On of our regulars MotherJaneGoose sent me a good question and one many parents with college graduates will face: In today’s terrible economy and job market, would you encourage your young adult to take a job far from home? MotherJane writes:
“I am just back from an out of town trip and overheard a recent graduate, on the airplane, telling her seat mate that she is coming back from North Carolina with a 1st grade teaching position that starts August 27. She was from Michigan and was both excited and nervous. She sat right behind me and her enthusiasm increased her volume. She proceeded to say that no one was hiring in her area and that she had posted her credentials online. She got a call, flew to North Carolina and was offered 5 different positions from which to choose. They even took her out to look at apartments and told her she would rarely use her heat. ( which seemed amazing to her being from Michigan). I was intrigued and when the plane landed, I spoke with her and congratulated her. I also encourage her that new things are fun and wished her the absolute best. She was very sweet.”
“I then proceeded to my meeting and while there, met the daughter of a person I was working with. She is also looking for a teaching job. I recanted the story and the Mom told me that her daughter wanted to stay close to home. It made me think of whether parents would encourage their children to see the world as an open book or whether they would try to get them to stay near home and wait for a closer opportunity. ”
“My husband and I moved FAR away from our families immediately after marrying. While I would love to have my own two within driving distance…I want them to choose their own jobs and live where they want to live. My son jokes that there are Pharmacy rotations in Hawaii. We have visited as a family and it is beautiful. I am not sure I would want him to live there but then that would be his choice and not mine. My two are both an hour away at college but we typically see them maybe once a month, sometimes less. My daughter tells me that she wants to move to Boston but she has never driven in nor shoveled snow. I love Boston but am a fair weather friend!”
How would you, as a parent, handle this? Do you encourage your children to apply locally first or toss everything to the wind and let them go wherever they please? What might be a deal breaker, as far as a job opportunity, or is it simply none of your business?