Women and the election: Ann Romney reared five boys but did she ‘work’?

Women are going to be a crucial demographic in electing the next president and mommy street fighting has broken out before the general election has even begun.

A Democrat, Hilary Rosen, speaking on CNN said Wednesday night that Ann Romney, whose husband is worth millions, never had to work to pay the bills and should not be her husband’s surrogate on women and the economy.

“His wife has actually never worked a day in her life,” Rosen said. “She’s never really dealt with the kinds of economic issues that a majority of women in this country are facing.”

While the Democratic party has distanced itself from this comment, Ann Romney has fought back. (Hilary Rosen has just released an apology. I am pasting it in at the end.)

Here’s the story from AP: (I’ve bolded the good stuff for a quicker read for you.):

“WASHINGTON (AP) — Ann Romney fought back Thursday against a Democrat who suggested she’s no economic expert because she “hasn’t worked a day in her life.” Raising the five Romney sons, she said, was such a full-time job that her husband, Republican presidential contender Mitt Romney, considered it more important than his work as the family breadwinner.”

” ‘He would say, ‘My job is temporary…Your job is a forever job that’s going to bring forever happiness,’ Ann Romney told Fox News, wading into a multimedia furor over comments by Democratic consultant Hilary Rosen. ‘Mitt respects women that make those different choices.’ ”

“First lady Michelle Obama also jumped into the fray with this Thursday tweet: ‘Every mother works hard, and every woman deserves to be respected. – mo.’ Tweets tagged ‘mo’ are said to be from the first lady, a mother of two.”

“The series of exchanges brought the Mommy Wars to the presidential campaign trail as both parties court women voters critical to their prospects in the November election. President Barack Obama’s high command demanded that Rosen apologize, while the Democratic National Committee disavowed her comments and her, reflecting the acute sensitivity of both parties about alienating any sub group of female voters.”

“The multimedia furor erupted Wednesday night when Rosen said on CNN that Ann Romney, whose husband is worth millions, never had to work to pay the bills and should not be her husband’s surrogate on women and the economy.”

“His wife has actually never worked a day in her life,” Rosen said. “She’s never really dealt with the kinds of economic issues that a majority of women in this country are facing.”

“The backlash was brutal and swift.”

“David Axelrod, Obama’s top campaign strategist, tweeted that Rosen’s comments were “inappropriate and offensive.” The president’s campaign manager, Jim Messina, said Rosen should apologize. And the Democratic National Committee downplayed any connection to Rosen or her firm.”

” ‘What she said was absolutely out of bounds,’ said DNC Executive Director Patrick Gaspard on MSNBC. ‘Ann Romney is someone who obviously has worked hard to raise five good boys and she’s made some tough choices in her life, I’m certain. Families should be absolutely out of bounds in this discussion.’ “

He added: ‘Hilary Rosen is absolutely not a paid adviser to the DNC or to the Obama campaign, absolutely not.”

“Romney’s campaign quickly assembled a conference call for reporters with the campaign’s female surrogates, who said Rosen’s comments pit women who make different choices in a difficult economy against each other.”

“The Democrats see them as the key to this election, the Democrats are saving their vitriol for highly successful Republican women, people like, sadly, Mrs. Romney,” said Rep. Cynthia Lummis, R-Wyo. “The Democrats continue their politics of division that President Obama himself said he’d change.”

“Some of the Republican response was divisive, too.”

“Many, many people in the Democratic Party view the choices that Ann Romney made as the greatest threat to feminism,” Sabrina Schaeffer, executive director of the Independent Women’s Forum, said on the same call.

For her part, Rosen stuck by her argument. She accused Republicans of trying to change the subject by attacking her.”

Update to the story: Here’s the apology that just came out from Hilary Rosen (quoted from The Washington Post):

“Let’s put the faux ‘war against stay at home moms’ to rest once and for all. As a mom I know that raising children is the hardest job there is. As a pundit, I know my words on CNN last night were poorly chosen. In response to Mitt Romney on the campaign trail referring to his wife as a better person to answer questions about women than he is, I was discussing his poor record on the plight of women’s financial struggles..”

