Daddy’s laundry conundrum: Is this yours?

When you pass down clothes, laundry day is tough for Daddy! He’s very confused as to who now owns what.

Two weeks ago while working, I watched from my desk as Michael proceeded to hold up articles of clothing and quiz our 4-year-old: Is this yours? What about this? What about this?

Because we do hand stuff down Michael isn’t sure who is currently wearing what. You would think size would make it obvious, but not always. He finds tunic dresses and swim suit cover-ups particularly confusing.

I think because I do the swapping of the clothes from big sister to little sister I know who is now wearing what, but it’s all a surprise to him.

Underwear definitely presents a problem a for him.  I think he divides it up randomly. He must think Rose has a giant bottom because she often gets mine and Lilina often gets Rose’s. Walsh is the only one safe from the rotating underwear game.

I am very grateful that Michael does the laundry and I don’t have to deal with it, but I do enjoy his head-scratching over matching the right child with the right clothes.

Does Daddy do the laundry at your house? Does he have a hard time figuring what belongs to whom? Are the hand-me downs the problem?

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Seven Sisters

September 8th, 2011
1:03 pm

Let me get this straight; Michael earns over six figures in income, provides for his family very well so you can write a blog and teach one day a week. You hit the tread mill when The View is on and enjoy the pool in the summer.

Why is your husband doing the laundry? Why are you even poking fun of him?

NICU RN

September 8th, 2011
1:03 pm

My husband just did a bunch of laundry this weekend including matching up all of the random socks that had just been tossed in the basket. After he folded it all he left it for me to put away though cause he said he didn’t know where it went and that there wasn’t enough room in some of the drawers. I was very appreciative of the help though. It definitely saved me a lot of time.

JOD

September 8th, 2011
1:37 pm

We definitely don’t have this problem, and not just because there is just one munchkin. Hubs only does his own laundry – my rule since he goes through more clothes in a week than JLo. I do mine, DD’s, and the house laundry (socks, towels, sheets).

JJ

September 8th, 2011
1:47 pm

I do it all for both of us. I LOVE to do laundry……I find it very theraputic…..I love to watch tv and fold clothes.

BusyMom

September 8th, 2011
1:53 pm

I do the laundry, but my boys are only 2 years apart and many of their clothes are the same, just different sizes. Many times I find that I have put the wrong clothes in one closet, and even last week my 5 year old was in public with his brother’s 24 month shorts on!

Wow, just Wow...

September 8th, 2011
2:15 pm

…you really have a keeper for a husband – I wonder if he thinks the same about his wife, as SevenSisters hits the nail almost squarely on the head – and to think that you are “amused” by his conundrum re: girls underwear while doing laundry (which, by the way, is just as much a husband’s job as a wife’s no matter who brings home how much money – it is just a “family” chore, though your kids are well old enough to participate more than as just “info” maniacs)…

JJ

September 8th, 2011
2:15 pm

Seven Sisters fka Father Jane Goose.

Techmom

September 8th, 2011
2:17 pm

@JJ – you can come ‘watch tv’ at my house anytime!!

I actually don’t mind folding it but putting it away is such a battle. We actually never had this issue until a couple of years ago when my son got big enough to start wearing adult t-shirts. Since we all run and cycle and I’m very active in my son’s Scout troop, we have ended up with a bunch of the same exact shirts. I can usually figure out which ones are his based on the stains though :)

irisheyes

September 8th, 2011
2:21 pm

My husband does the laundry since he’s home during the day. He works night, so he usually does a load before he lays down. He usually does OK with getting stuff in the right drawer. The only problems he’ll have is with the two oldest since they are only a year apart. But, I don’t complain, because I’m thrilled he does the laundry (he also cleans bathrooms). There’s no way I could do laundry when I get home with four kids all wanting/needing something.

jmb

September 8th, 2011
2:44 pm

After about the 10th nice shirt being ruined, I banned my DH from the laundry room! It’s really the only household chore I don’t mind and I like to keep my laundry room nice and neat, but for some reason it’s the only household chore he’s ever even attempted and got scolded for doing that. Now if he would just pick up a mop or dusting cloth, he’d never hear a complaint about it but it’s not going to happen ;(

Lady Strange

September 8th, 2011
3:03 pm

I don’t have this problem since I have only one son. And it’s only me doing the laundry. I don’t see this being too much of an issue though even when I do have another child. Why can’t the older kids sort and put the laundry away? They’re surely old enough for chores.

