Does it matter that Valentine’s Day falls on a school night?

It may be Valentine’s Day but it’s just another school night for parents. They still have to make sure homework is done, backpacks are loaded up and kids are in bed on time. They also have to be up bright and early the next day to get kids off to school. So I am wondering if parents will try to celebrate Valentine’s Day on the actual day or just wait until the weekend.

How will you celebrate Valentine’s Day since it falls on a school night? Will you still try to go out or just try to do something at home? Will you celebrate on Friday or Saturday instead?

Do you celebrate as a family or just as a husband or wife?

We did our family celebration last Saturday since it would be hard to give gifts on a school morning. I made a nice breakfast and the kids opened some presents. Walsh got a Lord of the Rings Lego set, Lilina got some My Little Pony stuff and Rose got some clothes. (She’s a big girl now.)

I have a few chocolates to give them tomorrow, and I picked up some cupcakes for desert for tomorrow night’s dinner. (I made cupcakes on Sunday but they are all gone now.)

Michael and I are celebrating this weekend. We are going to see Louis CK perform. I did get Michael a present and I am trying to decide about giving it to him on Valentine’s Day or when we go out.

So what’s your plan? Does Valentine’s Day falling on a school night hurt your ability to go out or stay up late?

(See the next blog around noon: The most romantic movies according to a new British study.)

50 comments Add your comment

homeschooler

February 14th, 2013
6:11 am

Wow, your family has a very exciting Valentines day. (Or….week)

To me it is totally a kids/teenager/maybe new relationship kind of holiday. Sorry, I’ve just always thought of it being kind of cheesy. Maybe it’s all the tacky red and pink. I don’t expect anything and I hope my husband doesn’t expect much.

I usually try to do a little something just to recognize the day. My kids and I usually do breakfast at IHOP which is getting messed up this year because my son has a 7:15am band practice. My daughter is trying to get me to agree to go to IHOP when we pick her brother up from school. We’ll see.

I have a great recipe for candied popcorn. Basically you just drizzle pink, candy melts over popcorn and add pink and red chocolate candies and sprinkles. I’m going to make some for my son, my niece and my husband and put it in pretty boxes. My daughter’s not big on candy so I did pick her up a little shirt with hearts on it.

I saw a great recipe for Valentines Strawberry fudge that is made with just store bought icing and white chocolate chips. Looked awesome. Probably would have tried it if I had not already bought the stuff to make the popcorn.

My husband might pick me up some flowers or something but, like I said, not a big deal if he doesn’t.

Sluggo

February 14th, 2013
6:31 am

A Holiday exploited by retailers. Love is illustrated thru actions each day. It comes from devotion, loyalty and kindness to a partner. Love should be celebrated. However, it does have to be shown via a gift purchased on a specific day.

bubba

February 14th, 2013
6:37 am

Sigh,
I guess women and the AJC have given up on seeking any respect.

Still looking for that Dadmania blog.

catlady

February 14th, 2013
6:58 am

I will enjoy the excitement of my students at school today. Tonight? Nothing special.

Busy Mom

February 14th, 2013
7:12 am

It’s not a school night in Gwinnett…we’re off Friday and Monday!

A

February 14th, 2013
7:14 am

Impressed you are going to see Louie CK. You don’t strike me as someone who would enjoy his type of humor. We saw him last November in Athens and it was the best. You will laugh until you cry. As for V-day, we do cards among the family, the kid gets a small gift from us, takes cards for classmates and small gifts for teachers and we might have a special dessert. That’s all. No stress.

homeschooler

February 14th, 2013
7:15 am

I hope all the elementary schools still let kids exchange Valentines. That used to be such a fun day. I’ve heard that some schools only allow for one party a year and Valentines is never a top choice.

I was surprised my son’s middle school did not plan a Valentine exchange. Guess they’re too big for that. I am kind of glad that he never attended a traditional middle school and we never had to prepare cards/treats for 30 kids.

homeschooler

February 14th, 2013
7:16 am

*I meant traditional elementary school.

Jeff

February 14th, 2013
7:39 am

The commercialism of the whole thing has turned me off to the entire idea. Honestly, I’m amazed that any mature adult falls for this load of junk that the llevel of my love for someone can only be measured by what I buy for her on this one day.

Then again, the percentage of adults who are acutally mature is rather small, so i guess it makes sense.

