Would you hire a boy babysitter?

As a corollary question to the previous boyfriend tagging along to babysit: Would you hire a boy to babysit? Does it matter the gender of your kids?

I am in a desperate fix to find some new sitters as my old sitters all seem to be busy. One sitter offered up her brother as a possible replacement. He’s worked in childcare before at a reputable place where I know they background check people but with a young daughter in puberty and two other young kids it just makes me less comfortable than hiring a girl. Maybe if I spent some time around the guy and my kids – I’ve never met him before – I would change my mind.

I feel awful for ruling him out just because he’s a boy. I know my brother faced similar unfair issues as a male teacher.

I think boy sitters could bring a lot to the table. I think they would be very willing to play with the kids – running, swimming, playground-type play. I also think they would be more relaxed and fun. (I know my brother loved the male nurses when he was in the ICU because they just had a different vibe. He always thought they were more relaxed.)

I remember we had one boy sitter when we were little – I was probably 6 or younger. He took us to the creek to play. I ended up with bees in my pants. I’m not sure how that happened. We did have to take off my pants to get the bees out but I don’t remember anything “funny” happening. (The bee memory is pretty vivid.)

Through writing this blog I think I am changing my vote. I think I would be open to a boy sitter if I spent time with him in the house with the kids getting to know him.

What do you think: Would you hire a boy sitter? Would the age and gender of your kids make a difference? Would you have to get to know him more than you would a girl?

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The Reverend Baby Doctor Bedpan

November 18th, 2011
8:52 am

Wink…..Did you engage in any horseplay with these boys?

Janie

November 18th, 2011
9:24 am

Do a thorough background check on any sitter, male or female. I think that boys and girls should have equal opportunities, including babysitting, but I wouldn’t hire a boy babysitter. My parents hired the boy next door to babysit me when I was small and he molested me repeatedly. It was very traumatizing.

Me

November 18th, 2011
9:37 am

I would not sacrifice my girls on the alter of political correctness by leaving them alone with a teenage boy in puberty, whether I spent time with him or not. Let’s face it, there is MUCH less chance of anything sexually deviant happening if the baby sitter is a teenage girl. You can call me sexist until the cows come home, but I’m not taking that kind of chance with my girls; it’s just not worth it. There are plenty of female baby sitters to choose from. By the way, I’m a guy.

Emma

November 18th, 2011
10:05 am

A Boy Babysitter? You Betcha! He was the best babysitter we every had!!!! He took our girls to the movies, to swim practice, picked them up from school, he was a very cautious driver, he took them where ever they needed to go…and as an added bonus we would let him use our Infiniti SUV to hang out with his friends after hours and we never had a problem, he was very very responsible. It saddend us when he moved away.

Kurt Cobain

November 18th, 2011
10:06 am

@ Me

You don’t think the female gender can be deviant? Have you seen Courtney Love? Why do you think I offed myself?

Emma

November 18th, 2011
10:07 am

Ohhhhhh and I forgot to add our girls thought he was the BEST babysitter they ever had!!!!

Emma

November 18th, 2011
10:12 am

@Me…it really depends on the teenager because our neighbor walked in on her girl babysitter molesting her four year old. This was in affluent neighborhood where people think everything is PERFECT but it’s not and this particular individual had babysitted for several families in the neighborhood. It tore the neighborhood apart and the family of this indivdual moved away. I don’t dare state whom, but they were very well known and a pillar in the community. I undertand your concern, but it really depends on the teenager.

Come on Son

November 18th, 2011
10:12 am

Charles in Charge was a television show for a reason, it was not real life. To answer your question, it may not be fair, but no.

CH

November 18th, 2011
10:14 am

I think every situation should be evaluated individually. My son is a ferret (run till pass out) kind of kid and I find with my friends and family..the men, boys..are more adept at handling his horseplay (I am getting him some kind of athletic team or lesson for christmas..any suggestions? He likes wrestling (I don’t)..football and racing. He is old enough and self suffecient enough and respectful enough of what he likes and doesn’t to worry about him too much with people I TRUST.

Gilligan....AKA Professor

November 18th, 2011
10:18 am

CynthiaM
November 17th, 2011
9:20 pm

By the way, “Professor” – look up the word hirer in a dictionary. You will find it listed as a noun meaning, one who hires. Next time, read before you scoff!

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If you READ any of the blog, you would realize the use of “hirer” is incongruous to the gist of the discourse. Even though it is a real word, it is used incorrectly here.

Next time read before you make a fool of yourself.

Young@heart

November 18th, 2011
10:18 am

For 2 years we had a Male sitter…he was 17 we were 8-10. The best baby sitter my brother and I ever had. No female ever compared. My mom had left out her Ouija board so I thought I would secretly play with it…had myself convinced the devil was coming to get me like in the exorcist I told him what I did and he read me the bible and prayed for like 2 hours until I felt better, I was a scared little girl and he helped. He also took us fishing, played the guitar, took us to Motocross, showed us how to use a telescope, and went to my school play. I would love to find him…I wonder if he would remember us 25years later?…He was the BEST.

Edward

November 18th, 2011
10:48 am

Why any different standard for a male babysitter than a female one? Shouldn’t you be spending time with either before you leave them alone with your children? TWG, your irrational attitude is going to pass on to your children, making them as irrational about gender as some of the questionable commentators here have been. Why do so many women b&m about “equality”, yet themselves have double-standards when it comes to gender?

John

November 18th, 2011
10:59 am

25 years ago I was a male babysitter for the next-door neighbors’ kids a few times when I was in high school. I only did it because it was in a remote area and they had a hard time finding someone. The parents were former hippies who had good jobs and they were also a bit on the naturist side, which meant that their kids (I think were between 4 and 6 years old) spent much of the time not wearing any clothes. Having not been around little kids very much, that was not comfortable for me at all and after 3 or 4 times I stopped babysitting for them. Fast forward 25 years to the present, and after spending a great deal of time in Africa, and with kids of my own, I don’t think I would bat an eyelash at such behavior, but at the time I was not used to it!

Typical

November 18th, 2011
11:10 am

I get banned again when I point out the stupidity……

djm_NC

November 18th, 2011
8:50 pm

hought it was a pretty funny story lol..maybe its a mom thing. when my daughter was young (during the clinton admin) she heard the term ‘oral sex’ on the news (imagine that) and asked me what it was. i calmly (on the outside) said…its when people talk about sex. ::) my older kids about spit out their drinks trying not to crack up, she believed it for a long time :)

djm_NC

November 18th, 2011
8:50 pm

it was around that time that i stopped watching the news when she was around.

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November 21st, 2011
10:42 am