Would your husband take dance lessons with you?

I turn 41 next week and for my birthday I have asked for dance classes with my husband.

I have wanted to take dance classes with my husband since 1996 when we lived in New York City during the beginning of the swing craze. Swing dancing was everywhere and we couldn’t do it. They held swing dances outside of Lincoln Center in the summers. We were going out to “speakeasies” where they were swing dancing. Everywhere we turned couples were twirling and jiving. Sadly, we never took classes.

So when I saw an offer for half-price lessons on one of those social deal websites, I snapped it up. It’s 10 weeks of dance lessons for two for less than $100. You can’t beat that.

The teacher is an older woman and seems very Norma Desmond. We took our first class last night. There is no touching your partner in your first class. You just learn to feel the music. She had some basic side steps and arm positioning and then you just learned how to shorten or lengthen your steps based on the beat and speed of the music. It was fun just seeing what you could do with some very basic moves.

Michael is being a very good sport about it. He didn’t complain at all and really did try.  He says needs to stop following the old lady and just feel the music.

I am excited to learn how to dance but I am also excited about 10 weeks of dates with my husband. I am excited to get out of the house on a school night and play hooky. No feeding the kids dinner. No giving baths. No reading books. We get to go off and have fun together. I was very giggly on the drive home and kept smiling after the class so I think it’s good for us.

Would your husband take dance lessons with you? What other kind of lessons would you like to do together? Would you like to play hooky on a school night?

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April 2nd, 2013
2:06 am

That sounds like fun! If you feel like you’re playing hooky, that’s probably a good sign that you are overdue some “me” (or “us”) time — enjoy!


April 2nd, 2013
6:05 am

Sounds like you two might be liking the dance thing. Good for you. Go have fun with it.


April 2nd, 2013
6:36 am

Yes, we have taken dancing lessons three times previously. We could already handle the Tango and Foxtrot but we both wanted to did learn the Shag as well as Zydeco — Both of those are fun dances and yes, like you, we very much enjoyed “our” time.


April 2nd, 2013
7:19 am

We have “date night” at least once a week, and have for YEARS, since the kids were little. The kids are older now, but we still like to do things together, just the two of us. Dance lessons, co-ed softball, concerts, especially the FREE summer concerts at various parks, etc., hiking, over-nighters at a B&B in the mountains, etc. We do a lot of stuff, just the two of us. Most of it doesn’t cost a thing. We challenge each other to find free things to do.


April 2nd, 2013
7:38 am

How fun! and I totally your excitement about “Michael-Theresa” time. Enjoy your time together!


April 2nd, 2013
7:56 am

No and I have asked several times. His brother took lessons with his wife but that piece of information did not seem to help. Good for you TWG. I guess I will limit my dancing with the kids I see. :).


April 2nd, 2013
8:05 am

@Mayhem — We have numerous date nights each month. As our kids are now “grown” – youngest just turned 18 – it is easier now to find time for each other. We are a very social couple and our “dance card” stays quite full but we still, no matter what, make time for our nights out together. Unfortunately, due to our jobs and business, we cannot “escape” and do the B&B stuff or many of the concerts but I truly do like those ideas!


April 2nd, 2013
8:40 am

@Me – your time will come, I promise. Our kids are in their 20’s so I have no problem leaving for a night or two. I used to worry about our pets while we were away, but they are all alive when we return (the kids are too). LOL.

We just started doing the B&B’s about 3 years ago, and usually don’t drive more than 2 hours to find one. We also LOVE to go hiking……The free concerts are fun too. We like to go to Suwanee Town Park for the freebies. Pack a picnic, grab a blanket and off we go…..


April 2nd, 2013
9:42 am


As I’ve discussed on here before, I worry about our lives after kids. We are classic opposites attract. We hardly have a single interest in common.


April 2nd, 2013
10:06 am

Check out the West Coast Swing class (Atlanta Swing Dancers Club – http://www.atlantaswingdancers.com/ ).

Two of the dance instructors at this club also teach 3 count Hustle (partner dance) Pat Korn and Nettie Robertson Hatchett. Hustle is a great dance.

Both of these dances can be done to contemporary music!


April 2nd, 2013
10:07 am

Our kids are older as well so there’s quite a bit of “us” time. We usually take a camping trip every 2-3 months or we just go out for a day on the boat and enjoy the lake. You have to be real close friends with your spouse if you’re going to have as much time as we have alone. Of course, now there’s the the grandkids that come to play. I’m still tired after chasing them all day on Easter. Not sure how I did it with 3 little kids.


April 2nd, 2013
10:12 am

@jarvis – but is your’s a happy marriage? They say opposites attract!!


April 2nd, 2013
10:20 am

We have taken dance lessons and had a great time. We did them with another couple who we are friends with and they had a great time too. I don’t think the other couple would have done it if we hadn’t so maybe for those who can’t get their husband to do it, you can rope in friends who are willing to have a good time too. None of us turned out to be great but it was a fun 6 weeks and I wouldn’t mind doing it again.

@jarvis – my husband and I are opposites too. We have our own hobbies but I have forced myself to take an interest in some things he enjoys and have found that I too enjoy them, even if they aren’t things I’m passionate about. In return he’s gone camping with me!

Sk8ing Momma

April 2nd, 2013
10:31 am

Yep! My hubby would take lessons even though dancing is not one of his gifts. He has rhythm and is a great sport…He’s game to try lessons, especially because he knows he’s married to a dancing machine. (Read: I LOVE to dance and can dance ALL night.) He always accompanies me on the dance floor. I say that he has a mean two step. We always have a good time. :)

In terms of lessons, I think he’d take cooking lessons and most anything that’s not too artsy or crafty. He’d draw the line with those sorts of things.


April 2nd, 2013
12:42 pm

I think it is terrific! Good for you and good for Michael!! Very healthy in every way!

Would my (ex) husband have done it? Not in a million years!

K's Mom

April 2nd, 2013
1:35 pm

Not sure if we would enjoy dance classes, but I have been looking for cooking classes. We have some amazing local chefs and I think it would be fun to do a class with one and have wine pairings etc. Theresa, enjoy your very fun class!


April 2nd, 2013
2:41 pm

This is so timely, since just the other day I suggested to my husband that we should do this. Here’s how the conversation went:
Me: you know what we should do? We should take a dancing class.
My husband: said no husband ever.

We both cracked up.

Jarvis: does it matter? We don’t have common interests either, but we try to at least gain a passing interest in some of the things each of us enjoys. He does some stuff he doesn’t really like with me (i.e. antiquing) and I do some stuff that doesn’t really interest me (i.e. HAM conventions). We make it work.


April 7th, 2013
6:46 pm

Our friends have taken several dance classes and really enjoyed them. They set up a CD player (it was the 90s) and practiced in their garage. They concvinced us, well, really me, that we should try it. My husband went along, but shouldn’t have. He did not want to do it and was late for every lesson, which irritated me beyond belief. He did not want to practice between classes. After three weeks, it appeared as though we needed a marriage counselor rather than a dance instructor. He should have been honest from the start. A while later, he signed us up for private lessons after I had been late for a few events that he wanted to attend. We had fun…learned a couple of ballroom dances and the jitterbug, my favorite.