A Realist

February 14th, 2013
7:54 am

Judging by some these comments that Vday is no big deal… it now seems as if the typical married guy’s “I get some Cookie only on my birthday, anniversary, and Valentine’s Day” deal has now been reduced down to just two days a year :)

Calendar check

February 14th, 2013
8:14 am

That happens 5 out of every 7 years. Big deal. It is a Hallmark holiday. It was created by businessmen to drum up business, just like mother’s day, father’s day, grandparents day, etc.

Show your spouse or loved one you love them every day and you will both be able to treat Valentines day as it should be treated – like the 14th of February.

Alberta

February 14th, 2013
8:17 am

Bubba, it’s getting old. You appear with the tedious inevitability of an unloved season. Can’t you just go check out – yet again – how the Dawgs recruiting went, or something like that?

Mayhem

February 14th, 2013
8:20 am

My husband and I always get each other something we can plant in the yard/garden. One year he gave me a dogwood sapling, and we have watched it grow over the years. Usually he gets me a rose bush, this year he gave me several packets of seeds so I can start them in a little greenhouse the end of the month. I always start my flowers, veggies & herbs from seeds the end of February.

Fresh flowers are beautiful, but then they get all ugly and die, and they are very spendy this time of year. We like to plant stuff in the yard. We’ve been in this house over 10 years, and together we have built a beautiful back yard that we practically live in in the summer.

But I don’t need a Hallmark Holiday to express my love. We’ve been together over 30 years and we show our love every day.

Happy Valentines day everyone!!!! My single friends call it “Singles Awareness Day”, or SAD….LOL.

Big Mama

February 14th, 2013
8:24 am

Sluggo- you stated it perfectly. I would much prefer devotion, loyalty, and kindness from my spouse than anything that can be purchased. Including diamonds. Happy Valentine’s Day!

Mother of 2

February 14th, 2013
8:38 am

I love Mayhem’s tradition! My husband and I pride ourselves on not celebrating this “holiday.” However, I always buy the kids a heart shaped box of chocolates. We try not to put too much emphasis on gifts during any holiday, including Christmas.

motherjanegoose

February 14th, 2013
8:42 am

@ Calendar…that is what I was thinking.

I loved Valentine’s Day, when I was teaching, and the kids made their boxes etc. I miss that.

I will meet with 600 Kindergarteners in Gwinnett County alone, this week, and they are very excited.
The teachers are more excited about a 4 day weekend!

I have been sharing this original rhyme with the children:

Cross my heart there’s love inside…
I’ll give some to you!
If I want to share my love…
What is something I can do?

We have been talking about ways to show you love someone: teachers, parents, friends, pets.
They have been so cute with it.

I saw ( a dozen) roses at Costco for $14.99 and they were lovely. Not a big investment to brighten someone’s day, in my book.

After a busy day, we hope to go out to dinner early and avoid the crowds.

Happy Valentine’s Day everyone!

motherjanegoose

February 14th, 2013
8:45 am

@ Mayhem…love that idea! Beautiful hydrangeas bushes at Costco for about $25 this week.
I love to see mine bloom in my back yard!

FCM

February 14th, 2013
8:47 am

Cobb Schools are out tomorrow. We won’t have homework to tackle tonight, tests to study for etc.

They took cards in for friends and teachers today. I even got one in my purse from them as a surprise! They have some treats I got a few weeks ago tucked away waiting for them.

Jeff

February 14th, 2013
8:52 am

Thank you reasonable mom friends. I can usually count on the regulars on here to remind me that there is some sanity still out there.

I like the tree idea. That’s cool.

bubba

February 14th, 2013
9:08 am

Alberta,

I think it is far far more likely that the Phoenix based UGA grad blogger Theresa wastes time following DWAG recruiting than I.

Why on earth does AJC use a Phoenix blogger for drivel like this blog? A local blogger would have known that several school districts are out tomorrow.

Why is this a Mom’s blog and not a parenting blog?

In my opinion, the silly topics posed in this blog each day under the guise of “helping to raise healthy children” is an insult to women, UGA’s journalism school, and the AJC.

Erica

February 14th, 2013
9:12 am

Happy Valentine’s Day, all!

At our house, we all swapped cards and candy before kids went to school. 1st grader’s class did hadmade Valentine’s for each other (old school style) so I’m excited to see what comes home this afternoon. I’m volunteering at her class party today, so that should be a hoot! Tonight, family is having breakfast for dinner….sort of an IHOP at home for the occasssion! Later, hubby and I will chill out with some Girl Scout Thin Mints, some wine and watch Scandal! We’re hoping to meet up for lunch tomorrow (sort of a late celebration- Lolololol). Altogether, a typical/atypical day at our house, but a good one, nonetheless!

