College football realignment messing up wedding plans

Eighteen years ago, I had to plan my wedding around the Master’s Tournament and college basketball’s Final Four but at least I knew the dates of the events.

The realignment of multiple college football teams and the ensuing legal battles have prevented the football schedules for two major conferences from being released and fall brides don’t know what to do.

From The New York Times:

“Football schedules for next fall in two major conferences have not been released because of a legal battle prompted by West Virginia’s attempt to move from the Big East to the Big 12, resulting in widespread angst for anyone trying to plan an event in college towns from Morgantown, W.Va., to Manhattan, Kan.”

“Brides hoping to wear white on a fall weekend are being told they must wait until the schedules are announced, because event facilities want to give preference to football weekends. “It’s amazing what happens when nobody can function because of college football,” said Dennicia Craft, executive assistant to the athletic director at Oklahoma State. ‘It does run our lives.’ ”

“Several colleges said they were receiving frantic phone calls or e-mails from brides, meeting planners, campus groups and hotels wanting to know if the Mountaineers, Jayhawks and Cowboys would be home or away on a particular date. ‘I’m hearing a lot of brides are anxious,’ said Cathy Martin, executive assistant to the athletic director at West Virginia. ‘They need to know our football schedule so they can coordinate dates for their wedding. Hopefully in the next two weeks we get this resolved and we’ll make a lot of brides very happy.’ ”

Larry Keating, who handles scheduling for Kansas’ football and basketball, sums it up well.

“I guess that’s why June became the traditional bride’s month,” Keating said. “No significant sporting events.”

Do you know anyone who is having a hard time nailing down their fall wedding due to the realignment? Did you have to plan around sporting events for your wedding? Did your husband, groomsmen or guests try to watch any events during the wedding or the reception?

28 comments Add your comment

justmy2cents

February 14th, 2012
7:37 am

Two words: destination wedding

ABC

February 14th, 2012
7:45 am

Seriously?? Sorry but this is really silly. A wedding being held hostage by football? I agree with justmy2cents…have your wedding where no one cares about football.

Soccer MILF

February 14th, 2012
8:19 am

Anyone bride has their wedding in October is not thinkning about themselves as much as the wedding. Who wants a reception where everyone is huddled in front of a TV.

K's mom

February 14th, 2012
8:42 am

This is why I got married in the spring. We are both huge college football fans and our friends and families are too. It was just easier. And I will say with no embarrassment whatsoever that I have watched an AU/FL game on a 2inch screen during a wedding ceremony. I did not bring the TV, but if God and the bride had not wanted me to watch it, the other guest would not have sat right in front of me with it….

Miss Priss!

February 14th, 2012
8:47 am

Dumb rednecks. Tacky people. Always fascinating!

DB

February 14th, 2012
8:55 am

Oh, My. God. Really?

My husband is from a rabid college town. There, it’s wise to avoid weddings on game-day weekends, but only because the out of town guests would have nowhere to stay — all the hotels are booked solid almost as soon as the schedules are announced.

I can tell you one thing, though — if my husband had missed our first dance because he was huddled in front of a TV watching a damn football game, I think I would have torn the marriage certificate up right then and there :-) For just a FEW lousy hours, couldn’t he forego the rush of game-induced adrenaline and BE a part of his own wedding? Or maybe it’s a fair warning of things to come . . .

Lori

February 14th, 2012
9:03 am

i LOVE...

February 14th, 2012
9:03 am

@ miss priss,

did you marry a man? A REAL MAN? or even an awesome woman?

K's Mom

February 14th, 2012
9:05 am

@DB, if we had married in the fall, I would have been the one holding off the first dance and my mom would have been with me. The guys are not the only guilty parties here. We also did not want anniversaries celebrated around big games. I hate it for brides that already have big days planned, but if you and your fiance are fans, I still say go for a spring wedding!

REAL WOMEN...

February 14th, 2012
9:07 am

…know better than to want to get married ANYTIME in the Fall or near the time for the Final Four…the Masters, not so much…

JATL

February 14th, 2012
9:29 am

Simple solution -if your family, fiance, you or wherever you want to have your wedding have a BIG interest or stake in college football -get married at some other time of year! I always wanted an October wedding, but for reasons other than football (thought we were moving across country), we married in July. I’ve actually always been so glad! Yes, an October wedding would have been beautiful, but so was ours. There are SO many activities in October -it’s our busiest month. Not only football, but Halloween, harvest festivals, birthdays, music festivals -I would hate to try and shove an anniversary in there!

FCM

February 14th, 2012
9:31 am

Our results show that what most women (ages 30-49) want for Valentine’s Day this year is rest and relaxation – a one day pass to put their feet up – while their man does the chores and/or childcare. Let’s call it “Queen for a Day.”

According to our survey:

• 72% of women want a day off from housework and/or childcare
• 14% of women want a special plan for dinner
• 9% of women want a gift
• 5% of women want sex

FCM

February 14th, 2012
9:35 am

When my ex decided (on the day we eloped) he should go watch Daytona with his brother (we had alredy done the I Do)…..I should have annulled it.

motherjanegoose

February 14th, 2012
10:07 am

We were married in December but not because of football. I just graduated college and my husband was in the Navy. I moved to where he was stationed. I always wanted a Christmas wedding as I loved the decorations. ( we put ours in the church and left them to enjoy)

I do run into this all the time with the venues I speak at, since they cannot book much if it is a football weekend and we are on a college campus. Not a good idea. It is hard to schedule things and sometimes I cannot hold the date for them as perhaps another group wants me on that date and I give them 24 hours to take it first or they will have to catch me another time. I was in a smaller college in Nebraska once and the teachers there RAN out at the break to hear the score for the Cornhuskers. This was before we had texting. I was also in Arkansas THE DAY UGA was playing the Razorbacks and when I announced I was from GA and that I had two children who went to UGA, it was not too pretty. They growled but we had fun. It was a year the Bulldogs won.