DB

September 8th, 2011
3:10 pm

I have the problem trying to tell the difference between my husband and my son’s casual wear. They wear the same size, and have the same tastes — “OK, whose Polo shirt? Whose athletic shorts? Who wore their Peachtree Road Race shirt this week?” Socks are a nightmare — they both wear over a 14, and so the socks that they can wear comfortably are limited — which means they all look alike.

And I must admit — I LOVE to iron — it’s so satisfying :-)

catlady

September 8th, 2011
3:23 pm

Why doesn’t Walsh get Michael’s underwear?

I think Michael just needs LOTS more practice with the laundry!

catlady

September 8th, 2011
3:29 pm

I agree with Wow–it is a FAMILY job. Take the things out of the dryer and say, “Everyone come get yours and put it away.” With the littlest one, make her “putting away” easy–she puts it in a basket to do with an adult when there is time, or her older sibling is assigned to help her. It is surely within the other children’s ability to fold and put away their clothes!

catlady

September 8th, 2011
3:32 pm

What I have more trouble with is getting my kids’ NAMES right! Luckily I only had three, but sometimes I call my son by his dad’s name, and my daughters by the sister’s name. My mother was one of nine and she said my grandmother had a hard time, too–just went down the list till she came to the right one. I was an only child and my mother got my name wrong part of the time–called me by my youngest aunt’s name! Now I find myself calling my granddaughter by my youngest daughter’s name.

So, Michael has nothing on ME.

JOD

September 8th, 2011
3:35 pm

@DB – I LOATHE ironing! If anything needs to be ironed for me or DD, I ask Hubs to do it. He irons everything when he has the time. Me, I fluff in the dryer.

@catlady – DD is just starting to help with chores. She loves to load the dryer and unload the dishwasher, but I haven’t had her sort her own clothes yet… Hmm. An idea.

JJ

September 8th, 2011
3:43 pm

I don’t even own an iron……

Thanks, JJ...

September 8th, 2011
3:53 pm

…for keeping the economy running…it’s people like you who keep America great, despite the “guvments” efforts to the contrary…

That should be...

September 8th, 2011
3:54 pm

…”guv-mint’s”…

Theresa

September 8th, 2011
4:10 pm

catlady — my grandmother had six boys and 5 daughters-in-law and she run would through the whole list until she got to the right one – even for her own sons –

Fred

September 8th, 2011
4:20 pm

When we first got married I grabbed the newest, reddest shirt i could find and put it in with some of her white. Made sure the water was extra hot and turned it on. She won’t let me NEAR the washing machine unless it’s broken and I need to fix it. :D Wish I had had a similarly great idea with the dishes though……….

Denise

September 8th, 2011
4:20 pm

JJ – I would love for you to come watch TV at my house… :-) Also, I think you’re right about Seven Sisters = Father Jane Goose. If not, we have 2 people who come to this blog just to be nasty.

I Love Life Cereal

September 8th, 2011
4:28 pm

What is a “DH”?

Lucky Girl

September 8th, 2011
4:30 pm

Yup! I am the luckiest girl in the world! My husband works hard but finds time to help around the house. I work from home, I have a real job just do it from home and he understands that just because I am at home I am NOT a stay at home mom or wife. I cook he cleans, I put away the clothes he washes and folds them, I dust he vacuums if all men did that more women would be happy to help late at night more often =)

Roekest

September 8th, 2011
4:36 pm

This daddy does not do laundry; just like mom doesn’t mow the lawn or landscape the yard. I think she has the better job…

Lori

September 8th, 2011
4:41 pm

I wouldn’t trust my husband to do my laundry!!! The last time he tried (because I was sick) he dried everything on hot and it all shrunk and the kids screen printed tees melted!!

That said, he does help fold things. That he can do. I do all the washing & put in the dryer, but occasionally, my husband (and son) will fold and put up the towels. My son (age 8) puts up his own clothes from the dryer.

I figure he can help with the laundry, since he pays a lawn service. I also figure he can do all the vacuuming, because that’s the chore I hate the most!!!

TallaDawg

September 8th, 2011
4:47 pm

I (husband) do all of the laundry, but mostly because I have a particular way I like my clothes and towels folded and all items are mixed together. I do it also because I enjoy folding laundry in front of the TV. I will admit that my boys are close to the same size and I cannot figure which clothes are whose, so I let me wife put them away.

