Conservative group finds gay agenda in anti-bullying day

“Mix It Up at Lunch Day” is a national program that asks school kids to eat lunch with someone they don’t normally speak to.

The day, which is Oct. 30, was created by the Southern Poverty Law Center 11 years ago and now has more than 2,500 schools involved.

Maureen Costello, the director of the center’s Teaching Tolerance project, says the idea of the day is to break up cliques and prevent bullying.

But “the American Family Association, , a conservative evangelical group, has called the project ‘a nationwide push to promote the homosexual lifestyle in public schools’ and is urging parents to keep their children home from school on Oct. 30, the day most of the schools plan to participate this year.”

The group sent an email that has caused several schools to cancel this year.

From The New York Times via the Pittsburgh Post-Gazette (This article is fairly long so click the link to read all the details. I can only pull a few graphs.):

“The swirl around Mix It Up at Lunch Day reflects a deeper battle between the Southern Poverty Law Center, a civil-rights group founded 41 years ago in Montgomery, Ala., and the American Family Association, a Bible-based cultural watchdog organization in Tupelo, Miss. The association says its mission is to fight what it calls the “increasing ungodliness” in America.

The law center recently added the group to its national list of active hate groups, which also includes neo-Nazis, black separatists and holocaust deniers….”

“Anti-bullying legislation is exactly the same,” Mr. Fischer said. “It’s just another thinly veiled attempt to promote the homosexual agenda. No one is in favor of anyone getting bullied for any reason, but these anti-bullying policies become a mechanism for punishing Christian students who believe that homosexual behavior is not something that should be normalized.”

“The program is not about sexual orientation but rather about breaking up social cliques, which are especially evident in a school cafeteria, Ms. Costello said.”

So what do you think? Is there any justification to cancelling the day? Any veiled agenda or just trying to make kids meet other kids and be nice to each other?

65 comments Add your comment

Gunluvr

October 15th, 2012
12:48 am

Yes it should be cancelled if it is a veiled attempt to promote the homosexual lifestyle. Who are these people who would break up cliques? We all have people and groups that we would rather associate with as opposed to those we don’t and being forced to do it by an outside group in a public school is intolerable.

Robin

October 15th, 2012
2:41 am

How obsessed with other people’s sexuality the American Family Association’s leaders must be to see this agenda in everything. It’s utterly insane and unhealthy.

Jeremey

October 15th, 2012
6:00 am

Yes, by all means, let us allow ourselves to be bullied by an organization promoting hate and oppression. Mix it up day is designed to help people understand that they really aren’t so different from the rest of the school. It is organized by clubs at the schools. It is tragic and sad that anyone would advocate a separatist environment of fear and misunderstanding in our schools. Cliques are much more than simply “people and groups that we would rather associate”. They can, and often are, akin to gang networks; exclusionary for the purpose of setting oneself above others, or for protection from the same. In all cases groups which actively exclude members of a population are destructive to the peaceful coexistence of that population and that philosophy of exclusion must be challenged if we wish to live in a just society. Tragically though many of us are not interested in justice. Only in maintaining our jaundiced status quo.

Sluggo

October 15th, 2012
6:07 am

Exactly what composes a “Gay” agenda? It’s a non-issue with the Gay people I know. The work hard, live their lives and come home to the person that they love. Yes, they desire equal rights under the law. I understand that issue. However, to claim that Gay people have an agenda to promote a “lifestyle” is absurd. You can’t make a person Gay. They are born that way or not.

Greg

October 15th, 2012
6:27 am

It promotes the gay agenda only because the AFA promotes bullying against homosexuality. Since a large percentage of bullying is about sexual orientation of course they are going to get upset when schools speak out against it. It is fine to not agree with the homosexual lifestyle. It is not fine to be hateful about it. Hate is not a Christian value.

catlady

October 15th, 2012
7:03 am

Oh, good grief! These same schmucks would see the same “agenda” in just about anything except “Hate a QU*** Day.” Hate infects everything they seem to do.

jhds

October 15th, 2012
7:32 am

how about everybody eat alone and reflect day

Bob

October 15th, 2012
7:35 am

Who is doing the bullying, “Maureen Costello, the director of the center’s Teaching Tolerance project, says the idea of the day is to break up cliques and prevent bullying.” So we have someone that is not tolerant of people’s freedom of association, Maureen Costello, and she wants to break up cliques. I think the righty church group may be on to something, will the likes of Costello then tell the kids who to hang out with after she breaks up the cliques she opposes ? And does Costello blame the cliques on bullying or does she just want to tell the kids who they should be hanging out with, some of whom might be gay ?

