Our gift ideas for Father’s Day — but I need to get on it!

Father’s Day is this Sunday so I wanted to share with you a few ideas that we have.

Lilina said we should buy a red and black ice cream cake from Baskin-Robbins. (I’m totally doing this. He loves their Reese’s Peanut Butter Cup ice cream and cake and of course the red and black are for UGA!)

She also thinks we should get red and black balloons.

Here are some possible gift ideas that I need to pick two or so and run with it!

A new electric toothbrush – he used to have one but it finally died. I think he would like that.

A new UGA shirt for game days.

Two new Georgia collapsible chairs to take camping with us so people know who we support! (Go Dogs!) .

A wireless speaker for his iPhone to use on trips or out back.

A utility “knife” for electronic gear – charge connectors for anything you need to plug into your computer to charge. I think this would also convenient for  a trip.

My last idea is to hire a pool guy for the summer. Poor Michael spends so much time cleaning our pool and making sure it’s just right that I think he would enjoy a summer off.

But I need to make a decision and get on it ASAP!

What are your big ideas for Father’s Day? Give us some inspiration.

48 comments Add your comment

Mayhem

June 13th, 2013
7:22 am

We don’t give presents on Father’s Day or Mother’s Day. Neither one of my parents want presents. They have everything they need, and have told us over and over, no Presents!!

What we do instead, is get the entire family together and grill, and spend the day as a family. Mostly for Father’s Day. For Mother’s Day, we go to Marlowe’s Tavern for brunch.

The memories we create are more memorable, than any present. Especially an electric toothbrush. There is no way in hell I would EVER purchase something like that for my parents for Fathers/Mothers Day.

malleesmom

June 13th, 2013
7:24 am

I had new pictures taken of our daughters. Getting a frame later today. I also got a membership for a hobby organization. Done.

Mayhem

June 13th, 2013
7:24 am

AND if you do chose to give presents, the best ones are hand made. Not purchased by YOU, but made by HIS CHILDREN. Make a tie with their handprints on it. Have the kids decorate a tumblr with Georgia stuff. Have it come from the kids, not you. He is NOT your father. You are just adding stress to your life by worrying about what to get your husband for father’s day. Instead, have the kids make something! Hit up Hobby Lobby, tons of crafts there for the kiddies. I think Michael would appreciate that way more than a toothbrush.

Litt

June 13th, 2013
7:53 am

Guys don”t want chotskies for father’s day, no matter who their crafted by.

You know what guys what guys want for father’s day, the same thing they want on their birthdays and Christmas. That and tools.

Actually, TWG...

June 13th, 2013
7:55 am

…cleaning the pool MIGHT be Michael’s “quiet time” – away from job work, away from wifey and kids, etc…I know many a man who uses cutting the grass and other “chores” as “down” time…

MatthewH

June 13th, 2013
8:02 am

Shouldn’t it be “Go Dawgs!”?

the dude

June 13th, 2013
8:09 am

Litt said it best, a good rogering a some peace and quiet.

Belle

June 13th, 2013
8:10 am

we got daddy a cool gel pillow from kohls. It stay cool on both sides at night. It should be a hit.

motherjanegoose

June 13th, 2013
8:12 am

We will go out to dinner with our kids at whatever restaurant my husband picks. I foot the bill. The kids will buy him something with their own $$$, They are old enough and pretty good about it. No crafts for my husband. I do frame pictures of our family, for his office. I sent my Dad his gift about a month ago. It was something I thought he would like and he did. I sent his card yesterday.

Techmom

June 13th, 2013
8:39 am

We’ll take him to dinner. Our son cooked for him last year but this year he has to work on Sunday (at a restaurant) so the last thing he’ll want to do is cook when he gets home. Our son has a couple of ideas for gifts, as do I so we’ll probably go out Saturday and pick something up. Since our son works, we usually split the cost of whatever he wants to get (just as he did with my husband for my mother’s day gift). We try not to make a huge deal out of “Hallmark Holidays” but a little treat is always nice.