“As a partner in a firm full of women who work outside of the home as well as stay at home mothers, all with plenty of children, gender equality is not a talking point for me. It is an issue I live every day. I apologize to Ann Romney and anyone else who was offended. Let’s declare peace in this phony war and go back to focus on the substance.”

It is offensive for anyone to suggest that raising kids isn’t work – especially FIVE BOYS. My hands are full with three, and I can’t imagine five boys. (Just watch “Malcom in the Middle.”)

And you know what? If Ann Romney worked outside the home they just would have been paying someone to do all the jobs that Ann would have done at home.

We have a lovely friend who has a very important job out of the home that takes her away from her kids, and she has literally hired three different people to cover all the homefront work that still needs to be done.

I am really glad that Michelle Obama Tweeted a response in support of Ann and I think it was well worded –“Every mother works hard, and every woman deserves to be respected.”

So what do you think?

Is this pure politics to pit moms against moms?

Was this lady just not thinking when she said what she said? Did she have a valid point? What do you think of the apology?

Does this play into your voting at all?

How can this working-from-home mom/working-outside-the-home-mom debate be settled once and for all?

94 comments Add your comment

icallbs

April 13th, 2012
10:24 am

As someone who has been both stay at home mom and a career woman, being a SAHM is in no way harder than being a career mom. Any mother who tells you that doesn’t really like being around her kids. And with the resources the Romneys have it would be a breeze. But this isnt about rather or not being a SAHM is real work or not (I believe it is).. it’s about rather someone with the resources Ann Romney has can relate to the average mother.. absolutely not!

Geesh...

April 13th, 2012
10:28 am

…A FACT IS A FACT – even if PolitiFact disagrees, the FACT is the 92% of the jobs lost “since Barry took office”, and that is a FACT that even PolitiFact did not dispute. Even though some of the losses could be attributed to the earlier president’s policies, it is an UNDISPUTED FACT that the actual losses occurred during Barry’s time in office…

But, hey, don’t let the FACTS get in the way of a good theory…

What the hoo?

April 13th, 2012
11:10 am

SAHM’s – I love you! You do great work. You love your kids so much that you do your job with NO PAY! And sometimes not even much appreciation.

But, let’s not confuse loving your own offspring, like a lioness, with a job or a career or the obligations of a job outside the home. There’s no dress code, no peformance reviews, no consequences for mistakes or failures, and backstabbing coworker trying to take your promotion if you are a SAHM. There is no sexual harassment, discrimination or a glass ceiling for a SAHM. There are no job prerequisites for a SAHM – no education required, no license, no certificate, no degree, no training, no barrier to entry whatsoever. You didn’t even have to interview for the job — you got it because you gave birth — talk about an entitlement.

You love your kids, you would do anything for them, and how lucky that you get to stay at home and enjoy all the “ah-ha” and “oh-no” moments that other parents miss and sacrifice because they MUST work in the bitter, competitive marketplace. And, as in the case of Ann Romney, she’s never felt the sting of having someone decline her a job, review her work, or say her credentials did not match up or that she was “not the right fit”. And that is what makes her unqualified to voice her opinion on what 99% of women face each day in the free market.

Besides, her “youngest” is 30 years old, and hasn’t need minute-to-minute care for over 14 years! If she would have taken a job outside the home at that point, she would be just 6 years from retirement. But,she doesn’t have to worry about mundane retirement pension issues because she retired from being a SAHM after 27 years and is now just SAHBIC– Stay at Home Because I Can. BTW, did you notice that Mr. Ann Romney did not stop working, and did not retire, and is fact applying for a job that has a whole list of requirements, and is one that he will not get simply because he gave birth like Ann?

So, what the hoo...

