I know a mom that is considering divorcing her husband. She has gone as far as visiting a lawyer to see how things would work.
Before visiting the lawyer, she thought she would take her husband to a counselor to have a third-party present to tell him she wants a divorce. She thought the counselor would be good in case he just completely loses it.
But the lawyer advised her not to discuss the divorce with her husband until she was ready to move out or have him moved out. He said it should all happen in one day to avoid further discussion and dragging it out – a la Katie-Holmes style.
I guess with this method you have to know you’re really doing this and there won’t be any convincing you not to pull the trigger.
But is this fair to the other party? Should the spouse get some warning – or did that come earlier in daily life? Should the spouse get a chance to defend the union? Does the immediately parting method make you enemies and not allow for a civil divorce or does it just make sense?
How would you feel if you were the spouse being told of the divorce? How was it handled in your divorce?