I jokingly told my husband a few weeks ago that I was going to invite everyone in our extended family over for dinner on Father’s Day so he could help me clean the house and cook like he did for me on Mother’s Day. He wanted to do something for HIS mom, which is nice, except that it also meant he volunteered me which meant, I didn’t really get to do what I wanted on Mother’s Day (which was nothing but especially not cleaning, cooking and playing host).

K's Mom

June 13th, 2013
8:53 am

We are going to my parent’s house for some boating and relaxing. Not doing big gifts this year since we have been doing so much in our house.

J.

June 13th, 2013
8:53 am

I like the ice cream cake idea…may borrow that. I ordered an iphone case from Shutterfly with our kids’ pictures on it for my husband and they are making pictures for him. We will probably make him a special breakfast that morning since I am working most of the weekend. In my opinion, TWG, hiring a pool guy might not be a good idea for your husband. As mentioned by another, this task might be something he actually enjoys and may not want to relinquish control of. :)

Ann

June 13th, 2013
9:09 am

The ideas should come from the kids, so I would definitely do the ice cream cake, since it was Lilina’s idea. My 8 year old is great at coming up with his own ideas for Mother’s Day and Father’s Day, so we are just the driver, if it’s something that involves a store. And, we remind him, a few weeks before that the date is coming up. His ideas are usually better than what we would come up with and he’s great at knowing what Mom or Dad wants or needs.

So, I would remove from your list any idea that didn’t come from the kids. Either each kid can give a gift or the three of them together can come up with 1 or 2 gifts they agree on. A parent can be the facilitator when needed or give feedback if an idea won’t work out or is not in the budget, but let the main spirit of the giving come from the child. Knowing how to find or make the right gift for a particularly person is a good skill for kids to learn – putting yourself in other people’s shoes and thinking of their likes, dislikes, personalities and interests.

DJ Superstar

June 13th, 2013
9:11 am

Who do wives get all stressed out on Father’s Day? The man you married is not your father. Ditto for Mother’s Day. On that day, your children should do something for you, not the man who married you.

Mayhem

June 13th, 2013
9:17 am

Amen DJ. My father never got anything for my Mom on Father’s Day, nor did Mom get him anything for Father’s Day. I’ve never gotten my husband any thing, nor has he given me anything on Mother’s Day. we have both helped the kids MAKE something, but I’ve never bought him a present for Father’s Day.

A friend of mine just lost her father last week, this Father’s day is going to be very difficult for her. I always think of those who have lost a parent on these days.

jmb

June 13th, 2013
10:08 am

Spending the day on the lake and some good food on the grill. Something that he loves to do.

jmb

June 13th, 2013
11:05 am

And unlike the others, I think a pool man is a great idea. Wish one of my kids had gotten me a housekeeper for the summer.

jjmom

June 13th, 2013
11:35 am

Sure your husband in not your father, but he is the father of your children. So make sure that you have your children give him a gift even if it is something they made themselves or something they bought. Also remember it is being thought of on your day that counts to a lot of people, knowing that someone remembered them as a father.

non committal mind reader

June 13th, 2013
11:44 am

Father’s day is nothing more than a day of work for me (a father of four). I hate it.

Denise

June 13th, 2013
11:44 am

I’m laughing about the electronic toothbrush. I was soooooo happy when my mama got me one for Christmas one year but her husband was HORRIFIED. I always say that the gift is about the person receiving it. Give them what they would like. I loved it..and was ticked when it died. TWG, if this is something that the kids are going to pay for out of their money, there are some battery-operated Sonicare toothbrushes that cost maybe $30 as opposed to the $100+ plug-in. It works great.

jarvis

June 13th, 2013
12:23 pm

BBQ for lunch and a little time with my kids. No present is necessary.

Also, don’t know if Litt was kidding or not, but in all seriousness, I do expect sex on Father’s Day. And I don’t want to have to initiate it.

Mayhem

June 13th, 2013
12:25 pm

I think it would upset me if anyone gave me an electric toothbrush as a gift. That’s just not the kind of thing you give. You buy that yourself. Personal hygiene products do not make good gifts.

