oops…I began to feel at home here in Ga when I saw people I knew while out and about…not sure what happened there.

DietCokeGirl

July 17th, 2013
7:43 am

oh, this hits close to home for me (no pun intended). I was born and raised in Connecticut, I have been in Atlanta for 8.5 years and lived in FL for 9 years and neither have felt like home to me. Home is Connecticut and I will probably be eviscerated for that, and all the “Delta is ready when you are” if only it were that easy. My Husband hates winter and my family is still in FL, so while I would love to be back in CT, I would miss my family and Husband LOL!

GA is nice don’t get me wrong but I am treated like a Yankee (and yet I am a Red SoX fan ;) ) … But I know how theresa feels, I always say oh I am from CT…

And as for the college thing… I went to Uconn and my Husband went to Michigan State (hence the hating of winter) and I will try my best to get my kids to go to either one… After all they would be a legacy… And yes I would miss them being far away, but thats what College is for, to grow up and actually miss your parents!

DB

July 17th, 2013
7:44 am

Home is where your heart is — for me, home is where my husband is. We lived in the Midwest on a temporary one-year assignment last year, and while it never felt like “home”, knowing we were only going to be around for a year, we enjoyed being together and exploring a new part of the world. Now we’re in China for the summer as he’s working, and in August, we’ll be back in Atlanta, since he’s accepted a full-time position there.

I love Atlanta, and have ever since we moved here in the late 80’s. There’s a saying among HR people — it’s easy to get people to move to Atlanta, but it’s hard to get them to move away. Atlanta has a lot going for it. But I also loved living in Miami at that part of my life (miss the stone crabs), and I loved growing up in Virginia and I loved living in New England when we were first married (miss the fresh lobster right off the boat). However at one point in the last year, it looked like we might have to move. I wasn’t thrilled about it, but basically, I can be happy anywhere as long as he’s happy. The internet keeps you in touch with friends and family, travel is cheap, and a flexible job allows you to be a citizen of the world, not just a small corner of it.

It’s time to start saying, “I grew up in Georgia, but we live in Arizona, now.”

PHR

July 17th, 2013
7:46 am

I think a good rule of thumb would be the place you’ve lived the longest would be home. My parents (originally from WV and OH) moved to Atlanta in 1970 and have lived here longer than anywhere else so they claim Georgia as their home. Just my 2 cents.

yuki

July 17th, 2013
7:52 am

I have lived in the Atlanta area for 15 years but Louisiana will always be home.

Techmom

July 17th, 2013
7:59 am

Growing up military makes it difficult to claim the place you’re living as home since it was likely just going to be a few years. I chose to stay in Georgia at 19 on my own will when my dad was transferred to Texas. At that point I claimed Georgia.

If the plan is to stay in Az, then that’s your home. You can say that you’re from Georgia if someone asks but it’s sufficient in a casual conversation to simply say you’re from Arizona because that’s where you’re visiting from. Most of the time strangers are just looking to see how far you’ve come and don’t want your life history.

Brown Eyed Girl!

July 17th, 2013
8:09 am

I have lived in Louisville, KY for 12 years. This is where I live, but Georgia is my home! End of discussion!

motherjanegoose

July 17th, 2013
8:12 am

@ DB…your last line is really good!

@PHR we have lived in this house for 16 years this fall and cannot believe it…more than half of our married life. YES we do call GA home. I love that we are near the city, beach and mountains. I love the weather. I do not love the traffic and forget how bad it is until I go somewhere else ( like Tampa last month) and am sailing along at 8:30 a.m. on the interstate! Amazing!

@Diet..Yankees can be recognized by their mannerisms and accent. As are Southerners. I lived in Chicago for 14 years and moved south. Everyone teased me about those things. Now, I get teased about being a Southerner, when I go North.

Regarding going away for college: my two went to UGA for college. We rarely saw our son. He was at Mercer for Pharmacy School and ditto for those 4 years. He now lives and works about 30 minutes away and things are still the same. He came out for dinner on Monday. He worked all the way through college and did not have a lot of free time. Daughter also works but is in touch more often. I like that we can be out to see her in a hour but that she is still on her own and has loved living in Athens. Since mine have both traveled all over the country, I did not think it was that too important for them to go away to college. I do see the benefit for students who have not been out and about much but going somewhere far away and hating it, can be an expensive lesson. My daughter says she wants to live in Boston, for a while. We will see. She has never been there in the winter…haha! I would love to visit int the summer.

tchrmom

July 17th, 2013
8:16 am

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tchrmom

July 17th, 2013
8:19 am

hmmm…comment disappeared. Could it be because I said I would never be able to cheer for UGA or Tech? :) I always say I’m originally from Alabama, but I’ve lived in Georgia for 25 years. I think it became home when things were familiar and I found myself loving the Braves and Falcons. However, the one allegiance that remains…my heart belongs to Bama. Roll Tide!

thekimmer

July 17th, 2013
8:28 am

I have lived in four States and when asked where I am from I always say the location I am currently living. Depending on the circumstance that is sometimes the State, sometimes the city, and internationally sometimes the country.