Bob

October 15th, 2012
7:41 am

Jeremy, I am glad I didn’t go to your school where a clique is really a gang. My school had cliques for National Honor Society, band, soccer club, French club and many others. No crips & bloods !

K's Mom

October 15th, 2012
8:01 am

I think “mix it up” day is sort of a silly idea, but maybe worth a shot. Kids will one day have to learn that they are not going to be friends with everybody and not everyone will like them, but apparently school is no longer the place/time for that.

The AFA is a bunch of kooks, but I am not sure why public schools are participating in this anyway.

Bob

October 15th, 2012
8:04 am

Now I understand where a church group would get an idea that some of these anti bully groups are actually bullies ! http://foxnewsinsider.com/2012/04/30/dan-savage-bullies-christian-teens-in-speech-at-anti-bullying-conference-says-to-ignore-bull-in-the-bible/.

Jeff

October 15th, 2012
8:51 am

I have better things to do before opening to Pandora’s box of worrying about what other people want to do in their bedroom. Once that box is open, I’ve invited everyone to critique what I like behind closed doors.

What I don’t understand from groups like this: if you believe here is a God (and I do), only you have to answer for your actions, then I don’t have to answer for theirs. Leave people alone and let them answer for their “sins” when the time is appropriate. Lord knows there will be a long wait for thise behind me as we go through the list of things I’ve done wrong.

Voice of Reason

October 15th, 2012
8:51 am

I’m against picketing, but I don’t know how to show it.

Jessica

October 15th, 2012
8:51 am

I can see their point. Apparently, anyone who believes that homosexuality is morally wrong, no matter how respectfully they express that opinion, is now considered a bully. Once they are labeled as such, it’s fine for other kids to strategically apply peer pressure (I.e. engage in REAL bullying) to force the kid with traditional values to shut up (no free speech for you!) or change his/her deeply held beliefs.

PS

October 15th, 2012
8:52 am

As a Christian myself, organizations like this make me cringe. Heck, even if this is a veiled attempt to further the “gay agenda” (whatever that is. Most gay people I know just want to live their lives and be left alone like the rest of us), Jesus himself ate with those who the Pharisees would have nothing to do with (were viewed as sinners).

JF McNamara

October 15th, 2012
8:52 am

A church bullies schools into canceling an event that is supposed to prevent bullying. Church is supposed to about tolerance, forgiveness and charity, but this one is focused on hate towards certain individuals.

We need to take away tax exempt status from churches immediately. If they are going to subject us to their bias, I at least want something from it.

Jeff

October 15th, 2012
8:53 am

Secondly, then I’ll shut up, gay people are human just like everyone else. If you think their actions are sins, do you shun other sinners with the same force that you shun gay people? There are gay people I am friends with that are much nicer human beings than most straight people.

motherjanegoose

October 15th, 2012
8:58 am

In my travels, I have actually eaten meals with all sorts of different people. It is not like you are moving in with these people. I have started a conversation with people, while waiting in line at a restaurant, and ended up sitting down with them for the meal. I have learned lots of new things and that, to me, makes life interesting. I had dinner last week, with an SLP and her family. I met her at a conference I spoke at. We had a lovely time.

Mom of 3

October 15th, 2012
9:15 am

TWG…….You only gave enough information to get the response you are after. As Jessica pointed out, Christian kids can no longer voice their beliefs on homosexuality without being labeled bullies. Do you have any info on that? If yes, it may shed some light on the stance of the American Family Association.
Jeff…..good points. All people sin. Christians out only to point fingers at gays without examining their own sin are hypocrites. But for those of you so willing to point at the evil Christians, remember, all Christians should not be painted with the same broad strokes. Some are hypocrites and some are not. Some are nice and some are not, etc.

Mayhem

October 15th, 2012
9:18 am

While you are busy judging me, the skeletons are falling out of your closet!

Omg

October 15th, 2012
9:26 am

Robin

October 15th, 2012
2:41 am
It is into everything thanks to sentiments like yours. Just turn on the tv and homosexuality is everywhere. Our population must be 60% homosexual in accordance with the media and holywood. I say a teen movie with my kids over the weekend. It was a cute movie then BANG! We had to see a homosexual teen couple holding each other in bed. It vile disgusting behavior.

Omg

October 15th, 2012
9:28 am

“We need to take away tax exempt status from churches immediately”

Then what are you going to do? Feed christains to the lions.