April 13th, 2012
11:22 am

…what is your point? She is not the one running for office…and, just what does anything relagted to her have to do with anything related to Mitt’s running for office – this whole thing is, as others have said, an essay on class warfare, and nothing more…

World Traveler

April 13th, 2012
11:27 am

Obama never had a real job in his life before he was elected to the presidency.

Bingo. And let’s be clear: The last president who wasn’t “rich” was Harry S. Truman. The hypocrisy of Ms. Rosen’s statement, as well as it’s underlying intent, are startling.

DB

April 13th, 2012
11:32 am

No, the stay-at-home vs. work-outside-the-home will NEVER be resolved. It’s like the abortion issue: Each one feels strongly that what they are doing is the best thing for their situation. And each side judges the other as “lacking” in a component that they value highly. The SAHM’s look down their nose at the working moms, because they feel that the working moms are shortchanging their obligation to giving their child the best possible start in life. The working moms look down on the SAHMs because they aren’t earning money and contributing to increasing the family’s income and, as a consequence, the family’s greater economic opportunities. It will NEVER be resolved, until both sides realize that there is no one RIGHT answer — you simply have to do what you think is best for your family and your own personal well-being and stop trying to justify it to ANYONE ELSE. That was the whole idea behind the women’s movement — the right to CHOOSE, not to just exchange one kind of slavery for another.

For the record, I think Hilary Rosen put her foot in a large steaming pile of poo. It’s like the abortion issue — no one is ever going to agree, so just DON’T GO THERE. In one sense, I don’t see this as an attack on SAHM’s as much as I see it as a backhanded stab at class warfare, it was a not-so-subtle attempt to paint Romney as someone out of touch with the concerns of “ordinary citizens”. Well, don’t look now, but I can’t remember the last President that was an “ordinary” citizen. That pig don’t fly.

What the hoo?

April 13th, 2012
11:39 am

The point is Ann Romney went where she had no right to go, and she should talk to her skill set–childrearing–not the national economy or other women who did not share her experience.

DB

April 13th, 2012
11:49 am

@What the hoo?: no peformance reviews, no consequences for mistakes or failures, and backstabbing coworker trying to take your promotion if you are a SAHM. There is no sexual harassment, discrimination or a glass ceiling for a SAHM.

Haha, no consequences for mistakes or failures? I beg to differ — screw up raising your kids, and you have screwed up a lifetime’s worth. Failing to make sure that you have provided your children the opportunity to learn how to survive in the world with courage, independence and conviction is failing on a monumental scale. And no sexual harrassment or discrimination for SAHMs? Have you READ some of the sneers directed at SAHM’s. Most people think people choose to be SAHMs because they just aren’t bright enough or too lazy to “make it’ in the cold, cruel world, which I think is hilarious. In a playground that several of us SAHM’s had about 20 years ago, we were talking about our ‘past life’, missing the income, etc. One woman (the CPA, or course!) did a quick tally and of the 7 women in the play group, our combined salaries before kids was close to a half-million a year 20 years ago. There was a CPA, a former assistant state attorney, a former banker, a marketing vice president for a Fortune 1000 company, etc., etc. None of these women were ‘not too bright’ or “lazy”. They just made different choices that flew in the face of the socially accepted “proper” role for women today.

And the glass ceiling is there. Take time away from your “career” and that glass ceiling turns to stainless steel. It’s very difficult to reenter the work force anywhere near even where you left it, And that’s ok, that’s the choice I made. It actually caused me to create my own company — that way, the only performance review I have to deal with are the ones that my clients give me every day in the form of payment for services. :-)

Denise

April 13th, 2012
12:38 pm

High five DB! I’m not a parent and I already know I wouldn’t want to be a SAHM. Too much more work than I do at my job. :-)

My cousin is a SAHM whose kids have finally gone to school. Youngest is now in kinder. Her husband has been subtely (sometimes not so) hinted at her getting a job. Then she tells him all the stuff she does with and for the kids and reminds him that if she worked he would have to pick up at least SOME of the tasks that she performs on the daily. He shuts up and carries his happy tail to work and lets her do her “job”.

