Dove experiment: How do you see yourself?

Dove has posted a new video looking at how women see themselves, and it really is quite moving. (I will admit I teared up at the end.) So watch the video and then look at the sketches below.


“A former forensic artist for the San Jose police department met a series of women and asked each to describe the way they look. He had no way of seeing them behind a curtain. He prompted them to detail everything: hair length, facial structure, their most prominent features. He then sketched each participant from their self-description.”

“Each woman was asked before the study to get to know one of the other participants. The forensic artist then prompted each woman to describe the other’s face. “

“At the end of the video, the artist reveals two sketches — one from the participant itself, one from their partner. The differences are remarkable.”

How do you think you see yourself? Would you be more critical than a stranger?

Source: via Theresa on Pinterest

16 comments Add your comment


April 17th, 2013
12:56 pm

How about a fun topic? Like where are you vacationing this summer? Recipe Swap? What do you do to keep in shape?

There’s so much anger and hate in the world, can’t we just have a fun topic?


April 17th, 2013
1:39 pm

I agree with Mayhem.. :)

Will most likely go to Charleston for vacation this year..Kids want to go and I’ve never been, so will take them there..Love to cook, so looking forward to recipe swaps..I walk to keep in shape, but sad to say, not enough..

Just Me Thinking...

April 17th, 2013
1:57 pm

I actually like the topic. How we view ourselves often times directly affects how we view our children and how they will eventually learn to view themselves. My husband tells me all the time how women are so hard on ourselves and that many of the flaws we see in ourselves are either not seen or completely overlooked by others. As for the side topic other posters tried to start…trying to vacation in the Florida Keys.


April 17th, 2013
2:06 pm

Wow. That is really eye opening. I got teary eyed at the end as well. This really makes me stop and think. This should be done as a project with kids who are having problems relating to other kids and problems in school. This might really make those kids realize they have far more going for them than they might realize.


April 17th, 2013
2:13 pm

Quite remarkable.


April 17th, 2013
2:16 pm

@Becky – I’ve been to Charleston so many times, it if off the list. Used to go for Girlfriend weekends, about 10 years in a row……We usually stayed on Isle of Plams and Sullivan’s Island.

Definately go to the Market Place. Schedule time at Magnolia Plantation, it’s just beautiful there. And of course, you HAVE to go on a carriage ride through downtown.

Also, your boy will LOVE the USS York. A docked Aircraft carrier that you can tour. Fascinating!!!!! One of the original American Flags that was torn during WWII is on display. There’s also a submarine you can tour by the ship. That takes about 10 minutes..LOL.

AND, just about every restaurant there has She Crab Soup. I like it with a shot of sherry.

AND, if you get a chance, go crabbing. That is so much fun, and your kids will LOVE it. You get a raw piece of chicken on a hook, with about 30 feet of string, tied to a small piece of wood. You throw it into the water and watch as the crabs start to eat. You have to have a partner, who sneaks up behind the crabs and catches them with a net. We did a charter tour, and the captain of our tour took all our crabs, and steamed them on the boat, while we went sightseeing. He then spread all the crabs out on the table, with some butter, and we all went to town!!!! It was a blast, and we were up to our knees in mud. Picture 16 middle aged women doing this…..


April 17th, 2013
2:18 pm

Oh and as for my vacation plans this year, hopefully a quick trip to Savannah with a few girlfriends the first of May, then on to PCB in July with our family for a week.


April 17th, 2013
2:45 pm

My children love to draw….They often bring me a picture of “me”. They are 13 & 10 and so while not going to turn out something like this police sketch arist they are apt to draw what they see.

I am 5′5″, I am overweight on every medical chart, and my waist is nowhere near the 19.5″ it was in my youth but it is more narrow than my hips or bust.

My children draw me as tall, with a round face that is always smiling or laughing. They do draw my hair longer than I tend to think it is and with more curl than I usually put in it. They never add the grey even when I am need of my colorist. They view my waist as very narrow and are very forgiving on my hips/weight.

I asked them once. They said Mom, you are overweight and we could draw a belly there. However this is how we see the INSIDE of you! You are active, you love to have fun with us, you sing and dance, you like being our mom.

