HBO has a new show called “Girls” that all the critics are loving. I sat down to watch it the other day and came away hoping to God my daughters don’t turn out that way.
It features a group of girls living in New York City who seem to be not so gainfully employed. (One appears to have a job.) The main character of the show, Hannah, has in fact been unpaid intern for two years since she graduated from college allowing her parents to pay for her to live in one of the most expensive cities on earth!
The crux of the pilot is her parents (FINALLY) cut her off. The dad doesn’t want to but the mom says enough is enough – plus she wants a lake house.
So Hannah all of a sudden (she’s had two years on the dole!) has to figure out how to get a job and provide for herself.
Another exciting aspect of the show is their love lives. The two main characters do a walk-and-talk where we learn the hierarchy of trying to communicate with men now. The boy she likes won’t “text” her back. Texting is apparently very low in the preferred method of communication.
Despite the fact that she can’t get him to text her, she shows up on his doorstep when she’s just been fired from her unpaid internship (tough to manage) and then lets him do her like a dog even though it’s obvious he doesn’t care for her at all. (I need to mention here that it is extremely graphic!)
You almost want to show the scene to your daughters and say this is a guy that doesn’t really like her. This is a guy just using her for sex who doesn’t care how she feels at all. And in fact doesn’t even put the condom on. This is a girl whose self-esteem is so low she would let a guy treat her this way. Don’t be this way!!
I am with the mom on the show – you do not get to do an unpaid internship for two years and live in New York City and expect your parents or your grandparents to fund it. Michael calls it being on “scholarship.” It’s just not right people. Get a freakin’ job and live within your means.
My parents were willing to pay for four years of college and that was it. (I graduated early. I didn’t even cost them four years.) If you wanted graduate school then you had to pay for it. And you better have a job before you smacked that cap and gown on. (In fact, I didn’t even attend UGA’s graduation ceremony because I was at work that day at the AJC.)
It is compelling, horrifying television. I’m sure I’ll watch it again – if only to learn how I don’t want my daughters to turn out!
Could the creators of the show mean this is a cautionary tale? Do they mean this to be a true reflection of the Millennial Generation? If so, this country is big trouble.
How do we keep our girls from turning out this way? How do help them have some self-respect and some shame in sponging off their parents? How do we make sure they have drive?
Have you seen the show? What did you think? (It airs on Sunday nights.)