I do agree that each is different – has different challenges and different rewards, different benefits and different sacrifices – and neither is better than the other on paper. It is only better/worse in each particular family.

As far as Mrs. Romney being out of touch with the “normal SAHM” because of her financial situation, what about the working mother that has a high 6-figure household income with a nanny, chef, personal trainer, driver, etc.? She can’t relate to “normal” working moms either.

Warrior Woman

April 13th, 2012
1:57 pm

There may be valid criticisms of the degree to which the Romneys (or the Obamas, for that matter) are in touch with average Americans, but that is not the criticisms that Hilary Rosen made. She said a SAHM of 5 has “never worked a day in her life” – a clearly false and offensive statement – followed by an offensive pseudo-apology.

@Jeff – Well said!

Atlantan

April 13th, 2012
3:55 pm

@Techmom using your rationale then Ms. Obama has no clue either…. get a grip lady. Not sure if you’ve noticed, but the Obama’s take fancy $$$$ vacations, children go to one of the most expensive private schools in the country and Ms. Obama has “help.”

Bookman

April 13th, 2012
3:57 pm

Now Florida Evans was a true SAHM. Having to raise JJ, Thelma and Michael in the heart of the ghetto was a real job. Beat that Carol Brady..

Mark

April 13th, 2012
4:01 pm

While that was not a smart thing to say, she was speaking the truth. Being able to be a stay at home mom in this economy is a luxury. Most women need to find care during the day while they go to work along with their husbands to make ends meet. I’m sure all mothers would love to stay home with their children but the reality is that the majority of families can’t afford that, something the Romney’s have never had to worry about.

RLP

April 13th, 2012
4:02 pm

Not that its important but we all know the odds are this rich lady had all the help in the world to raise those boys. This is not a bad thing cause most women would love the help. But lets be honest about it that she can not be compared to the average stay at home mom. Her husband will do anything to win the white house and in our hearts we know he can not relate to the average joe.

Mark

April 13th, 2012
4:03 pm

@ So, what the hoo…

April 13th, 2012
11:22 am

…what is your point? She is not the one running for office…and, just what does anything relagted to her have to do with anything related to Mitt’s running for office – this whole thing is, as others have said, an essay on class warfare, and nothing more…

Well she needs to sit down and shut up about the campaign then!

HP

April 13th, 2012
4:04 pm

All those long grueling shopping excursions and strenuous luncheons must be very ovewhelming. She hardly has the time to oversee the housekeeper(s). Perhaps a Caribbean family vacation is just what is needed. Whew!

momofboys

April 13th, 2012
4:10 pm

I am more than qualified to comment on this. First of all, I have 5 boys (ranging from 1 month old to 13 years old). Secondly, I was a SAHM for 10 years before I went back to work full-time 2 years ago. Both being a SAHM and working full-time are difficult; however, working full-time is easier. I don’t have to maintain my composure while a co-worker throws himself on the floor screaming because he didn’t get his way. I don’t have to hold my pee ’til I feel like exploding because I’m so busy holding an infant and supervising a toddler and pre-schooler. While at work, I have never run into the situation where I am expected to put out three fires at once. I remember vividly one time while I was breastfeeding (and you can’t just turn the breast “off”), my toddler suddenly starts yelling “potty, potty” (meaning I have 10 seconds before the poo literally starts hitting the fan) and at the same time I heard my 4 year old dragging a chair across the kitchen floor (obviously to get into something I had put beyond his reach). I have tons of such stories. In comparison, work seems very calm and orderly. If you have not been a SAHM looking after 5 young children, don’t comment please. There really is no comparison.

CJ

April 13th, 2012
4:14 pm

If my husband’s income was a 100 million dollars, I would be a stay-at-home Mother, too, however, the “average” woman who works for a living, feels Ms. Rosen’s comments are true and accurate. “Most” women who are stay-at-home moms, cooks, cleans, and all of the above and we do not have servants to do them for us.

