First day of school: Is it time for a mom party, mimosas?

My girlfriend and mother of three is throwing a little mom party to celebrate the start of school.  She’s calling it “Mimosas in the Morning” and has invited about 15 moms over from 8:30 to 10:30 a.m. to toast all the kids being back in school.

She’s actually doing it Tuesday morning instead of Monday morning because one friend’s child didn’t start school until Tuesday. That’s just as well because I feel like I have a ton of things to do to get back into the school grove.

My youngest starts kindergarten today and for the first time in 11 years I won’t have a little one at home with me! (More on this to come!! Check out first day of kindergarten and first day of middle school photos on our Facebook page later today. Also post your back to school photos as well.  Also I will be writing tomorrow on this crossroads in my life – no more babies at home, what’s a mom to do?)

I kind of want to sneak in a morning movie this week. We’ll see if I get my other work done.

What are your back-to-school first day traditions for the kids? What about for yourself? Do you sneak back into bed? Do you work in a quickie with hubby after they are all out of the door? Or just enjoy your quiet house for a few minutes before heading off to work?

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FCM on my cell

August 6th, 2012
6:43 am

I will put them on the bus. Then head to work.

If I had the luxury of being home all summer with them, I imagine I would sigh & throw a party.

The Fulton school we attended did a tissues & tea for Kindergarten moms.

Today at work one lady is taking her baby to get her settled in the dorm. Another is off for first day of elementary. All of you have new chapters to face.

My back to school comes when kids get home. We will do a nice dinner out.

Augusta

August 6th, 2012
7:43 am

This year was different, first year I haven’t put my oldest on a school bus. She did get up and help with the younger ones this morning, and that was nice. She went back to bed, and I am doing my morning chores, hubbys off to work in a few, then I’ll be at work shortly.

My oldest and I are going out to lunch and doing some college supply shopping today. She goes to Gainesville next Monday.

homeschooler

August 6th, 2012
7:57 am

Had not thought of a “mom party” but your mention of mimosas makes me want to plan one. :-) We still have a week though. Son starts 6th grade next Monday. Not sure if I should throw a party that day or come home and cry. I have mixed emotions of relief and sadness at my daily homeschooling of him coming to an end. Another homeschool turned private school mom keeps me positive by saying that it is nice to be a cheerleader for her daughters rather than their teacher.
I will start back homeschooling my daughter next Tuesday but the following Tuesday she will be at her hybrid school and maybe I’ll throw myself a party, definitely with mimosas. The end of summer rarely brings me happiness because it usually means a lot more work for me. Maybe this year will be different.
Best wishes to everyone for a great school year!

motherjanegoose

August 6th, 2012
8:15 am

@ Augusta…did your daughter take the bus to HS as a Senior? Mine both drove. I did not put mine on the bus in HS. They actually got themselves up and got to the bus. I get the bad Mom award but 5:30 was not on my radar, as I typically do not have to be anywhere until 9:00. Neither of mine likes breakfast and they are not morning people so it would be 30 minutes of mumbling and I saw no point. Daughter is home for a few more days and then it will be quiet here, when she heads back to UGA. She took a summer class at Gainesville and really liked it. The classes were smaller and she enjoyed the teacher too. I remember when mine left for Kinder…that time has flown. They grow up fast!

Augusta

August 6th, 2012
8:30 am

MJG – no I drove her. It gave her a few extra minutes in the morning and she didn’t have to catch the bus at 6:15. When I drove her, we don’t leave the house until 6:45. I have one in high school and two in middle school. The high schooler wanted to ride the bus this morning…..if and when he wants me to drive him, I will, but for now, he is on the bus.

And I make breakfast every morning. I work from home, and don’t go on till 9, so I can be there in the mornings. I naturally wake up around 5:30, so I get a few minutes to myself. I usually make a pot of coffee, pour myself a cup and sit out on the deck until about 6:00, 6:15. Then slowly everyone starts to wake up and come downstairs…..

motherjanegoose

August 6th, 2012
8:58 am

Augusta…you get the GREAT Mom award today. I drove mine on only once in a while. Less than 5 miles to school but it often took 30 minutes one way! Kids zooming in and out all over. Lots of wrecks near the school and I did not want to up my chances. I am thankful my kids never got in a wreck, the years they drove. Not sure how that happened. Mine always took the bus until they had their own car.