Paw Paw

September 8th, 2011
4:47 pm

I have observed very few women who could do laundry better than me.

TallaDawg

September 8th, 2011
4:47 pm

@ Paw Paw –

Me, too.

Jeff. C.

September 8th, 2011
4:52 pm

Yes, I will do the laundry. I actually enjoy doing it. Takes me back to when I was single….I kid.

Yes, with a wife and two daughters in the house, I have no clue which clothes go with who. To combat it, I have will have one child help with separation and then I leave underwear and socks for them to handle.

It works for us.

Not Convinced

September 8th, 2011
4:58 pm

I cook, in fact our meal for this evening is in the fridge and only requires reheating. I clean (wife has never cleaned a bathroom) which includes vacuming, polishing furniture, windows, and I do laundry ( that includes washing, folding, sometimes ironing, and putting them away. I also work a very demanding job, I go to school, attend PTA meetings and I still evoke the wrath and discontent of my wife. I hear complaints all the time about what I am not doing enough of or why I can’t put something else on my plate….it seems that there are alot of other men who seem to be able to handle all tasks described above and still have energy to work “late night” as Lucky Girl mentioned. I ‘m just not convinced that women can be happy regardless of the efforts of her husband…..at least I haven’t seen it in 25 years of marriage.

Becky

September 8th, 2011
4:58 pm

I do laundry for me and the kids, as well as all the sheets and towels..Husband does all of his own laundry..If I leave something in the washer or dryer, he will finish it..We don’t make a big fuus over it..As long as it gets done, who cares..I do all of the other household cleaning..

@Paw Paw and TallaDog..Not sure about all men, but as far as my husband is concerned, you are so right about that..He folds everything just so, so..Heck, he irons everything except his socks and underwear..Not me, I iron very few things and I sure don’t iron T-shirts and shorts..

itpdude

September 8th, 2011
4:59 pm

Seven Sisters hits the nail on the head as someone states above.

What the hell are you doing watching your hubs, who is the main bread-winner of the house, doing laundry? And then critiquing him on matching stuff?

Wow, eat another bon-bon, woman, watch some more vacuous View, enjoy that pool, work hardly part-time, put up a lame blog, while your hubs gets up in the morning to do real work that has real consequences. You can half-ass housework and no one is going to fire you. If Mikey half-asses his job, you’re on your can and out having to do real work.

Get real, woman. I would cheat on you if I were Michael.

I have always done my own...

September 8th, 2011
5:02 pm

..laundry and most of my kids – when we remodeled our house a couple of years ago we had a “closet” in the breakfast room area that had W/D hook-ups already there, so I used the pretense of us “getting older” (plus I have had 3 knee replacemenmts) to have a full size, stackable W/D unit installed on the main level – our regular laundry room is on the basement level, so no more walking up and down stairs for me unless I really feel the need to wash a HUGE load. And, with the kids gone, and it just being the two of us, that lower level W/D is not used by me, and the wife seldom uses the units on the main level – works out well for everyone…

karin

September 8th, 2011
5:05 pm

My DH (dear husband or sometimes darn husband) is great with laundry. Do you want me to send him over to teach Michael?

shaggy

September 8th, 2011
5:14 pm

I am banned from washing clothes. For some reason, my wife took offense to the way I just stuff the dirty ones in, (without sorting-takes too much time and is not efficient) make sure I load as much as is possible, and grab the wads of clean ones to chunk/stuff in the dryer. You can make a cool game out of “hit the dryer hole”…kinda like cornholing,,,er, uhhh, playing cornhole. She actually screamed at me for trying to help. My argument is why did I spend all of that money on a washer/dryer that I have to baby. You should be able to chunk em in, churn em up, and blast em with heat.

Funny she also hates my speedy roll em up method of folding. It is fast, and you put them in the drawers so they feed out like a tissue dispenser. I couldn’t believe she didn’t like that one.

Ugh

September 8th, 2011
5:21 pm

In our house Daddy does the dishes and usually that’s the only regular chore done by the 5 people who live here. Sadly daddy is also the only one with a regular job.

Now A Grandma

September 8th, 2011
5:26 pm

Since I had a boy and a girl, most of the laundry wasn’t a problem for hubby (who didn’t mind doing it since we both worked). However, when it came to jeans, socks and t-shirts, well…that presented a problem. I told him “Just fold them. I’ll put them away in right places.”. This worked well for us both.