I have been a stay-at-home mom and believe me, it is a full-time JOB, though, I would not have traded it for anything!

Denise

April 13th, 2012
4:15 pm

Look, even before the White House, Michelle Obama was a lawyer – went to Princeton and Harvard – and President Obama was in the Senate. Do you think she couldn’t go on vacations and send their kids to private school before they became First Family? They don’t have $200M (Romney) kind of money and I doubt they ever will. (Me either and I’m jealous!) I don’t even think the President’s salary is $1M a year. But for some they will never be able to “relate” to regular people. Whatever. If you have to be barely making it – not having enough, not being able to do some of the things I want to do while still meeting all of my NEEDS – to relate to regular people, I don’t want to be regular people.

CJ

April 13th, 2012
4:17 pm

Enter your comments here

WHEN DID?

April 13th, 2012
4:17 pm

I love women, and respect them very much, but when did rasing your kids become classified as work. I always though parenting was a joy. I guess to make everyone feel accomplished, we have to praise them. Why do women have this need for societies approval of their value? Happy strong kids should be your PRAISE.

Good Job, raisng the child(ren) you chose to have.

creative

April 13th, 2012
4:21 pm

AHH, if I could only be a yoga mom in Downtown Decatur. They vote Democrat though right?. HMM. Self haters. I am a borderline redneck who lives in the Ghetto and I have a gay Brazillian assistant. What do I know? Answer… Nothing. Let’s be honest though. Being a stay at home mom really isn’t that hard. Most of the SAHMs I know want to go back to work because they are bored. Then there are my neighbors who download 5 kids before age 25 with no fathers and they get to stay at home too. What up with that. America….F yeah!!! Ron Paul 2012. Zues Bless

momofboys

April 13th, 2012
4:22 pm

As far as Ann Romney not understanding the economics of the struggling family…I don’t think ANY politician understands the average family. Michelle Obama had a job making $300,000 a year. They made close to a million last year. In fact, most presidents and presidential candidates come from financially privileged backgrounds. It’s rather disingenuous for Ms. Rosen to complain about Ann Romney not understanding women’s financial struggles because I don’t believe President Obama understands women’s financial struggles either. Both came from wealthy backgrounds and don’t understand having to make serious financial decisions due to money constraints.

creative

April 13th, 2012
4:24 pm

MOMO I guess anything over 4 would be a full time job. I am sure that is nuts, but why are you barring us from discussing?

Ah,, yes momofboys...

April 13th, 2012
4:31 pm

…”Both came from wealthy backgrounds and don’t understand having to make serious financial decisions due to money constraints”…

Truer words have not been written, yet one of them is black and a Dem, and one is white and a Repub – so the one who is not blackandn is not a Dem has no idea how hard life can be, at least that is what most Dems want us to believe..also, according to them, all repubs have no clue as to difficult life can be since they are all rich, lucky, and do not pay enough in taxes so that the rest of the Dems can take money form them for nothing, as their fair share….

W. in Jonesboro

April 13th, 2012
4:35 pm

My wife and I chose for her to stay at home when our oldest child was born. At that time, we figured that her $30,000 a year salary would only yield $100.00 a month by the time we factored in childcare, insurance, and a car note. We would definitely be in the hole now that we have three young children. That said, it as still an economic decision that we made. We are far from rich; I teach school (and as all of you know between no pay raises since 2007 and furlough days that is not a big money makig proposition) I work three jobs to make ends meet (my regular teaching job, tutoring, and teaching two classes at a small college) For some people to say that being a SAHM is only something that the wealthy and upper-middleclass can afford is silly. We simply eat at home, clean our own house, do our own yard, wear the clothes we already have, use coupons, give up vacations, only enroll our children in free activities (via church and public libraries usually),and a hundred other sacrifices to make it work. I am not criticizing working moms, but they must (especially if they have a gainfully employed husband) admit that just as we made our choice to keep my wife at home, they made their choice to go to work.