Since all of the States I have lived in are in the same region of the country it was never necessary to explain how I could be from Boston with a southern accent. I consider wherever I have decided to reside as home but I also consider the place I was raised as home too. But, I’ve never been compelled to explain my background to a friendly question from a stranger who likely does not really care that I don’t live where I grew up. Also, the other thing is my wife grew up somewhere else and my children were born in other States and were raised in GA. So it would turn into quite a lengthy conversation to go through all of that!

Techmom

July 17th, 2013
8:40 am

My last comment disappeared too

Almost Heaven

July 17th, 2013
8:55 am

I’ve been in Atlanta for 15 years now, but WV will always be home. As my parents get older and their health starts to fail, I imagine I’ll go back home to care for them. But for now, I’m from GA.

A

July 17th, 2013
9:02 am

Agree that you should drop the bit about not claiming AZ. I’ve lived in many places, but when we’re out of town we just say we’re from Atlanta even though no one in my family was born here. It’s just easier. And if we end up in a longer conversation with someone, we’ll offer where we’ve lived previously, etc. But usually people only care where you’re coming from most recently so no need to get into your whole angst about not feeling like an Arizonan or whatever.

HB

July 17th, 2013
9:03 am

I left GA 13 years ago, but still tend to say I’m from there, because the question is usually posed after people hear my still-quite-strong southern accent. I love where I’ve lived the past 10 years, but deep down, South GA is more a part of who I am. Maybe it’s like the blog about close friends the other day — strongest bonds are often formed when we’re young.

MJG, I lived in southern New England for a while and bet your daughter will love it. Winter’s not all that bad near the water. It lasts forever, but it’s not as bitterly cold or snowy as inland, elevated areas (western Mass., upstate NY, etc). I actually found summer heat waves to be much rougher. When a rare brutal wave came through, there weren’t many places to escape, and my little window units could keep my top-floor apartment in the 85-90 degree range at best — spent a lot of time at the $1.50 theater and wandering around Wal-Mart.

Denise

July 17th, 2013
9:17 am

@yuki – Louisiana (BR) will ALWAYS be HOME for me even though, now that I have moved to TX, I have said “I’m going home…” referring to Atlanta. I was in ATL 22 years. (Never became a Falcons fan though. Geaux Saints!!) I’m still adjusting my MIND to the fact I’m in TX so my heart will take a minute to adjust. I just say “I am from LA but I LIVE in TX”.

A

July 17th, 2013
9:23 am

@HB, regarding your accent, my husband’s first language is not English so while we might tell people when we’re traveling that we’re from Atlanta, he usually adds in a line about where he’s originally from since he doesn’t sound like an American…let alone a Georgian!

Me

July 17th, 2013
9:33 am

Have now lived in ATL since 1983 and it is, and has been, home from that point forward.

Becky

July 17th, 2013
10:01 am

Theresa, I was born in GA and have lived here all of my 51 years..So, I’ve never had to claim anything other than GA as my home..

@Almost Heaven..I am from west GA (closer to AL) and went thru WV several years ago and they laughed at my accent..Guess I have a real heavy southern one..Of course my sister lived in MO for many years and they laughed at my accent also..

Lyons

July 17th, 2013
10:09 am

I’ve lived in different states and liked each for different reasons. Atlanta was fine for about 30 years, until traffic and cost of living dictated a move to Florida, where I more-or-less grew up and have family. Even though I’ve lived in the South for over 40 years and like it greatly, my heart has never really left western NY.

HB

July 17th, 2013
10:40 am

@A, I enjoy messing with people’s heads a little if rather than ” Where are you from?” they ask “Where did you move here from?” They looked so confused when I truthfully reply, “Rhode Island.”

MANGLER

July 17th, 2013
10:54 am

It’s 2 different things. You’re from Georgia. You live in Arizona. .
It’s when you ask yourself where “home” is that begs some thought. Most consider home to be a physical place. I consider it an emotional place that can change with time.