@ FCM, I told my husband on Sunday that I would prefer help around the house over diamonds any day. I got a dozen roses yesterday and we went out for dinner last night to beat the crowds as I am working with 300 Kinders today and will be pooped…soup will be fine!

Happy Valentine’s Day to my blog friends and even to those who do not like me too!

jarvis

February 14th, 2012
10:19 am

My wife is a school teacher so any time besides Summer would have been a bad decision for our wedding.
As far as being a guest to a wedding, I’ve skipped weddings for far less than a football game.

If I don’t know the person well, you can pretty much count on receiving a gift and no attendance.

TXMom

February 14th, 2012
10:43 am

We got married in the middle of December. I always wanted a winter wedding anyway, and this way we managed to time it right between the end of regular football season and the holidays (and start of bowl season).

I had a good friend who scheduled her wedding the exact same day as our college’s homecoming game, in the same part of town. I felt bad for her because although they had a lot of friends show up for the wedding, everyone bolted from the reception so they could make it to the game.

justmy2cents

February 14th, 2012
11:38 am

I was sneaky. I actually scheduled mine for the week of Thanksgiving so nobody would be able to attend. :o) That way, they could not be insulted that we did not invite them; they had to refuse the invitation. Best move I could have made.

Wayne

February 14th, 2012
11:41 am

Happy Valentine’s Day!

Ours was in August. Not to bad of a turnout. Some folks were late because a tractor trailer jacknifed on the off ramp leading to our wedding/reception location.

☺☻ Have A Smile!

February 14th, 2012
12:17 pm

I guess there are going to be a lot of unhappy “bridezillas”, right?

I was going to make a snide remark about women who seem to make the wedding more important than the actual marriage, but I won’t.

Happy Valentine’s Day everyone. :D

Wreck

February 14th, 2012
1:11 pm

I always think it’s hilarious when women rant and rave about men who are adamant about making sure their wedding doesn’t conflict with college football. Don’t worry, most of these men aren’t marrying YOU!

Also, wouldn’t you want to be married during a time that your spouse isn’t consumed by something that is actually many people’s biggest hobby???

Go Jackets!!

jud

February 14th, 2012
1:27 pm

Get married at noon, reception follows — make sure you have plenty of TVs… enjoy!

PollyM

February 14th, 2012
1:30 pm

My husband of 40 years and I changed the date of our wedding because the big football game got changed that year for of TV. Our DD said yes to the proposal and her almost next words were what’s the football schedule. She picked an off week for her team. Turned out it was a big week for another team so she had a big TV in the bar area at the reception.

C from Marietta

February 14th, 2012
2:04 pm

Just more evidence of miss placed priorities. Putting a football game above a friend’s wedding or family members wedding? Relationships that you build are WAY more important than 18 to 22 year old kids playing football. We had our wedding in October and our friends and family members all came without complaint. We had it outside and no was huddled around a TV. If you think someone should change THEIR wedding date b/c of a football. Your a jackass and your not really a friend anyway. Football games happen every fall. Weddings are special days.

Tig

February 14th, 2012
2:26 pm

I can’t really speak much on the wedding side of scheduling, but our daughter (1st grade) was born the week of thanksgiving, and scheduling a party for her on either weekend surrounding her birthday has always been impossible to satisfy everybody.

The weekend after her birthday is always the GA-GA Tech football game, and the weekend before always seems like her friends are leaving to go out of town to visit relatives for Thanksgiving.

K's Mom

February 14th, 2012
2:45 pm

Tig, my bday is that week and one year my mom did a 1/2 bday party in May at a pool ;o). That may not be an option for you guys, but it worked for us.

@C in Mariette, what I have learned about weddings is the bride and groom are not doing the guests a favor by inviting them…it is quite the opposite, gracious guests are doing the happy couple a favor by participating. It is far more selfish to not consider the wants/needs of your wedding party and guests than it is to not show up to a wedding because of a big game. I learned this lesson after being miserable at many a wedding where the bride thought she had done the world a favor by having such a blessed event. I set out at our wedding to make sure my guests were well taken care of and everyone have a fabulous weekend!

Becky

February 14th, 2012
4:44 pm

My first marriage was in Oct. No problems for anyone..If I were going to marry a man that I knew beforehand was a football fanatic, no I would not try to plan a wedding during any month of football season..In my opinion, weddings are over rated anyway..So let teh bashing begin..

Hope everyone has a great Valentines Day..

Augusta

February 15th, 2012
1:13 pm

I don’t know about weddings, but I can tell you that from August to February, NO ONE in my family EVER makes plans on Sundays, other than to worship at the Gridiron. Sundays are for football and it’s on all day long at my house!!!

Libi

February 18th, 2012
9:49 pm

Several colleges said they were receiving frantic phone calls or e-mails from brides, meeting planners, campus groups and hotels wanting to know if the Mountaineers, Jayhawks and Cowboys would be home or away on a particular date.
I find this very silly