Augusta

August 6th, 2012
9:05 am

Mine won’t have cars in high school. If they want a car, they have to get a job and pay for it. We will help, but I refuse to buy any of my kids cars. Especially in high school. Now college is a different story. We may buy a used car for my oldest, since she is going to Gainesville, but for now, she can ride with friends, or take my car once in a while….

Techmom

August 6th, 2012
9:09 am

My son started his last first day of school this morning (not counting college anyway). I’m kind of nostalgic but not sad. I think of all that we’ve accomplished and what an exciting senior year he has ahead of him. I hope and pray he not only has a fun year though but that somewhere along the line, he forms his goals and even finds something he really wants to do so that he’s excited about those goals.

Neither of us are morning people and so while I have worked from home for quite a while, he pretty much gets up and gets ready without me and just says bye on his way out (keeps us both from getting in a bad mood). I did snap a quick picture before he left though. I’m going to go dig out his first day of Kinder picture to scan and put on FB day next to his first day of his Senior year. Many of my friends have much younger children, some starting kindergarten this year so I think it will be a quick reminder how quickly time passes.

P.S. I’ll take a mimosa! or two :)

catlady

August 6th, 2012
9:11 am

Well, usually the first day of school for them meant the first day for me, too. When I was in grad school it was a little different, but in neither case did I feel like having a party. I ENJOYED my kids so much I didn’t really celebrate not being with them those 40 hours per week. So actually I felt sad.

However, the day the son went off to college, although I cried, I was one happy woman. He was so ready to go, and I was so ready to let him! (With the girls, I just cried, and reminded myself that it was developmentally appropriate for them to go off to college.. I was so sad for weeks afterward. When the oldest went off, the youngest–she was 9–begged me for months to let her go live in the dorm with her sister. She promised she would sleep on the floor, and eat leftovers from the cafeteria, just to stay with her sister. That made me cry all the more.)

mom2alex&max

August 6th, 2012
9:33 am

I never had one of these, but it sounds fun!

I usually just relish in the uninterrupted SILENCE. Breathe a sigh of relief that I survived the summer without loosing all my marbles or going bankrupt paying for all the activities. Then I straighten up the house, make a cup of coffee, and get some work done in PEACE.

One more week to go!

JOD

August 6th, 2012
9:39 am

It sure would be nice to booze it up with mimosa or two after dropping DD off at school. Maybe I should ask my boss?

Pre-K is at the same daycare, so it’s business as usual for us, except beginning next Monday she will be wearing a uniform 4x a week and I will probably get her there a little earlier. This is kind of a mini-milestone year for us, but next year will be a biggie, when DD heads to the elementary school for Kindergarten. I might get a little misty-eyed this year, but next year will probably involve some tears.

We don’t have any traditions, but maybe someone will have some good ideas…

jarvis

August 6th, 2012
9:44 am

What does a mom with all school aged children normally do during the 6 hours the children aren’t at home?

CC

August 6th, 2012
10:02 am

Jarvis, You should ask yourself WHAT DOESN’T A MOM WITH SCHOOL AGED CHILDREN NORMALLY DO THE 6 HOURS THE CHILDREN ARE NOT HOME. That would be worthy of an answer.

Diane

August 6th, 2012
10:04 am

I took my daughter to her class today – 2nd grade…mostly to help with the massive amount of school supplies she had to take in. Tonight, dinner at her favorite restaurant to celebrate the first day of school.

homeschooler

August 6th, 2012
10:05 am

@ Jarvis, here is what my friends do. work out for an hour every day. Keep their home neat and tidy. Beds made, dishes always done. Get all the laundry done so there are never piles of laundry on the table or the sofa. Plan and fix healthy meals so their kids are not being fed a constant diet of pizza and chicken fingers. Grocery shop so they are not the ones in the store with a screaming child at 6pm, volunteer at the school, go on field trips with their kids. Pay bills, meet handymen, cable people and take care of other household chores. They are rested and have little stress once their spouses and children get home. They can then focus on homework without trying to do dinner, homework, laundry etc.. all in the three or four hours they have to spend with their families every evening.
Seriously, people can say all day long that they can do it all but families are by and large better off if they have a dedicated person to run the home. It is a full time job. Now I’m sure that many will respond that they work full time and their homes and families run perfectly but those people who can truly give 100percent to work and family are few and far between. I know I can’t. I don’t know a mom who sits around watching movies or eating bonbons every day. Basically they do all those things that the rest of the world tries to squeeze in after 6pm and on the weekends.

usually lurking

August 6th, 2012
10:07 am

@Augusta, how do you handle the extracurricular activities if they don’t have a car? We got the 3rd car for our convenience, not theirs, so that we wouldn’t have to leave work or arrange carpools for practices and games. With the graduated licensing laws, many of their friends couldn’t take passengers, which made the carpools difficult anyway.

