Short, pregnant lady rant: No she is not about to give birth; she just looks that way!

My petite cousin went on a very funny hormonal rant the other day on Facebook that I wanted to share with you. (She gave me permission to share verbatim – other than her cursing.

“…Guess what people?… when someone is pregnant, they get big. really big. Especially short ladies. Why? Because babies are roughly 7.5 pounds and almost 2 feet long when they come out. Where the “f” are they supposed to hang out until then?”
“When one is tall and skinny, such as (expletive removed) Giselle, there is a nice long body cavity to hide the exact same size bump as I have. That’s right, I said cavity. And if you want me to get really gross, I also have 50% more blood in my body right now. Plus about 10-15 pounds of extra bodily fluid and 5 pounds of a giant uterus and placenta. ”

“For women to compete to be “petite” during pregnancy is impossible and dangerous and maddening when it’s happening to you. Stop asking pregnant women if they are going to “pop” or have multiples, because most of the time, they aren’t. They are normal sized people carrying a developing human being and it’s an unbelievably incredible feat for a body to do. I still have a hard time believing it’s possible for my body to be doing what’s it doing right now.”

She then linked to a People story where Alyson Hannigan says about the same thing – although with less colorful language.

I think she’s right though about petite women looking larger and more like they’re ready to pop because they baby has no place to go but out.

There is a mom at church that looked like that. I kept thinking it was going to be twins or she was due any day. I was surprised to see her at church each week still pregnant.

Were you a petite (short) pregnant woman who looked ready to pop early on? Did you get as irritated as my cousin with comments about the size and location of your belly? What is the best response for a petite woman when asked about her largeness?

38 comments Add your comment

catlady

April 19th, 2012
12:25 pm

Theresa, I thought “largess” was stuff you freely give away. Not sure that is what you want to convey. Did you mean largeness or large a**?

catlady

April 19th, 2012
12:27 pm

What is ever so much worse is if people think you are pregnant when you are just really fat!

jarvis

April 19th, 2012
12:29 pm

I’d totally like to get Allison Hannigan pregnant.

That aside, why say anything about the size of a pregnant woman? What good does that do? What are you trying to achieve?

Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

April 19th, 2012
12:43 pm

Yup missed a few letters in there — thanks — also missed a parenthetical at the top.

Have one home throwing up today — missing the Az. version of CRCT — I wrote the teacher she said keep him home — he’ll make it up on Monday — poor fellow!! no fun taking the test later in an office.

RJ

April 19th, 2012
1:05 pm

I almost kicked the nail technician giving me a pedicure when she told me I looked like was having 10 babies! What a rude thing to say. I wanted to tell her I had an excuse for having extra rolls on my belly, what was hers? But really, she really pissed me off. It was my due date and since the baby wasn’t here, I decided to get a pedicure. I didn’t need her offending me. Needless to say, I have never gone back. I got so tired of people making comments about how I looked like I was having twins, or how amazed they were that I was still walking around. Some people felt I looked like I was in pain. Well dang, I did walk around 4 centimers dialated for 3 weeks! I shall never get pregnant again, but I wish people would think before they speak. I’m 5′4″ so I’m just above petite. I know how your cousin feels.

mystery poster

April 19th, 2012
1:06 pm

Oh, I can relate!
I’m 5′ 2″ and my babies were 9 lb 8 oz and 10 lb 10 oz. I remember one woman asking when I was due, and I said something like 2 months or whatever it was. She said, “oh my god, I thought you were going to say yesterday!” I don’t think it was just the raging hormones that made me think that was incredibly rude. What gives complete strangers the right to comment on ANY aspect of your height and weight? Add to that: strangers asking how much weight you’d gained. WHAT?

Another pet peeve, people (strangers included) that thought it was OK to just reach out and touch your belly. How rude is that?

As a sidenote, I remember learning in psychology that people make less eye contact with pregnant women. I guess it’s either one extreme or the other!

JOD

April 19th, 2012
2:00 pm

@mystery poster – Holy cow, those were some healthy babies :o) I’m 5′2″ also and DD was 8 lbs. I felt like I was going to explode!

Agree with jarvis (at least with the 2nd part of what he said)…why say anything about her size? I remember that my neighbor threw a shower for me and wanted to play a game where everyone guessed how much weight I had gained. Uh, no thanks.

mom2alex&max

April 19th, 2012
2:01 pm

Oh heck yes!! I am only 5′2″ and some change so I was huge. My babies were 8 lbs each, so yeah that’s gotta go somewhere!

A lot of people thought I’d be popping out any minute and some more people though that I had been pregnant too long. I remember one lady saying, gosh, it seems like you’ve been pregnant for SO long, and I’m like yes I have!! I have been pregnant FOREVER!! LOL, yeah I lost it, but it was my 8th month and I was SO over being pregnant.

missnadine

April 19th, 2012
2:03 pm

You know, the same insults are thrown around to a thinner mom-to-be as well. Comments like: you are so thin you will hurt the baby, and such are just as rude. Lots of petite moms do not look as if they will pop, especially if they have not gained that much weight. Think of someone small like Halle Berry, the woman from Sex and the City (ther name escapes me – it is Jessica?), and so many more. I am very sure that if TWG would posted pregancy pictures of those people, the commenters would be exceptionally rude. It really does work both ways., so be mindful of that. That said, it is very rude to make comments about weight comments about any pregnant women, nor is it okay to ask touch their belly unless you ask.

