Do you want a Christmas wish list from kids, spouse?

Walsh typed his list and then cut it down to a portable wallet-size. He also looked up items on the internet and put the prices next to some of his items. I adore his list.

My 8-year-old typed his list and then cut it down to a portable wallet-size. He also looked up items on the internet and put the prices next to some of his items. I adore his list.

I am a big believer in getting a list of what the kids and other family members want the most for Christmas. I may ad lib some but at least I know I am getting them things they really want. (I haven’t had a case yet where I’ve had to delete inappropriate or expensive things from their lists.)

I like the lists especially now because I don’t have any money to waste on gifts someone might like or only kind of like!

I handed Rose a notebook to write down what she wanted but Walsh jumped on the computer to type his list. After he typed and printed it, he cut it down to wallet-size, which I thought was pretty smart. He also looked up the items and noted prices next to some of them.

I’m still trying to get a list from Michael. He’s tough to buy for so I really need him to tell me what video games he is interested in or if he needs dress shirts or sweaters. Also it helps to know what technology he wants. I want to get him specifically what he wants.

I am trying to get a list from my parents but so far no luck there. My dad says I don’t need anything and my mom isn’t much more help than that. (More on this in a later post.)

Now my mom is a total freelance shopper. She likes to go and look around for the kids and buys what she thinks they’ll be interested in even if it’s not on their radar screens currently.

Do you want lists from family members? Do you like to think of things? Do you like to just look around to come up with ideas?

Do your kids do wish lists for you? How do they present them? Are they reasonable or unrealistic?

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oneofeach4me

November 29th, 2011
12:15 pm

Actually… I just realized this year that I want lists!! The kids will be given a budget of what I will spend, and they then can write down a few combinations of what they would like. I say this because it seems as though this year they both are asking for a Nintendo DS along with other toys. $150 per kid is my max and the list like Walsh’s is surely going to be my route next year. It keeps me from running all over the place trying to figure out what they would like.

On another note, does number four say Super Diaper Baby? lol Just curious.

I am curious, too...

November 29th, 2011
12:27 pm

…oneofeach4me, as to that item listing????

catlady

November 29th, 2011
12:31 pm

How many of you buy your spouse toys?

oneofeach4me

November 29th, 2011
12:34 pm

@catlady~ I buy mine what I consider to be electronic toys (pc tablet, phone, GPS, new XBox games, ect).

theresa

November 29th, 2011
12:41 pm

It is super diaper baby …I believe dav pilkey is the author. I love his list is books and Legos. I’m with you that I am trying to spend about 150 per kid. My momis buying him a new dsi which would totally bust our budget. We thought about an ipod touch for rose but again 199 ad that would be it. Amybe with chrismas money or from her uncle. The big ticket stuff is oming from grandparents.

Augusta

November 29th, 2011
12:44 pm

I hate asking for lists. I hate to hear “I WANT” for Christmas…..

And if you need a list from your kids as to what they want, I don’t think you are very in-tune with them. YOU should KNOW what they want, just by talking and listening to them all year long…..

We do Christmas Challenges. This year, our quest is to find each person in the family a gift under $10.00. Gift certificates are NOT allowed. EVER. It’s a lot of fun to see what people come up with.

Dennis

November 29th, 2011
12:44 pm

Super Diaper Baby is another graphic novel from the writers of Captain Underpants. If you have elementary school boys you would know!

I take people who say they don’t need anything quite seriously. I really feel like many of us feel like we’re drowning in things anymore.

I’m giving my wife my short list (1 item – a good set of pop-up soccer goals to use at home and practices with my kids) and that’s really all I want.

Stacey

November 29th, 2011
12:46 pm

oneofeach4me…Super Diaper Baby is a series of books that elementary school age boys like. I only know because I have a 10 year old.

