I’m not cooking for Thanksgiving: We’re going to Disney!

I threatened last year not to cook for Thanksgiving but still ended up working all day on a giant meal for my little family that took all of 30 minutes to eat.

We didn’t have any visitors last year, which made it even sadder. Plus, Michael hates turkey so no matter how juicy or golden brown you manage to make your bird he would rather have pasta. And that doesn’t make you feel good after cooking all day.

So this year, I am just NOT doing it. We have family coming, and I proposed that instead of sitting around overeating and watching football that we take the kids to Disneyland as an early Christmas present.

Let me clarify, I feel like we are still celebrating Thanksgiving. I have many, many thing to be thankful for. I am just not cooking all day for a meal that takes 30 minutes to eat.

And I am thrilled with the Disneyland plan for several reasons.

No. 1 — I’m not having the stress of planning, shopping and making sure that turkey, stuffing, sweet potatoes, mashed potatoes, beans and rolls are all finished at the same time. Instead, we are having lunch with the Disney Princesses Thanksgiving Day in Ariel’s Grotto – seafood and steak.

No 2. – The grandparents are giving the kids an experience for Christmas instead of just “stuff.” I couldn’t afford to take a family of five to Disneyland. (It’s more expensive than Disneyworld, which is so annoying!) Michael hates Disney parks and would have fought even going. So this way our family doesn’t have to worry about shipping presents to the kids, they get to spend wonderful time with the kids and enjoy Disney.

Have you ever said screw it on Thanksgiving and not cooked? Did you eat out? Did you do another activity with your family? Would you miss not having a big meal or being at your house?

128 comments Add your comment

Just Another day

November 20th, 2012
6:39 am

Just like the princess that you will be eating with, I have to work.

Orlando

November 20th, 2012
6:50 am

This is why more and more women are single or divorced. Why are you perpetrating this idea on your readers? What ever happened to women in the kitchen talking and sharing stories with family members, while the men are watching football and talking smack. What message are you sending your kids??? I am no way saying, taking your kids to Disney is wrong, but this is just not the time I would take my kids to kid friendly resort, they need to learn what Thanksgiving is all about. Jus my 2 cents.

Rise Up

November 20th, 2012
7:00 am

Eat whatever you want and go anywhere you want,

just don’t mess with my Football !

Lisa

November 20th, 2012
7:07 am

I am cooking this year. My one change is I am not hauling it over to anyone’s home. This will be my day to relax and hang at the house with the kids.

motherjanegoose

November 20th, 2012
7:16 am

Lucky you, to have parents who would consider this for your children. I mean this. My parents live 1 hour from Disneyworld and it never occured to them that their Grandkids would love it if Grandparents would consider it. Now, all the Grandkids are in their twenties. When my sister ( with no children) mentioned it, Grandpa said, “Well, did the other Grandparents ever offer to take them?” Um NO but they do live in Kansas. No joking here. Again, I am NOT making this up. When we hear of Grandparents who take their kids to Disney, my heart is sad for mine but my spirit is thrilled for families who can make a memory with their family.

I love Disneyland myself as it tends to be less crowded. FYI I went, as a child, since my Dad’s sister lived in Yorba Linda CA then. I have taken my two to Disneyland a few times, as I had meetings nearby. I enjoy it more than Disneyword.

@ Orlando… maybe if men got in the the kitchen and woman could watch football then things would be different. What message would that send?

I AM amazed at all the stores that will be open on Thanksgiving. I do not shop on Thanksgiving nor Black Friday. I have eaten out on a holiday and am appreciative and tip well. Perhaps some wait staff will count on generous tips this year…anyone? I do not know.

jim

November 20th, 2012
7:20 am

@ Orlando – Maybe the reason women are single/divorced is because they don’t want to settle for the Orlandos of the world.

Voice of Reason

November 20th, 2012
7:22 am

What would Norman Rockwell do?

George

November 20th, 2012
7:26 am

Have to agree with Orlando here. Theresa has lost the purpose of family and Thanksgiving and is spending a lot of time say I and going to do this and I am not going to do that. Too many “I” and not enough “we”. Read the article again.
I’m not cooking..
I threatened last year not to cook
I have many, many thing to be thankful for
I am just NOT doing it
I feel like we are still celebrating Thanksgiving
I am just not cooking all day
I am thrilled with the Disneyland plan
I’m not having the stress of
I couldn’t afford to take a family of five to Disneyland

Next thing from Theresa will be … I am looking for a good Attorney so I can spend more time with myself.

