How long did your divorce take?

The woman from the earlier post  told me that her lawyer said she could have a divorce in approximately a month as long as nothing was contested.  I had no idea a divorce could happen that quickly. That doesn’t even seem like it’s long enough for everyone to process what is happening.

Is that normal? How long do divorces normally take? How long did your divorce take?

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janice

June 7th, 2013
1:45 pm

laws vary by state. some states, when divorcing couples have children, require parents to participate in a parenting class to help with issues of the children. i was divorced in maryland and i had to be legally separated a year before i could even petition the court for a divorce. i think all total it was 18 months. i do know that if adultery is cause for divorce, then the divorce doesn’t take as long as a non-contested divorce. my divorce was non-contested as we divided our property and had no children. when children are involved, custody arrangements and child support are two things that seem to take forever to settle before the final divorce.

janice

June 7th, 2013
1:47 pm

and i was divorced over 20 yrs ago. laws change over time.

Brown Eyed Girl!

June 7th, 2013
1:59 pm

Once I filed, I was given a court date in 90 days. So basically, it only took 90 days. We had no children and had worked out a settlement during the waiting period!

Grasshopper

June 7th, 2013
2:15 pm

Girl, you got something you want to go ahead and get off your chest?

Two divorce columns in as many days?

Sum ting wong.

catlady

June 7th, 2013
2:25 pm

These laws vary. We did not rush into it. We separated in November and the divorce was final in May. I wanted to give it a chance for repair, but he refused to go to counseling.

jarvis

June 7th, 2013
2:26 pm

Texas has a 12 month delay….or at least it used to when my friend divorced there a decade ago.

jarvis

June 7th, 2013
2:27 pm

Your friend has a boyfriend. That’s my opinion.
Why else would she care if it was over in 4 weeks?

catlady

June 7th, 2013
2:31 pm

Although there were 3 children involved, it was uncontested. I instigated the divorce. He did not even show up, but he got a very good deal (child support of $20 per child per week) the rest fell to me.a

FCM

June 7th, 2013
2:31 pm

Depends on how quickly they reach an agreement on property, finances, custody, child support, and visitation.

Mine took 6 months…not even sure why except he kept saying he didn’t want to support his kids.

I agree with Jarvis though…sounds like your friend is either got someone new lined up or as someone said on the other posts, she thinks that divorce is a magic delete button that makes it all better.

Becky

June 7th, 2013
2:32 pm

We separated in Nov. divorce was final in Jan..Like Brown Eyed Girl..Just us, no kids..He kept the cabin in the mountains, his vehicle and few other things..I kept the house that I am in, my car and other things..No big hassle..

the dude

June 7th, 2013
2:40 pm

30 days in GA, you might want to check for AZ

Seriously?

June 7th, 2013
2:42 pm

In GA, with no kids, no lawyers and an amicable split, I had to wait 60 days for mine to be finalized.

catlady

June 7th, 2013
2:45 pm

As far as “processing,” Theresa, the processing has been going on for a long, long time. Unless there is a startling incident of discovering adultery, this pot has been simmering for a long time.

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Young Lady

June 7th, 2013
3:00 pm

jarvis- Abusive relationships. You want a very quick, no fuss divorce in that situation. Obviously doesn’t apply here but it’s one application for a 4- week divorce that doesn’t involve infidelity.

I’ve known 2 people that have gotten quick divorces with those circumstances but they’re definately not the norm. Abuse is a hard cycle to break.

Just Me Thinking...

June 7th, 2013
3:42 pm

Like a previous poster, I got divorced in GA and it took 30 days. There were no kids and I did all the paperwork myself. He didn’t even have to show up. It does seem that there is something else going on with the friend that we don’t know. I mean unless her and her husband have all worked out the details, it would seem that it would take longer with property and children involved. One or both of then REALLY wants out.

mb

June 7th, 2013
3:45 pm

Twenty-three years. I wish I had thought of it 22 years sooner.

Been There

June 7th, 2013
4:11 pm

It would not take long if the lawyers didn’t need to escalate the proceedings just to get their slice of the cake. With kids, it’s about two years. Without kids, about 6 months. If there is nothing to haggle over, 90 days.

The real reason divorces are usually so expensive...