Theresa…I would love to have Walsh’s list. My son is asking for all electronics plus cartridges for each. He says he needs to upgrade his Nintendo DSi to a 3DS and his PS2 to a PS3 and he will donate the old systems to the church’s youth activity center. He ignores the fact that we have told him he needs to make a more practical list so I plan to just wing it based on what I can afford. I like to have lists a guideline to make sure I am in the right ballpark but I may or may not actually buy what is on the list.

Techmom

November 29th, 2011
1:00 pm

My 16-year old son gave me a list last night after I asked him (well he messaged it to me!). He put about 1/2 a dozen things on there, ranging in price from about $20-150. He knows he won’t get everything on the list but at least it gives me an idea of where to start. He got a laptop for Christmas last year so this year will definitely be less expensive.

I usually ask my husband to which he responds, “nothing” so I get to guess. Some years I’ve guessed well and other years, he’s gotten clothes! I have a short list this year as I splurged and bought myself the Kindle Fire as soon as it was announced but I consider that my gift so a new camera bag and tripod are my only other requests at this point and the only reason I haven’t already bought them is so that my husband has something to buy and give me that I really want.

I bought my mom a regular Kindle after she used mine for the week she came and stayed with us but I have no idea what to get my dad this year. My in-laws however are the absolute worst. They always buy what they want so we’re always left scrambling to find something for them even though we’re sure they won’t use it and feel like it’s a waste of money. Last year my MIL got a Pandora bracelet but we bought her charms for her for birthday, Christmas and Mother’s Day already.

LM

November 29th, 2011
1:05 pm

I love getting a list. My husband will buy anything he wants so I have to cut him off between Thanksgiving and Christmas. There are so many things he needs/wants but I will only do so much. My normal Christmas for him is getting watch bands and batteries. Also looking to replace several of his power tool rechargable batteries (not cheap). I’d love a list from my daughter, She keeps talking about needing more clothes, I feel I should get her things for college dorm life.

It is my in-laws I need help with. They say they don’t want anything, but if you don’t my MIL will hold it against you and just make spending time with her ugly with all of her snarky coments. I was looking at a ceramic knife set for her but don’t think she would use it. Any suggestions for a couple in their early 70’s?

fred

November 29th, 2011
1:15 pm

I expect a list from my wife and my daughters have started to put one together for me as well. I may or may not follow the list, it depends on if I find anything that seems more appropriate. but in general, I am a horrible gift buyer, and any help is much appreciated.

catlady

November 29th, 2011
1:18 pm

LM: A book of coupons from the car detailing company? A summer of lawn service?

M1chelle

November 29th, 2011
1:19 pm

@LM How about gift certifcates/gift cards to their favorite restaurant or store? I never know what to get my in-laws either. We’ve done PJs, clothes, and house stuff. Last year, I got her a gift card to her favorite store and she really liked it because she could pick whatever she wanted.

motherjanegoose

November 29th, 2011
1:20 pm

I have two thoughts on this:

I like to be able to pick up things spontaneously when I see them. I bought towels for my son’s bathroom recently as they were in his colors and he has had the same sets for years. These were a name brand that is the same as what he has. I also bought my daughter something to hang on her apartment door as it was festive with 3 snowman and it said WELCOME FRIENDS. I decided to give it to her early…she said she did not want it as she has 3 room mates and it is not fair for one person to put something up that the others would not like ( I see her point but it did make me sad and now I will have to return it as I have way too many decorations here). BTW the others are using ALL sorts of things inside that I purchased for 6 months before she moved it…I spent $10- $20 per week on things for her kitchen. I heard no complaints on those items but they are inside the house.

That being said, my sister asked us to put anything we wanted on Amazon and thus we all have a list. She does not like to receive random gifts and is very specific about what she likes which is fine but I do feel tied to the list and not likely to purchase anything off of the list. My list has less than 10 things on it: a few books, perfume, and some charms for my bracelet. I really do not need anything and my husband and I are going to take a winter trip instead of Christmas for each other. I am thinking of Montreal, as I have wanted to go there…any tips are appreciated!