Denise

June 13th, 2013
12:33 pm

@Mayhem – Mama was telling me about hers and I said “oooooh, I’d like that” so she bought me one. I was thrilled because it was something I wanted and had not bought for myself. Now, had she bought me some Proactiv….naw, I would not have been thrilled with that. But she LOVED the Clarisonic facial brush I bought her for Christmas. She saw mine, wanted one, and got one. You just have to know who you’re buying for. What THEY like is what’s important.

K's Mom

June 13th, 2013
12:47 pm

I am sorry, but you should honor your spouse on Mother’s and Father’s day and your children should too. We decided not to do gifts as I mentioned earlier, but we have cards and we will do something special. Our kids are too little to do anything on their own, but I appreciate the time and effort my husband puts into being a father and I want to show him appreciation in addition to my kids showing him appreciation. Saying that you do not have to do anything for your spouse because they are not your parent is terrible. You are parenting together and I think it is great that TWG is doing both things she has thought of and things her kids have thought of….

jarvis

June 13th, 2013
12:53 pm

Are with K’s Mom. I give my wife a Mother’s Day gift because I appreciate her as a mother. She’s good at it, and it makes my life easier.

I also give my children Easter baskets. I don’t mind that they haven’t been crucified.

jarvis

June 13th, 2013
12:56 pm

Are?….I meant “I am”.

Mayhem

June 13th, 2013
1:50 pm

@Denise – that’s fine, but I certainly would not want one as a gift. LOL.

My mom told me, back in the early days of my marriage, to NEVER let him buy me an appliance for my birthday, christmas, etc. She said that would set a tone, and all I would ever get would be stuff for our house. I quickly nipped that idea in the bud, and told hubby NEVER to get me an appliance for a gift. :)

Denise

June 13th, 2013
1:53 pm

@Mayhem – an iron or a vacuum is definitely NOT a gift. :-) Unless it came with a card stating that the BUYER would be the only one using it.

Actually, TWG...

June 13th, 2013
1:58 pm

…are you sure the pool boy is not for YOU? I mean, you did have 2 topics regarding divorce in the past few days…

Mayhem

June 13th, 2013
2:22 pm

LOL Denise!!!

Scooby

June 13th, 2013
2:36 pm

I am the opposite. I’ve been thrilled to received as gifts – a Bissell carpet cleaner, Oreck vacuum, KitchenAid mixer, food processor and other appliances. I prefer to pick out my own clothes, perfume, jewelry, etc.

Mayhem

June 13th, 2013
2:46 pm

@Scooby – all this time I thought you were a man. LOL.

Scooby

June 13th, 2013
3:08 pm

@Mayhem – that’s funny!

Scooby

June 13th, 2013
3:10 pm

@Denise – I actually asked for and received a new iron for Christmas. I was thrilled because I had needed one for so long. Sadly, I haven’t used it yet, it’s so state of the art I haven’t had time to read the instruction book!

Becky

June 13th, 2013
3:18 pm

We don’t buy each other gifts for Mother’s Day or Father’s Day either…We do both take the kids to buy us small gifts though..

Scooby..As I’ve gotten older, applainces don’t bother me..Actually if my husband would buy me a Kitchen Aid mixer, I would be in hog heaven..

Denise

June 13th, 2013
3:19 pm

@Scooby – my mother was reallllllly serious about her iron when we were growing up. She would have loved to get a fancy iron for any occasion. That woman would put bottled water in the iron (before we were drinking it by the gallon per day) but wouldn’t let us drink it. That was her iron’s water. LOL! I would hate to see how she would be with a state-of-the-art iron. (Actually, what kind is it? She might like it.)

Scooby

June 13th, 2013
3:35 pm

@Denise – my mother was the same way! She bought those gallon bottles of “distilled” water for her iron. But then again she did ALOT of ironing! At one time we even had an “ironing lady” that did the ironing for like 10 cents per item. Anyway, I think it is a Hamilton Beach Professional iron. It’s probably not that hard to use, I just need to check it out.

Scooby

June 13th, 2013
3:36 pm

@Becky – a KitchenAid mixer is worth every penny! Work on it!

Techmom

June 13th, 2013
3:41 pm

I second the KitchenAid Mixer- LOVE mine!

We can "THIRD"...

June 13th, 2013
4:07 pm

…the KitchenAid mixer. We got ours (the Artesian – stainless steel)) from Amazon at about $150 less than what they charge in ANY store, plus free shipping when we bought it a couple of years ago..