First time poster

October 15th, 2012
9:28 am

Mom of 3, why do Christian kids need to voice their opions to gay kids? What’s the point if not to harrass? Really, I doubt the gay kids are in the dark about how some Christians feel about homesexuality. I am not saying they have no right to believe whatever they’d like, just questioning why you feel it’s okay for them to express their opions to kids who obviously don’t care?

Omg

October 15th, 2012
9:29 am

Mayhem

October 15th, 2012
9:18 am

I am not judging you but you behavior has been judged!

On My Way

October 15th, 2012
9:36 am

You accurately described what’s going on here. It’s about one group creating a backlash at another group because that group listed the other group as a hate group.

xxx

October 15th, 2012
9:42 am

This type of abject stupdity is why my daughter never has or will set foot in a public school (unless it is required to identify the suspect). I cannot encourage parents enough to do whatever it takes to get your children into the very best private school you ca afford.

Sluggo

October 15th, 2012
9:55 am

@xxx

“why my daughter never has or will set foot in a public school (unless it is required to identify the suspect).”

While I find your comment hilarious,I think you need to layoff the non-stop WSB channel 2 crime blotter news coverage. It’s somewhat skewed your judgement.

Inman Rider

October 15th, 2012
10:00 am

The AFA is a complete joke. A “homosexual agenda”, are they serious with that? They need to worry about their own lives before they start dictating other’s. This organization gives religion a bad name and is one of the many reasons religious practice is dying in the younger society. Which is fine by me…

jarvis

October 15th, 2012
10:54 am

Is there nothing between total Political Correctness and ignorance?

jarvis

October 15th, 2012
10:56 am

“We need to take away tax exempt status from churches immediately”
If they aren’t operating at a profit what would you tax?

DB

October 15th, 2012
11:04 am

These hateful people aren’t “conservative” — they give conservatives a bad name! They are just plain looney-tunes!! They are an embarrassment to people who believe in a conservative — i.e., sparing — application of government involvement in our lives, and would simply like the government to BUTT OUT of things that don’t concern them — such as people’s private sexual inclinations.

Mayhem

October 15th, 2012
11:48 am

@omg – WHO is judging my behavior?

dc

October 15th, 2012
12:10 pm

tolerance for me (and my ideas), but not for yours!!!. The so called tolerance movement has always been about shutting up opposition to a set of ideas. Fortunately the internet is showing more people every day that the folks who preach “tolerance” are in fact the most intolerant people of all.

Trolls Bane

October 15th, 2012
12:11 pm

Does this really surprise anyone at all?

Don't Tread

October 15th, 2012
12:16 pm

The idea of the day is to break up cliques destroy freedom of association and prevent bullying destroy freedom of speech/opinion/religion.

There, fixed it.

Mom of 3

October 15th, 2012
12:37 pm

First time poster…….Your presuming Christian kids are simply walking up to gays and calling them out for their lifestyle. Maybe the gay kids are throwing it out there and the Christian kids are simply answering back. In that case, would you say the gay kids need to keep it to themselves because the Christian kids don’t want to hear it? In reality it is probably a little of both. Again, you will always find hateful people on both sides of an issue, but you will also find those who want to discuss an issue respectfully. Regardless, both sides have a right to speak out on what they believe.

ATL Born and Raised

October 15th, 2012
12:52 pm

Just because you’re entitled to an opinion doesn’t mean you’re entitled to have that opinion taken seriously. AFA has been labeled a hate group by the SPLC for very good reasons.

Rly?

October 15th, 2012
12:56 pm

@Mayhem – you know the answer to that. Don’t let ‘em fool you.

@Trollsbane – no, it doesn’t. Want to do AB now?

jackie

October 15th, 2012
1:08 pm

The SPLC is nothing more than a hate group, they hate everyone and everything that doesn’t kowtow to their interpretation of political correctness. I think the AFA is a nut case fringe group but, the SPLC is right there with them.

Greg

October 15th, 2012
1:15 pm

The one thing I can’t tolerate is intolerance. Yes, it sounds hypocritical to say that, but if someone can’t handle having their “deeply held fixed beliefs” challenged, they are the problem, not those who challenge them. These beliefs are usually religious, too.

As Australian Prime Minister Julia Gillard put it in her recent speech before the United Nations, ‘Our tolerance must never extend to tolerating religious hatred.’”

Everyone else is not like you. Learn to live with and accept them as human beings.

missnadine

October 15th, 2012
1:27 pm

The American Family Association needs to worry about the pedophiles within their ranks.

Jerome Horwitz

October 15th, 2012
2:17 pm

Hope most of you bigoted folks don’t sit at my table Oct 30th. I’ll spit in your milk.