While I do not like to be stuck to the list, it will be so much easier to just click and let them ship. The other option is fighting the crowds and traffic..which I hate. To me, gone are the days when I can just pick things up all year long. Now, I can probably get this all done in a few hours…too bad they don’t gift wrap too…haha! FREE shipping is a BIG plus as we do ship gifts and one year the shipping cost over $100 alone. I have already ordered the gifts for out of town.

I do think that Christmas has become way more about gifts and what people want instead of just enjoying the music, food, lights, activities and time spent with family. I call it the wantchas and TV has certainly done it’s part to perpetuate. Can most folks even remember what they got 2 years ago for Christmas? My kids do remember the years my husband decorated his truck with lights and put hay in the back for a hay ride. Also, the time we went to look at Christmas lights and had our dog in the car…she saw a bunny in the yard and was going crazy. It was so dark, that we could not see it. We still laugh about it! In my book THINGS do not make you happy…maybe for a little while but not in the long run. I prefer to make memories that last a lifetime.

We also celebrate the wonder of Jesus birth and enjoy services and programs at church with fellow believers. I am going to a few local performances too and look forward to it!

When I hear a story of someone using pepper spray on Black Friday, it just makes me sad.

Offensive

November 29th, 2011
1:29 pm

I like to offend as many people as possible during the CHRISTMAS Season….

mom2alex&max

November 29th, 2011
2:03 pm

I love lists. I get my kids to do them and I make lists myself! My husband is the biggest challenge as his wants are way over our budget!

oneofeach4me

November 29th, 2011
2:24 pm

@Dennis ~ I have a daughter in 5th grade and my son is only in Kindergarten so I had no idea what it was. I wasn’t bashing… I really was curious as to what it was.

@Augusta ~ I listen to my kids all year long, and am very in tune with them. The issue is they are still young and don’t fully understand “cost”. My 5 yr old wants a new KTM 50cc dirt bike so he can start entering local MX races, and he also wants a DS. My daughter wants a cell phone (which she is NOT getting), a DS, and an electric scooter. I think the purpose the lists will server for me is that they will be able to visibly see that if their budget is $150, and they get that DS, that is ALL they are getting. On the contrary, if they write down a few odds and ends that could add up to $150, they will have more small things to open. Big ticket items can be for birthday’s because there is only one at a time to buy for. Like that KTM dirt bike…… :)

MatthewH

November 29th, 2011
2:32 pm

I like lists that are categories and then I buy within that category. I want there to be some surprise on Christmas morning!

Hey, motherjane...

November 29th, 2011
3:03 pm

…sorry to be off this topic, but, I know how you say you hate the MOG at this time of year (and most any other time),l BUT, I was there yesterday morning at 9am and it was great – no people, no cars, not much of anything except me and a few other early rises.

Hence, since you are an early riser you might try this trick in order to avoid the crowds and cars – when we left at about 11am things had picked up some, but still no crowds or many cars.

Now when we drove back by at about 3pm the parking lot looked quite busy – so I guess the moral to this is to “be the early bird” and you may be rewarded – and this probably works the rest of the year on weekends, too, but after 12 noon at this time of year and on weekends you are still right to avoid even the area…

And, if you really have no reason to go to the mall, then just ignore my attempt to be helpful…carry on…

motherjanegoose

November 29th, 2011
3:14 pm

@ HEY…you are correct! I pass the mall all the time in the morning around 9:00 and it is not too bad. We also head that way for dinner, a few times each week, and almost get hit each time. My husband was involved in a total collision on his way home from the mall once.

I APPRECIATE ANY TIPS ANYONE HAS TO OFFER! There are lots of things I can learn each day and while this tip is not new to me, you might have given some insight to someone else or have something else to share with me ( on the future) that I need to know. ( any tips on Montreal?)

I thank you for your thoughtfulness.

I frequently have clients that ask me, “what are you going to do for dinner and afterwards…do you want us to tell you how to get to the mall?” This cracks me up from those who live in towns of less than 50,000 as their mall is like super Wal Mart here. I know they are just trying to be nice.