Now I look at photos of me (and yes I see that my weight is up or down)….but I try to look past that and see the inside of me. I see the laughter in eyes, the real affection between me and my kids, the sheer joy of us being together…and then suddenly I don’t see a “fat girl” anymore.


April 17th, 2013
3:23 pm

I am not, what most consider, pretty or attractive. I am fine with it. I made peace with that aspect of my life years ago. BUT yesterday a teacher walked a child up to me before my show and said, “Tell her what you told the class in the hallway.” I was a bit worried and said, ” Is everything o.k.? ” The teacher replied, ” Oh yes!” The child said, ” I told everyone you are pretty and nice!” There you have it! The teacher was a man. Not that it mattered but I found it nice for him to think this was worth sharing with me. I have also had people tell me that I look younger than my 53 years.

To me, it is about balance. If you are drop dead gorgeous and not a kind nor pleasant person, is that a good thing? I appreciate beauty but I also appreciate talent, loyalty, friendship, kindness and a host of other characteristics. Sometimes, it takes more to develop and retain those. Meeting people from this blog has been a pleasant surprise. I had no idea how any of you would look but it was fun finding out!

I am near Charleston SC now. I was in Savannah last month and St. Augustine last week. I hope to fly to Northern CA this summer and drive down the coast. My daughter suggests we look up all the restaurants on Diners Dives and Drive Ins. I think I may have gotten that wrong but it does seem like fun!


April 17th, 2013
3:34 pm

Thank you Mayhem..I will make plans for these things..THey both love crabs, so the soup and crabbing sound like a lot of fun for them..You’re right, the boy will love the USS York, so that is a must..

I love Savannah and have been may times, LOTS to see and do there..The Pink House, Juilete Lowe (sp) house, Bonaventure, the waving girl..Just riding around looking at all of the history is fun..Not to keen on PCB, but hope that you have a blast..


April 17th, 2013
4:01 pm

@MJG..Going to have to disagree with you on that one..You are a very pretty woman..You have a wonderful laugh, beautiful skin, a fantastic smile and you are just all around a really great person..They are right about the fact that you don’t look 53..

I will agree with you about being drop dead gorgeous on the outside and being ugly on the inside, that isn’t a good thing..I will never be considered a beauty either, but I like to think that I am a fairly nice person..Some don’t see me that way and I am fine with that..As long as my two little ones love me and think I am beautiful, I will be happy with that..


April 17th, 2013
4:41 pm

Wow…thanks Becky! That was a day brightener! I guess it is high time for me to meet you for lunch again! I do owe you, after those compliments….haha! I so enjoyed meeting you and it has been far too long since we have done so!

When DB and I were in Chicago, we stopped at DSW shoes. We poked around to see what shoes might fit the bill of the person who was complaining about my wardrobe and suggesting that expensive suits and shoes would be an upgrade. We had a good laugh about it, as we pointed out some shoes I would NOT wear. The good thing about my job is that my attire is not the part people are mostly interested in.


April 17th, 2013
9:10 pm

One thing that hasn’t changes much – for the most part, women still see themselves as worse looking than they are. We see too fat, too thin, too tall, too short, etc.. whereas a man, any man, will look at themselves and say; I’m hot! I have a small company, and I work with men and women that are job hunting. I find women almost always downplay their accomplishments, whereas a (large) number of men will exaggerate their success. I used to think this low self-esteem was most prevalent in my age group (40+), but I see this in young women as well. Of all the studies on why women don’t move up as quickly or as often as well, I think a big reason is because women just don’t visualize themselves as leaders, and therefore don’t ask for things (jobs, pay raise) as successfully as men.

Augusta Marchitto

April 17th, 2013
11:22 pm

Your style is so unique compared to other people I’ve read stuff from. Many thanks for posting when you have the opportunity, Guess I will just book mark this site.


April 18th, 2013
3:11 pm

@FCM – I got a little teary-eyed reading what your children said. I love that they see your “inside”. I try to see my “inside” even though I more times than not focus on my bad skin and tummy.

@MJG – I agree with Becky! You are beautiful inside and out. In fact, you remind me of my favorite aunt in how you look, laugh, and emote.

non committal mind reader

April 19th, 2013
9:39 am

As a man…

I love this ad! It says what I, as a man and as a husband, have known for years: Women are too hard on themselves (and too hard on each other).