Scooby

August 6th, 2012
10:11 am

You could get a real job.

Techmom

August 6th, 2012
10:12 am

Well said @homeschooler. I work full time but work from home and my stress level is TONS less than when I was commuting. Can I still get it all done so I am not doing chores and stressed out in the evenings? Nope but at least I’m not nearly as stressed out as I would be if I was commuting on top of working.

Jeff

August 6th, 2012
10:13 am

Jarvis, that didn’t take long to get a response. lol.

homeschool…you forgot to mention have mimosas with the other moms. :)

Augusta

August 6th, 2012
10:38 am

@Jarvis – I work from home!!!! Full time job.

@Usually – Since I work from home, I can be the taxi, or one of the older kids can drive the younger ones. The two oldest have driver’s licenses. I’m home all day, so they can use mine. We have 4 licensed drivers in our home, but only 2 cars. We work it out.

And I can get the laundry done, have a nutritious snack for them when they get home, and dinner is started around 5:30. When the kids get home, the routine is to have a snack and discuss their days, lay out the homework, etc. Then they have “15 minute clean up”, to tidy up their rooms, pick up their stuff, etc. While I’m getting dinner started, they are starting on their homework. After dinner, homework is finished, hopefully, by 8:00 so we can watch tv. Bedtime is 10:00 for all kids, (thi highschooler gets to stay up later, but has to be in his room by 10:00. Then hubby and I get about an hour, hour and a half of quiet time together. We usually hit the bed 11, 11:30.

RJ

August 6th, 2012
10:43 am

“Seriously, people can say all day long that they can do it all but families are by and large better off if they have a dedicated person to run the home.”

And where did you get this data? For the record, I’ve been a stay at home mom, but I had kids at home with me. Sorry, but once my son 3, I returned to work full time. You can work full time, cook healthy dinners and take care of the home. In my house, taking care of the home is EVERYONE’S responsibility. Make up your own bed. I have a family member whose husband is a doctor. Every time I see her she looks like she’s gained another 10lbs. Her house is far from clean. I would say that she spends much of her day sitting around eating bon bons and whatever else she can find. She does do community service work, so I guess that counts for something. But her job is MUCH easier than what I do.

On topic, no party for me. I’m teaching the kids. Back to work I go.

FCM

August 6th, 2012
10:47 am

@ Homeschooler’s 10:05 post….that is exactly why I keep thinking I should get a wife. :) It has long been a joke at my office that I should forgo finding a husband and just find someone who does all the traditional “Mom” stuff to live in my house…Now, since I don’t “go” that way it makes it difficult.

Techmom

August 6th, 2012
10:55 am

@Augusta – we’re dealing with the “more drivers than vehicles” in our family. BUT my husband and I BOTH work from home. I see no point in getting another car until we have to. My husband and son get frustrated when someone has to drive another person or pick someone up but I totally think the hassle is worth the extra money we save by not having a 3rd vehicle (payment, insurance, maintenance, etc.) When our son graduates in May, we’ll have to get a 3rd vehicle but our deal with him was to match whatever he saves. I keep telling him that he’ll be able to get a much nicer vehicle if he waits until then.

Hey, FCM...

August 6th, 2012
10:56 am

…you don’t have to “go that way” in order to have a live-in “wife” – many on here pooh-poohed me when I said you could NOT be lesbian WITHOUT the sex, so, you CAN have a live in “wife” and not have sex – after all, many a heterosexual “wife” go without sex…

FCM

August 6th, 2012
11:05 am

@ Hey FCM….good point. I certainly lived in a hetrosexual marriage with a non-existant sex life. He was too tired from his girlfriend.

FCM

August 6th, 2012
11:05 am

(oh his g/f did become his current wife)

usually lurking

August 6th, 2012
11:12 am

@RJ – absolutely – everyone pitches in to keep the household running!