The only mall I do make a trip to is Mall of America in Minnesota ( you betcha’) as we have been going there since our kids were small. They have an amusement park inside and all sorts of neat things. I sometimes meet my sister there and it is great to see her.

Hey, motherjane...

November 29th, 2011
3:30 pm

…yeah, dinner time in that area is not an ideal time to be there…

Anj

November 29th, 2011
3:35 pm

Lists – yes.

From now until Christmas, you will see various food, drink and toiletry gift sets. Some years ago, I realized what those were for – for people you feel obligated to give a present to, but don’t know what they would like.

Hint: Never EVER give a scent, cologne, perfume or aftershave to someone unless you know they like it. If they don’t, it’s going into the trash or to a homeless or women’s shelter.

Many times our wish lists are decidedly unglamorous. I want a microplane lemon zester. Some baking sheets. A couple pie pyrex pans.

My husband and I are hard to shop for since if we really want something, we don’t wait for someone to buy it for us. My kids are…tricky. My one son wants a Macbook Air. Once my husband explained it would be his ONLY gift for three years, he reconsidered. My other son will play with anything once. He also plays with things in unconventional ways. Our standard joke is: “Give it to AutismKid if you need it taken apart.”. Cheaply made toys end up in the landfill, so to me Cheap=Trash. Literally. Open package, play with item for twenty minutes, throw away.

Jeff

November 29th, 2011
4:07 pm

I always tell my S.O.’s that the day they taugh mind reading class, I was at the beach drinking, watching girls in bikinis.

List please.

bessbear

November 29th, 2011
4:19 pm

I like lists, for the most part. I tell my kids to keep a list throughout the year, next to their allowance money, so that they use their savings wisely. I only wish I could give my kids lists to relatives so we don’t have to deal with any more stuffed animals. If someone asks me what my kids want, I have an easier time naming a few items, but I don’t in anyway force them to only shop from a list. They are just suggestions. In some ways I also don’t like lists. My kids go overboard in preparing a list, especially my son who uses those catalogs to list things that other people will never see at a regular store. I tell him this, but he doesn’t listen.

LM

November 29th, 2011
4:21 pm

Catlady & M1chell,

My MIL now will not even let her husband do the yard work, “he can’t do it right” so yard service is out. I have done the resturant gift card and they have gone over pretty good. She will not order a drink (tea or soda) even with a coupon and gift card “it is a waste of money”.

She was/is a coupon lady way before it bacame a tv show.

She will buy anything if it is on sale and she has a coupon, even if she won’t use it. The house is full of stuff, so much so there are pathways through the rooms. I am not allowed in the house, have never been in the house, once they are no longer in the house, we are only allowed to open the door and toss in a match per my FIL.

Car detailing sounds good. Would gas cards be okay or tacky? I’ve made food, cakes, pies and baklava, but FIL has issues with his blood sugar.

A

November 29th, 2011
5:02 pm

Walsh’s list looks exactly like what my 9-year-old would ask for! I assume he already has the new Wimpy Kid book since it’s not on the list!

Denise

November 29th, 2011
5:05 pm

Theresa – my post disappeared.

Satan Claus

November 29th, 2011
5:22 pm

Christmas is a trick played on idiots. Go get yourself a gift card good for some intelligence and class.

ng4bama

November 29th, 2011
5:29 pm

My sons are 19 and 17 and I have asked for lists for several years now. I ask them to put gifts with a range of prices, because when someone asks me what to get them, I can give them ideas in their price range. And since they are now older, they mostly want and get a pricier gift, and a small one.

HB

November 29th, 2011
5:33 pm

LM, what about some kind of experience gift since they have too much stuff? Would they enjoy a membership to the High Museum or the Botanical Gardens that they could use for free admission all year (I assume — I’m not familiar with the specific programs at those two places, but that’s usually a member benefit)? Or maybe tickets to a concert?