Real American

April 13th, 2012
4:35 pm

I’m sure the nannies and maids worked real hard too for the Romneys.

Missing Factor

April 13th, 2012
4:43 pm

If she didn’t have nannies, she certainly had the access and means. The whole thing is apples and oranges and blown up. While the wrong words were used, I see the point that was made… and is valid. You do not get international economic policy experience from raising kids. The whole thing is pretty stupid.

Lindsey

April 13th, 2012
4:57 pm

All mothers are “working mothers”, but as a mother who does not have a choice to either stay home or go back to work I find it hard to relate to the Romney’s. As a voter I wish there was some one who has faced the same choices and daily life I do. Both candidates and their spouses seem out of touch with reality sometimes. To me there is a difference in mothers who work outside the home and those who don’t. One is not better or harder then the other, there is just a difference. Ann Romney has faced medical hardships that I never had, but I have faced economic worries that she never has. This was a personal decision their family made, but as a voter it does effect who I want to win.

TechVet

April 13th, 2012
5:09 pm

I’m in agreement that being in the 1% of top income earners the US gives you many more opportunities than most US citizens. That includes the decision to have a job outside of the home rather than being a stay at home parent or even not working at all. I’m curious how the discussion would go if it was a female running for the office of President and her husband was the “stay at home parent”? I suspect that many people would chose not to work if they had the option or at least only work the jobs that they chose and only for as long as they decide to do so. Because her family had a large enough income, Ann was able to make a personal decision to be a stay at home parent and to support her husband’s political career. Now in reality how many spouses of politicians actually get to have their own careers? Even if they start out in the workforce at some point in the higher level of politics the spouse has to give up their own career to support their spouses career. So the issue here is not the fact that Ann was a stay at home Mom but rather that Mitt should not have responded to a question by saying that his wife was the person to ask for an expert opinion when she actually was not.

Todd - Lawrenceville

April 13th, 2012
5:11 pm

There was absolutely nothing wrong, false or otherwise with the statement. In fact it was true.

The statement: “His wife has actually never worked a day in her life,” Rosen said. “She’s never really dealt with the kinds of economic issues that a majority of women in this country are facing.”

1. I never knew taking care of your own kids was considered work; taking care of your own kids is a responsibility.
2. Mitt made the made the money, Ann just stayed home, just like wives and girlfriends of Professional Athletes. Money or the effects of ecconomics never [should have been] a worrying thought. Her husband, after all was rich, which made her rich. Did Ann ever worry about not having enough money to pay her light bill? Probably not.

How can anyone have an issue with the statement?

blacroxy

April 13th, 2012
5:16 pm

I don’t give a hoot or holler if Anne Romney stay at home or work let’s focus on the issues at hand that should be our concern. Be real this lady has a full staff and she’s the manager

The Little People

April 13th, 2012
5:34 pm

I just hope Mrs Romney is giving thanks to all the little people who helped her raise her five sons: the chauffeurs, the nannies, the housekeeping team, the gardeners, the cooks and servers, and the laundry service, plus her special assistant who kept track of it all. Why every stay at home mom needs such a team, but of course most do not have a husband who has a hundred million dollars to fund her support team.

The Little People

April 13th, 2012
5:45 pm

Oh, don’t forget to thank the tutors Mrs Romney!

observer

April 13th, 2012
7:42 pm

And wealth envy, class warfare, whatever you choose to call it, rears its ugly head. To be wealthy and successful equates with many as “you don’t know what the average Joe has to go through.” Maybe some actually worked hard and made choices that evolved into not worrying about a light bill. Which POTUS has not been wealthy upon taking office? Name one. Again, what is the role of government? Are you looking to them for rescue or looking to them to do what was set forth in the constitution and get the heck out of the rest of your lives?

