Through the years we’ve had several friends face long bouts of unemployment. It’s heartbreaking and frustrating for the spouse (in all our friend’s cases the wives) to watch and not know exactly how to help.
Sometimes the unemployed spouse gets depressed while searching. Sometimes they aren’t that good at searching or interviewing, which can be even more frustrating for the spouse.
You can’t do the interview for them but do you help write the letters, resume and follow-up letters? Do you help them prep? Do you give moral support and inspiration or do you tell them to get off their behinds and find a job? What if they won’t follow your advice while searching?
Also does the family dynamic change if the “man” of the house is out of work? Is there a point where a wife gets so frustrated by the lack of work that she leaves? When is it just a terrible economy and when is it a terrible spouse?
What are some ideas to help without being a nag or negative?