ESPN.com has posted an extremely long, yet fascinating article looking at Urban Meyer’s journey to be an engaged family man while coaching at big-time college football program.
You may remember that the dad of three quit as the head coach of the Florida Gators in 2010 saying he needed to spend more time with his family. But about a year later he accepted the head coach position at Ohio State University.
I couldn’t figure out what happened? Had he spent enough time with his family? Was he bored at home?
ESPN.com writes that during that year he was on a quest of self-discovery. He wanted to remember why he started coaching and how he could pull back from perfection in football to be a coach, dad and husband.
The story explains that before signing his contract with Ohio State, he had to sign a contract with his family.
“Framed above his desk hung the contract he signed with his kids, written on pink notebook paper.
1. My family will always come first.
2. I will take care of myself and maintain good health.
3. I will go on a trip once a year with Nicki — MINIMUM.
4. I will not go more than nine hours a day at the office.
5. I will sleep with my cellphone on silent.
6. I will continue to communicate daily with my kids.
7. I will trust God’s plan and not be overanxious.
8. I will keep the lake house.
9. I will find a way to watch Nicki and Gigi play volleyball.
10. I will eat three meals a day.”
Does a parent in your family need a work/life family contract? Do you think it would help? How can parents with stressful jobs be present in their home life as well as their jobs? Do dads have a different struggle than moms for work/life balance or is it essentially the same?
Do you think Urban Meyer can really do it? Can he pull back enough to be present at home but still maintain the intensity and focus the job calls for?