I called five different girls last week trying to find a babysitter for Saturday night but to no avail.
The last girl I asked I had never used before at home but she’s kept Lilina before in a group childcare setting. So I texted her to ask if there was any chance she could sit. She texted back, would it be OK if she brought along her boyfriend? I would only have to pay her, she added.
I have to say the boyfriend along is a deal breaker for me. I asked Michael what he thought and he said not only is it not OK for her to bring her boyfriend, he said he didn’t want her to ever sit because he thinks that reflects bad judgment on the girl’s part.
I texted back that while it would be more fun to have the boyfriend come along, I wasn’t comfortable with that. I wrote the kids moved fast and needed her full attention.
I’m not worried about the sitter fooling around sexually in my house – although maybe I should be. I’m worried about her laughing with him while a kid is hanging from the bunk bed ladder or taking a bath.
Now a second question: Is a boyfriend more of a problem than just a friend coming along?
I do think a girl would be more attentive with a friend than with a boyfriend in the house. However, I would prefer neither be brought along. Now when we had a longtime sitter spend the night one night I asked that she bring a friend along for support and we paid both of them. For regular sitting jobs though I think the friend would be a distraction as well.
So I am wondering how you guys feel about the boyfriend bring along? Would you allow it? Would you be worried about the boyfriend as a distraction or the fooling around issue? Would you question her judgment for even asking? What are your babysitter standards when you’re desperate to leave your house? (We haven’t been out alone I think since last spring. We need some alone time!)
What’s a deal breaker with a babysitter? Blue streaks in the hair, smoking in general – not necessarily in your house, drinking Red Bull as she’s walking in to sit, telling you she stayed out late last night (the need for the Red Bull), the boyfriend dropping her off or dropping by??