Interesting to see all the different opinions on the drivers/vehicles discussion. It really does come down to the balance between money and hassle and where your family falls on that continuum.

Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

August 6th, 2012
11:17 am

So what we’ve learned is that sunglasses cover up crying mommy very well!! Lilina was thrilled to go to K and sat right down to work. Mommy stayed and cried and took photos!! will be posting photos soon to Facebook.

Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

August 6th, 2012
11:25 am

Michael was up helping this morning — all three leave within 10 mins of each other but to different places so that took some effort with breakfast and lunches!

mom2alex&max

August 6th, 2012
11:30 am

What do I do while the kids are at school? Well, I work from home some, I go to client’s offices some. In total my paying job is probably 10-20 hours a week. Then I do laundry, grocery shop, straighten the house (I don’t clean a whole lot, I work so that I can pay a cleaning lady), do the dishes, plan meals, volunteer at school, volunteer for the scouts, run the million errands for special stuff the kids need, pay bills, deal with the cable man or repair man. When the kids are home, help with homework, drive them to whatever after school activity they need to go to, cook dinner, clean up after the dinner, feed the dog, walk the dog.

Is it a stressful life? NOT IN THE LEAST. I have done the full time working mom thing and it drove me NUTS. Nothing got done well, my house was a wreck, my family was stressed, my husband overworked. This is s MUCH better situation, even if I gave up quite a bit of income, it’s worth it to live in peace.

Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

August 6th, 2012
11:35 am

Just posted some back to school photos on the Facebook page so check it out! and Post me your favorite shots. you can do via your mobile!

https://www.facebook.com/pages/AJC-Momania/210922088338?ref=hl

Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

August 6th, 2012
11:36 am

You can also submit your back-to-school photos to the AJC at this link:

http://projects.ajc.com/photos/creek/send-us-your-back-school-photos/

jarvis

August 6th, 2012
1:12 pm

@CC, earn money?

Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

August 6th, 2012
1:24 pm

Techmom you teared me up.

Scotty

August 6th, 2012
1:43 pm

My wife & I had our own little party when the kids went back to school last Wednesday. She always takes the morning off work and helps get the kids ready and we do a big breakfast for them (scrambled eggs, toast, bacon…that’s a treat on a school day!) and then we walk them to their schools. After we always treat ourselves to breakfast at a place near our house that we love, nothing crazy, just something different and special and it’s rare that I get to enjoy my wife’s company for breakfast since she is usually out the door before the kids. This is the first year that I’ll have all three kids out of the house all day too which will be weird, but I imagine I’ll get a lot more work done without the youngest at home demanding my attention. I have to say, getting all three up, ready, fed, packing their lunches and making sure they have all their things for school is more time consuming than I thought. Definitely going to have to budget more time in the mornings.

K's Mom

August 6th, 2012
1:54 pm

@FCM, when I was single and traveling a lot, I always said I wanted “a wife” to grocery shop and do laundry. I hear what you are saying. Now that I am the wife and primarily stay at home with a 2yo and 3 month old, I am not sure I would be sane if I worked full time since the hubs is working 70 hour weeks at his new job and I am trying to get us settled in our new home…nothing like moving with a 10 week old…

FCM

August 6th, 2012
2:10 pm

oooooooo K’s mom I feel for you too. I did move with a toddler and a PreK-er (and since my divorce was 3 months new then I was working a full time job). I really don’t mind that I work the full time job to pay bills and raise my children (it’s been that way 8 years now). It is just that sometimes it would be nice to come home and have laundry done, and dinner on the table. To be fair, my older one is starting to try to help out. They both have chores, but the other night they wanted to know what was for dinner and I said can I please get 10 min to sit before I think about that? She jumped up and ran to the kitchen yelling “My night to cook and you guys just have to eat!”

FCM

August 6th, 2012
2:14 pm

@ TWG. The look on Walsh’s face as Rose holds up 6 fingers is PRICELESS!

jarvis

August 6th, 2012
2:14 pm

By the way, we pay $55 every other week to have the house cleaned, and $200 a month to have the yard done. $310 / month is a hell of a lot less than giving up my wife’s income.

With the outsourcing, our chores are limited to laundry and food prep. The crock-pot sees a good bit of work, and my wife’s chosen profession gives her the afternoons to run the kids and summer vacation and school holidays at the same time as them.