Why wait!

Call It Like It Is

November 20th, 2012
7:30 am

It sounds like your wanting support for your justification of not having a special day for your family. Is it really that hard to have one day where you go all out on preparing a special meal?

malleesmom

November 20th, 2012
7:32 am

I have cooked and not-cooked on Thanksgiving. My husband used to work in a hospital setting (never closes by the way) so on the holidays he worked, the girls and I would typically find a diner. It’s now a tradition for us. One holiday meal between Thanksgiving and New Year’s we spend at a diner. Some times we take in a movie or go bowling (a family tradition on my husband’s side). I think TWG’s idea is lovely. enjoy

Success Hating Liberal

November 20th, 2012
7:39 am

thank god i did not have lazy self absorbed mother like this when i was growing up….I bet woman like this also think cooking Christmas dinner for her family is beneath her as well….its obvious these are liberal Obama Supporters….

motherjanegoose

November 20th, 2012
7:46 am

I have eaten out on many holidays and I did not vote for Obama.

When I weigh paying for the food ( about $150.00) shopping, cooking and cleaning up…eating out sounds nice and I am happy to leave a good tip. I do miss the leftovers but when we have them, we are sick of them. Can’t win here. TWG you do not have to justify your decision with me, unless you think you will be the only family at either Disney….NOT! Family traditions are not the same for everyone. We know a family that eats steak and crab legs for Christmas. That is not us but I find it interesting!

Jeff

November 20th, 2012
7:47 am

Good for TWG. Go have some fun.

Luda

November 20th, 2012
7:50 am

Men need a lady in the kitchen and a freak in the sheets. Not a selfish byotch who won’t cook. I bet she is horrible in the bedroom too

livinatl

November 20th, 2012
8:00 am

Your family will have a blast, you will spend time with your kids, have a break yourself and create lasting memories. I agree with MotherJane Goose…for my family of 3 it just makess sense to go out or get a meal to go. Most women work outside the home these days, the last thing I want to do on my day off is be cooped up in the kitchen away from my crew and activities. How many women get up in the middle of the night to start cooking and then by the time the meal is served they are so tired they have to nap? If George and Orlando want to cook all day, have at it, just tell me what time dinner is served and please make sure it coincides with half time!

Marsh

November 20th, 2012
8:01 am

All of you “people” make me wish a meteor would hit the earth. What is the matter with you?

Ugh.

willyboy

November 20th, 2012
8:02 am

30 mins?? Our meals take 3 days to eat.

Midget

November 20th, 2012
8:07 am

What a conundrum… I long for the traditional Thanksgiving of my childhood which was ironically a lot like Orlando described. My family lives 1200 miles away, so I have my in-laws who live an hour a way. I do all the shopping, cooking, and cleaning. They complain about how far they have to come, arrive early, arrive late, don’t want to cook, complain about the food, and watch me while I clean the kitchen. In lieu of a little appreciation for my efforts and some help, Disneyland is not my speed, but a tropical paradise sounds pretty good.

I do feel really bad about all those that have to work on Thanksgiving and personally wish that retail was closed on that day.

Happy Thanksgiving!

Sean @DisneyDayByDay

November 20th, 2012
8:09 am

Sounds like a wonderful plan and I hope you enjoy your time at the parks with your family. I say anytime you don’t have to cook is a great time :)

kay

November 20th, 2012
8:11 am

Orlando, Luda, Obama, Success Hating Liberal, George, Miss December and Call it like it is, Which by the why we know is the same person. Because you stay in your parents basement and your mother has cooked for you all your life, Does not mean that what this women is doing is wrong. Thanksgiving in the true sense, Is for us to take time out to Thank God for all our blessings and Ms. Giarusso is thankful for her family and will be spending the day with her most precious blessing.

DONNAN OF A NEW ERA

November 20th, 2012
8:14 am

So you’re going to take your kids to a theme park that sexualizes young children. Nice.

Stay classy.

Meka1

November 20th, 2012
8:15 am

You go girl, I’m not cooking either but will enjoy putting up decorations.