Gina

September 8th, 2011
5:35 pm

Hubby doesn’t DARE to do the laundry.
He always puts the dryer on high heat and shrinks everything.
I do the washing, drying and folding, but everyone puts their clothes away.
As for ironing? I’m the only one who like to do it if something needs it.
The rest of the cleaning is done by everyone, unless they want to hear me fuss about it getting done.

markie mark

September 8th, 2011
5:45 pm

I am following up to Gina….I do most of the laundry in the house, but after 23+ years I dont dare dry/attempt to dry/ consider thinking about drying anything of hers. That was settled in the 2nd year and I am content with that rule…..

Jean

September 8th, 2011
5:46 pm

In our house, everyone is now old enough to do their own laundry. DH has always done his own laundry. I won’t touch it and I won’t wash his stuff with mine or the kids. It’s always full of sawdust or grease or something else that I don’t want to mess with.

I did the children’s laundry until they were tall enough to reach into the washer. Although, when they were smaller, it was fun to watch them work together to get the laundry from the washer to the dryer. One would stand on a step stool and get the clothes out of the washer and hand them to the other one to put in the dryer.

Occasionally I will add some of their clothes to my laundry (to make a full load). When I do that, they put the clothes in the dryer and when the load is dry, they get and put away their own dry clothes. I don’t ever put their clothes away for them.

I’ve even trained my kids so that they will put my clothes in the dryer and when dried, onto my bed. All I have to do is load/start the washer and then fold/put away when dry!

Fred

September 8th, 2011
6:16 pm

Update: Just found out tonight that daughter, age 9, knows how to load her stuff, add the soap, and turn it on. I found out because she DID it.

As far as I’m concerned, the clothes fairy picks my dirty clothes off the floor (or where ever else I slung them) cleans them and puts them back in the proper place. Life is good.

Like another posted stated. I do the LAWN, not the laundry. No one here complains about the arrangement. Although I WILL be more mindful about the folding.

UGA Dad

September 8th, 2011
6:18 pm

My wife does the laundry for our house of 4. I might throw in a load of my stuff, towels, or emergency items for the kids (sports wear, jerseys, etc). I cut the grass, trim the shrubs, take out the trash, clean the pool, do most of the grocery shopping, half of the meal cooking, 100% of breakfast cooking, 100% of the school lunch making, wash the cars, feed the dogs, wash the dogs, and work 10-12 hour days to her 8 hour days. I think her doing the laundry and most of the house cleaning is fair.

I sang Dixie...as he died

September 8th, 2011
6:27 pm

My mother died when I was 13 and my brother was 10. We learned to cook, clean and do laundry. I went to boarding school about six months after she died and then college and I’m 43 now. I feel like I’ve been independent since she died and it’s a good thing. I do most of the cooking and laundry around our house and keep up the yard too. I do it because i feel like i do a better job than my wife does. Her mama spoiled her for sure. A person’s parents won’t always be around and kids should learn to do for themselves.

Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

September 8th, 2011
7:48 pm

Seven Sisters — Normally you contribute and play nice for the most part under another name. If you continue to be nasty as Seven Sisters then I will have to ban your IP address and you won’t get to play nice under your other name. Consider that your warning.

Fred

September 8th, 2011
8:02 pm

Good Job TWG. No one needs to put up with that kind of BS, ESPECIALLY not on her own blog.

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September 8th, 2011
8:20 pm

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Uh, Theresa...

September 8th, 2011
8:22 pm

…how should Seven Sisters have worded his/her questions? All he/she was doing was asking valid questions…I thought his/her rants earlier this week were much worse than today’s…

Becky

September 8th, 2011
8:59 pm

Dang, UGA Dad..Where were you at when I was single? I do all of the grocery shopping, all of the cooking, most all of the house cleaning, all school lunches, all making sure kids have evevrything they need for school, I wash my own car, as well as all maintaince on it..I take the trash out, he takes it to the curb..We live in a townhome, so a service does all of the yard work..So, does you wife know what a good guy she married?

@shaggy..as usual, love your comment..

Seven Sisters

September 8th, 2011
11:37 pm

“Consider that your warning”….

Please, Theresa…. please… You live in suburbia fantasy land devoid of the economic reality around you. You actually refer to your vacation in “Hawaii”…. which could have remained not included, but you did…. That raised interesting psychological connotations into your thought pattern.

You are very interesting, and devoid of American reality. Double mortgage… please….