June 7th, 2013
4:24 pm

…is because they are worth it, according to the late, great, Lewis Grizzard, may he rest in peace…

HB

June 7th, 2013
4:50 pm

In addition to state laws on when you can finalize and whether or not the divorce is contested, I would think court dockets/workloads play a role in how quickly divorces are processed. Places with judge shortages probably have longer waits.

Percy

June 7th, 2013
7:17 pm

Just over 9 months. She initiated the suit, took the house, the kid , child support, and demanded I pay her attorney. She got support and half the mortgage till she dropped that demand. She’s had two husbands since. Both were ruined financially.

Beck

June 7th, 2013
7:50 pm

Filed in June, court date in September. It could have been much faster had the ex not dragged his feet on getting to a notary public.

In GA it’s 30 days from the time you file, if you don’t have children together.

Beck

June 7th, 2013
7:51 pm

And 30 days is plenty of time. Filing for the divorce is just the official step. All the hard decisions should be over at that point.

hryder

June 8th, 2013
6:02 am

One avoids any such event by both being certain prior to marriage. Then being willing to compromise on anything that arises. The only exception being that you or your life’s partner becomes untreatably insane. Far too many people fail to realize that the world and all other currently alive persons will continue their activities should they totally disappear from earth. If you have problems comprehending these messages do not marry.

A reader

June 8th, 2013
8:50 am

A lot depends upon state laws, negotiating a settlement, and getting a court date. In GA if you have children, you must be separated for 90 days and take a parenting class before the divorce will be granted. But you can file before any of that takes place. You also have to negotiate a settlement that includes a custody and visitation information, child support, and potentially spousal support. It also include the division of assets and debts. It is not a slam dunk. But even if you have everything in place before you file, you still have to wait for a court date that can be up to 90 days. And that is if both parties agree on everything. But that rarely happens because you are divorcing the person for a reason and emotions are high. I have heard of divorces that take 2-3 years because one or the other drag it out or refuses to agree to anything.

justmy2cents

June 8th, 2013
11:05 am

From the time I filed here in GA to finish, 30 days. This was with a child, and I went to a document typing center and they took care of everything for less than 200 bucks. Best money my ex-husband ever spent!

BlondeHoney

June 8th, 2013
9:50 pm

My divorce was in Florida and we waited until both boys were 18 (it was only a few months) until we filed. We settled all financials before filing,including selling the house; I let him handle everything since he left me and i did not even show up to court as I had already left Miami to make my new life. Total time from filing to final decree I would say was no more than 30-60 days.

Georgia Family Lawyer

June 9th, 2013
9:10 am

I’m a divorce lawyer in GA. There’s a lot of wrong information in these comments. Here’s your answer: The state statute says that a divorce may be granted any time 31 days after the Petition for Divorce is filed with the court. However, if it is granted less than 45 days after being filed, the Respondent has the right to reopen it; therefore the judge might make you wait the 45 days. You can file a “Consent to Try in 31 Days” so that you do not have to wait the additional 15 days. Even if it’s uncontested, it still has to go on the judge’s calendar so there may be an additional waiting period–not because of the law, but because of the judge’s schedule. This varies greatly county by county. In Fulton it can generally be final 30-45 days after it is filed. In other counties it can be 2, 3, 6 months or more waiting for you to have a chance to appear in court or for the judge to sign it. If there are children one of you will usually have to go in front of the judge to “take the Final.” If there are no children you may be able to just have the judge sign the paperwork: “Judgment on the Pleadings.” If it is contested it depends on the judges’ and lawyers schedules but it can easily take over 1 year to finish. In all cases if there are children you must take a parenting class. You may take the class in any county, no matter where your divorce is pending. Fulton and DeKalb have the most scheduled classes. Even if it’s truly uncontested it would be wise to have a lawyer look over it. If it’s screwed up you may not know it until years down the road and then it’s a time- and money-nightmare to fix it.

jmb

June 10th, 2013
9:58 am

After 20 years of marriage, 2 of our children under 18, it took a little over 2 years. Our delays were mostly due attorneys having conflicts with the court dates. Last delay was a family members death having me to postpone it once more. Many things come into play with court systems, lawyers and judges.