Reality

October 15th, 2012
2:21 pm

I really get tired of groups targeting the American Family Association as a Hate group, what a crock. But let’s be real, why are you people not outraged that our School Kids have to even discuss or deal with someone’s sex acts.. You would be outraged if a heterosexual child came to school and wanted to be acknowled for what he is capable in the bedroom.. The more and more the Gay community tries to promote their lifestyle the more and more backlash they should get. Keep your gay lifestyle to yourself, we don’t care unless you start trying to make us care.

Reality

October 15th, 2012
2:27 pm

@ First time poster

Christian kids have the right to voice their opinion to gay kids when the gay kids are voicing there opinion to them… Get it? I find this is not only common to schools, it’s common everywhere, once you go out their and declare your opinion you automatically lose the right to be criticized.. I think it’s called “Free Speech”, not “Hate speech” In other words it shouldn’t be ok to speak out against Christian idealogy, and not ok to speak out against Gay Idealogy…

Mayhem

October 15th, 2012
2:45 pm

Can’t we all just teach tolerance?

We are all NOT the same, and I for one am happy for that.

There’s always going to be some group that doesn’t want this or that. Deal with it!!!

CarrotCakeMan

October 15th, 2012
2:46 pm

“The more and more the Gay community tries to promote their lifestyle the more and more backlash they should get.”

I hate to tell you, “Reality,” but it isn’t LGBT Americans who are suffering the backlash, it’s the anti-gays. Here’s what even a right-wing publication, US News & World Report, noted:

“According to the report, polling data from sources including Gallup, CNN/ORC, ABC/Washington Post, and Pew Research Center indicate that average support for legalizing gay marriage grew at a rate of approximately 1 percent per year between 1996 and 2009, but the rate increased to 5 percent growth per year from 2009 to 2011. “That’s actually a 500 percent increase in the rate of change,” Benenson said at a press conference. “We rarely see that kind of upward spike in support around an issue.”

Because of that growth, several national polls show a majority of Americans now support legalizing gay marriage, including Gallup (53 percent), Public Religion Research Institute (51 percent), CNN/ORC (51 percent), and ABC/Washington Post (53 percent).”

CarrotCakeMan

October 15th, 2012
2:47 pm

CarrotCakeMan

October 15th, 2012
2:48 pm

“Christian kids have the right to voice their opinion to gay kids when the gay kids are voicing there opinion to them… Get it?”

Yes, these “Christian” kids are expressing their “opinions” through anti-gay violence, the FBI reports.

ATL Born and Raised

October 15th, 2012
3:35 pm

Guess I missed the part where “Christian” and “gay” were mutually exclusive terms…

No Longer Republican

October 15th, 2012
3:52 pm

Good point ATL Born and Raised. I was so thrilled yesterday at the ATL Pride parade to see sooo many different churches represented. It is a major step that some Christian churches are now reaching out to the gay population instead of bashing them. the United Methodist Church had more representation at Pride than other denominations but there were Presbyterians, Lutherans, Episcopalians, and even Baptists! I was so happy it brought tears to my eyes. Jesus commanded us to love everyone as ourselves. Too bad the AFA and their supporters don’t get that.

Jerome Horwitz

October 15th, 2012
3:54 pm

Attended the Gay Pride Parade yesterday and of course there was plenty that would feed the strereotypes and reinforce the bigotry of many so called Christains. It’s that attitide that has driven me away from the church because I just can’t stand to associate with hypocrites. I was raised to accept all and appreciate them for thier good points. Not worry about an agenda. Anyway, there had to be at least leat ten different church organizations, including the Oakhurst Baptist Church (way to go folks), supporting the rights of Christains who happen to be gay. The Love form these people is re-newing my faith. Thank You.

mark

October 15th, 2012
3:58 pm

more mythology, oh please!! I think it was great when the christians attempted to sack the celtics and other pagans, but then had to incorporated those pagan things into their things, in order to attract more of them to become christians. Well, maybe the christians should open their arms to the gay community in order to raise more money and members of their blessed group.

1776

October 15th, 2012
5:08 pm

The SPLC is a insidious cultural marxist outfit that endlessly demonizes traditional, Biblical values.

DJ Sniper

October 15th, 2012
5:17 pm

People like the AFA and Focus on the Family need to come to grips with this little tidbit of info: Gay people are here, they always have been, and they aren’t going anywhere. If you don’t approve of homosexuality, then fine, but stop trying to come down on people who don’t feel the same way.

