A dad with a 3-year-old wrote a story for Babble about the dad dress code after having kids. To promote the story, Babble ran a photo on its Facebook page of the dad sitting on a front porch swing with his 3-year-old daughter. (You can see the photo here.) It was right before bed and the 3-year-old was in a diaper. The dad had a can of beer in his hand.
The father was taken out to the woodshed and beat in the comments. How dare he photograph himself having a beer with his child next to him. How dare he show his daughter on the Internet in a diaper! How dare he expose her to pedophiles!
The dad couldn’t believe the criticism but knew he was caught in a “virtual” mob.
So did the dad do anything wrong in the photo or by showing the photo?
Here’s my take: First off I loved the photo. I think it’s an adorable snapshot of America – a dad and a baby swinging on the porch. They look so relaxed and happy. It was a moment captured and one I bet he will always remember. (Now for crappy reasons.)
I didn’t even notice what the dad was drinking. I saw a can and didn’t think anything of it. I think the people judging him for drinking a beer in front of his child are full of it. There is nothing wrong with a dad having A beer in front of his child. (Now if a dad is drunk all the time or doing cocaine then that’s a problem. But there is no indication of that here at all!)
Onto the baby being seen in her diaper. It looks to me like the stuffed animal covers much of the relevant parts – even the diaper. Also it seems like you can’t zoom in on the shot to make anything else more clear.
Michael told me when I first started this blog seven years ago not to ever show the kids undressed or in diapers. It’s hard to resist not showing babies in diapers. They are so cute. But there are weirdos out there.
Now should children be seen in photos on the Internet? That is a different question. And considering that I share shots all the time. I obviously think it’s OK.
So what do you think of this photo? Was the dad treated unfairly? Is there anything wrong with this shot?