Scotty

April 19th, 2012
2:08 pm

My sister is a tiny little thing – only 5 feet tall – and gave birth to a 9lb baby. By the time she gave birth she was so tired of comments people were making (I believe the one that really got her was a crack about her having the same gestation period as an elephant). Like Jarvis said though, I don’t see the need to make comments about size to a pregnant woman ever. I don’t even assume a woman is pregnant (even when it is fairly obvious) until I get confirmation from the woman first.

ABC

April 19th, 2012
2:15 pm

@jarvis, you wish. Alyson Hannigan is married to the very cute Alexis Denisof (Wesley from Buffy and Angel), so don’t hold your breath!

Augusta

April 19th, 2012
2:30 pm

When I was pregnant with my first, I only gained 35 pounds. When I was 9 months pregnant and ready to pop, I looked like I was only about 7 months……

What bugged me was total strangers running up to touch my belly……like I was a Budda or something and they would have good luck…LOL. After the second, third and fourth, it wasn’t so bad, and I felt unloved if no one came and rubbed my belly……

I remember this one lady, after I had the first baby, she said “Oh I see you had your baby, what did you have ?” I told her “I had a dog”……the look on her face was priceless…..LOL

missnadine

April 19th, 2012
2:40 pm

oops – sorry about the run-on sentences as well as the repeated words!

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jarvis

April 19th, 2012
3:15 pm

@ABC…yes I do!

jarvis

April 19th, 2012
3:18 pm

What good can come out of commenting on the size of a person PERIOD?
Why would you do that? Hell, I won’t even agree with my wife when she offers up a self-critisism.

“I don’t know what you’re seeing their honey. You look perfect to me.”

jarvis

April 19th, 2012
3:19 pm

there not their….And my mom was an English teacher. I’m ashamed.

Lisa

April 19th, 2012
4:30 pm

I’m 5′ tall and had preeclampsia with my Son. Preeclampsia causes pretty awful swelling so I was HUGE. My Son ended coming 7 weeks early. I had gained 40 lbs (15 lbs of that was the last 2 weeks thanks to the Pre-E). I don’t remember many comments made about my size, but I was large and in charge. LOL!

anonymous

April 19th, 2012
4:43 pm

People are just wired to say STUPID things!
In every facet of life!

non committal mind reader

April 19th, 2012
5:04 pm

Would pregnant women rather be completely ignored? Would they rather NOT be given an up close parking space, or a chair to sit down?

Let’s be clear: pregnant women want us to read their minds. Ask only the questions that they WANT to be asked,and be offended at everything else.

Jarvis wrote “I don’t know what you’re seeing their honey. You look perfect to me.”

Bingo. Recognize a no-win argument coming on, never commit to any side. It’s better to lie and take the non-communication anger than to be honest and ruin the relationship

tracey

April 19th, 2012
6:06 pm

i agree. with all the women who got tired of people telling them how fat they got while pregnant. i had one doc at the hospital i worked at, tell me that the building was leaning to the side i was sitting on. i told him that i could lose weight, but he’d always be a jackass. and i got so sick of people coming up to me and rubbing my belly, like i was the buddha.

K's Mom

April 19th, 2012
6:54 pm

I am 37.5 weeks pregnant and fortunately I am tall and have a very long torso, so although I have gained 25 pounds, I am carrying it pretty well. I still feel huge and do not envy shorter pregnant women since I have not had a deep breath in 6 weeks and cannot imagine how hard it would be to breath with pushed up lungs and a short torso.

I have just learned that stupid comments in pregnancy get you ready for the never ending judgements you get when you become a mom. Luckily no one has tried to touch my stomach, that would really irritate me. My husband has made the mistake of saying that we are pregnant once. I kindly explained that we were expecting, but only I was pregnant. I told him pregnancy is like bacon and egss. The pig (tthe woman and take that as any sort of pun you want)is fully committed and the chicken (the man) is only involved.

Lou's Mom

April 19th, 2012
7:03 pm

I’m 5′2″, but have a long torso and a small baby. Everyone commented that I was so small. At 9 months, people said “what are you, 6 months?” My son is on the small side, and people would guess he was about 3 months younger than he was. My new rule of thumb is to not comment on the size of any pregnant belly or any baby.

malleesmom

April 19th, 2012
7:09 pm

I relate as well. Not only am I short, I have a short torso. My second child was just over 9lb. She had nowhere to go! I don’t have a clever response but am tickled to bits those days are far behind me.