Orlando

November 20th, 2012
8:18 am

Kay, take a grammar class before you attempt to talk down to people. Your writing is atrocious.

Orlando

November 20th, 2012
8:19 am

I am Orlando and only Orlando, no need to use different names to make my point.

Mayhem

November 20th, 2012
8:23 am

I don’t understand why all the stress???? I’ve never taken on stress as part of the holiday tradition.

I love to cook. My family loves to cook. You should see the kitchen on Sundays, we must clean it at least 4 times. It starts around 9:00 with breakfast, and goes from there. I like to prepare things for our lunches during the week, make appetizers, then get dinner going.

Thanksgiving is no different. Turkey, stuffing, mashed potatos, candied yams, green bean casserole, broccoli cheese rice casserole, maybe a salad, and plenty of HOMEMADE pies and Homemade whipped cream……

Anhone who wants to come to my house is more than welcome. If you don’t like what we are cooking or doing, then don’t come.

But I refuse to do anything that requires someone else to work, ie shopping or going out to eat on Thanksgiving day. I don’t want to have someone else do the work. I enjoy it too much. And I’m happy to do it, and I’m VERY thankful I can!!!

DB

November 20th, 2012
8:26 am

As a treat, why not?! Sounds like a good family time for all, while the kids are young enough to enjoy it. I bet they will remember this Thanksgiving long after the other sweet potato casseroles have faded into distant memory.

When the kids were smaller, we tended to visit out-of-town grandparents at Thanksgiving, and all the adult children brought a dish. Then my SIL took on the task of having family at her house and really worked herself to the bone getting ready, etc., to the point where she didn’t enjoy it. Then, for a few years, we went to the country club’s Thanksgiving buffet — 18 of us, with reservations at a large table, and whatever anyone wanted to eat, with no clean-up! Then my brother-in-law complained that he missed having Thanksgiving dinner at home (even though he played golf all day and was almost always late for dinner, and invariably would take his dessert in and watch football) so we switched back to dinners at home. Now that the kids are older, we have to work around their work and school schedules, so it’s not a question of saying, “This is what we are going to do”, it’s more “Are you able to do . . . ?”

You go and have a wonderful day fun, TWG — and don’t let these Debbie Downers rain on your Disney parade! I will note, however, that the year that my parents visited us in Florida and we went to Disneyworld the day after Thanksgiving was the MOST horrendous lines we ever encountered. If you’re going on Thanksgiving Day, hopefully, you’ll miss most of those crowds!!

And for the poster who was complaining about TWG’s use of “I” in her blog — well, duh, it’s HER blog, first person, not hers and Michael’s. Do you want her to use the royal “We”? Every once in a while, a change is good.

Furious Styles

November 20th, 2012
8:28 am

Question, does your husband Michael like anything.

Mike Franklin

November 20th, 2012
8:29 am

Way to go! Instead of enjoying a day (and meal) at home with your friends and family, just go out and exploit those forced to work on this day for your benefit.

Welcome to the secular, disconnected and unAmerican 21st century.

Mr. Obvious

November 20th, 2012
8:30 am

Amen Orlando!!! These ungrateful Women need to stay in the kitchen where they belong!!!!!!!!!

OSG

November 20th, 2012
8:38 am

Last year, we took our kids to Disneyworld the week of Thanksgiving. Not only were all of the parks beautifully decorated, but it was the first time our children…who are now teenagers experienced Disney. The last time that I was there, was the year the park opened…much has changed since then. However, it was absolutely wonderful. No dinner preparations, but a fabulous time. Yes, it was the trip of a lifetime. It was the birthday and Christmas present to our kids. Today, we were thinking about how much fun we had last year, and I will show the pictures that we took on Thursday…but back to the kitchen. The great thing is that now my three sons will be helping me cook dinner…now THAT is a Thanksgiving

mike

November 20th, 2012
8:40 am

Sounds pretty selfish if you ask me….and you did.

George

November 20th, 2012
8:53 am

Kay, I have cooked the Thanksgiving meal before. One year when my Mom was sick, I went to her house and cooked the Thanksgiving meal then the family came over and we enjoyed the meal and each others company. If you look at from a different perspective then it all makes sense. It’s not about you!

