I have been avoiding the story about the young woman who videotaped her judge father hitting her as a 16-year-old and has now released it seven years later. However, I have had several requests for us to talk about it, so we will.
I find the video extremely upsetting so just be aware before you watch it.
If you haven’t seen the story or the video the Today Show did a good recap of what’s happened so far and then had an interview the daughter and her mother.
“The 7 ½-minute video, uploaded by 23-year-old Hillary Adams, shows Aransas County Court-at-Law Judge William Adams viciously whipping his then-16-year-old daughter with a strap.
It also depicts Hillary’s mother, Hallie, participating. Both women spoke exclusively with Matt Lauer on TODAY Thursday about the furor the video has caused and the reasons for posting it seven years after it was taken.
Although the 5-year statute of limitations for charges of bodily injury to a child most likely means criminal charges will not be filed, the video could potentially result in Judge Adams’ removal from the bench. A police investigation into whether the beating was criminal has been opened by the local police at the district attorney’s request.”
The mother said in the Today interview that there was addiction in the family and that was part of the problem. The daughter just hopes her father gets help.
This story just reinforces for me how much I don’t think any kind of spanking is good. (I do believe this guy went beyond what most parents would consider normal spanking.)
Just like the father said in the story, he lost his temper. You hit when you lose your temper. Experts say you’re not supposed to spank in the heat of a moment but truthfully that’s when you want to spank because you have lost your cool and you’re frustrated. If you wait until you are calm, then you don’t really want to spank. I personally believe that all the hitting teaches children is to handle conflict by hitting. I think it also shows a lack of creativity in punishments. (Hitting – that’s all you got?)
So what do you think of this story and video? Does it change your mind about spanking? Do you see it in a different light or think what this guy was doing wasn’t spanking? How old of a child can you spank?
What is good punishment for a 16-year-old?
Was it right for the daughter to release it? Do you think the father should lose his job as a judge? Should he be able to judge cases involving children?