Denise

June 13th, 2013
4:27 pm

@Scooby – are we sisters!? LOL! Your mom sounds like mine. My mom was so mad at me when she visited me in ATL bc I didn’t give her any ironing to do.

Ann

June 13th, 2013
5:01 pm

@ K’s Mom – I agree that spouses should honor and appreciate their spouse’s parenting throughout the year. I just think that, when the spouse buys Father’s Day or Mother’s Day gifts in addition to the kids, sometimes the parent gifts can overshadow the things that the kids give their Dad or Mom. What’s wrong with simply letting the kids shine as the gift giver on those days? If a child makes something or gets a modest gift, then Mom swoops in with a gift that may be pricier, it just seems unnecessary. We don’t overdo the gift thing on any holiday, but we do put thought into something special when we give gifts. It is rarely more than 1 or 2 things at any holiday. If you get the right gift, that one thing can be more special than receiving several gifts.

When my son was 7, he had been hearing his Dad talk, during the year previously, about wanting a single cup Keurig coffee maker for a few. It was not mentioned in the months’ leading up to Father’s Day, but my son remembered him talking about it. It was his sole idea. While it was more expensive than he would have normally spent on his own for Father’s day, I helped facilitate it by providing the money for it. He was excited about his idea and picked out the color and some coffee flavors to go with it.

Generally, I think that TWG’s kids are old enough and bright enough to come up with plenty of good ideas on their own, if they know their Dad well enough.

Ann

June 13th, 2013
5:02 pm

Meant to type “for a few months” – left off the “months”.

tchrmom

June 13th, 2013
5:56 pm

I think it’s an awful thing to not honor your spouse on Mother’s or Father’s day. No, he is not my father but he is the father of my children and without him they wouldn’t be here. It seems a little self absorbed to not do so. I won’t do anything fancy but I do give a gift (and he does for me) to show how blessed I feel to have him in my life and to be such a wonderful father. I’ve seen the other side and I know how lucky I am! When the boys were younger they did some homemade gifts and those are nice. Now our boys are older and can buy for him without my help, besides, I don’t think he wants a mug with a 12 and a 22 year old’s hand prints. :) They still surprise me with what they come up with for both of us.

motherjanegoose

June 13th, 2013
7:03 pm

We have always honored each other and shown the kids that we appreciate each other. My husband did a great job of taking my two shopping to get something for me (NO CORDS ALLOWED…HAHA) and I took my two shopping for their Dad. Last year, I bought my husband a nice Craftsman lawnmower. A few years ago, I was at a meeting in Oregon. We were away from the kids. I took him out to brunch and the Sea Caves with the Otters and such. It was so odd not to have any children in tow and others were looking at us like we had no kids. We got a kick out of it. When we got home, our son had purchased and installed a 42 inch TV for his Dad. He was very proud. He bought me my Mac Computer a few years ago too. I am delighted that my kids know how to show appreciation to us and this is because we have done it for them and each other. It is not always an expensive gift and that is fine too.

BTW it irritates me when men say, ” Guess I bought my own Father’s Day Dinner or Gift as they used my CC to pay for it.” That NEVER happens at our house. When you get a gift, you do not have to pay for it. I guess I do not know many women who do not have some source of income, even a part time job. Even if they do not, why do their husbands feel they have to fuss about it? Did they not make the choice together?

jarvis

June 14th, 2013
9:03 am

I love that this blog about Father’s Day turned into what to/not to give a woman as a present.

DB

June 15th, 2013
8:27 pm

So much angst . . . it’s a day set aside to celebrate having a father in your life. My dad died last year, so I will be remembering him, but in a happy way, not a sad way. I celebrate my husband being the father of my children, and enjoy giving him a gift — nothing overboard, just a couple of dri-fit golf shirts and I had his latest diploma framed for him. Some years, if money’s been tight, it’s just been a card. It’s just a recognition of the special people in your life — what’s wrong with that? Celebrate it any way you wish, play it up, play it down — but most of all, cherish the man who is the father of your children, and remember the man who made you what you are.

That’s all. It’s not rocket science.