Talia

April 14th, 2012
4:43 am

I’ll give Mrs. Romney credit as a SAHM if she tells me that she didn’t have the full time nanny, maid, and groundskeeper then. We know that now she has FIVE maids, after the kids are already out of the house. What do you want to bet she had maids, and nannies, and all the help she ever needed when she was raising those boys & Mitt was making millions at Bain?

Sorry, but Ann Romney has no idea how the other half lives. She was born with a silver spoon in her mouth, her father was CEO of a company, went to private schools, married her very wealthy fiancee with serious family money, and he then made even more money. Don’t tell me she is just like me.

SEE

April 14th, 2012
8:20 am

I love it when I see those in the Obama camp trying to make Romney look like an out-of-touch elitist…as if Obama raised himself up by his own bootstraps. Come on, both Romney and Obama came from wealth and privilege. Michelle Obama had maids and nannies while she was working, too…and Michelle Obama did NOT have MS and cancer while raising 5 boys. This does not mean that I look down on Mrs. Obama, but for those people acting as if Mrs. Romney had all that money could buy and Mrs. Obama didn’t…think again.

Also, MS interferes with work…so I’m not sure that Mrs. Romney would even have been able to work.

Lillia

April 14th, 2012
10:48 pm

I understand the intent of what Rosen was trying to say. If being a SAHM is a job, then I work 2 jobs. I have a career, and I am a mother. I do what my husband’s sisters, both SAHMs do, in less than a quarter of the time. I cook, I clean, I work, I have a job for 8 hours a day, I am a wife, I do homework, I take the kids to practice, I take the kids to doctor’s appointments, I wake up in the middle of the night with them. I don’t have the luxury of choosing only to work one job. No, Ann Romney does not understand the struggles of the average woman. Being a multmillionaire tends to get in the way. I think that there is some resentment from working (as in a career) mothers toward SAHMs because I wish I could be a SAHM too, but that is not a financial possibility. Luckily, I have a husband who helps me do all of the things needed, and I feel like we provide balance for our kids.

Allison

April 16th, 2012
10:48 am

In my Grandmother’s day women who stayed at home were called housewives. My mother’s generation found that term demeaning because it sounds like you are nothing but a wife who is in the house. They knew there was a lot to running a household and demanded to be called homemakers. The new generation wants to be called stay at home Moms, which to me says they are Moms that simlply stay at home. So, as far as I’m concerned a housewife is a wife in the house. A stay at home Mom is a Mom that stays at home. A homemaker is the only one that actually works. There, I said it.

[...] Ann Romney stay-at-home debate from last week prompted a smart reporter from The New York Times to look into census data to find [...]

[...] Ann Romney stay-at-home debate from last week prompted a smart reporter from The New York Times to look into census data to find [...]

[...] Ann Romney stay-at-home debate from last week prompted a smart reporter from The New York Times to look into census data to find [...]

DAHandly

April 18th, 2012
4:38 pm

If staying home with the kids is such an easy feat, why don’t more moms who can, do it? Hmmmm???? There are MANY women who do not need to work outside the home, but choose to regardless. Let someone else change the diapers and make the peanut butter sandwiches. Taking care of little ones all day does a number on the house, and I know from experience that you are working constantly keeping the house clean from the eternal messes that kids make. Now, if you don’t care about a clean house or clean and happy kids, I guess staying at home could allow you some leisure time, but if you are a clean and responsible person…..it can
be grueling…….but, worth it.

Tired

April 18th, 2012
7:44 pm

“If staying home with the kids is such an easy feat, why don’t more moms who can, do it? Hmmmm???? There are MANY women who do not need to work outside the home, but choose to regardless.” – Seriously?? Why should anyone have to justify their choice either way?

My Mom worked because she’d had a calling to the medical profession since she was a child. It was a major part of her identity. God knows she loves us and loves her grandkids and was a great Mom, but she wouldn’t have been fulfilled without her career.