Misty

April 19th, 2012
9:38 pm

I’m with Catlady on the second post! I gained some weight over the last 2 years and had perfect strangers asking ‘when are you due?’ and one guy who asked my husband if I was having a boy. My husband said no ( I didn’t hear the comments cause I was too far behind him). Then the guy asked a very pregnant woman what she was having. Oh and what made it worse was he had a female with him (either his gf or wife). Don’t comment on a woman’s weight even if you know she’s pregnant.

catlady

April 19th, 2012
9:53 pm

Rule of thumb: Tell every woman she looks wonderful! Pregnant or not, you have said the right thing.

catlady

April 19th, 2012
9:54 pm

Oh, and I think folks want to touch you as an affirmation of life. But if it bothers you, scream when they touch you, then look embarassd when you say, “Sorry, I am so tender right now.” They will crawl away.

Middle Georgia Mom

April 20th, 2012
6:19 am

I am 5′ 7.5″ and I still got the comments about how “huge” I was with my second child. I actually gained about ten pounds less with him than I did with my daughter, but what I did gain was all baby. He came in a 9 lbs 5 oz. two weeks before my due date. The most hurtful comment I had was when a co-worker asked, “Aren’t you worried you’re baby will be huge?” It was a slap to my face–she seemed to be implying that I had been pigging out or something when I had only gained between 20 and 25 pounds. It didn’t help I guess that he was all up front. My doctor never seemed to be worried about my weight gain or the size of my baby, so I wasn’t either.

Middle Georgia Mom

April 20th, 2012
6:20 am

sorry–too early in the morning. It should have said—”your baby”! And I also hated it when people rubbed my belly.

cobb mom

April 20th, 2012
7:38 am

Due to extreme morning sickness I gained 10 pounds while pregnant with my daughter. I developed a medical condition while pregnant with my son and retained water, I gained 30 pounds with him that immediately went away when the doctor broke my water. Both my babies were 7 pounds. Women’s bodies handle pregnancy differently. I’m an example of same body pregnant with vastly different pregnancies.

Musicteacher

April 20th, 2012
7:43 am

Regarding touching the mother-to-be’s belly: it never happened to me. I have a black belt in taekwondo, so perhaps that’s why. ;-)

This did happen to a friend who was the only woman working in an otherwise male-dominated office. One particular coworker kept putting his hand on her belly, even when she’d asked him to stop. It did stop, finally, when she reciprocated by placing her hand, well……a bit lower, and staring him straight in the eye. He got the picture.

Jennifer

April 20th, 2012
8:37 am

Ahh yes. I’m 5′ 2″ about 105. When I was pregnant little guy had nowhere to go but straight out. I used to get comments about how am I not falling over, being wider than tall, twins, etc. Ugh, and I gained 46lbs! My little guy turned out to only be 5.5lbs so I really was just a tub, but I didn’t know that till he was born!!

TXMom

April 20th, 2012
8:49 am

Imagine being 5′2″ and carrying twins nearly to term. Yep, that was me. I was wider than I was tall.

☺☻Have A Smile!

April 20th, 2012
11:31 am

It did stop, finally, when she reciprocated by placing her hand, well……a bit lower, and staring him straight in the eye. He got the picture.

I don’t understand why he stopped, then. Sounds like she was ready for more than just touching.

That would turn me on.

catlady

April 20th, 2012
11:39 am

I thought I was the slimmest pregnant woman ever! I look at pictures now and I was huge, but I lost weight during all three pregnancies–could eat anything I wanted, and still lost weight. It was great! My babies were 10 lbs, 9 lbs,6 oz, and 9 lbs 4 oz. I think our bodies handle it differently. I don’t remember being patted by strangers, but people I knew didn’t seem to be shy, and it really didn’t bother me. I was certain I looked terrific!

newblogger

April 20th, 2012
9:38 pm

I’m 5′1 and my firstborn was 8lbs. 9 oz. and was 22 1/2 inches long. I think I carried him in my throat. His dad is 6′4. He ended up being a c-section. By the time he was born I really didn’t care if they pulled him out of my nose! I just wanted him out. My favorite comment was…when are you due? Me: not for a couple more months. Offender: Oh dear God, you’ll never make it. Thanks lady.

Jan

April 21st, 2012
2:59 pm

I was absolutely huge with both of my kids. While I am not really short (5′ 5”) I am very short waisted and didn’t have anywhere for the babies to go but out in every direction. Needless to say, I got a lot of “pregnancy attention”… I found the best answer to any rude statement was a sweet smile and a very cheerful “Bless your heart, aren’t you rude?” The people who wanted to touch the belly got a stern warning “Did you want to lose that hand? Because I bite.”

Fresh Spring

April 22nd, 2012
8:07 am

What a shockingly ignorant, selfish and insensitive remark made above indicating that a husband cannot say WE are pregnant. Absolutely are both pregnant. The ignorant reader focuses on the physicalities of the experience. The husband’s exhaustion both mentally and physically from supporting the wife is immeasurable and immense. How dare anyone think or state otherwise. Excuse you honey, but you really need to get over yourself. We’ll pray for you honey.