Lions

February 14th, 2013
9:17 am

It is our 26th Anniversary. Yes, we got married on Valentine’s Day, but, not because we are cheesy, but, because of a military reason. We go to Wal-Mart on our Valentine Anniversary every year. We stand in the card aisle, pick out a card, hand it to each other, read it, and put it back. Free cards. Last year, an older gentleman watched us do it and asked what we were doing. Said it was the most clever thing he had ever witnessed. We usually go out for a nice dinner. Happy Valentine’s Day y’all!!!! <3

Georgia

February 14th, 2013
9:19 am

Lets see….Valentine’s Day falls on a school day….no problem, for high school sweethearts, because edible underwear is considered a vegetable in the school lunch program.

Techmom

February 14th, 2013
9:29 am

Nothing exceptional going on in our house. I’ve always felt like Valentine’s day is a Hallmark Holiday and we typically avoid the crowds.

Our son took his girlfriend to dinner and a movie last night since he has to work tonight (he works at a restaurant) and they expect all weekend to be busier than usual with people “spreading the love” across Thursday, Friday and Saturday evenings!

We have mid-winter break next week so the kids do have school tomorrow but you know how the day before break is so that just means the teachers here get two days of chaos!

Erin

February 14th, 2013
9:30 am

Bubba, if you hate this blog so much why do you keep responding to any topic posed with what essentially amounts to “this blog stinks”? Why not suggest topics or do something more constructive than the constant negativity you show toward every topic posted?

Mayhem

February 14th, 2013
9:34 am

@Lions – my parents have done that for years!!!! I think it’s cute as can be.

motherjanegoose

February 14th, 2013
9:35 am

@ Lions…funny! Cards are so expensive now and if you have to add a stamp…whew!

bubba

February 14th, 2013
9:37 am

Erin,

You are wrong – I do not show “constant negativity you show toward every topic posted”
– Stop making up things and posting them as facts

As I posted above, I think it would be a positive for the AJC to:
1) have a local blogger who was in tune with daily life and issues in Atlanta
2) had a blogger who would come up with topics of more value than we have seen lately
3) have a blog about parenting rather than taking the sexist “mom’s” approach

If my pointing out the negatives to this blog until it improves bothers you, just ignore my writing – and stop making up non-facts.

DB

February 14th, 2013
9:41 am

Not much going on, here. I sent the kids a goody box with homemade fudge, conversation hearts and a box of their favorite Girl Scout cookies and a card. My husband has to travel tonight, so we exchanged small gifts last night, books in our favorite series.and a card. No flowers — he’s good about flowers for no reason for the rest of the year, so I give him a pass on Valentine’s Day. :-)

A

February 14th, 2013
9:42 am

@bubba, I don’t care where Theresa is located. This is a parenting/mom blog not a “what’s happening in Atlanta” blog. Also, she’s from Georgia and still has ties here and keeps up with what’s going on here, and that’s obvious from some of her posts. I do think the topics are silly sometimes, but her being in Arizona don’t think negatively impacts this blog.

Mayhem

February 14th, 2013
9:50 am

Bubba is trolling….stop feeding him!!!! If you ignore him, he may go away.

bubba

February 14th, 2013
9:57 am

A:

Please be clear: this is NOT a parenting blog it is: “A Blog for Busy Moms” (who happen to have time to blog about silly topics)

If this were a parenting blog, a progressive paper such as the AJC certainly wouldn’t call it a sexist title like “Momania” and insult Dads and the role of males in parenting would it?

Re: ” I do think the topics are silly sometimes”
- Agree, and I feel this serves to demean women/”moms” and the UGA journalism school

Just sayin

February 14th, 2013
10:02 am

My husband calls this women’s day. We still get each other cards though. We try to see who can find the silliest card out there. We have never gotten each other the same card, but we crack each other up. I make Valentines about family. I always get my parents, sister and child something. It may be a hallmark holiday, but people still like to get little tokens. Yes, you should show love every day and I am sure most people do. Valentines is just a day when..if you want… you can do a little something extra. I choose to see it as a positive. Sometimes people need to be reminded that they should let their love ones know they care.

Evidently, bubba...