Mayhem, loved your response and I wish there were more like you. Well I guess there are, just not on this blog.

homeschooler

November 20th, 2012
8:54 am

My family hasn’t cooked on Thanksgiving for almost 20 yrs. For several years my husband’s grandparents were not able to travel so we had to go to them and they were unable to cook for 12 or 14 people so we went to Morrison’s or Piccadilly. Those were some pretty yucky meals but we enjoyed the time being together and we always visited at the house for the rest of the day after the meal. Later his grandmother was in a nursing home and the nursing home would prepare a meal for the families of the residents. Again, gross food but we were able to share it with her. The past 10 yrs or so we have been traveling to the Dillard House. We stay over night and have a delicious Thanksgiving meal that no one has to stress over. In all these years I never felt like it was not “Thanksgiving” because no one was watching football or because there was not a huge kitchen of dishes to clean. It’s a relaxing and stress free time for everyone (well, except for the traffic going out of Atlanta).
I do always think about the employees of the Dillard House working on Thanksgiving but most people I know who have to work holidays (myself included) find ways to work around their schedules and still enjoy time with their families. We have our meal at Dillard early. I then can be home by late afternoon to go on-call for work. That’s just life. After all, in todays times one of the things I’m most thankful for is my job.

Jeff

November 20th, 2012
8:54 am

On the record, I have no interest in being married (again, one day?) to a June Cleaver. Give me a modern woman that was capable of supoprting herself before me, healthy, an educated opinion (not one told to her by someone else), respect for ME as an equal. Yes, there are other things, but these pertain to the topic at hand.

If you other guys want that old traditional thing in the home, that’ fine, it’s your life and you get to choose who you have in it, but I can’t do it. I want a partner, not a servant.

Ostrich Racer

November 20th, 2012
8:57 am

Whole lotta jealous on the blog today. I’m guessing the men who complain about TWG not being in the kitchen don’t say that out loud at home — either because they’re scared, or because there’s nobody around to hear it.

Have a great time, TWG. We spent one of our favorite Thanksgivings at WDW. The boys had a terrific time, and we actually were thankful — which is sort of the point.

blkshepherd

November 20th, 2012
9:00 am

Some of you seem to have a slight problem sticking to the TOPIC , which is about to Cook or Not to Cook for Thanksgiving. Where does it mention anything about voting for Obama or not? What has Obama have to do with Thanksgiving Cooking? You people need help.

What I find HILARIOUS is, Some of you have to Put Obama’s name in Everything. LOL. Amazing, simply AMAZING. For four more years no matter the Topic we have to read ” I did not vote for Obama” Can we say WHO CARES?

Some of you folks think Obama stands for Alpha and Omega, the beginning and the End of Life. Here’s a little suggestion, GET OVER IT AND GET A LIFE!

ATL Born and Raised

November 20th, 2012
9:02 am

What exactly is selfish about spending the day with your family at Disney? She’s selfish for not slaving in the kitchen all day to cook a meal by herself while “the men sit around and watch football?” You people are astounding. It’s pretty selfish to expect your wife/mother to put on a grand meal for you while you sit around and do nothing. She’s found a way to make everyone happy this year and kudos to that.

Mayhem

November 20th, 2012
9:04 am

We are having two Thanksgivings this year. One with my parents, siblings and our kids. Then on Sunday, I am making another Thanskgiving Dinner for just me and the kids and some of their friends and a few neighbors will drop in.

The Falcons are playing Tampa and that’s always a good game. If the weather is nice, we may move the TV out onto the back deck. Gotta love ATT Uverse wireless cable! Just like those commercials, we aren’t stuck in one room with a cable hookup…LOL.

Tom

November 20th, 2012
9:06 am

Theresa, thy name is Selfish. Putting yourself first. In our family words like “tradition” and “family” always come first. You are sending a message to your children that those two things do not matter. And since you have the financial means to take a large group to Disney World, you can do it. I feel sorry for your children, and I wonder what values they are picking up from you.

DONNAN OF A NEW ERA

November 20th, 2012
9:07 am

“On the record, I have no interest in being married (again, one day?) to a June Cleaver.”