HB

November 29th, 2011
5:38 pm

MJG, I think I’d wait until April or so for Montreal unless there’s a winter festival you want to go to or if you want to check out that ice hotel that’s somewhere in Quebec (not sure how far from Montreal). It gets seriously cold up there. Whenever you go, plan on eating a lot — fantastic food in that city! I recall a lot of French-style meals, but with apples and maple added into the mix. Yum!

I made a Christmas list for my wife...

November 29th, 2011
6:16 pm

…the very first year we were married (30 years ago) – haven’t received a thing on it yet…

Fred

November 29th, 2011
7:11 pm

@MJG: Montreal? Speak french or be prepared to be treated like very smelly dog squeeze on the bottom of their shoe

@LM: Sounds like your MIL needs this: http://humour.200ok.com.au/image_nicebigcup.html along with a swift kick in the butt.

Interesting thread. I’ve enjoyed reading it. Thanks all.

HB

November 29th, 2011
7:56 pm

No, she’ll be fine with English. Montreal is a truly bilingual city. If you make a side trip over to Quebec City or into the countryside, though, yes, brush up on your French.

Fred

November 29th, 2011
8:01 pm

HB, Montreal IS a “bi lingual” city but the french are as arrogant as hell and french canadians even worse. Many will pretend not to understand her. The french are a dispisable culture in my opinion.

Anj

November 29th, 2011
8:05 pm

@LM

It’s called hoarding. Sigh…and there’s not much to be done for it without the help of mental health professionals. A gift idea: “a series of friendly chats with someone who can help you”.

motherjanegoose

November 29th, 2011
8:50 pm

I know just a bit of French merci beaucoup and I am fine with the cold weather. They do have some interesting winter things there. I have to go to Canada, for business, in March but not the same place.
Thanks!

HB

November 29th, 2011
9:44 pm

Well, my mom and I found folks in Montreal to be quite friendly in both languages. In the rural areas, folks were nice too, but they did only speak French (I was pretty fluent at the time, so Mom and I got along there fine too). I wouldn’t call them pretentious, though — they reminded me of folks I grew up with in rural south Georgia. Felt like home…but dubbed in French. :-)

Mrs. G

November 30th, 2011
8:46 am

@MJG – I live an hour from Montreal (in NY – I’m about three minutes from the border)! It’s a really fun city, but I like it best in the summertime because it gets so cold here in the winter (and even the spring). It’s a lot more fun when you can walk around downtown and enjoy yourself. In the summer, several of the restaurants are open to the street (I think that they have garage door-style doors that they open) and it’s just a really cool atmosphere. And the food is delicious – there is lots to choose from!

@Fred – “Many will pretend not to understand her.” That is true, I’ve heard! I haven’t experienced it, though. When people speak to me in French and I take on the appearance of a deer in headlights, I think that they feel sorry for me and that is why they start speaking English. ;)

Tumble weed hair

November 30th, 2011
9:03 am

Captain underpants?

WTF?

motherjanegoose

November 30th, 2011
9:17 am

@ tumbleweed…get with the program… that series is VERY popular with kids and Scholastic has it too ( which means it is even more popular).

What is SO cold, for Montreal…are we talking below zero every day for the entire winter? I have been to North Dakota, Wisconsin and Minnesota in the winter and managed. I wanted to see the Christmas Festivals, as I have heard they are beautiful. If we like it, I will take my daughter in the summer.

Mrs. G

November 30th, 2011
9:26 am

@MJG – Not every day. According to Wikipedia, the average is between 9-23 degrees F. I think that if you want to come for something in December, you will be better off (than coming for January or February or March)…it doesn’t seem to start to get unbearably cold (below zero) until January and it’s been unusually warm so far this year (usually we have our first snowfall in late October and, this year, we didn’t have it until last Wednesday…and it’s in the 50s today!!!).

montreal

November 30th, 2011
9:39 am

Try Boris Bistro on McGill and get the fries cooked in duck fat with the boris mayonnaise. that will make the winter visit a little more tolerable.

just get a molson and watch some hockey and you’ll fit right in.