February 14th, 2013
10:06 am

…you are very late to the “mom” party – Theresa was with the AJC for many years doing this blog BEFORE she moved with her spouse to AZ – it appears the AJC liked what they saw with this blog since it is THEY who decided that she could continue with this “by-line”, even from AZ – so, as others have asked, give it a rest…

Evidently, bubba...

February 14th, 2013
10:08 am

…and, however, I do agree that sometimes this blog does give the UGA School of Journalism a bad name, but then, again, no more so than that moron Chip Towers over in the sports section – now there is a guy who REALLY lowers the bar for “journalism” as far as UGA is concerned…

bubba

February 14th, 2013
10:09 am

EB:
feel free to ignore me,

In reading through comments, it seems like there a good number of people who feel that this “Mom’s” blog could be a whole hell of a lot better than it is.

Bubba's mommie

February 14th, 2013
10:26 am

Bubba is insecure. He lives in my basement and won’t leave. Every time I try to kick him out, he calls the police. Talk about entitlement. He hasn’t worked in over 10 years and has been on the government teet since he lost the job at McDonalds for dipping into the cash registers. He’s 38 years old, no education, and is bored with his video games, so he comes here to get a rise out of the adults.

If yall would leave him alone, maybe he will crawl back under his rock. Every time someone feeds into his drivel, it makes him feel that much more powerful and in control.

bubba

February 14th, 2013
10:28 am

BM:
Wrong on every point, must be looking in mirror.

Must be hitting a nerve.

You are right though, feel free to ignore – and accept the mediocrity of this blog if you wish.

Richard

February 14th, 2013
10:32 am

I have news for you people: V-Day is the greatest singles day of all time. Go to any bar, and notice how insanely mobbed they are with singles hooking up. Maverick once called it a “target rich environment.”

thekimmer

February 14th, 2013
10:37 am

Wow. Opening gifts of toys, clothes and such? Sounds like Christmas instead of VD. What happened to the days when kids just gave each other cheap valentines and maybe had a cupcake party at school?

Like many other holidays on the calendar VD has been driven by advertisers to convince people that you don’t care unless you spend lots of $$.

irisheyes

February 14th, 2013
11:07 am

No gifts. With birthday and Christmas, my kids are gifted out. I don’t want them thinking that every time Hallmark has a card, it’s time for a gift. The kids did their valentine cards last night to pass out at school, and I may make a special dessert for tonight, but that’s about it. Not going to stress out that it’s on a school day. It happens a lot, and it’s really OK.

jarvis

February 14th, 2013
11:11 am

The feast of St. Valentine of February 14 was first established in 496 by Pope Gelasius I, who included Valentine among all those “… whose names are justly reverenced among men, but whose acts are known only to God.”

There you have it. A made up holiday. We don’t even know who Valentinus was.

Mayhem

February 14th, 2013
11:29 am

Origins of Valentine’s Day: A Pagan Festival in February
While some believe that Valentine’s Day is celebrated in the middle of February to commemorate the anniversary of Valentine’s death or burial–which probably occurred around A.D. 270–others claim that the Christian church may have decided to place St. Valentine’s feast day in the middle of February in an effort to “Christianize” the pagan celebration of Lupercalia. Celebrated at the ides of February, or February 15, Lupercalia was a fertility festival dedicated to Faunus, the Roman god of agriculture, as well as to the Roman founders Romulus and Remus.

To begin the festival, members of the Luperci, an order of Roman priests, would gather at a sacred cave where the infants Romulus and Remus, the founders of Rome, were believed to have been cared for by a she-wolf or lupa. The priests would sacrifice a goat, for fertility, and a dog, for purification. They would then strip the goat’s hide into strips, dip them into the sacrificial blood and take to the streets, gently slapping both women and crop fields with the goat hide. Far from being fearful, Roman women welcomed the touch of the hides because it was believed to make them more fertile in the coming year. Later in the day, according to legend, all the young women in the city would place their names in a big urn. The city’s bachelors would each choose a name and become paired for the year with his chosen woman. These matches often ended in marriage

Patrick

February 14th, 2013
11:39 am

I agree with the other sentiments about Valentine’s being concocted by the card, candy, jewelry, and flower companies. Why set aside only one day a year to show how much you love someone? Whose idea was it to measure love by how much money is spent on them? What’s wrong with showing love for someone the other 364?

