Mom leaves sleeping baby in car — but with a note!

We have talked numerous times about mothers leaving their babies in the car to shop but what if they leave a note? What if the note included a cell phone number so you can call her if the baby is crying?

According to, a mother in New Zealand left her sleeping baby (looks pretty young) in the car with a note saying, “My mum’s in doing the shopping, call her if I need anything,” the note read (it also listed the mom’s cellphone number).” (Check out the photo here.)

The bystanders didn’t call the authorities on her but did call the mom. They said they felt sorry for the mother.

What do you think? Does a note make this any more acceptable? Would you feel sorry for the mom?

19 comments Add your comment


April 1st, 2013
12:35 pm

They felt sorry for the mom?

I feel sorry for the kid, and a little for their moms. It must be hell knowing your children are that stupid.

A reader

April 1st, 2013
12:40 pm

NO, a note does not make is more acceptable! A note will not prevent heat stroke. A note will not prevent abduction.

My child is a teenager now, but when she was a baby and toddler I took her with me even if then meant waking her up. Even if it was inconvenient. That is what you sign up for when you become a parent.


April 1st, 2013
12:46 pm

I would have called the police. It doesn’t make it right to leave a sleeping baby with a note and phone number on it. I know that it’s hard to get a baby to sleep but still- take the baby in with you!!

Real Life

April 1st, 2013
1:10 pm

Note or not–that is child neglect. The mother should have been arrested and family called to take care of the infant.


April 1st, 2013
1:14 pm

I cannot believe the people do not call the police!! They shoud have also had a ticket they saw a baby unattended and did not call the police they are as bad as the mother.


April 1st, 2013
1:27 pm

Definitely not feeling sorry for the mother. Either take the baby in the store, risking waking him/her up, or going home with the sleeping baby and coming back to the store when he/she is awake.


April 1st, 2013
1:35 pm

I’m just glad they called the mum instead of the cops. If it had been in the US, the SWAT team and DFCS would have been there before the mum could get a grocery cart.

Road Scholar

April 1st, 2013
1:45 pm

Some people should have to take a test before being allowed to have children!


April 1st, 2013
1:46 pm

Not that I would do what she did, however, she did think enough to leave a note, which to me, shows that she really didn’t want to but felt she had no choice. Heck, she probably felt she was darned if she did, and darned if she didn’t. If she would have taken the baby inside with her, and the baby were to start crying and screaming, then everyone would be saying she should have left the store as to not disturb the other customers. I had that happen to me numerous times when my son was an infant with GERD. I HAD to get diapers and formula and food, but boy the evil looks I used to get when he would just be screaming and I couldn’t console him.

I surely don’t know what her situation is/was so I am not going to judge.


April 1st, 2013
1:46 pm

I feel sorry for the posting readers above that were just pranked by the the AJC staff. April Fools you are.


April 1st, 2013
1:47 pm

SMH…I just don’t get it. I NEVER left a child in the car while I shopped, no matter how quickly I was in and out. NEVER, EVER EVER!!!!

If you aren’t going to take total responsiblity for this little helpless, defenseless human you brought into the world, then I’m sure there is someone somewhere who would LOVE to take that little inconvenience off your hands….

This particular woman should be sterilized. She should NOT be allowed to have any more children. She obviously cannot take care of this one.


April 1st, 2013
2:53 pm

Folks, this happened in New Zealand. People there are quite different (you can read that as more civil toward each other) than here in the USA. It wouldn’t be wise to leave a baby unattended here and I don’t think I would ever do it, but I’m not surprised that the people in NZ chose to call the Mom, not the police. (I have known a large number of people from New Zealand over years in business, including quite a few associated with their university system. They aren’t perfect people by any means, but they are inclined to behave in a more civil manner toward each other than many of us.)

K's Mom

April 1st, 2013
3:33 pm

@oneofeachforme hit the nail on the head. You are damned if you do, damned if you don’t here. I have 2 small kids and I am afraid of leaving my kids in the car long enough to return the shopping cart to its proper spot for busy bodies who are looking for a mom to screw up. I would not leave my baby in the car like that, but I can understand why there might possibly be a reason to do so being that I am in the thick of having little ones.


April 1st, 2013
3:52 pm

No. This is never ok. Ever!


April 1st, 2013
4:26 pm

Alright, time for me to fess up. 1988: My daughter was in the back seat. She was in her last few days needing a car seat that time, my friends, when I had to park illegally in a fire zone, and rush into a store to make some unnecessary purchase of I don’t even remember what. So when I finally emerge from the store at the strip mall, I am confronted by my daughter’s Pre-K teacher!!!! She had noticed her student in the back of my idling car, (yes, I’m THAT big of an idiot), and yes the car door was not locked. Hey, it was Marietta and it was the mid eighties, and I felt safe. I mumbled something, and jumped in the car, and took off. Total time of unattended child in an idling car: three and a half minutes. “You’ve lost that lovin’ feeling” was still playing when I got back, and it had just started when I left.

Talk about busted. Man. Was there egg on my face that day my friends, or not?

So, I’m guilty of the same thing. So what’re you gonna do? Huh? How about nuthin’. How about I charge all of you with being opinionated morons? How about that? Huh?

Now get this: My stupid sister left her stupid dog in her car and got a thousand dollar fine! Okay? So about a year later she gets the same fine in a different state by leaving that same stupid dog in the same stupid car. What a total dope, eh? I mean, the apple doesn’t fall too far from the tree. Hey, she’s my sis. What am I gonna do?

And the world keeps turning and we cross our fingers and hope for the best.


April 1st, 2013
4:45 pm

K’s mom – you are right. I worry about leaving my niece in her seat (she’s 5) just to do something like put the cart away or drop something in the box at a post office for fear of getting the cops called on me. No, you don’t leave a kid in the car when you go SHOPPING for any reason. Not in 2013. People are crazy. Not to mention all the health hazards. But some folks think you are the devil incarnate if you leave your kid in the car while you go to the red box at CVS to get a DVD when you can see the kid and they can see you. I don’t know. I just hope that no one goes as far as this lady does but no one calls the cops when someone has to drop mail in a box.


April 1st, 2013
5:05 pm

In the early 80’s my mom moved to the UK for a few years. She noted that the mothers left their sleeping babies in the prams outside shops. Most people walked so there wasn’t even the relative “safety” of a locked car. I know – simpler times – but perhaps times are still simpler in NZ. (Didn’t we hear about a couple from the UK visiting NYC a few years ago who got in trouble for leaving their pram & baby outside a shop?) Maybe one of the kind souls who were worried about this mum will ‘adopt’ her and help her through those seemingly impossible choices that come when you’ve had too little experience and too little sleep.


April 1st, 2013
6:16 pm

It’s New Zealand — that kind of peace of mind knowing that your baby is probably completely fine while Mum is running in the store for a few things is probably one of the reasons why New Zealand usually comes in near the top of “happiness” indexes. \

And yes, I’ve done it, too — post office. Run in, grab mail from mailbox, run back out. Less than 30 seconds. Still locked the car, though.


April 3rd, 2013
5:44 am

I wouldnt leave my monsters in the car i love them too much to not know if they are okay or not.. this world is crazy dont matter where you are anything can happen.. my weirdos are my world and i would not let any split secound go with out me knowing they are okay.. i mean i too would have called the idiot mom instead of the cops because yeah i know its hard but come on think about it would you rather wake him and sacrifce the time of getting him back to sleep or risk something bad happening.. once i called mommy i would have had a long ass talk with her.. baby wake up in store then by the time she gets home baby night night and then mommy can rest