My grandparents, and I believe my great grandparents, both had separate bedrooms from their spouses.
I always used to ask my mom if they hated each other and she said “No, they just wanted a good night’s sleep.”
Now I totally get that. Michael is a snorer. I have to fall asleep before him or I can’t fall asleep listening to the snoring.
I like to have the TV on to fall asleep. He can’t stand to have the TV on.
Apparently we’re not alone. The Huffington Post reports:
“In fact, according to one survey, more than a quarter of cohabitating adults in the U.S. report that their partner’s sleep problems — everything from sleep talking to late night TV watching — negatively affect the quality of their shut-eye.”
“Sleep-deprived couples often end up crankier, more reactive and even unhealthier than their well-rested counterparts — not exactly the makings of relationship harmony. ‘So much of our sleep is just never discussed,’ says Phillip Gehrman, PhD, CBSM, clinical director of the Behavioral Sleep Medicine Program at the University of Pennsylvania. ‘A lot of times just getting it out in the open and talking about it can make a huge difference.’ ”
“So let’s start the conversation with this handy infographic. Choose your sleep type and check these tips for “re-making” your bed, with advice from the dream team: Gehrman, Stuart Quan, M.D., professor of sleep medicine at Harvard Medical School and senior physician at the Division of Sleep Medicine, Department of Medicine, Brigham and Women’s Hospital, and Russell Rosenberg, Ph.D., HuffPost blogger, CEO of Atlanta School of Sleep Medicine and chairman of the board of the National Sleep Foundation.”
So the info graphic gives you options such as light sleeper/loud snorer or cuddle/no cuddle. And then it offers tips to deal with these different types of sleepers.
So do you have issues sleeping with your spouse? Do they have sleeping habits that interfere with you getting a good night’s sleep? How do you resolves the issues?
Would you consider getting two beds (Remember when Lily and Marshall did that on “How I Met Your Mother?”) or would you consider sleeping in a separate room? Do you ever move to the couch or kid’s bed in the house if you spouse is being particularly annoying?