For fun you could start telling people you’re from Upper Mongolia, just for the reaction.

joe

July 17th, 2013
10:59 am

I’ve lived all around Atlanta for the past 23 years, but I do not claim it as home. I’ve enjoyed living here for the most part, but look forward to moving back home to TN at some point (no state income tax, less people, lower cost of living, more lakes to play on, etc).

missnadine

July 17th, 2013
11:10 am

In my case, maybe never, and it has been 10 years..

beth

July 17th, 2013
11:39 am

I just had this conversation with my husband last week as we were packing for our trip to Ohio (where we both were born and raised). We both kept referring to Ohio and the trip as going “home”. My kids (ages 5 and 8) kept looking at us like we were crazy because they were born here and this is home for them. After 12 years in Georgia, it is home for my husband and I too, but more like a 2nd home I guess. When the kids asked why we keep calling Ohio home, we had to make a conscience choice -not- to do that because we didn’t want to make them feel like their home is not home.

jmb

July 17th, 2013
12:22 pm

Been in GA sinc e1977 but TN will always be home! Like the other poster said, no state tax, no birthday tax and fresh mountain air too. Ga is just too dang humid for me as I’m getting older.

Mother of 2

July 17th, 2013
12:27 pm

I’ve lived all over the country and currently reside in GA. I’m “from” the state where I was born and raised and resided in until I lived on my own. I’ll never be from GA, but I love living here.

Stacey

July 17th, 2013
12:35 pm

I grew up in MS but have lived in Metro Atlanta 22 years. When I mention going back to MS to visit family I always refer to it as “going home” but when I’m there I can’t wait to get back home to GA. When people ask where I’m from my answer is born and raised in MS but been in Atlanta since 1991. I tease my husband because he is actually from Atlanta and when he tells people that, they usually ask where he’s from originally. He jokes that he is going to just claim another state since no one seems to believe that anyone was actually born here.

Denise

July 17th, 2013
12:49 pm

@Stacey – I got to ATL in 1991 too and said the same thing! I guess “home” is where you live….once you wrap your mind around living there. I have just adopted ATL as my “second home” and am working on adjusting to Fort Worth, TX as my new home. After being in ATL so long I feel like it may take some time before I get over no longer living there. I’m trying to plug in here to make it better…find a church, find a Sorority alumnae chapter, meet some people that do not work at Lockheed!

Bhorsoft

July 17th, 2013
3:20 pm

I’m an Air Force Brat, so home is where I’m at.

FCM

July 17th, 2013
4:06 pm

My Mom has been here since 1968. She said 3 years is too soon. She did not have a definative number but said you will know when you know. MI is not home to her anymore, it is just where her brother and dad live.

My brother has lived in CA, FL, and currently in OH. His wife is from NY. The both say GA is home.

catlady

July 17th, 2013
4:13 pm

When we first moved “up north”toAlabama, it was required that teachers make two home visits a year. I went with my Mother to this dark little hovel of a house, and were met by a man who said,” Ah nevah thought Ahd live to see the day when mah son would be,tawt bah a YANKEE!” My mother, a Southerner by birth, swelled up and said, “Why who is a,Yankee?” And he said, ” why yew. Yew ahr!” When she told him she was more Southern than him, he said, “But yew don’ tawk lak we do!” And my Mother said, ” No, no I don’t”

My first day of school after we moved in I was asked, “Are you a Yankee or a Southerner?” And, “Are you for Auburn or the Tide?” I had no clue. The only colleges I knew about was FLASTCOWO and Duke!

Sk8ing Momma

July 17th, 2013
6:47 pm

I’ve been in metro Atlanta since 1993; Los Angeles is still home.

Sk8ing Momma

July 17th, 2013
6:50 pm

Clarification: I like Atlanta; however, I don’t have a real affinity for it. It’s not where I grew up. I don’t have fond childhood memories. It’s not where I spent time with my nuclear family. KWIM??? I feel as if I’m a California girl to the core. Atlanta’s culture is VERY different from what I grew up with…Los Angeles is what I identify with. (Btw, Atlanta is the fourth city in which I’ve lived…L.A. remains home.)

BlondeHoney

July 17th, 2013
7:56 pm

I moved to GA from Miami in 2005 for a better job with my company, and it still doesn’t feel like home…Miami will always feel like home to me. I moved there as a very young child from New York when my parents divorced so Mom could be near to my grandparents so all my formative years were spent there. I feel I know the soul of Miami (Miami-Dade county that is), know and understand everything about it; it’s where I grew up and raised my two wonderful boys. Honestly, this area still feels very weird and foreign to me even after 8 years and I don”t know if that feeling will ever change

joseph

July 17th, 2013
8:43 pm

I’ve lived in louseyanna for a little over 3 years now and it will NEVER be home after being born in lanta, and living there for 75% of my life……..