Bernie

August 6th, 2012
2:50 pm

Yes MOM go to the Alcohol, it will make you a better parent. It will further the security of your family’s well being and household. Go ahead and drink up!

Little Kenny and Sara will be their to join you in about 10years! Big Whoop! when that day arrives!

motherjanegoose

August 6th, 2012
3:02 pm

@ Augusta…my two each had a car and a car payment. We gave them $1000 down and they saved $1000 to match…then, they had payments. My son drove his 1999 Saturn for 9 years and we just sold it to a friend for his son. It never saw a wreck. My daughter has a 2005 Civic and owes just over $1000 on it. She mentioned how she checked it out on Edmund’s and since it has also never been in a wreck, it has held it’s value. I thought is was interesting that she is thinking ahead as to when she will get ready to trade it in. We have 4 drivers and 4 cars. Just switched our insurance to a less expensive company last year and we are saving $150 per month. We do cover thier insurance. Some families could do 4 drivers and 2 cars but we could not as I am on the road often and my husband takes his car every day.

Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

August 6th, 2012
3:31 pm

FCM — Walsh was not into the photoshoot this morning — Lilina will always ham it up

K — moving with a baby is awful!! I hope you get settled in OK. My advice is to find a mom’s club as soon as you can or try to meet moms through preschool or church. It helps so much in a new community and with hubby working so much. One of my friend’s here joined right away and she has so many more friends than i do. I wish we had done VBS our first summer here because we met so many nice people this summer and just think we could have known them a whole year longer.
Good luck!!!

FCM

August 6th, 2012
3:44 pm

@ TWG…..was that not Walsh in the green shirt and glasses that saw in the photo rolling his eyes?

FCM

August 6th, 2012
3:45 pm

(forgive my post….I go to the Ryan Lochte school of texting)

Native Atlantan

August 6th, 2012
4:10 pm

We’re actually having an open house Friday night the first week of school with NO kids allowed. The parents actually wanted an adults only gathering to celebrate their survival after getting the kids back in school. Should be a lot of fun.

LM

August 6th, 2012
4:17 pm

Kiddo moves off to school this Thursday, think hubby and I will party nekkid all weekend. Back to school was not a big deal, I was a single mom, she stayed at the babysitters all summer so our schedule remaind the same when school started.

As to cars and kids. We have 5 vehicles and 3 drivers. One is a “farm” truck and we have a spare car for when one breaks down. The car my daughter drives and the spare are both 1991’s so insurance and ad-valorem is not bad. We also cover most of the repairs. When she was in high school, her abilty to drive herself around was for my benefit.

On another topic, one of the ladies working in my office also has a part-time job at Bed Bath and Beyond. She was telling me about Parents (okay Moms) who were spending $500 to $1000 or more for their college kid’s dorms. Why??? I can’t wrap my brain around spending that kind of money.

K's Mom

August 6th, 2012
4:51 pm

Thanks FCM and TWG. We have been doing MMO and I have met several people already, we joined the church where K will start preschool on Sunday and we went to the pool yesterday Jit has been cloudy today. We are in a college town and I plan to volunteer with my sorority chapter to meet folks and find babysitters and I hope to reestaablish my decorating business too. The best thing about the process of moving with a 10 week old is I have just about lost all of my weight and I fit in all of my clothes again from all of the physical work. We are thrilled to be in a smaller place and my husband finally made it back into his industry following 3 years of being under employed!

K's Mom

August 6th, 2012
4:54 pm

I hit enter before I finished…anyway for being here for 2 weeks I think we are doing ok!

Atlanta Mom

August 6th, 2012
5:25 pm

Once my youngest went to kinder, it was bagels and mimosas (hold the OJ) at my house for 13 years.

motherjanegoose

August 6th, 2012
5:26 pm

K’s Mom congrats!

LM…some parents send their child off to college with a brand new car….$500-$1000 is nothing.
I would say that $500 might not be outrageous if you factored in a fridge, microwave, desk chair, containers, linens, posters etc. We are very frugal and my daughter lives in an apt. My sister and I started shopping at Christmas and we each bought one or two things per week: pot holders, can opener, spaghetti strainer, whisk etc. By the time August got here, we had nearly everything. That was last year. This year, no moving with either child and I am thrilled. Both of my kids have pretty much everything they need in their apartments and if they don’t they both have jobs to buy what they need.