No one cares.

homeschooler

November 20th, 2012
9:07 am

@ Mayhem, I love to cook too but it’s one thing to cook and it’s another to make sure the everyone is comfortable and happy. If we didn’t go out we would eat at my in-law’s house and my mother-in-law would never sit down and enjoy eating with us. She would always be scanning the table for what is missing, filling people’s drinks. Jumping up constantly. I would be the same way if people came to my house. As a hostess of a big family gathering you want to make sure things are just right.
I’m really not the same with my own family. We have a big Christmas party every year and it’s always at my house. Everyone brings food, we eat off paper plates and we all just dig in. No stress, just fun. Different types of people celebrate different ways. My husband’s family is a bit more reserved and formal than mine. Still WONDERFUL people but when they are over I feel compelled to make sure they are having a good time so, going out with them just seems like the more relaxing thing to do and that’s what Thanksgiving is all about.

btw..Donnan. I’m dying to know how DIsney sexualizes young children. Please share your thoughts on that.

ATL Born and Raised

November 20th, 2012
9:07 am

The trolls are out in force today. Man oh man. I feel so sorry for the women in these peoples’ lives.

Georgia

November 20th, 2012
9:08 am

Everyone has a HungerGame story about the time their parents announced the divorce on thanksgiving, or their brother came out of the closet, or the two sisters in law finally had it out. I usually had a reality check thanksgiving, where I suggested every year that instead of giving xmas presents to each other, (we could pool our abundant resources and get one poor family a really great xmas. With my entire family, a thousand dollars would have been easily achieved, and that money could have given a poor family a xmas. (Not change their lives). But every year I was ridiculed for even suggesting it. And the hunger games were on.

Another perrenial fight at Thanksgiving: the turkey itself. I insisted that low temperature and long cooking time, and carving turkey at the table with everyone holding their plates in a ceremoninal buffet line was the most fun and the best way to get hot turkey to everyone in the fastest most family amount of time with the most gravy on it. But no, every single stinking year, they would carve the turkey up in the kitchen, which takes critical moments of hot turkey time away. There was never enough gravy either, because it gets burned up at 475 degrees. So you get cold, stale dry turkey and lumpy mashed potatoes with too much garlic on it. SO you make the best of it and start small talk about how my brother is stifling his young son with too much micro-parenting, insult my sister in law by complementing her on the raisons in the green bean casserole….”there’s no raisons in it!”…….and then reminding my mother that she never got me that trendy new winter benchwarmer coat when I was in the eighth grade. I coulda taken over middle school with it. I really coulda been somebody. I coulda had class.

DONNAN OF A NEW ERA

November 20th, 2012
9:08 am

“Also I need to add that I need a sex partner, not a sex servant. ”

You are on pathetic person. I’m sure there is a barn animal out there for you.

DONNAN OF A NEW ERA

November 20th, 2012
9:09 am

” I’m dying to know how DIsney sexualizes young children. ”

Why, are you a child predator?

DONNAN OF A NEW ERA

November 20th, 2012
9:10 am

“Everyone has a HungerGame story about the time their parents announced the divorce on thanksgiving, or their brother came out of the closet, or the two sisters in law finally had it out. ”

Not meant to be a factual statement. A lot of families are pretty normal and actually enjoy each others company. Sorry your life sucks.

Eddie Haskell

November 20th, 2012
9:13 am

Gee whiz, Mrs. Cleaver….we certainly would not want to ruin your day by watching those naughty little football games. Let’s go to Disneyland instead, that just sounds super duper. Maybe if there is enough time at the end of the day, we can all sit around and play pick up sticks!

E

November 20th, 2012
9:13 am

We did Disneyworld for Thanksgiving week a few years ago and it was WONDERFUL! The parks weren’t overly crowded and we had a very relaxed time! I would definitely consider doing something similar in a heartbeat. This year, I am simply not in a massive cooking mood, either to cook or clean up or serve. I already know that we’ll be cooking for Christmas and I’m fine with that, as I’ll have several days to try to cook and bake. But, as for Thanksgiving, 2012….can we say reservations have been made? LOLOLOL I am baking a hen, but other than that….no muss, no fuss. We’re not even having the traditional Thanksgiving, we’re having a family favorite….seafood! LOLOLOL Have a wonderful Thanksgiving everyone!

Soccer MILF

November 20th, 2012
9:13 am

I don’t cook. I pay people for that. I do make a mean martini

DONNAN OF A NEW ERA

November 20th, 2012
9:14 am

“Screw you Donnan!”

No Jeff, I’m not into losers like you.