School officials in Utah have told the parents of a student that their child is gay in the hopes of preventing bullying.
“LEHI, Utah — School officials say they were being proactive against bullying in deciding to tell the parents of a Utah student that he is gay.
The move came after a 14-year-old student created an advertisement about himself and his sexual orientation during a class project.
Alpine School District officials said an aide overheard other students making negative comments about the boy, who had told administrators he was gay but wasn’t ready to tell his parents.
District spokeswoman Rhonda Bromley said Tuesday the boy reluctantly agreed to allow his sexual orientation to be revealed to his parents but chose not to be present when they were told.
Bromley says the parents are supportive but concerned about misconceptions involving the boy’s treatment at school. His parents removed him from school until the controversy subsides.”
So I can see where the school would want to let the parents know what was happening so they could act, but telling your parents that you are gay is such a personal decision that I feel for this young man.
What do you think? Did the school do right by telling the parents for his protection? Should they have said something more general to the parents such as we worry your child is being bullied just be aware and not give a specific reason? Should the school tried to handle internally without the parents knowing?? (I think the school was trying to reduce its liability by letting them know.)
From another perspective, should a school reveal to parents if they find out a teen is sexually active or if they are pregnant? Does that stuff not fall into the same lines because it’s not about potential bullying?
Where is the line of revealing personal info to the parents?
(What’s so odd is once they get to college, the professors are not even allowed to talk to the parents. I’ve had a very sick student in my class and I couldn’t talk to her parents at all! (Family Educational Rights and Privacy Act.)