Do photos and video of baby help new moms get through work day?

A good friend went back to work last week after almost four months home on maternity leave.

Her husband is a wedding photographer so he is able to be home with the baby during the week. (I guess he’s editing photos during the week and shooting on the weekends and at night.)

Her husband posted photos and videos of the baby on the mom’s Facebook page during the week to help comfort her.

In one video, he interviewed the baby about being home with Dad. He asks her what she is doing? And she just smiles and babbles away. And then he asks her “Is everything going OK with Daddy?” She smiles and babbles. Then he says, “So mommy shouldn’t feel bad about going to work. You’re OK.” And she just smiles and keeps on talking.

In another photo, he showed her holding her bottle feeding herself. The mom wrote back my baby is now 14! (She had been nursing. I’m not sure if she is pumping now or how she worked it out.)

I have another friend who said she watched the video feed from her childcare facility constantly while at work. I think she wanted to make sure everything was on the up and up but also enjoyed seeing her baby.

So as a new mom going back to work do you want to see photos and videos of your baby while you’re gone? Does it comfort you or make you miss the baby more? Is it different if they are in a childcare setting where you can watch video of the workers taking care of your child? Have smartphones changed the experience of going back to work? What are other tips to help new moms adjust to being away from baby?

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RJ

September 12th, 2012
3:06 pm

My baby’s daycare has video cameras. When she started going, the teachers encouraged me to call and they would put her up to the camera for me to see. I never did, but I do log on and watch her play. It’s comforting knowing that she’s being well taken care of. With all the horror stories about daycare centers, I am happy that I found a great one. I also love looking at her pics, but I also do that with the older ones. I am bit of a mushy mom:)!

Sarah

September 12th, 2012
3:14 pm

The video system at daycare is the reason I quit my “dream job” to stay at home with my daughter. Don’t get me wrong, they were taking great care of her. But Every time I would see someone else feed her, I knew it should be me. Everytime I saw someone else play with her, I knew it should be me. Everytime I saw someone else snuggle her and rock her to sleep, I knew it should be me. I didn’t have kids to allow someone else to have all of those moments. In my eyes, having her in daycare with strangers taking care of her was my failure as a mother.

So, it took aobut 15 months to get our financial house in order, then I left what I considered to be my “dream job”. I had made it to the top of my field, the same one that I majored in college. And things were only looking up career wise. But I wanted to raise my kids more, so I quit… And now, 6 years later, I don’t regret that decision for a second. When I did leave, I was suprised at how much I was missing on a day to day basis. I could see alot on video, but there are alot of special moments of laughter, tenderness, and just plain fun that I didn’t even realize I was missing. I feel blessed to be able to be in a position where we could live on 1 income. Although, there were and still are MAJOR sacrifices being made in order for me to stay at home. We did A TON of downsizing. But, like I said, all of those special moments I was missing that I now get to have with my kids make it all worth it. No Regrets Here… and it was all because of the daycare video system.

I truly believe that had I not had access to a video monitoring system, I would have been able to put the whole situation (aka strangers having all the special moments with my kid) out of my mind. What’s that saying… “Ignorance is Bliss”… it applies here.

catlady

September 12th, 2012
3:18 pm

My babies were in private home daycare, rather than large institutionalized daycare. I think it would have been very hard to look at pictures in real time. (I think I would have leaked). I went back to work when the older daughter was 4 months old (I had been out of a job and to no one would hire me pregant). 3 weeks with the boy and 16 days with the younger daughter. It was just very difficult. And, back then, there were no accomodations for pumping so by the time school was out (8 1/2 hours) I made a beeline for the baby and sat there at the sitter’s to nurse. I thought I’d have to get hooked up to Mr. Lowman’s pumps at the cow barn!

So, ladies, be glad that you have some accomodations now!

Jeff

September 12th, 2012
3:41 pm

I would imagine it is comforting for whichever parent is away.

yuki

September 12th, 2012
4:00 pm

No, I don’t sit and watch videos of my daycare all day. I have still pictures at my desk, and do have some videos on my phone if I really need a dose of the kids. But quite frankly, knowing they are well taken care of and are learning and playing all day with other kids doing activities and crafts makes it ok for me. The best part of my day is picking them up, bringing them home and playing, making dinner, baths, bedtime. I spend evenings, weekends, holidays and vacations with them. Plus, I get my dream job too (for which I went to college) which affords us nice vacations, money for college, retirement and pretty much whatever we need, most of all security. I feel like I have the best of both.

DB

September 12th, 2012
4:18 pm

So – those moms went “back to work” but spent all their time gazing at videos of their children and reading Facebook? I feel sorry for their employers, because they sure aren’t getting their money’s worth.

In the words of Yoda: “Do. Or do not. There is no try.” Either find a daycare that you trust, or do it yourself. This watching your child all day means that a) your child doesn’t have you there, except as a glassy video eye mounted up in the corner of the room and b) you don’t have your attention on your work. Both parties are getting short shrift.

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Ed Advocate

September 12th, 2012
8:30 pm

I was so anxious about going back to work after my daughter was born! It eased my fears considerably when my husband volunteered to take a 12 week paternity leave and swap out with me. Still, our daughter had some serious health problems necessitating many hospitalizations at CHOA. I was a wreck the first day back. My husband sent a wrapped gift with instructions not to open until I sat down at my desk. It was a picture of our daughter smiling big with a good-luck note from them both! I cried for just a moment, but the picture was such a comfort. Working soon became just fine, and I’ll always love my husband more for how sweet he was that day.

Kat

September 13th, 2012
1:02 am

I knew it should be me when I realized that all the comments on this blog were foolish – and some were way too specific!

mystery poster

September 13th, 2012
10:54 am

@DB
I was thinking exactly the same thing, a real productivity buster…

kay

September 13th, 2012
2:32 pm

If I felt guilty about coming back to work, I wouldn’t be here.

But when I get bored, lonely, anxious or just start missing them I have pics on my phone. That’s enough for me. And we have a wonderful daycare, the caregivers are not ’strangers’ to my child. He smiles when he sees them and loves being with them also. Just like my daughter did when she was there. (And like the other poster, staring at pics/videos would probably cause some leakage.)

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