As a kid, I loved Valentine’s and hated it at the same time. Looking back, that was the reason why I feel the way I do now about the holiday. Every year, we’d make up the little boxes or bags, decorated up all nice and neat, and every student was expected to give each other cards. Even if you didn’t really like the student, you had to give them a card. I always felt it was so shallow of people to give me cards that read, “I Choo-Choo-Choose You!” or “Let’s ‘Bee’ Friends!” when they would rather have nothing to do with being my friend.

I do have a funny Valentine’s Day antidote: One year right on Valentine’s Day, I had a dentist appointment. I was about 9 or 10 at the time. I had the whole sack (we used the white lunch sacks that our cafeteria used on “Sack Lunch” days, aka “The Food Shipment Didn’t Arrive On Time” days, or “The Oven’s Broken” days) filled with cards, some with the little candy hearts, small chocolates, lollipops, the whole shebang.

I’m sitting there in the dentist’s office, getting my teeth looked, poked, scraped, scoured, and finally cleaned. The dentist takes a peek, and says, “OK, no Valentine’s candy for you!” I knew he was joking at the time, so I laughed along with him.

HB

February 14th, 2013
11:43 am

I had no idea families made a big enough deal out of of Valentines Day that it couldn’t fit into a school day. My mom always treated it as a special occasion, but that usually meant something along the lines of pancakes for breakfast and a small gift like a little V-themed stuffed animal or maybe an inexpensive pair of earrings or a necklace. It was a fun, low-key way to start a school day.

Mayhem

February 14th, 2013
11:58 am

WAY back when I was about 12, 13 years old I wanted my ears pierced so badly, but my mom wouldn’t let me. I begged and begged, and used the “everyone else has their ears pierced” etc……

She worked in a hospital and was usually gone by the time I got up to go to school. One year on Valentine’s Day, I guess I was about 13, I went down to the kitchen for breakfast, and there was a present for me, and one for my brother. My present was a beautiful pair of starter earrings…..I ran out to the garage, as my Mom was leaving for work and gave her the biggest hug!!! The following weekend, she took me to the hospital where she worked, and one of her co-workers pierced my ears. She used ice to numb the lobes, then used a syringe to pierce my ears. I was the happiest girl that day!! I thought I was the bomb!!!! I’ll never forget that.

Becky

February 14th, 2013
12:23 pm

We give the kids some chocolate, a card and usually a small toy..The husband knows to not buy my chocolate or flowers..I love flowers, but don’t want them at the high prices.. This year though, the kids gave me roses and candy.. The girl received a dozen white roses from her brother..I thought that was very sweet of him..She gave him a toy that he had been wanting..

Funny story to share..I was making sure that the kids had their Valentines cards ready to take to school today..Looked down at the girls and noticed that the word Valentine was inked out on all of her cards..Thought since they were a Spongebob card that they might have been made that way..Nope..She had done it, because as she told me…I don’t want any of my classmates to think that I really want them to be my Valentine..So off to school she went with them.. :)

Erin

February 14th, 2013
12:24 pm

Bubba, I’m not making things u0p … all I’ve EVER seen from any post you make is negativity.

Could the blog be better? Sure, but then so can pretty much anything. Do you contribute positively toward bettering the blog? Not that I’ve ever seen, and although I don’t necessarily post regularly, I do happen to read it fairly regularly, enough to know who the regular posters are and which of them are actually contributing something of worth.

As for Valentine’s Day? Meh. It’s more of a Hallmark holiday than anything else. Doesn’t much matter to me whether it’s a weekend or a weekday, I’m more into the big and little everyday ways he shows me he loves me rather than some epic, grand blowout gesture one day a year.

BessBear

February 14th, 2013
12:33 pm

I have never understood why anyone wants to fight crowds and likely pay extra, while getting less service. My hubby and I will go out some other day where we can enjoy it more. Why does it mean something more to you to do those things today?

bubba

February 14th, 2013
12:48 pm

Erin,

Re: ” I’m not making things u0p … all I’ve EVER seen from any post you make is negativity.” and
“you keep responding to any topic posed with what essentially amounts to “this blog stinks”
- No, I don’t not respond to any topic posed. Again, get your facts straight.

Could the blog be better? Sure,
- Glad we agree

” but then so can pretty much anything”
- So, I guess we should quietly accept mediocrity, have group think, baaa baaa baaa

- “Do you contribute positively toward bettering the blog?”
Who cares, if people don’t like what I write, they don’t have to read it or they can baaa baaa along.

Apparently unlike you, I have been successful in having a newspaper improve the quality of its bloggers by speaking out and not accepting mediocrity.

baaa baaa