I’ve worked with enough gay people to know that most of them aren’t trying to promote any sort of “agenda”. Most of them just want to live their lives as the rest of us. Lastly, how much you wanna bet that some of these anti-gay zealots have some skeletons of their own.

First time poster

October 15th, 2012
6:05 pm

@ Reality, but what purpose does it serve? It’s not like either side is going to change their minds right? It just causes unnecessary tension. Live and let live.

Native Atlantan

October 15th, 2012
6:43 pm

I too would love to find out what the “gay agenda” is all about. Being over 50 and gay, I seem to have missed it somehow. Anyway, we’ve strayed a bit from the actual article and question presented by our host. It appears the “Mix it up…” group is simply asking children to participate, there is no requirement to participate. So, not interested….don’t participate. Done.

Bob

October 15th, 2012
7:58 pm

Gay agenda or not, it is another leftist idea that should be tanked before it gains a foot hold. This is where the idea fails ““The program is not about sexual orientation but rather about breaking up social cliques, which are especially evident in a school cafeteria, Ms. Costello said.”. Why do many on the left want to butt into the lives of others ? If kids eat together it is because they want to but the SPLC wants to tell them they should pick someone else, even for a day. Get a life people, mind your own business and quit telling others what to do. This thinking of mixing it up got us busing which screwed over many kids by ripping them from a neighborhood school and friends and sent them to schools they had no biz going to. Since many inner city schools graduate only 50% of the kids, can’t the SPLC help those that need it and stay out of people’s lives that don’t want or need their help ?

Nosepicker

October 15th, 2012
8:48 pm

It must be ok, Mitt Romney did it!

Observer

October 15th, 2012
10:26 pm

TWG, the SPLC gets a foot in the door of public schools and what THEY now want is expected to flow as freely as a spring rain on …….fill in the blank here. I would choose “cow sh$$. It stinks. Their beliefs should not prevail over the beliefs of others. I am, as a parent, responsible for teaching my children about bullying. Do not need a 3rd party supported by gov to “educate” my child regarding socializing. The SPLC should not be surprised about being confronted. Why do people feel their personal lifestyle or religion is up for discussion?

Tiffany

October 15th, 2012
11:58 pm

I wonder how many of y’all who claim to be upset by this are still eating at Chick-fil-a. You do realize the AFA is the same group who has received millions of dollars in Chick-fil-a money…

M.E.

October 16th, 2012
12:05 am

“Mix-it-up Day.” Sounds great to a li’l gal who always had to sit alone simply because she was new to school.

Tom

October 16th, 2012
8:04 am

Tiffany, I think you meant the FRC, not the AFA.

Believe me, if Chick-Fil-A was giving money to the AFA and their over-the-top brand of lunacy, it’d be much bigger news. Those folks make the FRC look (almost) sensible.

Reality

October 16th, 2012
9:49 am

@First Time Poster..

Not neccessarily so, people change their ideaology all the time… communication is the key here, and keeping an open dialogue. It’s God’s chosen means to reach people, people talking to people. Ad Hominem attacks against the AFA ( Calling them a Hate Group) closes down the communication, and in my opinion is in itself Hate speech.

The AFA is not a hate group, they do so many great things and in this particular case they are trying to let their constituants know what’s going on and to not show up to show that they do not agree with promoting that lifestyle.

They are not specifically slandering any Gay person just because they are Gay, you will not find them doing that, it’s just not evangelical christian theology to slander someone’s character because of their particular sin, but it’s important to stand up and acknoweledge sin itself. Just like I would stand up and say divorce, abortion, stealing, murder, are all in themselves wrong however; at the same time reach out to people trapped by the damage these things can inflict on people..

That is not hate, that is love… ( hate against what is wrong, and love all people enough to reach out in this way to express the dangers ) Not everone will agree, that’s fine and it’s reality…

Tom

October 16th, 2012
10:12 am

Yes, Reality, that’s why they tried to get people to email sponsors asking them to stop advertising on a show on Teen Nick which had the temerity to promote “The Trevor Project”, a hotline that gay teens considering suicide could call for support……..becuase they don’t like anyone telling teens “it’s ok to be gay”.

Apparently, the AFA believes suicide is a better alternative for gay teens.

Tiffany

October 16th, 2012
3:07 pm

@Tom- you are right about the FRC, but forgive me if I am mistaken, but I have read quite a few articles about the American Family Association and they do have very close ties with Dan Cathy of Chick-fil-A. It is quite shocking what the AFA really is all about. They are a hate group- and there is nothing about them that represents family values or anything that Jesus would be proud of.